13 Signs You Are Being Used by a Woman Who’s Walking All Over You

signs you are being used by a woman

They say love is blind, and she’s your everything. But who said she feels the same way? Sadly, these are the signs you are being used by a woman.

Men tend to think the more they invest into the girl, the more she’ll appreciate and love him. Sadly, even though you could be dropping big bucks on her and giving her all the attention in the world, it doesn’t mean she feels the same. Watch for these signs you are being used by a woman.

Signs you are being used by a woman

You fell for her hard. Really hard. You spend your paychecks buying her expensive gifts, taking her out to the best restaurants, and making sure you buy yourself some new clothes to impress her. The point is, everything you’re doing, it’s for her. If she wasn’t using you, it is sweet, a little excessive, but sweet.

But what’s for sure is that she’s enjoying the pampering without emotionally investing in you. Yeah, I know, it sounds shitty, but I never said she was a nice person. If you don’t want to be used as a stepping stone, then it’s time you figured out the signs you are being used by a woman. [Read: How to quickly spot the signs of a bad girlfriend]

If she is using you, put a stop to things before they get any worse. When I mean worse, I mean you continue to fall more in love while she treats you like garbage. So, let’s get you well-acquainted with the signs so you can put the pieces of the puzzle together. It’s time to open your eyes!

#1 You feel incomplete. When you’re around her, you feel like something is missing, almost as if you’re not complete. Obviously, this is because she’s not reciprocating with her emotions. This is why you’re doing all of this. You want to please her and make her fall for you but instead, the plan backfired and now you’ve fallen into your own trap. [Read: How to spot gold diggers so you can avoid them]

#2 She runs the show. You’re feeling like you’re doing all the work, and that’s because you are. You’re going above and beyond to please her, yet she never does anything for you. I wouldn’t call this a fair relationship, would you?

If she’s the one holding the power in the relationship, it doesn’t mean she’s using you, but it does show that you’re in an unhealthy relationship. A relationship has two people in it, not just one. [Read: The critical signs you need to watch for in an unhealthy relationship]

#3 You’re her shoulder of support. If she needs emotional support, you’re the shoulder she runs to. Most of the conversations are about her life and the problems in it. But what happens when you have a problem? Does she sit and listen or is she suddenly too busy to listen to you? If she’s only patient when she shares her problems with you, then it’s no longer a two-way street, and one of the clearest signs you are being used by a woman.

#4 She rewards you if you do something for her. It’s similar to dangling a carrot in front of a donkey. Basically, she manipulates you into doing something for her that you may not feel comfortable doing in order for you to get the carrot in front of your face. Now, the “carrot” could be sex, commitment, or even affection. Whatever it is that you need from the relationship, she’s using it to get what she wants. [Read: 16 subtle signs a narcissist is manipulating and abusing you]

#5 She’s just a complex person. When you finally have enough and question her about her behavior and whether or not she wants to be with you, she’s sobbing in your arms. She needs attention and validation, right now. She’s about an inch away from losing it. So, she brings out the excuses that she’s complicated and going through some personal things in her life… blah blah blah.

Keep an eye on this. Does she almost always break down, acts vulnerable and comes crawling to you each time you stand up for yourself, or try to push her away? You’re not dealing with a complicated woman, you’re dealing with a woman who’s using you.

#6 She needs her space. Okay, so she hung out with you on the weekend but now, she needs her space. Treating you like every other guy. But you thought you had something special, right?

Right when you feel discouraged, she comes back, reeling you back in. When she takes her space from you, she’s probably weighing her other options. [Read: What you need to do when she starts playing hard to get]

#7 Her people don’t know you. She has friends, let’s not be ignorant. But you’ve never met them before. Or if you have, maybe once or twice. Her friends are the ones that are going to critique you, but she doesn’t even introduce you to them. That’s because she doesn’t see you as someone she’s going to be with. Rather, you’re a stepping stone to the next guy. 

#8 She’s into your bank account. You may hate your job and complain about it all the time, but she loves it. She’s usually a great listener when it comes to your bank account and financial status. Why? Because that’s one of the major reasons she’s with you. If not, who would buy her everything she wants and more? [Read: All the signs you’re dating a genuine 24k gold digger]

#9 You question if she’s into you. Deep down, when you go to bed at night, you’re wondering if she even likes you. Now, aside from your self-esteem, your gut, it’s telling you the truth. If you have the feeling that she’s using you for everything you have, well, then you’re probably right. [Read: Why you should listen to your gut all the time]

#10 Your friends and family don’t like her. It’s highly likely that your friends have met her first before your family. The good thing about friends and family are that they’re usually up front and honest with you. In other words, they don’t like her. At the same time, she’s trying to push you further away from them, trying to shift your attention onto her and only her.

#11 She is only into you at certain times of the day. This sounds weird but have you noticed that she only hangs out with you before the evening or only after 10 pm? It’s strange behavior but completely makes sense. If it’s after 10 pm, she may only see you as a booty call and doesn’t want to invest any more time into you.

Before the evening, she isn’t interested in spending her nights beside you. She’s simply putting you on shifts to suit her. [Read: 15 signs she’s leading you on and taking you nowhere]

#12 You’re afraid to say no. It’s strange but when you’re in a one-sided relationship and your partner is manipulating you, you’re afraid to say no. You worry about how they’ll react and what the punishment will be for not going along with their plan. But this is simply a form of manipulation. [Read: What to do when you’re not happy in a relationship]

#13 When you say what you want, you’re a bad person for it. You may be slowly catching onto the fact that you’re not getting what you want out of the relationship. Now, if your needs aren’t being met, then you may have approached her, telling you how it feels. Instead of her understanding, she points the finger at you.

She calls you selfish for only wanting sex and intimacy. She may also tell you that you’re not providing for her if you’re low on money.

[Read: How a manipulative woman can leave you lost and confused]

What can I say, love is blind. But now you know the signs you are being used by a woman. So, what are you going to do now that you’re sure?

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Natasha Ivanovic
Natasha Ivanovic
A serial dater, Natasha Ivanovic knows a thing or two about men and the dating scene. Much of her writing is inspired by her encounters with men - and for good ...
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