16 Signs a Woman is Secretly Attracted to You – Guaranteed!

Deciding whether to ask out a special lady in your life? You can ease your nerves by looking for the signs a woman is secretly attracted to you.

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When you want to ask someone out, you have a world of nerves inside of you. It’s normal. After all, nobody likes the potential for rejection. It sucks, quite literally. You think they’re into you, but you’re not sure. The best advice? Look for signs a woman is secretly attracted to you and cut out a large chunk of the “what if” energy.

You see, building yourself up to asking someone out comes down to confidence. How can you be confident if you’re half thinking that they’re going to say “no”? In the end, you’ll talk yourself out of it and that’s a missed opportunity.

Instead, look for the signs, build up your confidence, and go for it! [Read: How to tell if a woman likes you: 21 Subtle signs most men ignore]

Must-know signs a woman is secretly attracted to you

If you’re really hesitant to approach a woman, gauge your odds of success by seeing if she’s giving off any indicators. Now, this doesn’t mean you two will end up together, but this does means that you won’t be rejected the minute you approach her. So, that’s something. Trust me, women are not as complex as you think.

1. It’s in the eyes

Okay, she’s not going to have “I’m into you” literally written in the eyes, but it might as well since it’ll be so obvious.

She’s eyeing the hell out of you. In fact, you notice her staring at you when you’re not looking *stand by a mirror*, every movement you do, she’s going to see. We become slightly obsessed when we’re into someone. That’s one of the biggest signs a woman is secretly attracted to you. [Read: All the cues a girl gives away if she wants you to make a move on her]

2. She’s checking you out

You see her eyes scanning you from head to toe. Maybe when she’s talking to you, she grabs your arm and gives it a squeeze. Sure, it’s flirty, but she’s also seeing the muscle action that’s going on underneath that shirt. Just like you guys check us out, we do the same to you.

3. Look at her body language

One of the clearest signs a woman is attracted to you can be seen in her behavior around you. Is she sitting close to you? Touching you when she talks? Licks her lips while you guys are having a conversation?

She’s not trying to eat her lip gloss. She’s into you. Like, to the point where she wants your tongue down her throat. Of course, some women will not be so obvious. However, if she’s touching her hair, sitting towards you—she’s into you. [Read: 15 body language cues a girl gives away if she’s into you]

4. She’s lingering around you

Listen, when a girl is into a guy, she’s there. Like, if he’s at the bar, she’s at the bar. If he’s on the dance floor, well, would you look at that, she’s on the dance floor. She’s hunting you. We’re maybe not so aggressive as you guys are, but the point is, she’s making herself available for you to approach her.

5. She regularly makes low-key conversation

She’s scared of being rejected so she may try to start a conversation in a low-key way. Maybe she’s at the bar and says something that could pass like she’s talking to herself. But that’s your opportunity to grab onto the conversation and get it rolling. [Read: The best topics to talk about with a girl to keep her interested]

6. She stumbles over her words a lot

If she’s stumbling and fumbling with her words, she’s not drunk or something else, she’s simply nervous because you’re around her! That means she likes you. Take it as a good sign and help her to feel more confident and relaxed. That way, the conversation can flow more easily.

7. She wants to know everything about you

How many siblings do you have? Where did you go to school? What do you do for work? She wants to know your entire background. Why? Because she’s interested in you, but she wants to know what type of person you are. It’s normal, you’re probably just as curious. [Read: How to tell if a girl is flirting with you: 18 telltale signs]

8. She drops hints that she wants you to go somewhere with her

She may drop some hints how she’s interested in watching the new Fifty Shades Darker film, or that there’s this hip-hop night next week that you have to go to. If she doesn’t like you, she’s not asking you to go out anywhere. You’re lucky she even gives you her name. If she’s doing things like this, it’s definitely one of the signs a woman is secretly attracted to you.

9. It’s often all about you

Did some other guy come up and hit on her? You probably didn’t notice because she didn’t even blink at him. She focused on you and that’s really the only thing she can see right now. We mean, the girl is willing to reject other guys for your company, that must mean something. [Read: What to do when a girl likes you]

10. She likes to be close

If she’s not into you, the last thing she will want you to do is to touch her. Seriously, that’s not the goal. If a girl really likes you, though, she’s going to find a way to have her hands on you. Maybe when you tell a joke, she laughs and touches your arm, or sits close beside you. Point is, she wants to feel you.

11. Low-key (aka secretly high-key) stalking

Haha, low-key stalking, don’t make us laugh! By the time she introduced herself to you, she already found you on Facebook. Sorry, but you know, girls want to know what you’re about and if you’re a good person. Trust us, after a one-night stand, most women already know the guy’s Instagram and Facebook just by his first name. [Read: How to approach women: 15 tips you absolutely need to know]

12. She mimics you

Now, we’re not talking about her becoming a theatrical mime. But, she will mimic your movements subconsciously. If you pick up your glass to drink, she probably does the same. It’s called interactional symmetry, and its based off attraction. So, look at her body language and the words she uses.

13. She’s all laughs

You’re just the funniest guy to her. Even the crappy jokes you pull somehow make her giggle. Sure, maybe you are actually funny, but maybe you’re not. If she’s into you, though, she wants to show you that she appreciates your humor and company, so she’s going to laugh. [Read: How to make a girl laugh, smile, & like you instantly]

14. She opens up to you

She tells you something personal about herself, maybe her parents are divorced, or she had a bad breakup. Whatever it is, it’s personal. People don’t advertise their private lives to anyone, unless, they’re attention seekers, but you’ll be able to differentiate the two. If she shares something personal with you, she’s trying to build a connection.

15. Her voice may change

Now, she doesn’t turn into a low-baritone, but when a woman is attracted to a man, their voices do tend to drop. You may be thinking how the hell are you going to figure out that her tone of voice has dropped. But it’s something you’ll just notice. [Read: How to woo a woman: 17 secrets to sweep a girl off her feet]

16. She tells you she likes you – bonus!

If she just straight up tells you she’s into you, well, then this is the best scenario. You don’t have to look at the signs a woman is secretly attracted to you, you don’t have to weigh your odds. She’s into you, the cards are already laid out for you. Now, you just need to get her number and get the ball rolling.

So, now what?

You’ve noticed several of the signs above, so what do you do now?

Ask her out!

Go on, you know you want to!

While you can never be 100% sure that she’s going to say ‘yes’, having a few of these signs on your side means that you can allow your confidence to grow. She’s not going to be dropping these signs on the regular if she’s not bothered about you or she doesn’t want to be around you. For sure, she might be confused about her attraction but at least there’s one already there – that’s something to work with! [Read: How to ask a girl out over text: 7 Steps to an instant “yes”]

You can either ask her face to face, perhaps casually – “do you want to check out a movie with me this weekend?” or you can drop her a message on social media. Whichever route you take, you can feel a lot more relaxed about your chances, thanks to her giving you these under-the-radar signs.

[Read: She wants the D – 19 signs she wants you to take her home]

There you go, if you see a few of these signs a woman is secretly attracted to you, then you have to approach her. I mean, your odds aren’t bad, so why not give it a try?

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Natasha Ivanovic
Natasha Ivanovic is an intimacy, dating, and relationship writer best known for her writings on Kiiroo, LovePanky, Post Pravda, and more. She's the creator and ...
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