Crazy Girlfriend: What Makes One, 53 Psycho Signs & Ways to Deal with Her

Think you have a crazy girlfriend? You need to know for sure before you do anything about it. A psycho girlfriend will drive you just as crazy as her! 

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Have you ever experienced a crazy girlfriend? If you haven’t, then you’re one of the lucky ones! They can drive you to the edge of your sanity, yet leave you questioning whether they really can be that insane or if you have the wrong impression.

It’s so important to beware of the telltale signs of a crazy girlfriend, especially if you’ve never encountered one before. You never know, this could be your next relationship and you’ll save yourself a lot of mess by reading this!

Of course, everyone is prone to the odd bout of craziness occasionally, but if your girlfriend is showing you these signs all the time, you really need to figure out what to do next. [Read: The 15 types of bad girlfriends who’ll make your life hell]

What is a crazy girlfriend?

Psycho or crazy, at least in this feature, just means the general expression of being creepier than most girlfriends. So, a psycho or crazy girlfriend is someone who is extremely clingy, needy, and probably a bit unstable.

In short, she’ll make your life hell but then turn back into someone who seems relatively sane, therefore causing you to question everything. [Read: 33 types of girls you should never fall for ways to avoid dating them]

Why do psycho girlfriends exist?

A psycho girlfriend isn’t generally psycho because she wants to make your life a living hell. Rather, she often can’t help it – it’s in her nature. Maybe she just gets attached too fast and wants to have a hold on you forever.

In all honesty, it’s inevitable to encounter a crazy girlfriend in your dating life. Of course, that simply means that knowing the signs of a crazy girlfriend is important.

You might date someone who wants to see you all the time or you might date someone who basically knows every detail of your life even if you didn’t tell them yet *creepy stalker alert*!

It’s not exactly easy to deal with. [Read: How to help a possessive girlfriend go from clingy to amazing]

Types of crazy girlfriends

One person’s crazy is another person’s normal, but if your girlfriend falls into any of the following categories, you might want to reassess your relationship.

The main types of crazy girlfriends are:

1. The girlfriend who is super clingy

2. The girlfriend who knows everything about you without being told [Read: Toxic people – 48 warning signs and the best ways to deal with them]

3. The girlfriend who never lets you go anywhere without her

4. The girlfriend who cries if you try to see your friends

5. The girlfriend who loves to argue for the sake of it

Of course, there might be other types out there that we haven’t met yet. And if your girlfriend falls into these categories – run! [Read: Drama queen alert! Steps to calmly deal with the diva]

Signs of a crazy girlfriend

Like in movies, victims of psychopaths usually don’t see it coming. But it really is obvious when you come to think about it. Here’s everything you need to know to recognize the signs of a crazy girlfriend.

1. She stares and stalks you when you sleep

You’ve probably woken to her staring at you adorably while you were sleeping. Sure, it’s cute and sweet, but if she does it every time you sleep, then be warned! This is a surefire sign that she’s not just obsessed with you, but a psycho girlfriend.

Yes, it’s completely okay to adore our significant others, but when it comes off as creepy, that’s no longer okay! Those girls are usually the type to not only watch you sleep, but they actually might be keeping a close eye on you wherever you go. [Read: The things girlfriends do that make them seem like a stalker]

2. She reads your texts

With a psycho girlfriend, there’s no such thing as respecting your privacy and boundaries. She wants to know everything there is to know about your life, including your private messages. Whether it’s your email, social media accounts, or text messages, she reads everything.

When you try to talk of boundaries, she either manipulates you by crying, storming out, being all hurt, or by giving you the silent treatment. This is certainly one of the signs of a crazy girlfriend. [Read: How to set boundaries in dating – the 15 rules you must follow ASAP]

3. She knows all your passwords

Obviously, the only way she’ll be able to read your messages is if she knows all of your passwords. This is one of the big red flags that you have a psycho girlfriend. Not only does she not trust you, but she wants to know everything in your private life.

