14 Signs of a Manipulative Woman that Can Leave You Lost & Confused

Being manipulated can be a painful experience. Recognize the signs of a manipulative woman and take back control of your life.

signs of a manipulative woman

A healthy relationship involves give and take. You give your partner all your love, attention, and support, but you also expect to receive the same in return, You might think that giving a little more is a good thing, but if it is at the expense of your well-being, it’s a no-no. In this case, you need to take a step back and look at what is going on. Can you see the signs of a manipulative woman in your relationship?

The most obvious signs of a manipulative woman

Manipulation in a relationship is not always easy to accept and can be a painful thing to realize. However, it is always best to know the early signs of manipulation before you become a victim.

Despite their deception, manipulative people can be consistent and tend to display a specific set of behaviors. If you see the following signs of a manipulative woman, then consider getting out of such a relationship. [Read: The easy signs that point to a bad girlfriend]

#1 Sudden and overreactive emotional outbursts during arguments. Sudden emotional outbursts, such as crying or shouting fits are very troublesome. Normal couples may sometimes argue; if anything, the odd argument here and there can help you to clear the air. However, you hear both sides in order to reach a compromise and move on.

Manipulative people play the emotional outburst card once they feel their argument is crumbling and they are cornered. Emotional outbursts can also be used as a weapon to embarrass you in front of your friends or to gain the sympathy of other people in public places. [Read: The signs she’s an attention whore who’s just using you for attention]

#2 She plays nice every time she needs something from you. Manipulative women either act very sweet and amicable or sometimes go as far as bribing you with sexual favors. They expect you to do something in return.

One of the major signs of a manipulative woman is when this type of behavior happens often. Sure, everyone can be manipulative occasionally, but this type of woman will treat you coldly or indifferently most of the time, unless they want something. They only put up a façade of affection when they are about to ask for a favor. [Read: The signs she is using you emotionally just to get her needs met]

#3 She only texts or calls you if she needs something from you. You only hear from her if she needs you to buy her stuff or do some chores for her. Oftentimes, you realize that long-distance couples talk more often compared to the two of you. For manipulative women, communication is only necessary to get something out of you.

#4 She makes you feel like the worst boyfriend in the world if you don’t do what she wants. In short, she acts like a spoiled brat. If she doesn’t throw a temper tantrum, she plays on your emotions by making you question your worth as a significant other if you don’t comply with her demands. You could compare this to gaslighting, a common technique used by a narcissist – at the end of the day it is still a form of manipulation.

#5 She constantly fails to contribute financially in the relationship. AKA she lets you keep buying her stuff and pay for her expenses without doing the same for you. While it is a bit of a relationship tradition for guys to take a larger share of a relationship’s expenses, a decent partner at least attempts to give their fair share of spending in the relationship. [Read: How to talk about money with your partner without fighting about it]

On the other hand, manipulative women would not even bother to attempt to reach for their purse when the bill comes. They make the lamest excuses to avoid contributing financially.

#6 She always plays the victim even if she’s in the wrong. When she gets called out for something she has done, she most likely twists the narrative to make it appear that you are the one at fault.

She won’t admit or apologize for her own mistake. Instead, she’ll blame everything on you and make it look like everything is your fault. She’ll often do this very loudly, because public humiliation is one of the major tactics for maniulative women. [Read: 16 signs a narcissist is subtly manipulating you]

#7 She would ignore you rather than apologize first. When a couple argues, sometimes they reach an impasse where both temporarily lay off communicating in order to clear their heads. Under normal circumstances, one or both break the sulking stalemate and apologize.

However, a manipulative woman doesn’t care if you don’t talk ever again. She’ll never initiate an apology even if she is the one in the wrong. You’ll end up apologizing for something that isn’t your fault, just to get things back to some kind of “normal” once more.

#8 Feigning ignorance. If she doesn’t know, she cannot be accused of something. Feigning ignorance is a common tactic of manipulative people to avoid being accountable for their own actions. A manipulative woman usually employs this as an excuse to get out of relationship responsibilities or divert attention and blame away from her. [Read: 15 signs she’s leading you on and taking you nowhere!]

#9 Your problems are insignificant compared to hers. When you notice your partner belittles your problems, she is probably using manipulation as a tactic.

Manipulative people display extreme forms of selfishness and lack of empathy towards the suffering of other people, even if that person is their significant other. Everything in her life will be ten times more important than anything going on in yours.

#10 Constant guilt-tripping. If your partner still gives you grief for an old mistake and constantly brings it up to make you feel guilty, then she probably is a manipulative woman. Guilt-tripping is nothing more than emotional manipulation. The manipulator uses their victim’s emotional vulnerability to get them to do the things they want. Again, this is gaslighting at its best. [Read: How to spot gaslighting in a relationship and shut it down for good]

#11 You hook up more than spending quality time together. Hookups are cheap and temporary. Spending time together, on the other hand, requires each person to invest a degree of intimacy towards the other.

Manipulative people are naturally selfish. They would rather stick with hookups as a means to satisfy their physical needs. They don’t want to deal with the hassle of emotional intimacy. For them, quality time is an unnecessary waste of time and effort. [Read: Devious signs of manipulative behavior you should never ignore]

#12 She’s inconsiderate of your general well-being. For a manipulative woman, you’re just a tool to be used and a means to an end. She doesn’t care if you spend a great deal of effort, time, or money whilst trying to please her.

Her natural selfishness dictates that her needs are more important than yours. She will probably get mad at you and paint you as the villain for not doing more for her.

#13 She regularly withholds things you need or want. One of the key signs of a manipulative woman is withholding something from you. Of course, she doesn’t have to give you anything if she’s not in agreement but in this case, she’s doing it because she knows she can twist the situation and get something from you instead.

It’s bribery in its most basic form. She could withhold money she owes you or a loan you’ve asked for, sex, affection, or basically something you need. It doesn’t matter what it is, it’s nothing short of manipulation.

#14 She’s a pro at giving you the silent treatment. This doesn’t have to be about making you apologize for something that is her fault, she might simply go very quiet indeed. The aim here is to make you do anything to get her to talk to you again. It could be over text or in person, but it’s extremely manipulative.

[Read: Do not ignore these signs of manipulation in a relationship]

Girls aren’t purely sugar, spice, and everything nice. They can also be capable of cruel things. So understand the signs of a manipulative woman and be forewarned.

Want to know more about manipulation and how people can use it against you? Read these next:

Psychological manipulation – 16 signs and tactics real manipulators often use

How to tell if a user is using you – The signs a user just can’t hide

The biggest signs you’re in a relationship with a narcissistic girlfriend

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