All of us can be likeable at first sight, be it when it comes to meeting a good looking member of the opposite sex, or while getting introduced to someone new at a friend’s party.
All it takes is for you to understand the little things that differentiate a nice conversationalist from a bad one.
10 tips to get someone to like you at first sight
The next time you’ve being introduced to someone at a party or a work event, just remember these 10 tips on how to get someone to like you.
You’ll notice immediately that others will warm up to you faster and enjoy a better conversation with you.
#1 Be warm and friendly. People like happy faces, no matter what the circumstances. When you meet someone at a party or get introduced to someone on the street, a smile can make all the difference between a happy conversation and a quick one. People who smile genuinely always appear more attractive, and look less intimidating. Smile as soon as you’re introduced and be genuinely interested in getting to know the person. [Read: 25 tips to look cute and melt anyone’s heart]
#2 Don’t hit on them. If you want to be liked by someone of the opposite sex, don’t try flirting with them immediately. When you hit on them, you treat them disrespectfully like you don’t think they’re worthy of an intelligent conversation. Using a flirty pick up line may be a good ice breaker at a party, but they’re never a great way to talk to someone you’re being introduced to.
#3 Make them feel comfortable. How a conversation between two people goes completely depends on the way both of you feel in each other’s presence. When you meet someone new, feel excited and happy instead of feeling nervous or awkward. You’ll subconsciously pass on your happy vibes to your new friend, which would in turn make them feel more relaxed and happy around you.
Have you ever noticed how uncomfortable an awkward person’s company makes you feel? It would only take a few minutes of hanging out with a nervous or annoyed person to feel weak and drained.
#4 Be charming. Charm is an essential part of being likeable and interesting. When you’re charming, people always have fun around you. Have a positive attitude and try to make the other person smile or laugh. It’ll make them feel more comfortable around you. [Read: How to be charming and liked by everyone]
#5 Keep it interesting. When you’re having a conversation with someone you like, try to find things that both of you have in common with each other. If you’ve been introduced by someone, use the introduction to find out more about them. One of the best starting lines is about work. There’s almost always something in common to talk about, and it’s something that interests everyone involved.
But no matter what you talk about, be it movies, music or common friends, keep an eye on your conversation partner and see if they’re genuinely interested in talking about it. If their eyes light up when they respond, you’re having an interesting and happy conversation. If they look all around the place, they’re bored and can’t wait to leave already! [Read: How to talk to a guy and make him like you]
#6 Don’t let things get awkward. If there’s nothing at all for you to talk about and your new friend isn’t talking either, excuse yourself with a reason and come back later. But use that line only as a last resort.
Staying quiet for a minute is not a bad thing when you’re having a conversation as long as you’re not feeling nervous. When you run out of things to talk about, just talk about the place you’re in or about the common friend you both share. It’ll give you a few new pointers to use to keep the conversation going.
#7 Be courteous and helpful. Being helpful is one of the easiest ways to get someone to like you instantly. If you see someone feeling out of place or uncertain about what to do, talk to them and make them feel like they can relate to you.
Talk about a funny incident when you made a social faux pas so they can feel more confident and relaxed. Or if there’s some way you can help the person you’re talking to, offer your help. They’ll be grateful to you and feel more connected too.
#8 Be yourself, but be the best you can be. Being yourself works only if you’re a happy and popular person already. Unless you’ve reached the point where you can charm anyone you want or impress anyone you’re talking to, try to be a better ‘you’ instead of being yourself.
Most people would tell you to be yourself. But seriously, if that would work, every single obnoxious person in the world would be the most popular conversationalist. Don’t change who you are. Just work on the little flaws by watching others, and become a better person yourself. [Read: How to become a better person using a role model]
#9 Damsels and knights. If you’re the guy, take control of the situation and make the girl feel protected and cared for around you. If you’re the girl, make the guy you’re talking to feel like he’s in control of the situation.
Men like it when they can hold the rein in the conversation, and women appreciate a man who makes them feel protected. When you’re having a conversation with each other, show off your best sides and use each other’s evolutionary traits to your advantage. [Read: Why good men love damsels in distress]
#10 Treat others with respect. Awe your conversation mate with your behavior around others. People subconsciously notice the way you interact with others to evaluate you as a person. When you’re likeable and friendly with others, they like you better and drop their guard more easily. [Read: How to get a girl’s attention wherever you are]
But if you come off as arrogant or aloof when you’re interacting with someone else, the person you’re having a conversation with will subconsciously tune themselves to end the conversation with you as soon as possible.