There is nothing about this that’s healthy. If we were you, we’d stay far away from where she can’t see, hear, or touch you! Why would anyone in their right mind need the password to your social media platforms? [Read: How to deal with jealousy in a relationship]

4. She hangs out with you and your buddies every single time

Again, a psycho girlfriend doesn’t understand the importance of respecting boundaries. In other words, she’s incapable of separating from you and wants to be with you every chance she gets. She might seem like one of the boys at first – which is very cool and chill of her.

However, you’ll find her true colors start to reveal when you tell her you’re going to have a boy’s night without her. She’ll then go into suspicious mode. The suspicious girlfriend mode is when she asks you if there are other girls with you and if you say no, she probably won’t believe you.

5. She is very subtly manipulative

A psycho girlfriend knows the tricks because she uses them all the time. She can manipulate you into any situation she wants. This is one of the most frustrating things about dealing with her.

Even if you want to break up or leave her, she’ll manipulate you the best way she can. The worst part? It’s a manipulation that’s going to work. When reading the signs of a crazy girlfriend, this is a serious one. [Read: 16 tactics of psychological manipulation expert manipulators always use]

6. She calls in to “check on you” in the middle of the night

Your girlfriend has mastered the art of being psycho in manners so subtle that you don’t even notice when it’s so obvious.

Your girlfriend could pretend that she’s just calling or facetiming you because she misses you, but she’s just checking if you’re not talking to other women.

Sounds absurd, right? That’s because she is! [Read: 20 glaring signs of a control freak]

7. She texts you using different numbers to bait you

If your girlfriend has completely lost it, she’ll likely text you using different numbers, pretending to be a different girl to see how you’ll react to each one.

This is just proof of her psychotic and unstable nature. The thing is, she might pass this off as a joke, and you might end up believing her! [Read: Reasons she has trust issues and ways to fix them]

8. She’s on a first-name basis with your parents – and she texts them regularly

It might be a dream come true to have your girlfriend become close to your parents. However, it’s also a concrete sign of a psycho girlfriend, especially when you’ve only been dating for weeks!

Nobody in their right mind would do this, so it’s pretty obvious that she’s not thinking clearly.

It’s possible that she’s trying to get into your parents’ good books so they will always back her up whenever it comes to problems you’re having. Red flag! [Read: 18 signs it’s time and ways to prepare your partner to meet the parents]

9. You always catch her looking at you from behind your back when you think you’re alone

We know you think this scenario only happens in the movies, but it’s more common than you think! There’s a difference between her adoring you from afar and just plain glaring at you, seeing what you’re up to.

How long has she been standing there staring at you while you were on the computer? How long has she been eyeing you from behind while you were talking on the phone? It’s definitely one of the signs of a crazy girlfriend. [Read: Smothered in a relationship – 37 signs and ways to stop feeling suffocated]

10. She’s Facebook friends with almost half your college class – and she’s never met any one of them

Don’t you think it’s a little borderline crazy when she’s friends with half of your college friends without even meeting them? Even if we live in the digital era, this is still unusual behavior!

Why does she need to be sending memes with your college crush? Why does she feel the need to add every person you have on your friends list? Psycho alert! [Read: 15 signs your girlfriend is past crazy and clearly insane]

11. She posts statuses pretending to be you on your social media accounts without your knowledge

If you don’t see this as a concrete sign of a psycho girlfriend, you need to open your eyes to reality. She knows your passwords, which means she can easily pretend to be you and post statuses.

Are you okay with her changing your profile picture to her own face? Do you mind her posting a sweet poem to herself from your own profile and pretending it was you who wrote it? Are you 100% fine with her using your account to like her own posts?

No matter how adorable she’s making it seem, there’s no excuse in the book that makes you think this is okay! [Read: 15 types of bad girlfriends who will make your life hell]

12. She doesn’t believe you

We all mistake one thing for another from time to time, but a psycho girlfriend makes a habit of this. Maybe you’re just waving to a friend or smiling at a meme while texting, but she makes it out to be something else entirely.

