Suppose you’re lucky enough to score a smoking hot girlfriend. Good on you. It can be the best thing ever. But, nothing worth having is ever easy.
There are some men who get a ridiculously attractive girlfriend, forget to think, and end up ruining the entire relationship. You don’t want to lose the best thing that ever happened to you.
Having a hot girlfriend may sound like a cakewalk, but it comes with a lot of work, like any relationship. And if you take her looks for granted or, worse, define her by them, it will cause stress, fighting, and ultimately, the demise of an otherwise wonderful relationship.
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Having a hot girlfriend seems like a dream come true. You finally got the girl of your dreams. But, it isn’t all sunshine and rainbows.
Having a hot girlfriend can stir up a lot of negative emotions too. Insecurity and jealousy are just a couple of them.
If you think your girlfriend is out of your league, you might struggle with trusting her, being protective, or just being jealous of all the people who give her attention.
All of these things can take your fantasy and turn it into a nightmare. You can go from a happy relationship with this girl you adore and turn it into chaos, because you weren’t prepared to deal with her beauty. [Read: How to get a girl that’s out of your league – And impress her and keep her happy]
But, having a hot girlfriend doesn’t have to lead to madness. You can make her happy and keep feeling like you’re worthy of her. Her good looks shouldn’t be a hurdle in your relationship but another bonus.
Your girlfriend’s beauty is something to be celebrated, not something to annoyed with or ashamed of.
Hot girlfriends can come with a lot more hassle than you thought. But when you realize she is more than a hot piece of eye candy, you can be even happier than you thought was possible. [Read: How to have a good relationship that keeps getting better]
Honestly, it’s not rocket science. You should be happy that you have a significant other that is so physically attractive. But, on the other hand, we can totally understand that it may be difficult from time to time. That’s why we have come up with these ways for you to deal with having a hot girlfriend.
Seriously, how can you not enjoy her looks more than you get upset about them? She’s hot! Instead of wallowing in the fact that your girlfriend may be hotter than you, enjoy it. You leveled up.
Get your head out of whatever it’s hiding in and appreciate her looks. Don’t be so down about the fact that you have a hot girlfriend. Be happy that you’re so ridiculously attracted to your significant other. [Read: How to know your league and level of attraction in dating terms]
It may be hard to keep your cool when there are tons of other people checking out your woman, but what about where she’s looking? Just because other people are interested in her physical appearance doesn’t mean that she’s looking elsewhere.
More than likely, she’s doing all she can to get YOUR attention and is only looking at you. She probably puts in the effort to look great for you… and you’re too distracted by everyone else looking at her to see that she only has eyes for you. Focus on where her attention is, and it will help remind you that she wants you, not anyone else. [Read: 17 big signs that reveal how jealous and insecure you are]
If you’re getting jealous and angry that people are looking at your girl, there are probably deeper issues at play. You aren’t looking out for her, but struggling within yourself. You may have some deep-seated insecurity issues that are affecting your reaction to others giving your girl attention.
Address these issues—don’t ignore them. Instead of putting your insecurities on her, face them head-on. She is doing absolutely nothing wrong. If you want to make the relationship work, you’ll have to work on yourself and learn to avoid getting upset every time someone takes a long look at your hot girlfriend. [Read: I’m a boyfriend who’s too clingy and needy]
Odds are, unless you’re really vocal about your dislike for other people paying so much attention to her, she might not know it’s a problem. She’s probably been dealing with this her whole life, so it is the norm for her.
Since you’re just getting used to it, it is more likely to bother you. Instead of holding it inside or, worse, taking it out on her, talk about it.
It will make you feel better to get it out in the open. Not only will getting it off your chest feel good, but opening up to her and hearing what she has to say could really help both of you.
It may be hard to do since many people are probably checking her out—but if you can, avoid looking at what other people are doing. Please don’t pay attention to them. They are not in your relationship, so what they’re doing really doesn’t matter.
