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25 Mean Signs of a Fake Friend Who Doesn’t Care About You At All

Fake friends are the worst. They pretend to be real but it’s all lies. Spot the signs of a fake friend to side-step the drama and hurt.

signs of a fake friend

If you regularly feel like you’re on the set of “Mean Girls”, you might want to take a look at your squad. Fake friends are everywhere. It’s incredibly difficult to figure out who is a real friend, and to know the signs of a fake friend.

The fake ones are clever, manipulative, and only out for what they can get. It’s time to turn the tables, spot them and kick them out of your life.

When you’re young, you have a lot of friends. Slowly, they weed themselves out and good ones stick around. However, most people have suffered at the hands of a fake friend once or twice.

It hurts when you think someone is real and they turn out to be a liar, but it all works out in the end. Do you really want these types of people in your life?

Luckily, my teen years prepped me to be an absolute pro at spotting fake friends, and steering clear of them entirely. I may only have a few close friends now, but at least I know they are loyal and true. I don’t have time for fake friends, and neither do you! [Read: What is a true friend? The key characteristics of real friends you should know]

25 signs of a fake friend you should never overlook

We know it may seem like finding a needle in a haystack, but rest assured, once you learn these signs, it’s more like finding an elephant in a haystack. You’ve got this!

1. Fake friends are often envious of you

Something I always notice immediately in new friends is their compassion and energy. If they give off envious and jealous vibes, then I’m not down to hang with this person.

Chances are, they will take that jealousy and use it as fuel for their fake friend empire. They are going to take you down any chance they get. Get out while you still can. [Read: How to calmly deal with your jealous friend]

2. Fake friends have an air of negativity

If they can’t be happy for you, then kick them to the curb. This is a sure-fire sign of a fake friend. Good friends will amp you up ALWAYS. They should never be making you feel insecure, question your life decisions constantly, or who you are as a person. [Read: Bad friends and deciding when you need to end a friendship]

3. Fake friends talk about their other friends behind their backs

If they seem to always be talking smack about their other friends with you, then chances are they are also talking smack about you to them. They can’t be trusted.

Sometimes, we need to vent about our friends, but if someone always seems to be wronging them, they are probably a fake friend.

4. A fake friend will cancel plans often and without much thought

We hate to break it to you, but if this becomes a trend, they are constantly choosing other things and people over you.

You aren’t a priority to them and you deserve friends who make you their priority. They only want to be your friend when it is convenient for them. To hell with ‘em! [Read: Got flaky friends? Here’s why you should ditch them NOW]

5. Fake friends are experts at giving the guilt trip

Sure, they cancel plans all of the time. But as soon as you do the same, World War III erupts. This goes back to them being jealous, and they will be angry because you’ve found other things to do that don’t include them. This is a major sign that they are a fake friend. Also, they suck.

6. A fake friend will always try to be better than you

This is a BIG one. One of my friends growing up always did this. No matter how great I did in school, or at work, I was never going to be better than her.

She always had to one-up me on everything, because she was clearly insecure about her life. Fake friend alert.

7. Fake friends make you feel inferior

Fake friends are often very insecure people. They feel the need to be friends with a lot of people at once for the feeling of acceptance and popularity.

They need to be the superior being, so they may choose to make you feel bad about yourself – even though you are clearly fantastic! [Read: These signs will help you see your real friends from your fake friends]

8. Fake friends are often passive-aggressive

They’ll never outright be rude to you. They need to cover their butt somehow, right? They will give you double-sided compliments that seem nice at first. But, they are actually dirty and mean once you dig a little bit deeper. Don’t trust them for one second.

9. A fake friend is never wrong – or so they think

They will literally never admit that they are in the wrong. Don’t hold your breath for that one. After all, they were made with perfection in mind, right? They can do no wrong. They constantly look for other people to blame for things going awry in their lives, even if it is clearly their own fault.

10. Fake friends love a spot of drama

A fake friend will thrive off drama. It may seem like they are always in some sort of tiff with somebody, and that’s because they are. Fake friends have a way of getting found out – that’s why they need so many friends. [Read: The biggest signs to help you steer clear of toxic friends]

In other words, you are disposable to them and they’ll just find someone else. They will likely put on a big show about how you’re great friends, because that’s what they do.

But at the end of the day, you don’t actually matter to them. Don’t worry though, you matter to many other people in your life.

12. Fake friends are nothing but users

Hello, this is your dignity talking – get out while you still can, because they are USING you. Maybe it’s for your car, your grades, or one of your hot friends. The one thing that fake friends all have in common is that they make friends with the people that benefit them the most.

