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Karmic Connection: How to Recognize a Soul Agreement in Your Life

Have you ever experienced a karmic connection? Maybe you have but you couldn’t quite recognize the signs of this deep and often life-changing meeting. 

What Is a Karmic Connection

We’ve all heard the term ‘soulmates,’ and it seems like we’re all trying to find our own. What if you happen to stumble upon a karmic connection instead? Is this a good thing or is it sent to test you?

The problem with a karmic connection, or more specifically a karmic relationship, is that it’s not really meant to last the test of time. This might not be the news you want to hear.

Unfortunately, that’s the deal with this type of ‘sent to test you or help you grow’ kind of thing.

A karmic connection is something that will be epic, a huge lesson, but not always one which you want to end. However, some people are sent into our lives not to stay, but to teach us something we need to learn. It’s a deep connection you’ll have but only for a short while.

Have you ever experienced this in your life?

[Read: How to recognize a soul connection when they walk into your life]

What is a karmic connection really?

If you believe in the world of the mystic, a karmic connection is something sent your way to help you learn lessons. For instance, you might have a karmic relationship with someone and fall in love very fast.

It will be intense and end just as quickly. It will end because you have learned the lesson you’re supposed to learn. What is the lesson? That totally depends on you and your personality, your situation, and where you are in your life.[Read: The 15 truest characteristics of an old soul]

A karmic connection is often linked to something called a ‘soul agreement.’

Whether you believe in this part or not really depends on how deeply you are into mysticism. It’s interesting to learn about regardless of how you feel about the person.

Basically, you make an agreement or a contract with another person when you’re in the spirit realm, i.e. before you make it to earth. You agree to help each other with x, y, and z, and once you’re living it up on earth, that person will come to you to fulfill their contractual duties.

It might be that you have a soul agreement with another person, therefore being the other side of their karmic connection.

The whole point of a karmic relationship or connection is to be challenged and learn. It’s about personal growth, not about finding The One. This often upsets some, and if the karmic connection turns out to be a toxic one *as it often does*, it might even be a relief! [Read: How to be mature and start facing life like an adult]

Are karmic connections painful?

They can be.

When you should learn something, you often learn it the hard way. Think back to when you were young and you fell in love for the first time. You probably made a lot of mistakes in that first relationship because you didn’t know any better, and you didn’t have the experience.

As a result, it hurt when it ended. Everything felt so intense.

A karmic connection feels like that, because you’ll learn something as a result. It’s not always a negative thing you must learn, and it will always end up being for the greater good of your own self. For instance, you might end up developing a karmic connection with someone who treats you badly.

Hopefully, that doesn’t happen to you, but if it does, maybe it’s because you need to learn how to value yourself more and stand up for yourself. Once you find that strength and learn your lesson, the connection will be broken, and the pain will end. [Read: 16 signs to recognize toxic relationships and get out fast]

Can you force a karmic connection?

No. Karmic connections are totally out of your control. You made the agreement with a soul well before you were even aware of your own existence on earth!

Even if you don’t agree with or believe in soul agreements, you still can’t force a karmic connection. The reason is that it’s a lesson you need to learn. It’s someone or something put in your path to help you understand something and have a revelation as a result.

You don’t get to pick and choose the lessons you learn in life. All you can do is accept a connection such as this when it comes your way and allow the lesson to be learned.

Of course, you won’t have a clue that this person is part of a karmic deal at the time. You may think that they’re The One, or someone you really like and may end up with forever. It’s likely to be a shock when they leave your life, or again, it could be a relief because it didn’t work out well for you. Either way, you have zero control over karmic connections. [Read: 12 insightful lessons to help you have a better life]

How can you tell if you’re in a karmic relationship?

There are a few signs that point to a karmic or regular connection. Three of the most common include:

1. They make you feel ‘heavy’

You often feel quite heavy when you’re around them. Everything is deep and heavy and not lighthearted or fun. Remember that relationships aren’t meant to make you feel like you’re drowning in misery, they’re supposed to make you feel raised up and light. If you don’t feel that way, there’s a deeper issue you need to address.

