You know what they say: happy wife, happy life. So, if you’re looking for how to make your wife feel special, you’ve come to the right place!
When you’ve been with someone for a long time, it’s easy to get stuck in a pattern and start taking them for granted. It’s not right, but it happens. If you want to learn how to make your wife feel special again, it’s time to realize all the things she does for you and do a few nice things for her instead.
All too often, our busy lives push us away from all the things we used to do and say at the start of our relationship. But just because the honeymoon period is over doesn’t mean you can’t make your wife feel happy and appreciated as she did back then.
Now, we know what you’re thinking: you deserve to feel special and happy too. Of course, you do! But if you do these things for your wife, she’ll probably return the favor in your direction too. [Read: 48 cute and romantic things to do with your girlfriend she’ll love]
Getting stuck in a rut leads to dissatisfaction
Learning how to make your wife feel happy shouldn’t be done just for the sake of it. You should do it because you want her to feel good and valued.
Long-term relationships, be it cohabiting or marriage, can often cause dissatisfaction after a while because we forget to tell our partner how much we love them. But of course, it’s not only words but actions too.
Maybe you always used to make your wife coffee in the morning, but you broke the habit since your work schedule changed.
Perhaps you occasionally used to pick some flowers for her on the way home, but for whatever reason, you stopped. [Read: 20 caring ways to show a girl you love her and are serious about her]
Now is the time to pick those habits back up again.
If you don’t, you’ll both end up in a rut of dissatisfaction and she’ll start to feel extremely taken for granted. Remember what they say: happy wife, happy life! [Read: 38 signs and traits of a happy, healthy relationship and what it should look like]
How to make your wife feel special
Learning how to make your wife feel happy and special isn’t always in the huge gestures, although they certainly help sometimes. Instead, it’s about paying attention and showing her how much she means to you with small but special gestures.
If you’re not sure where to start, this handy list will help you figure it out.
1. Tell her how lucky you are to have her
Let her know that you know you are lucky to have her. You can never compliment your wife enough. In fact, you should be showering her with compliments all of the time!
Remind her that you’re lucky to have the privilege to be with her. Let her know about all of the qualities you love about her and watch her blush.
You should never stop complimenting your wife, even if you’ve given the same compliment multiple times.
2. Talk nicely about her
Not only should you sweet-talk your wife, but you should also talk highly to her with others. Throwing a compliment or way when she isn’t there makes a difference. And if she’s there, the better!
You make your wife feel special by letting her overhear the nice things you say about her to others. So start bragging about her! A compliment is sometimes twice as nice when it is overheard and unexpected. [Read: Mushy ways to show someone you love them]
3. Make a big deal out of the small things she does
Let her know that the effort she puts into the relationship doesn’t go unnoticed. Without proper reassurance, it’s easy to feel like your generosity is being taken advantage of.
So, go out of your way to assure her that you appreciate all that she does – especially the little things.
If she does the laundry every day or even just one day, make a big deal about it. If she helped out with a chore or ran errands, thank her for it. It makes her feel like what she does has meaning, instead of it being mundane.
4. Put her picture on your phone screen
Nothing makes a woman feel more special than being on your cell phone picture, on your work desk, or anywhere really.
When you have her image around it makes her feel like you really like having her close. This is a great way to show her that you’re thinking about her even when she’s not there. [Read: 15 rules to be a good partner in a relationship]
5. Post pictures of her to your social media pages
Forget posting what you have for lunch and post a picture of her. Include a caption to tell the world how much you love her to make her feel special!
Don’t be afraid to show her off to the world. What may seem like a pointless post to you is reassurance and love toward your wife. Even if you’re someone who doesn’t post much or at all, just do it. It won’t kill you, we promise.
6. Let her catch you staring at her
The next time you catch a glimpse of how beautiful she is, hold the gaze a little longer so she catches you looking at her.
Nothing will make her feel more special than thinking you admire her even when she’s not aware. [Read: Prolonged eye contact when flirting – what it means and how to do it]
7. Smile at her for no reason
You don’t have to use words to show appreciation for someone. Women tend to notice when someone smiles, especially if that someone is her husband. So let your smile show.
Show her that you are pleased with her and smile to remind her that she lights up your world.
8. Take something off her plate without being asked
Your wife does a lot for you, even if you don’t notice all of the time. It’s time you start taking notice of the effort she puts into the relationship and put a little more on your own plate.
Take care of something she would normally do. There is so much you can do – errands, folding laundry, picking up the kids, grocery shopping, laundry, cooking, or even just paying for something. Taking just one task or errand off of her list makes her feel seen and appreciated.
