Feisty Girl: 30 Sassy Traits that Make Her Dangerously Amazing

A feisty girl is fiery, quick-tempered, ambitious, self-assured, and intense. But those are just some of her qualities! If you love one, watch out!

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Let’s face it, when you start dating a feisty girl, they are like a person at a funeral – totally on their best behavior. The last thing she wants to do is let any of the crazy out the closet.

The thing about a feisty girl is that although she can be totally and utterly calm in certain circumstances, she can also turn into the gremlin that got wet. Feisty girls are both a blessing and curse. But the one thing that is for certain, you have to have good self-confidence to be with one.

“Feisty” is a peculiar definition. It isn’t exactly crazy or obnoxious. Rather, it is an overreaction, but typically as an appropriate response. Confused? Maybe you should be! [Read: 25 biggest dating deal breakers for women]

30 signs you are with a feisty girl

One of the defining characteristics of a feisty girl is that she won’t take your shit. But that’s not all. Read on to find out the 30 signs you are with a feisty girl.

#1 She has no problem calling someone out. Most women will avoid confrontation at all costs. Having more of a “nurturing” nature, the majority of girls will think something, but dare not let it come out their mouths. The feisty girl isn’t afraid to say it like it is no matter who is listening or who doesn’t like it.

#2 Unlike other girls, she isn’t into gossip. Feisty girls aren’t into gossip because they don’t care what anyone else is doing – they are doing their own thing. Having a mentality of “I do my thing, and you do yours,” she doesn’t worry about who is doing what with whom. [Read: How to think like a woman and get the girl]

#3 She will defend you to the death, even if she doesn’t like you at the moment. A feisty girl has your back. All someone has to do is say that they don’t think you aren’t God’s gift to the world, and then they better look out. They can tolerate bad things about other people, but if you bad-mouth anyone they love, you better watch out!

#4 She’ll only take so much and then the lid blows off. A feisty girl doesn’t lay it all out there. Reserved on the exterior, you won’t see the real her until you have pushed her past her limit – and then it all comes out like an explosion. She’s not someone who likes to cause trouble, but she isn’t afraid of it.

#5 When she is mad, you better stand back. Like projectile vomit, you get in a feisty girl’s way – or God forbid her face – and you better take cover.

#6 Regardless of her size, you wouldn’t want to meet her in a dark alley. Being a feisty girl isn’t about her size, it is about the size of her bite, which is always much scarier than her bark. If you think she is too tiny to cause trouble, look out. Looks can be deceiving. [Read: What girls wish guys knew about their mind]

#7 She is so damn sexy when pissed. A feisty girl should be embarrassing to a man, but she isn’t. There is something about her assertive nature and “take no crap” attitude that makes her sexier than sexy. Guys don’t want to be the object of her fury, but they wouldn’t mind if she took a little of that energy in to the bedroom.

#8 There is no fight that she won’t win, even if she has to die trying. Unlike other girlfriends, the feisty girl isn’t going to give up. She will hold on to grudges, fight about it years later, and will do whatever it takes to be right. Winning at all costs is her motto, and you love her for it, even if it makes you crazy.

#9 She doesn’t believe in turning the other cheek. Holding grudges is what she is about. If you cross her, you are crossed off of her list. She’s more into the eye-for-an-eye mentality than the turn-the-other-cheek one. Once you are on her bad side, you stay there.

#10 Not only will she stand up for herself, but she will also stand on the side of righteousness. Even if she isn’t particularly set on something, if she sees that there is an underdog, she will always stand on their side and defend the defenseless. Not wanting ever to see someone taken advantage of, she will join in the fight even if it isn’t hers to be had. [Read: How to effortlessly attract women at first sight]

#11 Even if she embarrasses you, she makes you proud. When she goes bat shit crazy and embarrasses you, it only lasts a minute. Her man is so proud that she can defend herself and take no shit that he can see past the crazy.

#12 There isn’t an argument that she can’t win. She fights to the death. She isn’t afraid to cheat, steal, or lie. She is competitive and loves the drama. Even if she knows she’s wrong and you’re right, she’ll still compete with you.

#13 Guys take notice when she talks. When a feisty girl says something, people take notice. Unlike other soft-spoken women, she says things in a way that makes people – especially men – want to listen.

