Are good looking girls mean to some guys? Or are they actually nicer than other girls? Here’s a hot girl’s answer, and her struggles.
There are a lot of misconceptions about good looking girls out there.
Now they’re not all wrong.
But more often than not, they are more of a stereotype than anything else.
Have you ever heard the line that good looking girls are mean and arrogant?
Now is that all true?
I definitely don’t think so.
I’m a girl who could be considered good looking, and I’d like to share my thoughts with others.
But please don’t think me conceited.
I’m only trying to strike a conversation.
[Read: How to avoid the friend zone and make a girl desire you]
The mean good looking girls
There are a lot of mean girls out there, and perhaps a few good looking mean girls too.
But that doesn’t mean all good looking girls are mean.
Here are a few reasons why some good looking girls are mean.
1. They’re conceited
It’s true, a few good looking girls are completely full of themselves.
They think they’re a gift to mankind or something, and believe they need to be treated better than everyone else. They’re the annoying kind of good looking girls, and definitely, the shallow ones too.
2. They like the attention
Almost all good looking girls know they get attention all the time. They know they’re hot stuff and they intend to use their looks at every possible instance to get something favorable.
It may be to date someone rich and have a sugar daddy, or it may be something to do with getting a better job. The attention works for them and they fully use it to their advantage. [Read: 12 tips to get a girl’s attention wherever you are]
3. They’re intentionally mean
Some good looking girls are just terribly mean. I’ve seen many girls bat their eyelids at a guy and make him approach them only to spurn him away! It’s terrible and annoying, and these are the kind of girls that give good looking girls a bad name.
But this is more like the exception than the rule. All good looking girls are not heartless skanks whose only sole means of pleasure is chucking a wrecking ball at a guy’s heart.
Good looking girls are not intentionally mean
For a long time, I’ve seen just how misunderstood good looking girls are. No matter what a good looking girl does, it’s always bad. There’s just no way out. Here are a few reasons why good looking girls are assumed to be mean.
1. Exaggerations
Guys always exaggerate a good looking girl’s rejection to feel better about themselves. [Read: Ways to reject a guy nicely without hurting him]
2. Too many guys hit on good looking girls
All the time, and they really don’t have the time to play nice to all the guys. What would you do if girls threw themselves at you all the time?
You obviously can’t play nice to every girl you meet, especially if you know that you’re never going to be interested in that person.
3. Guys are always mean to good looking girls
They expect a good looking girl to be snappy, so the guys go all out with their rude remarks.
Additionally, a few guys get incredibly rude when they’re rejected. So a great looking girl’s always got to be on guard, or she’ll end up getting insulted by guys all the time.
4. Cheesy pick up lines
How do you like your eggs in the morning… fried or fertilized? Really? How can a girl not get annoyed when she hears something like that?
Most guys always use a pick up line when they strike up a conversation with a good looking girl like a pick up line makes them look cooler.
But when a girl’s out with her friends, could it be possible that she’s just trying to have a nice time, not get her eggs picked?! [Read: The types of creepy guys that girls always avoid]
People love to see a good looking girl punished
Sometimes, petty jealously can make people really mean. When a good looking girl gets a great guy, everyone else just hopes for her to get dumped or cheated on.
And almost always, everyone wants the good looking girl to date a guy who would treat her like crap just so she can feel their pain.
This is especially true for guys who get rejected often. But really, why? What have good looking girls ever done to you?
Well, yes, maybe some girl rejected you. But why stereotype all good looking girls into evil witches? [Read: Signs a girl is just using you]
Guys want a girl who’s beautiful but doesn’t know it
Isn’t that unfair? I’ve had a few guys tell me this line with a mean grin, to spite me or be frank, I really can’t tell.
But guys, you want the best girl in the world when clearly, you’re not the best guy in the world yet. You want a confused girl who’s insecure and timid, one who isn’t aware of her own beauty. Why is that? So you can feel good about yourself?
Isn’t that mean? You want the best of something without giving your best back to her. And at the same time, when a good looking girl wants a great guy, everyone thinks the girl’s a bitch, or that she’s shallow. It’s just so unfair.
Who are the real mean girls?
The real mean girls are the ones who constantly want attention or are the ones who think they’re really good looking when they really aren’t.
They act snooty and constantly want attention because somewhere deep down, they’re all insecure because they’re not sure if they’re pretty.