9. Be chivalrous
Just because you aren’t in the first flourishes of dating, doesn’t mean that you can’t be the chivalrous man she met. [Read: Chivalry is dead – what it means, the types of men & why chivalry matters]
Take care of her in little ways, such as opening the car door for her, pulling her chair out for her, offering her your jacket, waiting to eat until she’s ready to eat, the list goes on. You should never stop going out of your way to be chivalrous for her!
10. Get her favorite drink without being asked
If you go to dinner or out for drinks, get her favorite drink before you serve yourself. Putting her first makes her feel like she is something special to you.
Plus, it lets her know that you pay attention to the little details about her, such as her favorite drink.
11. Have dinner waiting for her when she gets home
Take dinner off of her plate, no pun intended. If she is typically responsible for dinner, then text and let her know that you want to do something nice and bring dinner. [Read: The modern day gentleman’s guide to wooing a lady]
12. Throw her a surprise party, just because
It doesn’t have to be her birthday to celebrate her and your love for her. So throw her a party! Invite her friends and host dinner and games.
Or, throw a surprise party with just the two of you. Bake her desserts and plan the evening to celebrate her.
13. Plan a weekend away
Take care of all the plans, even the kids, and have the honeymoon suite waiting to make her feel fantastically special. After all, she deserves a break from all of the stress at home.
Planning a getaway not only alleviates her stress but it shows that you see how hard she works and know that she is deserving of a break. This is a perfect way to show her you appreciate what she does for you.
Don’t underestimate the power of social media! If your wife hits a milestone, post about it congratulating her. Everyone likes to be given an “atta girl.”
Use your social media site to let everyone know how proud you are of her, and she will feel like a million bucks! [Read: The happy couple’s guide to social media etiquette]
15. Make your anniversary a big deal
Listen, your anniversary should always be celebrated. Sure, it is just one more year, but let her know that you would choose her all over again.
Plan something for the occasion. Let her know you are the luckiest man alive to be spending another year with her.
Anniversaries aren’t only about celebrating a new year, but they’re a celebration of every past second, minute, hour, and day you’ve spent with her.
16. Tell her how pretty she is
Don’t reserve your compliments for when your wife is dolled up. In fact, make an effort to compliment her when she is her natural self.
When she hasn’t showered, just got back from the gym, or for no reason at all, let her know how pretty you think she is. [Read: 100 sweet things to say to a girl]
17. Buy her something random
Gifts are a great way to make someone feel appreciated. It doesn’t have to be anything big, just something that lets her know that you were thinking of her.
She will love the thought and feel very special after a heartfelt gift.
18. Send her a loving text message
Even if she’s busy or if it’s out of the blue, text your wife a sweet message. Randomly receiving a text telling her how amazing she is will make her day all the more better. [Read: 256 sweet, cute things to say to your girl in a text & make her smile]
19. Skip guy’s night and choose her instead
If Thursday nights are usually reserved for guys only, tell her that you are foregoing the guys and hanging with her.
Although it’s not expected, it’s a great way to show your wife that you do prioritize her over everyone else in your life. Plus, it’ll let her know that you enjoy spending time with her and just can’t get enough of her presence!
20. Save up and get her something she’s always wanted
If you use savings on her, it tells her you put her ahead of your own wants, and that is a pretty powerful way of making her feel special. So show your wife that she’s worth it by getting her something she’s always wanted.
21. Finish the project you promised her you’d start ages ago
If she hasn’t said a word about the mess you made but it inconveniences her, take the time just to finish the do-it-yourself project you started and give her some peace of mind. [Read: How to be a better husband – 20 things the best guys always do in a marriage]
22. If it’s raining, drop her close to the door
Instead of parking and letting her get all wet on the way to the door, let her off in front and take one for the team.
This simple act goes a long way in showing that you want her to be as safe and comfortable as possible.
23. Show up at her work and take her for lunch
Show everyone at her workplace that her husband thinks the world of her by surprising her with lunch and flowers in hand. What an amazing way to make her feel special!
24. Bring her breakfast in bed
Let your wife know you appreciate her by treating her to breakfast in bed. Bonus points if you find a way to make the breakfast romantic, like shaping pancakes into hearts.
You can spend the entire morning praising her in ways other than breakfast, too. [Read: Morning sex – how to wake up to great sex and 16 reasons it feels so good]
25. Really listen to her
Whether she’s telling you an important life story or talking about the drama she overheard at work, listen to her.
Put your phone down and really listen. You’re her husband, the very least you should do is give her your attention when she is speaking.
26. Kiss her
You don’t need a reason, just kiss her. Kiss her when you see her, kiss her when she does something you appreciate, kiss her when she looks good *which is all of the time*, and kiss her when you leave.
