Being blunt can be both a blessing and a curse. A blunt person isn’t going to sugar-coat anything, but how does that fly with those around them?
It really depends on whether you appreciate being told the truth very literally or not. You see, if you’re blunt, you’re not bothered about whether or not you hurt someone’s feelings, you’re just focused on being honest. You believe that by being as honest as possible, you’re doing them a favor – even if they don’t see it at the start.
But, is being blunt wrong, or is there some amount of desire to do good underneath it all? [Read: 20 positive personality traits that can change your life forever]
A blunt person is someone who says what’s on their mind without considering the fallout of what they say. It can also be described as a straightforward person, essentially someone that says it like it is. They’re going to be honest with you at all times.
If you want the truth and you want to know that the person who’s telling you isn’t going to fob you off, go and see a blunt person. You will get the truth and you’ll be left in no doubt. However, you also have to realize that being blunt means they’re not going to save your feelings in what they say. A person who is a little more sensitive may try and go around the houses a little before they speak. They may say something like “I think you’re doing really well, but if you just tried it this way it could be even better”. A blunt person will just say “it’s not working, it’s terrible, do this instead”.
You’re getting the same advice, it’s just the way in which it’s delivered. [Read: The mean girl – 25 traits to recognize her and stay clear]
Being friends with a blunt person can be so beneficial to your life. But we will get further into that later. For now, let’s talk about why blunt people are so misunderstood.
They’re often called cold, heartless, rude, and plenty of other less than nice terms for their bluntness. We get it. From the perspective of someone who may be sensitive or not used to people telling them they are wrong or putting them in their place, a blunt person can come across as harsh. For the most part, blunt people don’t want to hurt anyone, they just don’t realize that their bluntness sometimes wounds those who are a little more sensitive.
Being a blunt person is a risk. By saying exactly what you think without worrying about people’s initial reactions or feelings can push some people away or rub them the wrong way. But does that mean a blunt person is actually rude or harsh? [Read: How to be a good person and transform your world]
Yes, some people are just plain rude. But many blunt people truly want to help and have the best intentions at heart. A blunt person tells you the truth because it often helps later. They just don’t go about it in the best way sometimes.
A blunt person might tell you that you are making the wrong choices when it comes to dating. And that can come across as rude, but they just want you to be happy. Blunt people also tend to be lacking a bit of patience, so rather than letting you learn from your own mistakes or come to terms in your own time, a blunt person will spill the tea ASAP.
A blunt person’s true intentions are not to upset you or make you feel bad. They want you to face the truth now so you can be stronger later. They want you to hear what you need to hear rather than what you may want to hear. [Read: The qualities only a good friend possesses]
Now that you know where a blunt person is coming from, you may get it a little bit more, But, you may not fully get why it is so beneficial to have a blunt person in your life.
We all love the friend that tells us we look great in every outfit, and that we are definitely making the right career move by opening an Etsy shop to sell homemade jewelry. Boosting our confidence and nodding along with whatever we say is what a good friend does. But, are they just being passive or do they actually want the best for you? That’s what you need to think about.
You see, what a great friend also does is make you face your problems head-on. They make you question things and challenge yourself. A good friend inspires and supports you, but also makes you deal with the facts. And that is what a blunt person does. They care less if you are mad at them and care more about your happiness. [Read: What makes a good friend? The art of honing your friendship skills]
You may think all friends or at least all good friends are honest. But that isn’t always the case. A blunt person, however, will always be honest even brutally so if need be.
If you are dating someone who is clearly lying to you or disrespecting you, your blunt friend will tell you the flat-out truth. They have no problem being the bearer of bad news if it is news you need to hear. [Read: How to recognize and end toxic relationships]
After a breakup, letting it all out is good. Cry, eat ice cream, watch romcoms, but when the time comes you need to get up and move on.
A blunt person won’t let you dwell in sadness. They will make sure you stay busy and tell you how much you deserve better. [Read: Good friends are like stars – 18 ways to build lasting friendships]
A blunt person won’t just listen to you talking about your dreams, but they will push you to make them a reality. If you are hesitant to make a move for a dream job or take a risk for something you truly want, they will push you to be truly happy.
It is nice to have friends that listen and support you, but a blunt person in your life, to give you that push you need, is irreplaceable.
We have all taken a job where we were underpaid. We have all been in a relationship where we were underappreciated. But a blunt person won’t just sit around while you waste all you have to offer somewhere or with someone that isn’t good enough.
A blunt person will remind you of everything you are capable of. [Read: 15 qualities of a good friend that sets them apart]
Some people love having friends that just let them be. They love being around people who are agreeable. But, sometimes, having a blunt person around can be exactly what you need. They get you to learn new things, try new things, and always keep getting better.
A blunt person will be the devil’s advocate and question you and really make you think hard about your decisions.
Okay, there are plenty of blunt people who say “I told you so”, but the blunt people that are decent human beings won’t.
They will tell you how it is, give you their perspective, and share all they can, but they also know how to step back and let you make up your own mind. And even if they turned out to be right, they won’t rub it in. They said their piece and support you no matter what. [Read: How to be a better listener in your relationships]
A blunt person doesn’t just toss out advice at the drop of a hat. They don’t just spew advice at you until you obey. A blunt person likes to collect all the facts before offering a solution or opinion.
That is what makes a blunt person such a good listener. They won’t cut you off or talk over you. They will take everything you say into consideration before giving their full blunt response. [Read: How to listen to your gut and give strength to your inner voice]
A blunt friend won’t accept nonsense from you or anyone else. If you are in denial about something, they won’t allow you to be. They will hit you with the truth, no matter how hard. If you lie to them, they will call you on it.
And what makes them so great is that they stand up for you. If someone lies to you, they will call them on it too.
Some blunt people will be cruel by saying you look awful in an outfit or that your significant other is a waste of a human being. These aren’t genuine blunt people, they’re just rude. Instead, many blunt people will offer advice.
They will say that outfit doesn’t do your body any justice, try it with a belt. And they might say your beau doesn’t treat you with the respect, you deserve to find someone who will. See the difference? [Read: 5 unique traits that make a person trustworthy]
A blunt person has a lot of opinions and loves to share them. They have no problem spitting out their every thought. And they don’t really care if you’re a tad offended if what they said is helpful in the long run.
All it means is a blunt person is invested in you. They care. They wouldn’t put your friendship at risk to ensure your happiness, health, and safety if they didn’t. That is why a blunt person will never let you down. They will always be there to listen, advise, and tell you exactly what you need to hear, even if it is hard to swallow.
Remember blunt people tell you what you need to hear, not what you want to hear. [Read: 5 unique traits that make a person trustworthy]
No. If you have a true blunt person in your life, it doesn’t mean they’re rude. You need to see the differences in their actions to know this. For instance, someone who isn’t blunt and is just rude won’t care about you at all. They won’t tell you things to make you do better. Also, they won’t give you advice so you can achieve something greater. They don’t actually care whether you’re their friend or not. That’s just rude, nothing to do with bluntness.
For sure, some people may take bluntness to be rude, but they just don’t understand that beneath it all, there are good intentions. Everyone is different – judge every person on their own merits but know that if you have a blunt person in your life, perhaps they’re just trying to help you do better.
[Read: Really understanding what a friend actually is]
A blunt person is a lot of things. They can be harsh and pushy, but they are also supportive and inspiring. And having one in your life can actually turn out to be one of your biggest advantages.
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