We all have our good days and bad days. If your girlfriend or female friend is having a bad day, here’s how to make a girl feel better and brighten her day.
Who hasn’t had a bad day? I’m pretty sure we all have. And during those days, we all want to be alone. However, it’s those moments where our friends or family try to put a smile on our face that makes us feel *a bit* better. Maybe your girlfriend or female friend is going through a hard time, or maybe it’s just an off-day. Either way, if you want to know how to make a girl feel better, know you can. And what’s even better is that it doesn’t take a lot.
Today, even though we’re living in a materialistic world, it’s the small human interactions that we cherish the most. Most people don’t remember their favorite gift, but we do remember the small acts of kindness someone did for us.
If your partner or friend is a little down, there are many things you can do to cheer her up. And shockingly, it won’t require much except your time, energy, and heart. So, if you want to know how to make a girl feel better, these are the 12 tips you can follow.
#1 Understand her perspective. Whatever she’s going through is emotionally painful. This is a good time to practice empathy and put yourself in her shoes. How would you want someone to make you feel better if you were her? This could help you decide what you’ll do to bring a smile to her face. [Read: How to develop empathy and master the art of growing a real heart]
#2 Listen, listen, listen. When someone isn’t feeling good or going through a rough time, they need someone they can talk to, someone who will listen. If you want to make her feel better, ask her what’s wrong, and listen to what she says. You don’t need to advise her; instead, show her your support.
#3 You don’t need to give advice. We all love to give advice to other people, but unless she asks for advice, don’t give it to her. Most people just need an opportunity to vent out their emotions. Give her a hug, listen to her problem, and if she asks, give her your opinion. [Read: How you can learn to be a better listener]
#4 Show her the bright side. Though she’s having a bad day, things will get better. So, you can always try to find the silver-lining in the situation and remind her of it. Maybe it’ll help her gain perspective on the situation and feel better.
#5 Throw in some humor. A little humor never hurt anybody. Even in the darkest days, humor can help lift the spirit and put a smile on someone’s face. But, do be careful of the type of humor you use to make her feel better. Try not to mock her problems or belittle her – that’s not funny. [Read: The 12 types of humor and how it effects your relationship]
#6 If appropriate, show affection. If she’s your friend, she may not feel comfortable cuddling with you. But if she’s your partner, show her affection. She may not necessarily want any affection at that moment, so do respect her if she asks to be left alone. However, giving her a hug can make her feel better.
#7 Do something she likes. If you want to help get her out of this funk, why don’t you do something she likes? Take her out for a bite to eat, watch her favorite movie with her, or do a fun activity. Just something that will cheer her up and help take her mind off of things.
#8 Send her a sweet text message. If you’re not able to be next to her, you can still show your love and support via text message. Send her a funny meme, a heartfelt voice message, or a text message showing your support and love. It’s really about the small things.
#9 Give her space if she asks. You don’t need to be around her 24/7 to make her feel better. Remember, she’ll probably want some space on her own after you try to cheer her up. She’s not going to forget whatever was making her sad instantly; it’ll take time. So, give her the space she needs, when she needs it. [Read: The 7 reasons why empathy is so important in a relationship]
#10 Tell/show your appreciation. Sometimes, all you need is for another person to tell you they care and appreciate you. Showing/telling your appreciation can go a long way, depending on the issue she’s going through. Being reminded that you’re loved can help a lot.
#11 Don’t try too hard. Listen, if she accepts your help and you help her feel better, that’s great. But you don’t want to try too hard. She may not feel comfortable sharing her problems with you, and that’s something you’ll need to respect. [Read: How to know when to give someone the space they need]
#12 Be patient. Sometimes, we just have a bad day, and then after a good night’s sleep, everything is better. But she may be going through something a bit more serious than that, which means it’s going to take time for her to heal. Be patient and understand whatever she’s going through is her own journey.