She doesn’t believe you even if you persist that it’s not what she thinks. It’s either she has a thing for drama or she’s really more psychotic than she’s letting on.

13. She’s extremely jealous to a fault

Jealousy and envy are both normal emotions in a relationship, but when she constantly gets jealous of practically everyone, this isn’t normal behavior. When her jealousy is making the relationship toxic and intolerable, then something’s definitely off.

Maybe she doesn’t want you talking to any girl at all or she gets jealous of any friends you have. It doesn’t matter how pretty she is, the bottom line is that she’s psycho! [Read: How to deal with jealousy in a relationship & learn to overcome it]

14. She has a story

There’s always a story behind every psycho girlfriend. Observe her past, her family, her childhood – everything. Most often, the way she thinks and behaves all comes from the way she was brought up.

It might not make sense to you, but she might have a terrible past that caused this obsessive behavior. Of course, it’s still not an excuse for her actions, but it helps you understand things from her point of view. [Read: What are daddy issues? 19 ways to identify them in your girlfriend]

15. She never made you feel safe

A psycho girlfriend does a really good job of making you feel anxious and paranoid about almost everything.

She constantly accuses you and causes so much drama that safety in the relationship is no longer an option. In fact, you can’t even remember the last time you felt safe and secure in a relationship with her.

You always expect things to go for the worst – that’s how crazy she actually is. Whether it’s manipulation, accusing you of something you never did, or unwarranted jealousy – bring it on. If you see this, it’s one of the signs of a crazy girlfriend. [Read: How to feel secure in a relationship when you feel insecure inside]

16. She makes it impossible for you to leave

The last and final straw of dealing with someone psycho is when they make it almost impossible to leave. You have to basically force the facts in her face just to stop her from existing in your life.

She’s so obsessive and manipulative that she thinks she can get away with having you forever. This is why she’ll gaslight you whenever you get upset just to get the upper hand in every situation.

In order to leave her, you really need to cut her off completely in your life and make sure she gets what you’re saying – that things are over and you’re breaking up with her. [Read: How to break up with a narcissistic girlfriend and fly out of her cage]

17. She’s an obsessive texter

One surefire way to tell if your girl is packing that crazy sparkle in her eye is to monitor her textual behavior.

Does she blow up your phone 24/7 with texts, e-mails, photo tags, calls, and voicemails? It may be time to reel her in a bit.

If she refuses, block her number and look the other way! You’re certainly seeing one of the signs of a crazy girlfriend here. [Read: Clingy girlfriend signs and how to avoid it]

18. She admits to being crazy in the past

Does your girlfriend regale you with tales of insane past behavior with her exes, friends, family, and more?

These might seem like hilarious social stories when you first meet, but if you find that drama and crazy behavior seems to follow your girlfriend everywhere she goes, she may be the common denominator.

19. She hates other women with a passion

It’s natural for girls to be a little jealous of other girls now and then, but if your girlfriend has a personal stash of hatred reserved for any girl who dares enter her vicinity, there’s definitely some trouble brewing.

One of the main signs of a crazy girlfriend is when she sees absolutely everyone and everything as a threat. Run! [Read: Taming the green monster – when is a girl’s jealousy okay?]

20. She denies all the stories you’ve heard about her

You’ve been together for a couple of weeks now and you’re starting to meet her friends. All of the sudden, you’re hearing all these maddening stories about her. You may even get a warning story from an ex of hers over social media telling you about her secret craziness.

What’s more, your girlfriend has got wind of these tales and adamantly denies all of them— even the funny, harmless ones! If your girlfriend is acting super sensitive about past deeds, it may be a sign that she’s getting ready to pounce.

21. Lies, lies, and more lies

Liar, liar, pants on fire! If your girlfriend lies about all topics, big and small, then you’ve got yourself a girl with a flair for drama. And drama = trouble.

