It seriously shocks me when guys tell me that they don’t know certain things about their girlfriend. Like, pardon? I’ve narrowed down my boyfriend’s bathroom schedule, and you don’t even know your girlfriend’s dad’s name? You need to talk to her once in a while, or maybe just listen when she talks? Whatever it is, there are just some things you should know about your girlfriend.
Seriously, guys. What do you even talk about? Oh, wait, do you even talk to each other? Oh, dang… All I do is talk, and I’m sure my boyfriend tunes me out most of the time, but you can’t just tune everything out.
You’ve got to learn to filter out the important stuff and keep that in your memory for life, because I promise you that it is going to come up again. [Read: How to be a better listener in your relationship]
Top 10 things you should know about your girlfriend no matter what
Like I said, there are just some things you should know about your girlfriend, okay? These are some of those things.
#1 Her relationship with her parents. Is she closer with her mom or her dad? Are both of her parents still alive? Are her parents together or separated? Perhaps they were never together at all. Does she even know both of her parents? Does she have step parents? There are so many layers to a girl’s relationship with her parents, and it is important to understand her specific situation.
You wouldn’t want to slip up and say something that makes her uncomfortable, like mentioning her father when he recently passed away or perhaps he just isn’t in the picture, and it is a touchy subject for her.
Get to know her relationship with her parents. Honestly, it tells you a lot about her. [Read: Interesting things to talk about with your girlfriend]
#2 Does she want children? This is a really big question! If she wants children and you don’t, you need to break it off sooner rather than later. I know a lot of us think that we can compromise and make it work, but I promise you that you should not try to compromise on the big stuff. This is one of the big things that you just shouldn’t compromise on.
If you stay with someone who wants children and you don’t, you will end up resenting one another. Make sure you match up on the important details of your relationship and your lives together. The rest can be compromised. [Read: The questions you should be asking in your relationship]
#3 Does she want to get married? This is the other “big thing” that you cannot compromise on. If you want to get married and she doesn’t, you need to walk away from this relationship. This is a question that you should ask early on in the relationship because if you don’t find out until a year down the line, you might feel as if you’ve wasted your time and theirs.
Just make sure you know this about your girlfriend, okay? [Read: 50 relationship questions to test your compatibility instantly]
#4 Her favorite food. You literally need to know what her favorite food is so that when she is mad, you can get it for her. This is seriously more important than you might think. Specifically, get to know her favorite candy.
When I’m PMSing, my boyfriend gets me Sour Patch Kids because they are my favorite. They always make me calm the heck down and stop being the wicked witch from the west.
#5 What makes her upset. As women, we are very intricate beings, and we all have our triggers. Make sure you know what her triggers are and how to avoid them. Also, know how to make her feel better when she becomes triggered by something and falls into a dark place.
Whether it takes a strong hug, talking it out, a bubble bath–whatever it is, make sure you know what she needs to feel better. As her boyfriend, it sort of becomes your job to give her the tools to feel better. [Read: 15 perfect ways to comfort a girl in all the right ways]
#6 What are her goals? This is huge. You need to help support her through everything she does and motivate her through everything. That is why it is so important that you know what her goals are and what she wants to achieve.
It is also important to listen to her when she tells you her plan–perhaps she has a five-year plan–make sure you know and understand where you fit in that plan, or if you do at all.
This is super important in understanding where your relationship will lead you and what your life will look like in the next five years. [Read: The traits you should exhibit to be a good boyfriend]
#7 Does she like house plants? Maybe this sounds ridiculous, and it really shouldn’t matter if she likes house plants or not, but I promise you that if my boyfriend knew I liked house plants so much, he really would have thought twice about pursuing me.
Seriously though, her love for house plants or lack thereof will tell you about her nurturing side. Can she keep a house plant alive? Awesome. Can she make a house plant thrive and flourish? Great. This means that she knows how to care for living things and will likely make you very happy. Sounds ridiculous, but I promise you I’m on to something here. [Read: 17 funny questions that’ll help you get to know your partner way better]
#8 What is her favorite type of flower? Again, you need to know this so you can make her happy when she is sad. Personally, I’m a fan of the classic daisy. My boyfriend can literally go outside and pick me some wild daisies, and I will be happy.
If your girlfriend’s favorite flower is a rose, well, I’m sorry my friend, but it’s time to break out the wallet. But hey, it’s all worth it to see her smile, right?
#9 Is she a city girl or a country girl? Where does she want to live–in the country or in the city? This is pretty important. If you stay with this girl, it will definitely impact where you end up. This is something that you can totally compromise on, but knowing where she feels that she will be the happiest and most fulfilled is important. [Read: What to do when something doesn’t feel right in your relationship]
#10 Has she had long term relationships in the past? While it can be painful to dig up the past, I think it is important to know what you are getting into. If she has never had any long term relationships, this might be challenging for you because this relationship is something new for her.
This doesn’t mean that you should abandon all ships. Be a little extra patient with her in terms of the boundaries of your relationship and how a relationship is meant to function.
[Read: The deep questions you should be asking your girlfriend]
Understanding your partner is crucial to a successful relationship. But for starters, these 10 things you should know about your girlfriend are definitely must-know stuff you should never ignore!
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