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30 Sly Signs Your Girlfriend Is Texting or Talking to Another Guy Secretly

Suddenly, your girlfriend is glued to her phone and acting suspiciously. Worried? Here’s how to tell if your girlfriend is texting or talking to another guy.

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Now, does being glued to your phone mean you’re cheating on someone? No. Learning how to tell if your girlfriend is texting another guy or talking to him isn’t just shown in phone habits. We’re all addicted to our phones, and it can be hard to detach ourselves from them and be in the moment.

Many girls spend time texting their friends or checking their social media when they are spending time with their partners. Everyone is guilty of that from time to time. 

But usually, you don’t want to be on your phone all the time when you’re with the person you love. Even Kim Kardashian takes a break from her phone to spend time with her family and friends. Do you understand that? Kim basically brought social media to life, and even she knows her limits. [Read: The guide a guy needs when his girlfriend is texting another guy]

How to tell if your girlfriend is texting another guy

But like we said before, texting doesn’t mean cheating. But there are certain signs that show your girlfriend isn’t just texting a friend.

Of course, after going through the list, don’t make a final opinion of what’s going on. These signs will help you put the pieces of the puzzle together. What you really need to do is confront your partner and talk about it.

If you spend all this time looking for the signs of your partner cheating on you, they won’t mean anything unless you do something about it. It’s not easy to find this out about someone you love.

1. You feel the energy shift when she gets a text

When you’re next to her, and her phone receives a message, you feel the energy shift. She suddenly becomes nervous, and maybe she won’t even check her phone.

She’ll take a peek, and awkwardly shift away from you, making sure you don’t see who she’s texting or talking to. [Read: 35 reasons why your girlfriend flirts with other guys and what you should do]

2. She hides her phone from you

When you hang out, she makes sure her phone is turned down or hidden away in her pocket.

If she gets a text, she’ll secretly see who texted her, keeping her phone far away from you. If this is a sudden behavior change, then it’s definitely weird.

3. She’s anxious with her phone

Some girls are anxious when they don’t have their phone only when they are expecting a text message or aren’t with their partner. They like to have a line of connection with their partner, and not having their phone with them in certain situations can bring up anxiety.

But if she’s with you and isn’t waiting for an important call, then why would she be anxious not having her phone? [Read: 34 relationship red flags most people completely ignore]

4. She holds onto her phone

Oh, she’s not letting her phone out of her sight for one minute. That’s a pretty good sign; either she has an addiction issue with her phone or something is up.

If she’s usually holding onto her phone, then this isn’t a big deal. But, if this is unusual behavior for her, it’s something to be suspicious about because yoru girlfriend could be texting another guy. 

5. She has a new password on her phone

Maybe you knew the password to her phone, or she didn’t have a password for it. But now, she’s suddenly changed it. She doesn’t have a new phone; nothing has changed. So, it is a pretty weird move to make without reason.

6. She laughs differently

You know how your girlfriend laughs. Everyone has their own distinctive style of a laugh. But when your girlfriend answers texts, her laugh changes.

There’s something flirtatious about it, a laugh you remember from the beginning of your relationship. [Read: How to instantly spot the signs of a bad girlfriend and move on]

7. She leaves the room to text or talk

Well, this is just weird. If it’s not a big deal, then why would you purposely get up and go into another room to text or talk to someone on her phone?

Who can you possibly be texting that needs this much attention and focus? The worst part is when you go into the room, she suddenly stops texting and gives her attention to you.

8. She has sudden trust issues

When it comes to relationships, trust is crucial. And, in your relationship, you trusted each other. But now, your girlfriend has developed major trust issues with you, and you have no idea why.

If she’s pointing the finger at you and acting defensive, well, those trust issues are coming from somewhere.

9. She doesn’t behave the same way towards you

She’s just changed. You can’t put your finger on it, but everything about her is different. The way she looks, the way she talks to you, even the way she touches you. It’s all changed.

If this is the case, and you see other signs from this list, she’s either not interested in you or is talking to someone else. [Read: 18 ingenious ways to catch a cheating partner in the act]

10. She’s dressing up more, changing her appearance

She was never someone who went to the gym and dressed on the sexier side. But, she’s changed over a short period of time.

Now, she’s dressing sexier, working out more, and focused on looking good. This isn’t someone you recognize, so what’s going on? It could be because your girlfriend is texting another guy.

11. She’s physically distant from you

Suddenly, she’s not sitting on the couch next to you – she’s sitting in the chair on the other side of the room. That’s probably because she doesn’t want you to see what’s on her phone. Or she doesn’t reach for your hand in the movie theater.

These aren’t actions that are unusual, but recently, she’s pulled away from you. She’s no longer the same person she used to be. You haven’t fought recently, so what’s up? [Read: 20 revealing signs that show you may be growing apart]

12. She avoids eye contact

Well, if your girlfriend can’t look at you in the eyes, something is definitely going on. The eyes are the windows of the soul, as the saying goes, and it’s true.

If she refuses to look you in the eyes, it’s either she’s not into you anymore, or she’s hiding something from you.