A happy relationship can never coexist where there is drama and if she seems to love dramatics, know that it’s one of the signs of a crazy girlfriend. [Read: Sneakily accurate ways to tell if your girl is lying]

22. Surprises that cross the line

Who doesn’t love surprise presents? Well, there is a line, especially when it’s your crazy girlfriend’s 6th surprise pop-in at work this week.

Frequently showing up where she wasn’t invited or to events that you specifically planned sans girlfriend *i.e. guys’ night* is not only rude and annoying, but it’s also super clingy.

23. Insane fighting behavior

We all get riled up when we’re arguing, but some girls can take it too far.

If your girl has a loud mouth during an argument, that’s one thing, but when she starts throwing plates or smashing your guitars, we say take cover and run. If she loves to fight, it’s not a recipe for harmony, right? [Read: How to stop being manipulated in a relationship]

24. She’s uncomfortable with stability

We’ve already said drama is troublesome, and a girl who can’t stand a comfortable life full of love and stability is a crazy girl that you definitely need to stay away from. These girls are fun to watch in movies, but not so much fun to date.

It’s one of the signs of a crazy girlfriend if she doesn’t love that calm and loved-up feeling. Who doesn’t love that? She doesn’t.

25. She’s burned her bridges

Look around… Does your girlfriend have any friends? Does she have acquaintances she’s known for more than a couple of months?

Does her family still talk to her? Has she maintained a steady job for more than a year?

If your girlfriend has burned every single bridge imaginable in her life, take that as one of the huge signs of a crazy girlfriend, especially if she seems proud of it! [Read: Loving someone too much – what it means and why and how it’s bad for love]

26. She governs your friendships

One bad sign that your relationship has headed to the “psycho-control-freak” zone is when your girlfriend starts to decide who you can and can’t hang out with, along with the date, time, and activity.

You didn’t need your mommy there to decide who you made friends with when you were growing up, and you don’t need your girlfriend to do it for you now! [Read: How to handle controlling behavior in a relationship]

27. She always plays the victim

One of the signs of a crazy girlfriend is when she loves to play the victim regularly. Does it seem like your girlfriend can’t be wrong without playing the victim? This is typical of crazy women!

If your girlfriend is the victim in every single story she tells or in every argument you have, something is definitely amiss. No one is *that* unlucky.

28. Your sex life is wild, but in a bad way

Can wild sex really be bad? Writhing on top of you and getting loud, or surprising you with sex in the back of the cab are both pretty awesome.

But getting holes poked in your condoms, having a selfish lover, or a porn-star copycat are definitely not fun sex partners. [Read: Awkward signs you’re having bad sex with your lover]

29. She’s itching to get married

Nothing is more annoying than a girl who won’t drop the topic of marriage when the two of you haven’t even been together long enough to realistically consider it. Being pestered about popping the question is beyond presumptuous, especially if you haven’t been dating for that long! [Read: Should you get married? Ways to know if it’s for you]

Crazy girlfriend – Things you do that are forcing your girl to turn into one

Now you know the signs of a crazy girlfriend, it’s time to ask why. Every girl has the potential to become crazy. As if something has possessed them, you can literally make any girl behave crazy and do some really outside-their-mind things.

If you want to make sure that you don’t bring out the crazy in your girlfriend, follow this advice.

1. If you say you’re going to be home at a certain time, be home

Most women are guided by schedules. Almost always beholden to either a million things on their plate or their mind, when you say that you are going to be home, and you don’t show up, they have planned something.

Whether it is dinner or just to have you next to them, when you don’t follow through with your word, it feels like a betrayal. Obviously, sometimes can’t be helped, but if you are a perpetual non-shower, it tells her that you don’t think she is significant or a priority. [Read: 15 traits that’ll make you the perfect boyfriend material]

2. If you’re going to be late, call

It doesn’t take much to make a phone call or just shoot a text saying “I am going to be late.” You wouldn’t blow your mom off or show up late to an important playoff game with a friend. Give your girlfriend the same courtesy and you will avoid the rage that is likely to greet you at the door.

