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Men: This Is How to Deal with a Hot Girlfriend


Having a hot girlfriend may be the best thing that’s ever happened to you, but it’s not without its challenges. Here’s how to deal with them.

Some guys are lucky enough to score a smoking-hot girlfriend and can readily handle all that comes with it. But then there are some men who get a ridiculously attractive girlfriend, forget to think, and end up ruining the entire relationship!

I see this all the time. Many of my guy friends can get really attractive girlfriends, but end up not being able to handle it. This causes stress, fighting, and ultimately, the demise of an otherwise wonderful relationship.

There are way too many people out there who screw up great relationships, just because they can’t deal with their hot girlfriends. There are no excuses for poor behavior, regardless of whether it comes from insecurity or jealousy. Your girlfriend’s beauty is something to be celebrated, not something to be angry with or ashamed of.

Hot girlfriends come with a lot more hassle than you may think. Sure, you get to walk around with a hot piece of eye candy on your arm, but too much candy can make you feel less than great.

How do you deal with a hot girlfriend

Honestly, it’s not rocket science. You should be happy that you have a significant other that is so physically attractive. On the other hand, I can totally understand that it may be difficult from time to time. That’s why we have come up with easy ways for you to deal with having a hot girlfriend.

#1 Take your head out of your butt and appreciate her looks. Seriously, how can you not enjoy her looks more than you get upset about them? She’s hot! And honestly, she’s probably not looking that way to get attention from others. She is probably looking like that for you!

Get your head out of whatever it’s hiding in and appreciate her looks. Don’t be so down about the fact that you have a hot girlfriend. Be happy that you’re so ridiculously attracted to your significant other. [Read: 17 big signs that reveal how jealous and insecure you are]

#2 Pay attention to who SHE is looking at. It may be hard to keep your cool when there are tons of other people checking out your woman, but what about where she’s looking? Just because other people are taking an interest in her physical appearance doesn’t mean that she’s looking elsewhere.

More than likely, she’s doing all she can to get YOUR attention and is only looking at you. She probably puts in effort to look great for you…and you’re too distracted by everyone else looking at her to see that she only has eyes for you.

#3 Address your own personal problems. If you’re getting jealous and angry that people are looking at your girl, there are probably deeper issues at play. You may have some deep-seated insecurity issues that are affecting your reaction to others giving your girl attention.

Address these issues—don’t ignore them. She is doing absolutely nothing wrong; you’re the one getting upset about it. If you want to make the relationship work, you’ll have to work on yourself and learn to avoid getting upset every time someone takes a long look at your hot girlfriend. [Confession: I’m a boyfriend who’s too clingy and needy]

#4 Talk to her about it. Odds are, unless you’re really vocal about your dislike for other people paying so much attention to her, she might not know it’s a problem. If you’re someone who just gets grumpy for *seemingly* no reason at all without telling her, she’s going to assume she’s doing something wrong.

Take it from someone who has experienced this from her boyfriend before. He used to get randomly mad for what I thought was no reason at all. I thought he was annoyed with me and I blamed myself and actually got really upset sometimes.

Little did I know—until I asked what was wrong with me—that it wasn’t me. It was all of the other people taking extra interest in my appearance. Bottom line: talk to her about it. It will make you feel better, as she will reassure you that you have nothing to worry about.

#5 Don’t watch people when you go out. It may be hard to do, since many people are probably checking her out—but if you can, avoid looking at what other people are doing. Don’t pay attention to them.

Honestly, if your girl is looking hot enough for other people to be turning their heads as she walks by, your eyes should be on her, because you’re probably missing out. Just ignore other people and pay attention to what’s important: her.

#6 She makes you look good, too. This is a great way to deal with having a hot girlfriend. Realize that her being so incredibly good-looking makes you look better, too. I mean, most of the guys who are checking her out are probably looking at you and being jealous. [Read: 30 alpha male characteristics that make you a real alpha]

#7 Realize that it’s not always great for her. It’s really not. Do you think she likes going out in public and being stared at all the time? It puts pressure on her, can be kind of embarrassing, and she might actually feel insecure about being looked at all the time.

It’s also not easy for her to deal with a boyfriend who is constantly getting jealous and/or angry every time the two of you go out. It might just make her want to stay in and, therefore, harm your relationship by keeping the two of you inside all the time.

