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What To Do If She Has A Boyfriend

What To Do If She Has A Boyfriend

Do you like a girl but find yourself wondering what to do if she has a boyfriend? Find out how to steal a girlfriend from the pro.

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How to steal a girlfriend

If the girl you like has a boyfriend and you still want her, you really need to be thorough.

After all, if she has a boyfriend, you really do need to steal a girl from her guy and you can’t do that without all the details.

So in this part, I’m going to tell you the five not-so-obvious moves and the five sneaky dirty things you can do to steal a girlfriend from right under her guy’s nose.

[Read: What to do if you like your friend’s girlfriend]

Undercover moves – Five not-so-obvious signs

Here, we play safe and keep it simple. We don’t really want to scare her away just because she has a boyfriend. Make her like you first, lover boy.

Get to know everything she can tell

This is important if she has a boyfriend. Once you’re friends with her, you need to become something more than that.

So talk about her favorite dates, her kind of movies, the little annoying stuff she’s done, and everything else.

Just to warm her up, you start off by narrating the time you ripped your pants off while trying to jump into a girl’s house. Just as long as you open up, she will too, and you know what, she’s going to love talking to you! [Read: How to date a girl by making her laugh]

Are you better than him?

The test of manliness. Talk about her guy. Pop the question. Ask her what kind of a guy he is. If you’re getting into her good books, she will keep it simple. Then ask her what she thinks of you.

Compare both the scores out aloud. Laugh and talk about what you can do to tilt the balance in your favor. And then get back to talking about how they met, and more blah, blah and blah about her guy.

Make her love you!

She’s in love with her man, but that could change. Impress her, be a man around her. Give her the space when she meets her pals or is on the phone when both of you are together, so she can be comfortable when you’re around.

Remember her special days, her deadlines, and anything else, even if it is really trivial. Show her that even her little things are really important to you. And wait for the good times.

Be her other guy

Now get this straight, you be her other guy, not her back-up guy. If you find that she’s just using you as her Man Friday when he’s not around, walk out.

She should respect you and want you. Don’t go trailing her at every opportunity you get. If you really want to steal a girlfriend, you need to keep it slow, and talk to her once in a while, at least once a day if you work at the same place, or alternate days or less if it’s over the phone. Let her miss you when you aren’t around. Drive her to work if you can, give her the attention, and basically, treat her like a princess when you’re together. [Read: What women want in a guy they want to date]

Give her what her guy can’t give

Pamper her. You may not be around her all the time, and her guy may be. But that doesn’t matter. Because your one hour around her can do more damage to him than all day.

Talk and be genuinely interested in her. If you get a call when she’s with you, see if you can cancel and call back, and let her see that. She should know how special the times both of you share is to you. And more than anything else, maintain intense eye contact with her when both of you talk. Make her feel like she’s the only thing in the world you care about when you’re with her.

The Five Sneaky Lil’ Signs – Getting down and dirty

Dig all info

She has a boyfriend already. And there may be a few things she knows but she won’t tell. And any info about her is good info. That’s where her pals come into the picture. If you know them in the first place, then go on and ask a few things about her. But very discreetly, of course.

You don’t want them to know you’re hitting on her. And admit it, if you do like her, you’re definitely going to want to talk about her.

The annoying mo-fo, her boyfriend

Find out more about her guy from any source you can get. There may always be a few skeletons that could be dug out here. So he doesn’t believe in holding doors open for a woman? The next time you talk to her, tell her the story about a man who doesn’t open doors for women, and how annoying that is.

See, that’s like letting her know her guy isn’t all that great, without actually talking about him. On the other hand, talk about how much you live by the code of chivalry. Discreetly, of course! [Read: How to be a perfectly chivalrous man]

“Bump” into her

So you know things about her. Good. Does she hang out on weekends at a particular place? Did her friends tell you that? Excellent. As long as she hasn’t told you that, and you’ve figured it out yourself, go for the kill.

Accidentally bump into her at the same place, and pretend like your “surprise” meeting is a damn sign from heaven that you guys have to be together. Ask her out to coffee or lunch. You know, these occasional bumping scenarios could actually take you somewhere.

Who’s that guy?

