If you have a crush on a girl, express how you feel to her or else miss out on your chance. So, why not learn how to tell a girl you like her over text?
I know how scary it can be, telling someone how you feel. You may not want to ask them in person but that doesn’t mean you shouldn’t ask them at all. Instead, you can ask them over text message, and they’ll be able to tell you how they feel as well. But, getting to that question isn’t always the easiest. So, that’s why I’m here. You need to know how to tell a girl you like her over text.
Expressing how you feel towards someone you like isn’t easy. First, it takes a lot of courage to tell someone how you feel. Secondly, there’s no guarantee they will like you back. So, I get why people refrain from telling people how they feel—they fear rejection. And trust me, as someone who’s been rejected, I’m fully aware of how it feels. It feels like shit and that’s being nice about it.
But what people don’t see is that rejection is actually a great thing. It allows you to move on from someone you liked and opens the door for other people. So, if you’re crushing on someone, it’s in your best interest to tell them how you feel. Either way, you stop wasting your time. Follow these tips if you want to tell her you like her.
#1 If you can, do it in person. Listen, texting isn’t a horrible way to communicate with someone, but ideally, you should do it in person. I know, it’s not easy to talk to someone in person about how you feel but for your self-confidence, you should do it. In addition, you see her facial expressions and read her body language. If anything, it’s good practice. [Read: How to tell a girl you like her and not come across creepy]
#2 Silence is an answer. I’m sorry to say this, but since it’s over text, it’s much easier for people to simply ignore it if they don’t want to answer you. But understand the lack of her response is her response. Don’t continue to message her. Just leave it and know that no answer is an answer. [Read: 13 essentials you need to move on fast]
#3 Build a relationship with her. How can she be into you if she doesn’t know you? Sure, she may find you attractive, but she can’t truly like you unless she gets to know who you are. This means you working on building a relationship with her, one that allows you to show her your best qualities. [Read: 18 foolproof moves to make any girl fall in love with you]
#4 Hang out in person. Of course, you can text her, but why not spend time with her in person. That way, you see how she feels about you face-to-face. See if she touches you when you make a joke or sits close to you. Texting is a great tool, but you can’t see someone’s emotion in a text as they can easily hide it.
#5 Does she like you? Did you try to see if she’s into you? Did you look at the signs? Now everyone is different, but sometimes you see if someone likes you or not. This may help you with your anxiety if you’re nervous about telling her how you feel. If she never replies to your messages or gives you one-worded answers, then she’s probably not into you. [Read: 17 signs the girl you like is clearly liking you back]
#6 Build up your texting with her. You need to create a texting relationship with her. So, before you go figuring out how to tell a girl you like her over text, occasionally or frequently, whichever works, start conversations with her and see how they go. If you really like her, build a rapport with her. She needs to feel comfortable texting you when she wants and allowing you to get to know her.
#7 Don’t bombard her with messages. You may be anxious which means you’re either going to overdo it or under do it. Listen, I’d rather you under do it. If you pester her with endless messages, she sees that as obsessive and needy behavior which are two huge red flags. So, if you feel like sending her the fifth message in a row, don’t. Please, just don’t. [Read: How to start a text conversation with a girl – 15 rules to impress]
#8 Make the conversation positive. If you tell her how you feel, you want her to be in a good mood. Trust me, if we have a bad day or are stressed out, telling her that you like her may not be a great move. So, talk with her a bit and see how she’s feeling. If she’s in a good mood then why not tell her how you feel. You might even make her day even better. [Read: How to make a girl laugh, smile, and like you instantly]
#9 Try to get a date first. I mean, you can tell her before or after you go on a date, but going on a date would be a great opportunity to see if you even get along. It could be that you may not really like her as much as you thought you did. You may change your mind entirely about telling her how you feel.
#10 Don’t tell her randomly. If she gave you her number, don’t just suddenly send her a random text message saying that you like her. It doesn’t feel natural. Instead, start talking to her. About anything, the point is to simply make conversation then, through conversation, you gauge the moment of when to tell her how you feel. [Read: 18 casual things to text a girl and leave her addicted to you]
#11 Be casual. Don’t start with some Shakespearean text, confessing your love for her. Instead, just be casual, you don’t want to scare her by being too intense. So, when you decide to text her and tell her how you feel, keep it cool. You can say something like, “You’re hilarious. I think we really get along” or “You’re really interesting, I’d really like to get to know you.” It shows where your feelings lie without being too in her face.
#12 If she doesn’t feel the same way, back off. When people get rejected, their egos bruise. That’s usually when their insecurities start to show. When I rejected one guy, he started talking about how he’s not good enough, no one will ever want him. Honestly, if I was on the fence about him, I certainly made my decision after that.
#13 Move on. This may sound harsh, but it’s the truth. Sure, there could be a day when she has feelings for you. Don’t wait for that day to happen. Seriously, it’s not going to happen that fast, if it does. The minute she gives you an answer, if she likes you, ask her out. If she doesn’t? Drop her as an option and go find someone else.