And almost always, a good looking girl’s not so good looking friend is usually the mean one. She tries to use her good looking friend’s attractiveness to get attention and treat guys badly because she wants to get even with all the guys who didn’t give her attention.
I may sound rude and full of myself, but it’s true. People get mean when they want to inflict pain on someone else for their own shortcomings.
I know a lot of models and good looking guys and girls, and I can assure you, they are the nicest and sweetest people in the world. Just don’t try hitting on them or taking them to bed at hello.
Get to know them as a friend first. You’ll see how nice good looking people really are. They’re just like every other nice person in the world. [Read: 15 tips to be nice and loved by all]
Good looking girls are human too
Contrary to popular belief, good looking girls are just like everyone else. They have a heart that hurts and wants true love too. Here are a few things about good looking girls that many guys don’t give a thought about.
1. They want to be appreciated too
It’s true, they love romance and little skips of joy like every other girl out there. But please, be a great guy who’s sweet and charming. [Read: Easy ways to be charming around a girl]
2. They’re more than skin deep
Good looking girls want to be liked for who they are beyond their appearance. When a guy just stares at her without listening to her words, it’s insulting.
3. They don’t like being constantly picked up
Good looking girls don’t want to be hit on or stared at all the time. They’re not animals at a zoo. Why do guys think good looking girls are just meant to be picked up?
4. Screw the prejudice
Really, good looking girls aren’t always mean. They know their worth, and they appreciate a guy who knows to behave around them and treat them as a person.
And they’re completely human and have feelings just like all other girls. [Read: 10 biggest dating turn offs for girls]
Hot girls have struggles too
Some of you will be rolling your eyes, understandingly so. However, I think you should read more about what it’s really like to be a “hot girl” living in this day and age. There may be a few things that you’ve never thought of before.
My life has been anything but easy. Despite being a rather good-looking girl, I have been faced with a number of different struggles in my everyday life that some others may not have to deal with on a regular basis.
1. Insecurity issues
Girls that are hot have SO many insecurity issues. Very seldom is there a really attractive woman who feels that way about herself.
The reason these women are so hot is because they work really hard to be in shape, have great skin, have long hair, and look pretty because they want to feel good about themselves. [Read: 9 effective ways to stop feeling insecure and needy]
2. High expectations
If you’re labeled as the “hot girl,” you can never show up somewhere looking less than immaculate. People will assume that there’s something wrong or that you’re sick, and that really just SUCKS.
Everyone always assumes that if you look great one day, you’re always going to look that great, which can lead to a lot of pressure.
We can’t just hop out of the house without our hair done or makeup on without someone asking us, “What’s wrong?” [Read: 18 ways to look pretty and sweet and catch his eye]
3. Hateful people – for no reason
Lots of women hate other women just because they’re good-looking. There’s no rhyme or reason to this, other than the fact that we are better looking than them.
And most of the time, it’s not even our fault – we just got lucky! But people hate us anyways.
4. Uncertainty with our significant others
We never know if the person we’re with likes us for who we are or because we’re super hot. Some people will be with a person just because they’re really good-looking and it makes them look better.
It puts a lot of uncertainty in our minds and makes us doubt the whole relationship. [Read: Is he using you for all the wrong reasons?]
5. We don’t have things easy just because everyone thinks we get things easily
Many years ago, and very often, I’ve had many people not tip me at a restaurant because I was, “Hot and probably got a lot of tips all the time.” So many times I got $0 for waiting on people’s table.
The problem? A lot of people have that mindset, so it actually makes our lives a lot harder than those who are average-looking.
6. Workplace sexual harassment
This is a huge problem for attractive women in the workforce and makes our days difficult.
I was once told that I could no longer wear a pair of black slacks because they were “too tight on the butt” and made the male employees distracted. [Read: 8 ways to deal with sexual harassment in the workplace]
7. Everyone thinks we’re stupid
Beautiful women have the stereotype of being unintelligent. I can’t tell you how many times I’ve had a conversation with someone new and they made a comment about how surprised they were that I was so intellectual. How insulting!
8. Insecure significant others
Our boyfriends are insecure as HELL. They are in constant belief that since we’re so hot, we’re going to end up leaving them because we can get anyone we want.
Really? Because if we can get anyone and yet we choose them, isn’t that a compliment on their behalf?