You are just another tool in the toolbox for them. It’s also possible that when you’re no longer useful to them, they’ll fade away. [Read: How to tell if someone is using you – 16 signs a user just can’t hide]

13. Fake friends will be short-tempered with you

I had a friend that would threaten to “never talk to me ever again” if I said I was going to do certain things that literally didn’t matter one bit.

One of the clearest signs of a fake friend is the obvious manner in which they try to make you feel like garbage, and this is just another way of doing so. They’re trying to control you and when you don’t adhere to their guidelines, they lash out.

14. Fake friends are like Jekyll and Hyde

Their personality will change depending on who is around. Perhaps they may even begin to treat you worse when other people are around as a means of appearing powerful. It’s sick, isn’t it?

You can never be sure which side of them you’re going to get but they move between them very regularly. [Read: 15 clear signs it’s time to cut a friend loose]

15. Fake friends don’t want you to grow and succeed

As we get older, we grow up, and its natural. We move to different cities, countries, jobs, and partners. If they try and stop your growth, it is time for you to stop your friendship with this FAKE FRIEND.

16. Fake friends are never there when you need them

If you want an experiment to see if your friend is true or not, call them late at night and say that you need something.

You could say that your car has a flat, or you’ve locked yourself out.

Nothing major, but something which you may need help with. See what they do. I guarantee if they’re fake, they’ll make an excuse. [Read: 15 signs you have shitty friends and need to get some new ones]

17. A fake friend will try to talk you out of your good ideas

Perhaps you’re thinking about going for a new job or asking out the hottie you’ve had your eye on. No doubt they’ll try and talk you out of it. The reason? They don’t want you to do well or to be happy. They’re jealous of anything like that.

18. Fake friends never defend you

A good friend will have your back whether you’re there or not. They’ll never let anyone talk behind your back or upset you in any way. However, a fake friend won’t care.

In fact, they might even get in on the action and spread rumors behind your back. Anything to make you look bad.

19. A fake friend rarely answers when you call

This isn’t just about not being there when you need something, it’s about just not being there unless it’s on their terms. You call, they don’t answer. You send a text, you’re left on read. You send a funny meme. Nothing.

Then, out of the blue, two days later they call you to ask you to do something and act like nothing happened. One of the classic signs of a fake friend. [Read: Why do narcissists ignore texts and do the selfish things they do]

20. A fake friend will never commit to anything

They won’t commit to plans because they have no intention of keeping them. Never plan anything with a “friend” you suspect to be fake. You’ll be left hanging, no doubt about it. They’ll only attend if it’s in their best interests.

21. Fake friends chip away at your confidence

A good friend will tell you when you look great. A fake friend will always make snide comments that make you think you look bad, even when you don’t.

However, they will tell you that you look great when you look a mess, because then they look good in comparison. Messed up, right? [Read: Am I a bad friend? The bad friendship skills that push people away]

22. Fake friends affect your instincts

Always listen to your gut. If your instincts are telling you that something isn’t right, if you just don’t feel comfortable or secure with this person, they’re not real.

Fake friends might be good at manipulation, but even they can’t fly under the radar when you truly trust your intuition. [Read: How to listen to your gut and give strength to your inner voice]

23. A fake friend will monopolize an entire conversation

One hour in and the entire chat has been about them? Not surprising. Fake friends don’t want to hear about your day or want to know about how well your presentation went at work. They want to talk about themselves because, remember, they’re far more important. Apparently.

24. Fake friends don’t understand the word “sorry”

They never say it, and if they do, it’s done with an air of sarcasm or passive-aggressiveness. A real friend owns up to their mistakes and apologizes. A fake friend doesn’t, because they don’t care. [Read: Should you forgive and forget? 15 guidelines to follow]

25. Fake friends are often caught in their lies

In the end, you’ll always catch a fake friend in a lie. They might desperately try to cover it up and they might even do quite well, but the fact is that you can’t trust a liar.

You’ve spotted a fake friend, now what?

I know it’s tough when you come to the realization that someone you thought was a friend is actually fake. I know because I’ve been there more times than I can count. However, it’s important to forgive yourself and move on. Don’t beat yourself up for allowing someone like this into your life. Fake friends are masters of deception in so many ways.

What’s next? Well, if you want to take my advice, you’ll kick them out of your life and move on. Tell them the friendship is over if you want to, or just ghost them. [Read: How to ghost someone when you’ve never ghosted anyone before]

Either way, let it go. You don’t owe anything to a fake friend.

[Read: 15 qualities of a good friend that sets them apart from the fake ones]

The typical signs of a fake friend can be hard to see when you are in the friendship, I get it. It’s just like a toxic relationship; we put on our blinders because ignorance is bliss. My hope is that these tips will help you to spot these fake friends early on.

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