2. You’ll quickly notice a lot of issues

You’ll no doubt notice a lot of issues arising in the relationship and these are the things you should learn from. It could be that they’re controlling or manipulative.

Often we go into relationships when we’ve already seen a few warning signs. That can be because we’re blinded by love, or the connection is karmic and we know deep down that we must learn a lesson. [Read: How to face relationship challenges and how to overcome them as a couple]

3. You feel confused when you think about that person

You care about them, but there will be mixed emotions too, because of the lesson you’re learning. If you’re always up and down in this relationship, it could be that it’s a karmic connection. You’re in the process of learning something. [Read: 12 things about love you’ll only learn from experience]

Of course, it might not be a romantic relationship. It could be a friendship instead. The same advice stands here. You’ll feel conflicted and that sense something deeper is going on. You may love this person a lot, but yet, you could sense some dislike within yourself towards them as well. You’ll notice issues, but it’s because you’re supposed to be around that person in order to grow.

Karmic connections aren’t all that common

Despite all of this, don’t go around assuming that every person you meet has been sent to you because of a karmic connection you should learn a lesson from *just because you’re having a messed-up relationship with them*.

Sometimes, we just stumble upon people. They spend a short time in our lives and then they drift back out again just as quickly. This is life.

On the other hand, if someone has that type of connection which is certainly karmic, you’ll probably get a sense of what is going on. [Read: 15 signs of a bad friend you should always be on the lookout for]

You’ll know deep down what you’re supposed to learn because of the way you both treat each other. It might take time. For instance, you might have feelings about someone and want to spend time with them, despite the fact that they’re always talking over you and you really hate that they do it. You ask them not to do it, and they continue to.

In this case, you could be experiencing karmic interference, because you’re supposed to learn to stand up for yourself and be more assertive. Once you learn how to do that, you’ll notice that your feelings for that person either dissipate, or they leave your life.

It’s a lesson you were supposed to learn. You learned it. The connection is finished. The soul contract has been completed successfully. [Read: 16 signs to know if you’ve found your twin soul]

Make sure the lesson enriches your life

The problem with karmic connections is that they can quickly turn toxic if you refuse to learn the lesson you’re supposed to learn. Be open to change and understand that sometimes not all relationships and connections are lifelong.

By hanging onto something that’s not meant to last, you cause yourself more heartache and pain in the long term.

By embracing a karmic connection for what it is, you enrich your life beyond measure. Sure, it might hurt when it ends, but what you learn about yourself and what you develop within your own personality will be more than worth anything you feel in the moment.

Identify the lesson. It might take time, but it will dawn on you at some point.

If something nags away at you, you’re supposed to notice it. So, if someone really does talk over you all the time, notice it and question why. Is that the lesson? Are you supposed to be more vocal or more assertive when others dim your shine? [Read: 19 life quotes to motivate you to live a better life]

Self awareness is key in understanding karmic connections

To learn a lesson, you need to be self-aware. You need to be able to recognize how you feel about someone or around them. Don’t push away nagging feelings or doubts. You might not want to understand something and you might prefer that this person stays in your life, but that’s not what’s supposed to happen.

You can’t force a change here, you have to do what’s supposed to be done.

Once you work out what your lesson may be, focus on learning it. Understand how this person makes you feel and identify what you need to do to change that. How can you feel better around them?

A karmic connection might feel painful or upsetting. But remember that the lesson you learn is designed to make your life better. Then, you’ll be able to form stronger and deeper connections with people around you.

In essence, although you may not want this person to leave, or you maybe you do, you should probably be grateful to them for the lesson they taught you.

[Read: How to be a better person and grow into a kinder human being]

A karmic connection is something that’s often difficult to understand in the moment. But when you look back on it a few years later, you’ll see clearly why it was sent your way!

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Nicky Curtis
Nicky Curtis
Having stumbled from one relationship drama to another throughout her 20s, Nicky is now somewhat of a guru in the crazy world of life and love. Telling it how i...
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