Honestly, if your girl is looking hot enough for other people to be turning their heads as she walks by, your eyes should be on her. Just ignore other people and pay attention to what’s important: her. [Read: Learn how to stop caring about what other people think]
Having a hot girlfriend may make you feel like you’re unworthy of her love and affection. If you aren’t used to being with someone you deem as out of your league, you could be seeing yourself in a less than flattering light. Instead of letting this get you down, let her boost your confidence. This girl who could probably have anyone she wants has chosen you. Take pride in that. Let your happy relationship with someone you are so attracted to make you feel good about yourself. You don’t just feel lucky to have her, but she is also lucky to have you. [Read: 30 alpha male characteristics that make you a real alpha]
You might think she loves all the attention, but that is not always the case. I don’t want to claim that being hot is some sort of struggle, but it can make life more difficult. She probably wants just to be seen for who she is rather than what she looks like. People probably make her feel uncomfortable regularly. Being attractive to the masses is like an invitation to have your personal space invaded. Dealing with a clingy or jealous boyfriend will only make it worse. Try to see her side of it, so you don’t make her feel worse. [Read: Are very good looking girls mean or nice? The honest truth all men MUST know]
Dealing with a hot girlfriend can be hard, but the worst way to deal with it would be trying to change her. DON’T DO IT. Never tell her what she can or can’t wear, how she can or can’t do her makeup, etc.
A close friend of mine had a boyfriend that wouldn’t let her get dressed up when they went out because he was so insecure about himself. It was so controlling, and of course, she resented him and dumped him, rightfully so.
If you don’t want her to look good, don’t have a hot girlfriend. It’s that simple. [Read: 15 types of bad girlfriends who’ll make your life hell]
Trust is what holds relationships together. Even if she’s the best-looking person on the planet, with guys lining the streets waiting for their chance with her, if she’s with you, then that’s exactly where she wants to be.
She doesn’t want to be running around with a new guy every week. Those other people who are paying attention to her don’t interest her. She wants you, and you need to trust that. Without trust, you will be sure to get jealous, angry, and potentially cause riffs in the relationship that can’t be fixed.
Just because she is hot doesn’t mean she will cheat. Being hot doesn’t mean you have a right to be controlling or distrustful.
We have talked a lot about how hot she is, but if you’re dating her, I hope you know a lot more about her than that. Don’t just tell her she’s hot. Focus on more than that.
Let her know that you appreciate her mind and her sense of humor or kindness. And do more than saying it. Pay attention to all the things that make her who she is. Not only will she appreciate that, but it will help you realize that she is more than her looks. [Read: 16 ways to show the person you love that you appreciate them]
You need to work on your confidence outside the relationship. Sure, having a hot girlfriend can boost your self-esteem, but you can’t define yourself by who you’re dating. If you do, you will start needing to control her and base all your self-worth on her. That is unfair to her and a lot of pressure to put on one aspect of your life.
Instead, focus on bettering yourself. Work on your own hobbies, friendships, and work. These things are important to you as well. [Read: 18 qualities of a good man that sets him apart from lesser men]
Seeing your hot girlfriend as this goddess on a pedestal is not going to be healthy or you, her, or your relationship.
She may be hot, but just like a celebrity, she is a normal person. She has her own insecurities and flaws. If you hold her to a higher level, you will be putting immense pressure on her. She just wants you to respect her as your equal. [Read: How to respect women in a way that they want to be respected]
Sometimes, having a hot girlfriend comes with a learning curve. Suppose you’ve never dated someone who gets so much attention before, it can be a lot at first. But, instead of working yourself up, realize that you’ll adapt. Just like any change in your life, it takes time to get used to it. Let that time do its thing. At first, you may be hyper-aware of the looks she gets. But, eventually, as she has, you’ll get used to it.
You may love her, but if her getting loads of male attention is bothering you that much, you need to be honest with yourself. You will not change her or control her or change how other people react to her looks.
If you can’t get used to it and be confident enough to treat her well and be happy in your relationship, you may need to give her up. Having a hot girlfriend requires a level of strength of self. If you don’t see yourself looking past the things that make you feel jealous or angry, you need to get real and let her go. [Read: 10 questions to help you stay true to yourself]
Being hot doesn’t mean she lives on the top of a mountain with people catering to her every whim. What it means is that she has to put up with a lot of unwanted attention from strangers. Not only does this become uncomfortable, but it can often feel unsafe.
Don’t mock her for not liking the attention. Don’t tell her she shouldn’t dress up or that she’s asking for it. Just because you can’t walk in her shoes doesn’t mean her feelings aren’t valid. As her boyfriend, it is your job to comfort her. You can’t fix the way the world is, but you can help her feel safe and heard when she’s with you.
[Read: A failproof guide to stop feeling insecure in the relationship]
Dealing with a hot girlfriend can be a bit tough, sometimes. Other people are checking her out, and that may leave you feeling a bit insecure. Luckily, we have several ways you can deal with this before you cause the demise of a great relationship.
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