#8 DO NOT TRY TO CHANGE HER. Dealing with a hot girlfriend can be hard, but the worst way to deal with it would be trying to change her. DON’T DO IT. Never tell her what she can or can’t wear, how she can or can’t do her makeup, etc.

This will hurt her and, perhaps, make her not want to be with you at all. Or, if she complies for some time, eventually she’s going to resent you for it and end up wanting to leave you, anyways. Never try to change who she is; you will regret it. [Read: 15 types of bad girlfriends who’ll make your life hell]

#9 Have trust. Trust is what holds relationships together. Even if she’s the best-looking person on the planet, with guys lining the streets waiting for their chance with her, if she’s with you, then that’s exactly where she wants to be.

She doesn’t want to be running around with a new guy every week. She isn’t interested in those other people paying attention to her. She wants you and you need to trust that. Without trust, you will be sure to get jealous, angry, and potentially cause riffs in the relationship that can’t be fixed.

[Read: A failproof guide to stop feeling insecure in the relationship]

Dealing with a hot girlfriend can be a bit tough, sometimes. There are other people checking her out and that may leave you feeling a bit insecure. Luckily, we have several ways you can deal with this, before you cause the demise of a great relationship.

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6 thoughts on “Men: This Is How to Deal with a Hot Girlfriend”

  1. Toni says:

    It takes some real inner strength and outward confidence to handle a hot girlfriend. I think you have to pick your battles and not sweat the small stuff or things that may be a bit irritating such as stares or rude interruptions that may seemingly undermine your manhood and realize that jerks will be that way in any situation. It is up to you to be a great support and also hopefully this girlfriend respects and values you so that those around always know she only has eyes for her man. I also think that communication with her about some situations that may be testing you and how you can handle it together. You cannot change her so enjoy her and in return she should show you that you are her choice.

  2. Brandon S. says:

    Having a hot girlfriend doesn’t necessarily mean that it is some kind of a burden to go out with her and put up with all the looks from other men. I mean, it’s not the girl”s fault that she’s been blessed by God with attractiveness. If she is just as beautiful on the inside as she is on the outside, I don’t see why the boyfriend should feel bad. I believe that trust is one of the key points in a relationship whether we are talking about a hot girl or not. The partners should trust each other and understand that if they love each other, nothing will get in their way. The article was spot on, by the way, and really summed up the whole case of having a hot girlfriend.

  3. Michael says:

    This pretty much sums up my entire relationship. I’m a mid thirties full time dad with a screwed up ex, she’s a mid twenties 5’2 little bombshell that doesn’t see it. Plus she’s smart, funny, and a little firecracker. Tons of men pay attention to her, but she doesn’t even notice. She’s friendly, that’s just her personality, but is oblivious to the flirting. I talked to her about it and she was completely clueless, so I’m not complaining. Besides, I’m big and scary looking (according to her) so they’re all too terrified to actually make a move.

  4. Selena says:

    I’m lucky my boyfriend treats me right. Even though I have a lot of so-called “admirers”. He always keeps his cool. He never made me feel “hot” even though other guys always made inappropriate comments on my instagram. My boyfriend always made me feel BEAUTIFUL. Like I’m the only girl in the world. I don’t want to be hot. I want to be loved and so do all the other girls. Love is what we need. We don’t want to be adored! Don’t make us feel cheap by saying we have a nice rack or something stupid.

  5. Aaron says:

    Really, the second tip there is all most guys need to know. I’ve had my fair share of hot girlfriends and I was always wondering whether or not they were waiting to make their move to equally attractive guys, but they never really were all that much, especially in the very beginning. Yeah, she’s making the effort for you, guys. Take the time to appreciate it because if you don’t you can bet your ass there’s someone else who will!

  6. Robert Cooke says:

    man this lovepanky is going to make me give away all of my secrets to both man and woman here pretty soon im lovin this lovepanky because not only is the men reading the women topics and commenting but the women are reading the men topics and commenting about time us men and women are coming together and talkin about it all we need better relationships we need better guidance we need understanding the men and women need to help each other out in all topics even if its uncomfortable ive been thru alot and i held back way to much when someone really needs advice we really need to give it this is how we create better bonds and better people

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