3. Don’t say “I don’t care” all the time

If she asks you what you want to do this weekend, or where you want to go for dinner, just answer her.

There are going to be times when you really don’t care, but if you consistently tell her you don’t care it sounds as if spending time with her really does not affect you either way. [Read: Small ways to make your girlfriend feel special and loved]

4. Don’t ever, and we mean ever, call her crazy

Want to see your girlfriend act crazy? Call her crazy. There is something about calling a woman crazy that will make her so. A magical word, if used, will transform her into someone else. No matter how irrational you believe she is, refrain from ever saying things like “crazy” or “psycho.”

5. Avoid saying things like “calm down” and “chill out”

If your girlfriend is upset, let her be upset and vent. Sometimes, you need to have thick shoulders and listen to why she is so enraged.

If you say “calm down” or “chill out” that comes across in two ways: “I am not going to acknowledge that you have a valid point” and “I don’t care what you have to say.”

Not only will it make her even madder, but it will also embarrass her, which is a surefire way to make her feel crazy. [Read: 21 things a man should never say to his girlfriend]

6. Answer her call or text even when you don’t want to

When you tell a girl “my phone isn’t attached to me day and night,” guess what? She knows you are lying. Guys are creatures of habit, and she knows that you never are without that appendage, no matter where you go or what you are doing.

If you don’t answer her call or text, especially if you are in the heat of an argument, or it is something she thinks is important, you are setting up a whole mess of trouble between the two of you.

7. Answer her question, even if you aren’t sure what the answer is

Want to make her really crazy? Don’t answer her questions. Whether face-to-face or through a text, if you decide not to reply to her question, it is going to make her ruminate about it all day. Idle minds are the devil’s playground for a woman.

If she asks you something, even if you think it is ridiculous or that you shouldn’t have to answer, you should probably weigh the consequence of not answering against the simplicity of just replying to her. [Read: What it feels like to experience anxiety in a relationship]

8. Don’t talk badly about her behind her back

Even if she is being a bitch, did something ridiculous, or even made a horrible meal the other night, what goes on in your relationship should stay in your relationship.

One of the biggest nails in any relationship coffin is when you go outside of the partnership to talk negatively about one another.

If she hears you talking badly about her to someone else, it feels similar to emotional cheating and will make her insane response appear with a vengeance. [Read: 20 things happy couples never do in a perfect relationship]

9. Unless you have to, don’t lie

Lying drives women crazy. If you can lie about one thing, you can lie about anything. Since women are constantly anticipating the next thing, they will likely wonder what you will be dishonest about next.

10. Don’t play one girl off against another

If you have friends that she doesn’t know, or even that she does and is friends with, don’t pit one against another.

That means don’t blow up another girl’s phone, repeat what that girl has to say about your girlfriend, or put another girl’s needs ahead, ever. That is bound for crazy-town. [Read: 22 early warning signs of a bad boyfriend]

11. If she is upset, don’t ignore her

Sure, it is much easier just to ignore her when she is moaning and complaining, but have you noticed that when you do she gets louder? The more you ignore her, the louder and angrier she will become, and before you know it, a crazy woman will be standing in front of you. [Read: Relationship arguments – 23 dos and don’ts you HAVE to remember]

12. Don’t shatter her faith by always walking out the door and being the “runner”

Nothing makes a woman crazier than when you run from her and she has to chase you. The run/chase game is one of the most harmful communication styles and leads to the worst type of relationship that you could have. Any woman that has to chase a guy to get him to listen to her is going to become crazy.

Imagine trying to tell someone something that is really important and they run from you. You aren’t in grammar school anymore, grow up!