Remember, for you, her boyfriend is of no value. So treat him like one. Unless you know him on first-name basis, refer to him as ‘your boyfriend’ when you talk to her. She may talk about how much she loves him, and blah, but it doesn’t matter. And at times, when she goes on and on about him, yawn pointedly and make sure she knows it’s a fake yawn. But do make sure you laugh after you do that, you’d want to make it seem like a joke instead of a rude gesture. [Read: The best way to talk to a girl you like]

Same workspace

Sometimes, we end up liking a girl in the same workspace. And to make things worse, her boyfriend could work there too. So when you’re talking to her once in a while, there’s a fair chance that he’d end up joining the conversation too. Don’t lose your enthusiasm here, but stay away from flirty comments. But the second he walks away, thank your lucky starts loudly and get back to your flirty talk.

A line that goes like, “Thank you God, at last, I can get a few minutes with this beautiful girl without her boyfriend around!” not only gets the point across, but also sounds humorous.

She has a boyfriend and you really want to know how to steal a girlfriend. Follow these tips and she’ll fall in love with you even before you ask her out. This secret art is still incomplete, so click here to find out what to do if you like a girl who has a boyfriend.


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32 thoughts on “What To Do If She Has A Boyfriend”

  1. chris says:

    Honestly this feature was crap. Your not creating better relationshops dude. Have you ever thought that your ruining them? Any guy that goes through with this is trash. Yea maybe they can be friends and WAIT to see how there relationship turns out.

  2. Weep baby weep says:

    @Chris, you think a guy can just wait for a girl and behave like a friend until she likes you back? Don’t make me laugh! You’ll just end up being in the friend zone and she’ll overlook you for the rest of her life. You’ll be a loser and stay a loser forever.

    It sucks that there are ways to steal a girl from her boyfriend, but think about it, if she really loved you and thought you were perfect for her, would she ever leave you? If you were the best boyfriend she can ever get, would she find another guy who can be better than you?

    By breaking up with you and dating another guy who’s a lot better than you and treats her like a princess, isn’t she having a better relationship?

    Let’s say a sexy hottie like Megan Fox is completely smitten by you, loves you like crazy, treats you like a God and trails you like a lost puppy, but you’re dating a girl who takes you for granted, doesn’t care about you, cheats on you and disrespects you, wouldn’t you consider breaking up with your own girlfriend and dating Megan Fox?

    Of course, any guy would. So stop calling the kettle black when it is the way it is. If you want the best girl, be the best guy you can be for her. You’ll never lose her. The world is all about competition, dude, evolve or die along the way.

    P.S. Chris, whoever told you to behave like a best friend and avoid ever letting her know you have feelinsg for her was an idiot who has never gotten a girl. Don’t listen to that you. Peace.

  3. Shubham Gaur says:

    hey, but you didn’t tell how to end it up?

    What will happen to their relationshp after that and if she just goes back to him saying that she loves me but she loves him too…

    And I don’t wanna lose her after that.

  4. mysterious says:

    At Chris i have been liking this girl at my work place, as soon as I knew she had a BF i backed off but i let her know that i was interested by treating her always special. I only decided that I would ask her out to the movies after i found out her BF Was seeing another girl when they went back to their country she forgave him but i did not want someone i liked vey much to be with this asshole so i grew some balls and asked her out. From then on it was down hill for a while but she knew how i felt now we’re freinds i let her know now its up to her to decide, untill this day i know it wasnt just a crush but i truely love her but it would make shit worse, be ready to meet conciquenses cause things won’t be the same i think what i just wrote did not make any sense

  5. Dan says:

    This is crap. Why would any decent individual want to listen to any of this advice? I have a girlfriend who loves me, but she is naive enough to sometimes talk to some “friendly” guys who would like nothing else but to take her away from me. What a selfish thing to do and anybody who is interested in listening to this article should realise that it is a truly heartless thing to do, you will break the other guy’s heart if you manage to successfully use any of these techniques.

    I agree that if the current boyfriend is a waste of space, a cheater, or otherwise doesn’t deserve the girl, then fine go try win her over. But myself and other guys who love their girlfriends and treat them like they deserve to be treated, how could you be such an outright bastard to try and take her away? you may as well be a thief or a vandal, your would be doing the same thing. And how does society view them? People that do this should be shunned and disowned from society too.