Even if you’ve kissed her a million times, one more will make her feel appreciated and special. And let her know you’ll never get tired of kissing her! [Read: The forehead kiss and why it’s so special to every woman]
27. Get her car cleaned
Make her feel special by giving her a clean new ride, even if for just one day. This small act of kindness tells your wife that she deserves to have nice things, especially if she uses the car to take care of you and the kids.
28. Give her the night off
Encourage her to go out with her friends and have a night in town. And be sure to take care of the house while she’s out so she doesn’t have chores to come back to.
You can even buy her an outfit for the occasion! Take her shopping for the occasion and let her know how sexy she looks. Getting dressed up makes every woman feel special.
29. Send the kids to grandma’s and have a cozy evening for two
If you have kids, you know how inconvenient they can be when you want to spice things up in the bedroom. So plan ahead of time to get the kids out of the house so you can spend sexy alone time together.
Show her how special her lady parts are by focusing some time on them. Ditch the kids, so it is all about her. Just be sure to plan ahead and let her know so you don’t pressure her into anything she’s not up for.
30. Hold her tight in bed
The power of cuddling before you fall asleep is often overlooked, especially if you’ve been sharing the same bed for years now.
So wrap your arms around her instead of retreating to your separate ends. This simple move will make her feel warm, loved, and special. [Read: The health benefits of hugging that’ll make you want to cuddle more]
31. Tell her the story of how you first realized you loved her
This is the perfect way to make your wife feel appreciated and special. Share the story of how you fell in love with her, and include all of the details. The how, what, where, when, and why you fell for her!
Even if you’ve told her the story before, tell her again. Let her know that it is one of the greatest stories you have to tell and that you’re lucky to have met her.
32. Hold her hand
Let her know she is special by holding her hand for no reason at all. Physical touch is a way to assure someone that you care for them and are willing to protect them no matter what.
So making contact out of the blue lets her know she’s special to you. Plus, it shows the world that she’s your woman!
33. Tell her what a good mother she is
Being a mother is one of the most thankless jobs on earth. Let her know she is a good wife and mother regularly.
Never let a day go by without thanking her for all she does. Let her know she is an important part of the family and that it wouldn’t be a family without her.
34. Don’t fight over text
If you save texts for loving words and fun, she’ll always have a smile on her face when her phone pings. So settle serious topics at home when you’re face-to-face.
This shows her that you’re not afraid to have tough conversations and you’re willing to go the extra mile to solve any issues.
Save the text messages for loving reminders of how much you appreciate her and find her irresistible. [Read: Are relationship fights normal? 15 signs you’re fighting too often]
35. Spend money in similar ways
Let your wife know that you are mature and value your family’s income by spending money responsibly.
You won’t make her happy if you’re constantly spending money on useless things. Instead, agree on money-related things.
36. Use gentle tones
Always aim to use a gentle tone when you speak to your wife. Even if it’s a difficult conversation, refrain from raising your voice.
Once you use a harsh tone, everything that comes out of your mouth will be interpreted negatively. So use a neutral or gentle tone to reassure her you’re on her side. [Read: How to have a difficult conversation without losing your nerve]
37. Constantly check up on her emotional needs
Everyone has emotional needs that have to be met to have a fulfilling relationship and life. It’s your job as her husband to ensure her needs are being met by learning exactly what they are and how to meet them.
Simply ask your wife how she’s feeling, if she needs help with anything, or if you can be doing anything more to help her. Let her know you’re there to take care of her and fulfill certain aspects of her life.
38. Open up to her
Letting her into what’s going on inside your head and how you’re feeling is definitely one way to make your wife feel appreciated.
If you close yourself off, opening up to your wife will show her that you trust her and feel safe being vulnerable with her.
39. Show her she can trust you
Be a trustworthy husband when it comes to the little things and the big things. Follow through on your word, keep your promises, and let your actions speak louder than your words.
Show her that you can trust her every day and she’ll feel secure and happy. This is especially important if there have been betrayals in the past that you’ve both tried to overcome. [Read: Trust issues in a relationship – 22 whys & ways to get over it together]
40. Make an effort with her friends
If you’re willing to make an effort with your wife’s friends, she is going to feel very special.
So let her know you’re invested in every aspect of her life, including her friends. You don’t have to like them, but you should at least make an effort to be friendly.
Focus on the small things to make your wife feel happy
Knowing how to make your wife feel special isn’t about the big things, but the smaller things you do. Sure, buying her a new car is super awesome, don’t get us wrong. But, sometimes just recognizing and telling her “good job” is enough.
These things will certainly make her feel like she is worthwhile and the light of your life.
[Read: 20 healthy expectations in a relationship that define a good love life]
If you do the small things on a daily basis and learn to give without expectations, you will understand how to make your wife feel special, and she’ll really appreciate you in return.