We have to deal with jealous boyfriends putting us down all the time in order to make themselves feel better. And I once, had to deal with a boyfriend who forbade me to wear any makeup so I wouldn’t look so attractive. [Read: Insecurity in a relationship – How to get over it]
9. It’s hard to make girl friends
Girls hate girls who are prettier than them. It’s just a fact of life.
Jealousy reigns supreme and makes it really difficult for hot girls to make girl friends – which sucks because we just want a gal to talk to and share makeup tips with.
10. People yell at us for being confident
Just as the beginning of this feature stated, hot girls are not allowed to know or say that they’re attractive.
If we acknowledge our great genetics, we are immediately branded as conceited, when we could just be confident women. [Read: 10 subtle body language moves to appear more confident]
11. We can’t be friends with guys who have girlfriends
Never. And I will say that I have lost a lot of good male friends because they got girlfriends that wouldn’t let them hang out with me – not even in a group setting! It’s been the saddest thing of all for me. [Read: Taming the green monster: When is a girl’s jealousy okay?]
12. Cat-calling is not only annoying, but frightening
Cat-calling is irritating to the max, but it’s also scary for us. We never know if one man is going to take their cat-calling to the next level and approach us… or worse.
This also relates to being afraid to walk home alone at night or go on vacation in a certain spot.
13. We never know which guys truly like us for our personality
Some people could just be using us because we’re hot. They could just love having arm candy around in order to make them look better.
It makes us extremely untrustworthy because we never know who will truly be there for us when we need them. Who will be coming to our rescue when we’re in sweats, no makeup, and puking from the flu?
14. We can’t be successful in any way without being accused of sleeping our way to the top
One of the worst things in the workforce for attractive women is not being able to get ahead in their career without some a**holes accusing them of sleeping with every man in charge to get there.
This might not hurt some women who are confident in their abilities, but other women might be wondering if they only got promoted because the boss liked how they looked in a pencil skirt. [Read: 12 tips to keep in mind when you date your boss]
15. People don’t tell us that we’re beautiful that much because they assume we’re told that all the time
This one relates back to the insecurity issues. Everyone else may think we’re beautiful, but we hardly ever hear it – unless it’s from family.
This makes us wonder if we truly are beautiful, and it takes a huge chunk out of our self-esteem. Everyone likes to be told they’re gorgeous, even if it might be obvious to them. [Read: What men like in women more than anything else]
Being attractive may seem like it’s all flowers and butterflies, but some people never see the storms that threaten the livelihood of a good-looking, all-around hot girl.
Most good looking girls are nicer than other girls
Almost all the time, most good looking girls are nicer than average looking girls. Good looking girls need to try harder to prove that they’re not stuck up or full of themselves.
An average looking girl sometimes throws a hissy fit just to feel pampered. When she does that, everyone else thinks she’s being cute.
But when a good looking girl does the same thing, she’s being bitchy.
When a great looking girl asks a guy for a favor like getting dropped home, I see eyes rolling and hear gasps of exasperation.
Everyone thinks she’s taking advantage of a guy. But when any other girl does that, they think she’s being a good friend. Isn’t that unfair?
And on another note, good looking girls always need to work harder to achieve anything. Whatever we achieve in life, people think we got it off easy.
Yes, it’s true, guys are nicer to good looking girls. But not all of them. Almost all guys just think the world’s spinning in our favor because we’re good looking girls. And that’s just not true.
Debunking the stereotype
Really, good looking girls have a heart too. Just for once, try to see the world through our eyes. How would you feel if every guy you get introduced to looks at your breasts while speaking to you and stares at your ass when you walk away? Would you feel like a person or an object? [Read: Kinds of men who stare at women]
Some girls are mean and annoying, true, but as a guy, you can’t just round up all the good looking girls and brand them as annoying and mean. [Read: Reasons behind why guys like breasts like crazy]
The next time you meet a good looking girl, treat her as a person. Have a stimulating intellectual conversation and let her know that you’re seeing her as more than just someone to sleep with.
And when you do that, you may just realize that a good looking girl isn’t just skin deep. And she’ll really appreciate you for making her feel like a person too.
[Read: How to flirt with a girl the friendly way]
So are good looking girls really mean? I’ve said my part, but the truth is still out there for you to find out.