  6. Try it says:

    I dare you. I’d beat any guy who tried to pull this crap into the cement. And don’t listen to weep baby weep, he’s obviously never had a real connection with a girl and probably has VD. If you really like a girl the time to make a move is when she’s single, which will eventually happen I the guy really is that much of a dirt bag. But making obvious, cheesy moves like this on a girl with a boyfriend is bad for her integrity and yours. it’s more likely that this crap would blow up in your face unless you’re dealing with a slut or a highschool chick

  7. This is a complete piece of crap and anyone who adheres to this in any way or any girl that falls for this doesn’t deserve to be in a relationship with anybody and needs serious help. WTF people…

  8. alpha817 says:

    I honestly think if you try this on a girl who’s guy treats her like a goddess is a nothing. But there are some exceptions: I really like this girl from my old school, but turns out she has a boyfriend, but I didn’t know this till after I started trying to flirt with her. The day I found out, I was going to walk her home from school even though I had just gotten out of university and she comes crying about her boyfriend saying he doesn’t love her anymore. Now although she said it’s all okay now, that’s not right. If the guy says he doesn’t love you and “it’s okay”, it’s probably cause the guy doesn’t want to end up alone. I think in the case, where I really do care for her very much, I should be allowed to try. Just saying though, this is what I think.

  9. Simon W says:

    Haha funny how All the complaints here are from MEN!!! Well I’m a man to & having had My GF of SIX Years with whom I have a Son & to whom I was engaged Stolen from me JUST like this? I’m learning Everything I can to do likewise to the pathetic little gobshite b*stard who Took her from me & is now passing Himself off as my son’s Dad in order to get her Back & give my Son his family back; Oh yes & contrary to half the rubbish written above? Not only do I not CARE what damage I do in the process? I Fully intend to cause as Much damage & as big a broken heart between the two of them as possible & hope it Really hurts them. Payback’s a bitch………..

    Stuff you lot of pious PATHETIC complaining little faint hearts with your “don’t do it/break people’s hearts” & most laughably of All? Try It’s “I’ll beat any guy who uses it against me” CRAP!!! Really Try it? Well in your own name – Try it on ME idiot – You ever thought that A: ) The man using it Against you might hit back or B: ) Be Bigger than you? Sure you can hit them but what then? If they’re bigger or fight dirty? You’ll Lose & if that happens in front of the lady you like? You ain’t Never getting her back. Even if you win? She’ll still end up disrespecting you for resorting to violence – The bigger man solves battles with words not fists. Learn that chump & you might Get somewhere. Jealous little idiot……

    In short? ALL is fair in love & war – I learned THAT? The Hard way having suffered The worst way after YEARS of being a man of much the same type as many of the pathetic cowards masquerading as men in ‘happy’ relationships on This site (or at least a good portion of them if the above load of rubbish is anything to go by & god Only knows What that lot would be like if they’re in Unhappy relationships”)

    And yes I’ll state here & Now – The 2 MONTHS my ex has been with the troll GF stealing B*stard she’s with Now? Are NOTHING on the six YEARS & the Family we share together so you Damn right if by now you’d guessed that I Fully intend to break someone’s heart & Take her back & I don’t give a Damn WHO I hurt – No-one cared about me or our son when leading to the destruction of my family & Our happy little unit we’d built for our little boy last summer did they? Now? It’s payback time. Thanks for the advice whoever the author is – You’ve just pretty much ENSURED I’ll succeed so to those fools complaining on here? Tough – These methods Do work & in cases like Mine? They’re fully damn well justified – You don’t like that? Tough. As the saying goes? All’s fair…………………

    Simon, Herts, England, UK

  10. aaron says:

    Okay so after reading a couple of articles here I finally figured out a way to ask out this girl out that I have had a thing for for a couple of months now.
    In the past there was always small talk but I always had to keep it short due to the customers in line at the bank that she works at.I always make eye contact with her and would always smile during the chats and a couple of times I would notice that there was no ring on any of her fingers. So I made it a point to go in in the middle of a work week so it wouldn’t be busy and after the transaction I smiled at her and said
    ” I know that I am taking a huge risk here,and I am trying to do this without sounding like a creepy customer. but I have wanted to ask you out for a couple of weeks now and I was just wondering if I could ask you out sometime?”
    she kinda blushed and made the aww sound then very very quietly (in almost a whisper which I could barely hear ) she said that she had a boyfriend, Then while she was still blushing she purked up and in a normal voice said “but you’re okay” then she shot a smile back at me and repeated “you’re okay” before I left the counter I wished her a good week then I had to leave.
    When I got home that night just out of curiosity I looked up how long the average relationship lasted (some said 3-9 months others said 2-3 years)
    The problem is that I am only in the bank about 2 times a month but at least now she knows that I like her and I am always clean cut and well shaved when I go in there ( thanks partly to my job.)
    and know after everything I have read on this site mainly How to get a girl with a boyfriend] plus many many more.
    I have liked her for a couple of months now and there really isn’t anyone else lined up,
    should I stay the course and continue to attempt to sweep her off her feet the 2 times a month I am in there, not knowing what the status of her relationship is or how long it has been going on for, and figuring that most guys cheat when the relationship sours or peaks.
    any advice or ways to really sweep her off her feet?