#14 Like a cat, you can see when her claws are about to come out. A feisty girl isn’t just about the words that come from her mouth. Her intimidating demeanor is all over her face, her body, and in the way she moves. When she wants to make a point or is angry, you know it is about to come – you can literally see her blood boiling. [Read: How to make a girls smile, laugh, and like you instantly]

#15 She may be the girl next door, but she has that freak-in-the-bed way about her. A feisty girl is sweet on the outside but can be spicy too. That is what you love about her. Even if you haven’t seen her in bed yet, you can imagine that she is something really amazing. That energy is boundless.

#16 As much as you hate fighting with her, you gotta love her spirit. Living with a feisty girl can lead to a tumultuous relationship, but the good news is that it won’t ever be boring. Horrible to fight with *and you probably fight a lot,* without her, life wouldn’t be near as exciting and full of fun.

#17 She won’t take no for an answer. A feisty girl will lead you to water and make you drink it too. She sees a “no” as a “try again later.” She finds it challenging to change the no into a yes. And who says she can’t?

#18 She can be a nurturer or instantly your protector – she wears many hats. A feisty girl is still a female at heart. So don’t mistake her ability to be protective and powerful as an indication that she doesn’t want to make you happy and provide you with a wonderful and happy home. [Read: Signs you have a slutty girlfriend]

#19 You know the look that says “beware,” even if others don’t. When you live with a feisty girl, you learn fast what her triggers are, and you can also see that point when her head is about to explode off her body. All she has to do is glance your way, and you instantly know whether you should maintain a steady course or veer to the left.

#20 Sometimes she can be a Tasmanian devil, destroying everything around her. She’s not really good with learning from previous encounters, so she is slow to learn her lesson and will tear shit up again and again. She often has to say she is sorry, and her first instinct is not to sit, rationalize, and reason her way through something. She only has one motion, and that is forward.

#21 She is quick-witted and can hold her own. Sometimes, she can act like one of the guys, and so men instantly fall in love with her because she doesn’t take herself seriously and can joke with the best of them. The best part about a feisty girl is that you have to try really hard to hurt her feelings, so you aren’t always tiptoeing around her or being politically correct.

#22 She can likely drink your fraternity brothers under the table, even if she weighs under 100 pounds. A feisty girl has been around the bar a time or two. Not turning down a dare, she cannot only keep up with your frat boy friends, she likely can out-drink them and still walk home. [Read: No-fail ways to calm your jealous girlfriend]

#23 She doesn’t need you and will tell you so at every turn. Extremely independent, she will tell you time and time again that she doesn’t need you. It isn’t in the things that she says, it is in the way that she does her own thing, doesn’t wait for you to catch up, or expect you to jump in. You are on your own. If you want to be with her, that is up to you.

#24 She is independent, but every once in a while you will get a glimpse that she needs you. Although independent, there is still a soft and cuddly side to the feisty girl. Just when you are about to let her go, she can melt your heart and make you see the little girl inside. [Read: 14 small ways to make your girl feel special and loved]

#25 She doesn’t care who you are, if you cross her, you better watch out. Likely switching occupations several times, she is not into authority. Bunking it anytime she can, she does what she wants and gets upset when anyone tells her she can’t – no matter who it is.

#26 She isn’t impressed with names or titles. Don’t bother throwing your credit card around, or your work title – she doesn’t care. If you are cool and can hang, you could have any kind of job, or none at all. [Read: How to impress any girl –  15 atypical ways you need to know]

#27 Whatever she wears, she wears it well. Not into trends, the feisty girl refuses to conform to what everyone else wants. That is okay because whatever it is that she wants to wear, she does it with such confidence that she can pull it off.

#28 When she walks into a room, everyone takes notice. A style all her own, she exudes confidence and self-esteem. She is the type of girl who enters the room and the record scratches to a halt.

#29 She is both your biggest dream and your worst nightmare. If she is on your side and loves you, you are the luckiest person in the world. If she is pissed off or you have crossed her, I wouldn’t want to be you.

#30 When you find your way into her heart, she melts. Feisty girls are like an egg. They have a hard outer shell. But if you can crack it, look out – she just might get a little mushy with you.

[Read: 13 words of advice to date a fiercely independent woman]

A feisty girl may be difficult to deal with because they are quick- tempered, always have to be right and don’t care what anyone thinks. But those are all the reasons that you find her so amazing.

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