13. In the middle of an argument, don’t just turn her off

Don’t make her feel insignificant or like she doesn’t matter. If you make her feel stupid or unwanted, she is going to react louder, angrier, and crazy. [Read: 15 courteous ways to be a gentleman and keep her happy]

14. If you make plans with her, follow through

Again, women are planners. If you say that you are going to do something, she will have her heart set on it. If you don’t follow through, that says she isn’t a priority to you, and that will send her on a path of crazy eyes.

15. Don’t call her names

When a woman feels disrespected, it hits at the heart of her being. There is a difference between fighting fair and just being mean. If you display meanness, you are likely to get crazy back.

Be respectful, even if you are on the way out. It only makes you look immature to resort to calling her names. [Read: The right steps to tell your partner you’re unhappy in the relationship]

16. Don’t forget her birthday, your anniversary, or other important dates

They may not feel important to you, but women are very sentimental. Acknowledge how important she is to you. [Read: Relationship dates men should never, ever forget]

17. If something is going on, don’t just retreat into yourself

If she asks you what is wrong, don’t say “nothing.” Even if there is nothing wrong, say “nothing, why?” so that she can explain to you why she feels things are amiss. If she has done something wrong, be honest and open.

Secrets drive a woman crazy and so does feeling as if you are hiding something from her. [Read: Relationship mistakes new couples make all the time]

18. Don’t cheat on her

Enough said.

19. Don’t lead a double life

Don’t be nice one day, shitty the next. That always leaves her guessing which guy she is going to be dealing with. If you have had a bad day, just say so. If you want to be alone, just say so.

Saying nothing and making her guess will make her behave in an outrageous manner. [Read: 23 foolproof relationship tips and advice all men need to follow]

How to deal with a crazy girlfriend

Every girl, and we mean every girl, can become crazy if you do certain things to drive her there. If you sit back and rationally think about the way she is acting, it may not be just her, it may be the way that you communicate with her.

But then again, maybe she’s just crazy from the start.

Learning how to deal with a crazy girlfriend is important if you want to avoid feeling like you’re going insane yourself. [Read: 15 types of bad girlfriends who will make your life a living hell]

1. Recognize the signs of toxicity

It’s easier to figure out what to do when you’re sure that your girlfriend really is on the psycho side. Learn the signs we talked about earlier and know what you’re dealing with from the get-go.

2. Communicate your boundaries

What will you put up with and what won’t you? Make these boundaries very clear to her and let her know that if she repeatedly goes against them, you’ll walk away.

3. Focus on self-care

You have to look after number one, especially when you’re dealing with a crazy girlfriend. Put yourself first on a regular basis and don’t feel bad about it. If you’re not nourishing yourself, you can’t handle what’s going on. [Read: How to take care of yourself emotionally and avoid falling apart]

4. Address the issues together

Talk things through and work together to fix things. Try to be as direct as possible without using blame language, say things like “it feels like…” rather than “you always…”

Then, once you’ve had the conversation, tell her you’ll support her in fixing her toxic behavior.

5. Know when it’s time to end the relationship

Sometimes, relationships just can’t be saved. If she’s showing signs of craziness at every turn and doesn’t seem to want to fix things, you can’t stick around and take it any longer.

Listen to your gut and know when it’s time to walk away. [Read: 42 red flags and signs it’s time to end your relationship and move on for good]

Don’t let a psycho girlfriend drive you psycho too

Don’t ever go around thinking that you can change a psycho girlfriend into someone good for you. She’s so used to manipulating and gaslighting others that it’s going to be a burden for you to try and change her mind.

The only way to deal with her is to accept the facts and end the relationship for your own sake. Of course, some guys are okay with dating someone psycho. In that case, well, good for you!

[Read: 20 signs of a bad girlfriend and the easiest ways to spot them instantly]

When all is said and done, there are a lot of clues you can observe to know whether you are in a relationship with a psycho girlfriend. But remember they’re masters at manipulating you into getting what they want.

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Vinod Srinivas Serai
Vin Serai
Vin Serai is the founder of, and has delved deep into the working of love and relationships for almost two decades. Having dipped his feet in almo...