  11. Michael says:

    Hey Chris,
    I really like this girl that goes to my college, but I haven’t seen her in a long time. She even says that she’s totally in love with her boyfriend on her facebook. I really wanna be with her, so can you help me out?

  12. Gill.B. says:

    If a woman trully loves her partner: how ever bad he is and what ever you do, she will not go to another one straight away. Respecting herself girl will take some time-off first to think and clear her mind. And if she ever gives you a chance: it will be when she is officially single again. And If it does go other way round as it’s been described above in the article: then well, hope it is a real love and the consequences are worth the ways and actions!

  13. steve says:

    ,Hi,ii like all the topics and I really enjoy them,some of my questions seems to be answer but I still have on question on which I cannot still find the answer,
    I love a girl I am not sure if she has a boyfriend or not,she once gave me a chance to go out with her but we never talked about our relationship,I really want her and I think I’ve showed her how interested am I towards her;so my question is how would I let her give me a chance to out with her once more so that I can have a chance to change things or how could make her love while she seems very less interested in me,thank you for taking my question your answer are will be the best for me.

  14. try it says:

    I am trying this thing on the girl who want to be a friend only. this can be used to get out of friend zone and make the girl to give you a chance really. i think its a new way of seeing her boyfriend harmless

  15. TMCLA says:

    FFS, why is this site teachoing people how to break up relationships?

  16. james sean says:

    WHAT DO I DO. I told her I love her last night. Things have been going on well until that… I read your article a little too late, but I dont want to lose her because of thaaat. I was drunk and sleepy and she kept texting these sweet things and I was compelled to say them already. I dont know what to do from here. We have talked on chat today, but we havent looked each other in the eye today. Usually we greet each other goodmorning. I dont know. I’m not ready to lose her. Can I just play it cool and act like I never said it? will she buy that?

  17. Cold says:

    This is really cold, but all is is fair in love and war I suppose

  18. Did you know says:

    that women are people too, and can make decisions? Weird, right?
    If “your girl” walks out on you because of this article, it’s not because the other guy was a scheeming dirty tricky rat, it’s because “your girl” weighed the pros and cons, like an actual human being, and chose the other guy. Being all macho (“I’ll beat up the guy, because clearly HE STOLE HER away from me, like a possession that I owned!”) about it won’t bring her back.

    “Your girl” found someone better and moved on. Deal with it.

  19. Misa says:

    this was an interesting point of view to read about. i don’t know how effective these are because it just depends on the girl. but i want to share my experience:

    it is true that a girl may not know what to do when there’s a new guy, and she’s already in a relationship with somebody else. some of you guys may think that any girl who leaves their bf for somebody else that just comes along, doesn’t deserve to be happy.. but for me, my long term relationship of 20 months with someone i met online through a mmorph game, as well as it being a long distance relationship, plus 2 time zones away, and of a different ethnicity, country, and two cultures (ethnicity + country), things were rushed in the beginning of the relationship. and there were so many pet peeves i had with this guy til the end. guys shouldn’t be in the honeymoon stage/ act lovey dovey all the time, especially if the cute act does not go well with your looks.