13. She’s less interested in sex

If you used to have a good sex life, but now she seems uninterested, it could be because she’s thinking about having sex with someone else – not you.

By talking to another guy, a lot of her sexual thoughts and energy might be going into thinking about him.

14. She seems busy a lot

Suddenly, she seems to have a lot of work to do. Or perhaps she is always “going out with friends” or has something else she just has to do.

The reason she’s so busy all of a sudden could be because she’s avoiding you. She might feel guilty for talking to another guy behind your back.

15. She’s overly concerned about where you are

If she is concerned about your whereabouts, it could be for two reasons. First, it could be a deflection. She is accusing you of being somewhere you shouldn’t be when she is the one who is guilty of it.

Or, she might want to know when you’re going to be back home so she can stop texting the guy she’s talking to – so you won’t find out.

16. She stops talking about the future with you

At the beginning of your relationship, she was always planning things to do with you in the future. It could be going to a concert in six months or even getting married and starting a family. But you notice that she’s not talking about or planning anything in the future anymore.

17. She flirts with other guys

Usually, girls won’t flirt with other guys in front of their boyfriends. It would make them feel bad to make you uncomfortable.

But if this is a change in her, and she is flirting in front of you, there could be a reason – especially if she’s only flirting with one particular guy. [Read: How girls flirt – 22 signs she’s flirting more than just being nice]

18. She acts unhappy around you

If she’s suddenly turned into Eyore *from Winnie the Poo* and is sulking and moping around when she’s with you, she might be growing uninterested in your relationship.

Maybe her face lightens up when she receives a text and she miraculously turns into Tigger instead of Eyore.

19. She takes a long time to text you back

You are probably annoyed lately that she doesn’t text you back as quickly as she used to. She might take hours to get back to you. And it could be because she’s having long texting conversations with another guy instead of you.

20. She seems distracted

Another sign that your girlfriend is texting another guy is if she acts distracted a lot. When you talk to her, she has to ask you a few times what you said because she wasn’t paying attention.

This is especially alarming if her focus is more on her phone and not on you when she’s with you.

21. She’s not as affectionate with you

She probably used to love to hold your hand, cuddle with you on the couch, and have you spoon her in bed.

But now, you feel like if you slept in a different bedroom she might not even care. She might be wishing she was cuddling with the guy she is talking to.

22. You caught her telling lies

Her behavior is probably suspicious, and so you have caught on a little bit. Maybe you have even caught her lying about who she’s texting. She might say she’s texting her sister, but when you glance over at her phone, you definitely know that’s a lie.

23. She doesn’t tell you where she’s going

She certainly can’t text another guy in front of you, so she might say she needs to go run errands. If you ask what she’s going to go do, she doesn’t want to tell you.

She might just be using this as an excuse to leave the house to text him. [Read: How to tell if your girlfriend is cheating – 20 no-fail tips]

24. She gets angry when you ask questions

Whether you want to know who she’s texting, where she’s going, or what her work schedule is, she is always annoyed at your questions. She doesn’t want to answer them and tells you to mind your own business. She’s getting defensive because she knows she’s doing something wrong.

25. She seems on edge all the time

When someone is on edge, they are uncomfortable. And it could be because your girlfriend is texting another guy.

She might know that she’s going to receive a text from another guy soon and she’s anticipating it. She might be excited, but also nervous that you’ll be there when the text comes in.

26. She has new hobbies or interests

Maybe she’s suddenly watching baseball games on TV or has taken up running. These aren’t things she was interested in before.

But maybe the new guy she’s talking to does these things, so she is trying to have something in common with him. [Read: 30 warm ways to keep a girl interested and make her feel loved by you]

27. She’s easily annoyed by you

It seems like you can’t do anything right. Whether you left a coffee cup on the table or you ran low on gas, she is always exasperated around you. Plus, she doesn’t have a problem letting you know.

28. She changes the subject when you ask who she’s texting

It’s a normal thing to ask your significant other who just texted them. And if they are innocent, usually they’ll say, “Oh, it’s my mom” or “It’s my friend Jenny.”

But if she tries to change the subject or is annoyed when you ask her, it’s because she doesn’t want you to know. She’s doing something wrong. [Read: The subtle signs it’s time to jump ship and leave your partner]

29. She pretends to always be working

Whether she’s on her laptop *she could be emailing another guy* or on her phone, she always says she’s doing it for work. And deep down, you know that she’s not really working that hard.

30. She criticizes you a lot

She has turned negative and is now nitpicking at you. Maybe she says your hair is too long or your choice of fashion is horrible. It could be because she’s comparing you to the guy she’s talking to, and she wants you to be more like him.

[Read: 27 clear signs she’s not interested in you anymore and is trying to find someone else]

If you pay attention to the signs, you’ll be able to learn how to tell if your girlfriend is texting another guy, and read all the signs in no time.

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Preeti Tewari Serai
Preeti Serai
Preeti, the founder of LovePanky, is an eternal optimist and believer in the beauty of love and life. With an exhaustive experience in love, relationships, and ...