    after 20 months, a new semester started. a classmate and i, after some small talking, finding out that we had more than a few classes together, and asking me out to do our museum assignment together for a class, i asked him straight up if he had a crush on me, to which he admitted that he did a little. on the day of the museum visit, plus going to a snack shop to hangout a little, it took that day for me to realize i was falling for him too. the next day when my bf texted me telling me to stop associating with my classmate, i couldn’t respond. because i had a feeling that i wanted to continue talking with him. after a few days of researching online about dilemmas like my own, if it was worth breaking up for, and what if the other guy didn’t like me back.. i started to talk more with the guy, and he would always message me first, which always put a smile on my face because i thought that if he was continuing this chase, then i would see how far it went til i could tell what kind of person he was. all the while with my bf starting to piss me off every time he came up. after my research, i decided that i didn’t want to care about how others viewed me if i were to break up with my bf for someone else. the fact was, i couldn’t say i was happy in the relationship. i was always getting annoyed by him a lot more. and just the way he was, it became a pet peeve. it sounds cruel and everything, and indeed it all does. i wasn’t respectful of who he was. and always tried to change him. well he did change, and as he claimed, into a better person.. but for me, there were still things about him that were always annoying to me and were pet peeves. it’s heartless of me to want to break things off after meeting some one new that i thought was a better match for me, but at the same time, i felt that my bf deserved someone better than me because the way he is wasn’t something i could just get use to. and after 20 months of dating, it still wasn’t something i could get use to. so, after a month of my bf asking me to give him a second chance and that apparently he wasn’t giving me his 100% yet (which is really lame to say for any guy..) i just got really fed up and said it was over, after many times already. i’m sorry for any guys out there there may have been in a similar boat as this.. but this is my experience, and even with my research, no other girl, was on those forums in my position giving feedback.. it was all those girls that decided to stick it through with their bfs and cut contact with the other guy. for me, the realizations of not being happy in this relationship, had multiple factors, and if you must judge without the long list, go ahead. but all i know is, i can honestly say that i’m happy in the relationship that had started between my classmate and i. a day after i officially-officially broke up with my ex, i asked my classmate out , which he told me later if i hadn’t, he would have tried to move on from thinking he had a chance with me. to this day, i always think back about what one of my current bf’s female friends had said to him to keep him going “she doesn’t have a ring on her finger, so there’s still a chance, you never know.” well.. as above, somebody’s fiancee was stolen from him, and i agree that was terribly wrong for the other guy to do.. for my bf though, i was really glad he kept being the first one to talk to me when we were on fb. i didn’t want to seem clingy, but whenever he talked to me first, it felt like a light through all the arguing that was going on with my ex. you know, for all the guys out there, i just think, if for sure, two ppl are a good match, they should be together. im not a fan of that “all is fair in love and war” idiom, but my current bf wasn’t deceitful at all. my ex called him a homewrecker, but my current bf didn’t even do anything. especially any of these tricks in this article. he is by nature such a honest guy, he was too nervous to even ask me out first, or ask for my number. he gave me his number hoping that i would call him. what kind of idiot does that? haha, but this story wasn’t just about the guys involved. i had to make a decision and i stuck with it. i have no regrets. of course the other guy who got dumped would feel like crap and suicidal in the weeks and months to come, but they will move on from it, and find other people better suited for you.

  20. LoveWar says:

    Well, it’s really a sensitive subject our view depends on what side we are. I do hope my story ends as the previous post. haha.
    There is this girl i went out with, never called it as date but there was instant connection. She started flirting before telling me she’s in a long-term relationship, we had good time ended up a little drunk cuddling a little i gave a kiss on foreheads and called the night. Next day i started to analysing and figured i need to know what’s going on. When we bumped to each other again start questioning her long distance love life and how she thinks it will work out for her..BIG MISTAKE.
    She made it clear she was lonely and stressed from work and was looking for friend only, i made it clear i don’t looking for friendship. Told me not to waste my time thinking of her, but we can talk if i want.
    So i put the handbrake on a little and tried not so obvious moves to stay close to her. It worked i guess then i started to believe it gets us somewhere and asked her out again, she told she’s busy but in a few days… then again ..and again.. never said a clear no, but it wasn’t a yes either. Then i reached the point when i had to hear something, so i called her and told how i feel and understand how difficult to be in a relasionship (what she described as not perfect) and going out with a guy. i said will wish good luck for her future and basically i said good bye, i deleted her phone no. !
    After that i was working myself out of it and was successful , ’till the point when i surprisingly bumped into her again. Fact i wasn’t looking for it on the other side she also knew where i can be at certain time after work…however there is no evidence this is the case…but happened.
    I made it clear i was surprised, i had no plan to act or say anything in case like this so after a little hesitation on my side we’ve started to chat again for a few minutes, i told i don’t have her phone no anymore, and explained only because that was the only way to make sure i am not going to make myself look like an idiot, was asking/texting the same question and not getting the answer i was looking for was a turn off obviously.
    Than, again lol i asked her number, have she gave strait away and told i will give her a call sometimes.

    Right now i am planning to start the whole thing over again, to stay in touch but somehow i have to stay away from friend-zone. Maybe more phone calls and less face-to-face. Probably one of my biggest change of my life, if i want to do it right and respect human qualities!
    Yes i am aware i am planning to steal someone’s gf. heart, if i can those two aren’t in a strong relationship i guess, i tried to walk away but i can’t. Would i want to hurt someone no, would i want to hurt myself no. You tell me!

  21. The Realist says:

    For all of you bashing this article, get over yourselves. This is life people, it happens everyday. Girls (and guys) can be stupid, we tend to hang onto things (relationships) that are terrible, but because we are “comfortable” or because we are hoping things will get “better”, we stay in these dumb situations. I’m not condoning that this article be glorified, all I’m saying is that this shit is real, so if you’re an ahole or dbag bf, clean your shit up, because someone better will come along and take your girl.

  22. John says:

    I use a similar method myself..

    Don’t ever openly bash the boyfriend, doesn’t look cool….

    All the guys who are bashing this article….You’re the same guy whose girlfriends im probably lying in bed with talking about their current boyfriend about 2 hours before nailing them…

    Shape up or slip out you dweebs

  23. Dave says:

    Yes, if her BF is boring her to death/shes losing interest in him – this does work.

    This won’t work if she loves her BF and is attracted to him – she will smell it a mile away and probably ignore you.

  24. Marc says:

    Honestly, if you have a girlfriend, this is a great article to read. There will always be some cunt boy trying to steal your girl. Nothing better than your girl saying ‘I’m Taken’ to one of these cunt boys, so act accordingly.

    If you are trying to steal someones girl, kill yourself, or grow up and be a man.

  25. steven rice says:

    So i would like to point one very important thing out. If you like a girl then do not try to “steal” her. If she leaves her man for you then she will leave you too.
    Also this contradictory advice regarding what “the boyfriend” is to you may ruin your chance if you choose to do this. Not all girls are stupid and to convince a girl that her boyfriend is not a threat while you hide and avoid him will only worm on stupid girls. If he wasnt a threat and truly meant nothing then he would mean nothing to yiur actions including flirting around him.
    Lets all be honest here, the only reason yiu would avoid her man is because you are scared and inferior, which of course is the reason you are going after a girl whos unavailable anyways. Its a psychological response in that you give yourself an excuse for failure because you do not possess proper coping mechanisms.

  26. derek says:

    I have a question. This girl i have known for 11 years, has been with a guy for 7 years not married tells me she should be with me instead but she loves him. She also comes over to hang out with me and my roommate almost every Friday since she told me. It has been nearly 10 months since. What should i do.

  27. B3TA says:

    One—If your bashing this article why the hell are you even reading it?
    Two—All Fha assholes out there who say that this is “Stealing” somebodies girlfriend, realize that if the girl goes with the new guy, its because she actually likes him better.
    three—this article is just saying get the girl to like you without getting stuck in the friend-zone. It isn’t stealing the girl(that would be kidnapping her), its almost exactly what any SELF-RESPECTING man would do to get a girl. Get her to like you then ask her out. Simple, with no intentional pain.

  28. Kurt G says:

    So this girls my best freind and I live with her she has a bf and is extremly attached to him but threatend to drop botg me and him out of her Life if we didnt get along we do everything together and shes admited to Loving me but she still doesnt see that Im better for her and even her mom said that… I Love this girl and would do anything for her and Id love to spend the rest of my life with her. So please if theres some way to make her see the better choice Id love to know…or even just get him to dump her as she knows me too well and I cant trick her.

  29. Aaron P says:

    Kurt G I personally would look into moving out away from this girl if I was in your position. The fact she’s with her boyfriend and not you, means she loves him more then you do, and doesn’t feel the same attraction to you that she does to him.

    A girl can say she loves you, but doesn’t mean in the way you think, could be a in a friend or brother way.

    I think you might have interpreted the signals wrong, however you have to learn to accept her choice.

    Ask yourself why is she with him and not me?

    Because she loves him and is happy being with him, if she’s very attached to him, I seriously doubt she will drop both you and her bf. What will happen is that you will be pushed aside and she will hate you in the process, and you will lose a friend.

    If you can’t accept her relationship with her boyfriend and accept you are her friend, then you need to move out and distance yourself. Otherwise it will eat you away inside and you will never be happy.

    Find a girl who’s single and available, I know it’s hard to let go, but i’m afraid you are going to have to do that.

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