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How to Hook Up with a Girl, Pick the Right One & 30 Must-Know Secrets

If you’re feeling horny, you probably need to know how to hook up with a girl. But how do you do it? Here are some tips for doing it the right way.

How to Hook Up with a Girl

We know you want to know how to hook up with a girl. But firstly, what is a hook-up?

Many people have many definitions for a hook-up.

A hook-up is any form of sexual interaction with another person with the sole intent of getting sexual without the obligation of a romantic relationship.

Generally, a hook-up can mean many things. To a few people, it’s a little kiss while to a few others, it’s indulging in sex or having a one-night stand. And to the rest of them, it could mean anything in between these two sexual boundaries.

How to hook up with a girl and do it right

If you want to know how to hook up with a girl, firstly you need to understand how to eliminate the sexual barrier between the both of you.

You could get sexually attracted to a friend or even a hot minx sashaying on the dance floor.

When it comes to a hook-up, it’s all the same thing because all that matters here is a great excuse and a reciprocating girl who’s just as interested in making out as you are.

[Read: How to make any girl want to kiss you by arousing her]

We’ll get to ways to get a girl to hook up with you in a bit. First, you have to recognize a girl who can be a potential hook-up.

How to recognize a girl who wants to hook up 

Keep an eye on these signs if you’re looking for a girl to hook up with. After all, hooking up or having a one night stand is very different from looking for someone to fall in love with.

1. She’s sexually liberated and drops you hints

Ever met a girl who seems extremely eager to let you know that she’s on contraceptives or about how flexible she is bed?

If you find yourself in the company of a girl who likes to show off her fascination for free love, there’s a good chance she may be interested in the idea of casual sex with you. [Read: The secrets to get a girl to have sex with you by arousing her very subtly]

2. She’s touchy-feely and it doesn’t look cute

If a girl touches you a lot, and it’s a lot more lingering and forceful than just a friendly pat. [Read: The art of flirting by touch]

3. She laughs and flirts a lot

And again, it doesn’t look cute. Instead, it just looks animalistic and sexual. Even her sexy laugh gives you an erection.

4. She flashes skin at you

If the girl you want to hook up with finds an excuse to flash skin at you or tries to get your attention on her body parts, there’s a good chance she’s interested in a fling thing with you. [Read: 33 things a girl who wants to seduce you would try around you]

5. She doesn’t really play hard to get

Instead, she pounces on you or pretends like she’s drunk and gropes you. She doesn’t want your love, boy, she just wants you. If she does want to date you, she’d try to make you pursue her.

6. She reciprocates your moves

If a girl is interested in a hook up with you, she’d reciprocate your sexual advances with her sexual moves.

Now that you know the clear signs of a girl who’s interested in hooking up with you, keep your eyes peeled and watch out for the right girl to hook up with.

How to hook up with a girl in different circumstances 

Once you know how to recognize a girl who enjoys her sexual liberation, all you need to do is find different circumstances and excuses to get her to hook up with you. Here are a few great ways to hook up with a girl given the circumstances.

1. Scan your friends

Look for flirty friends or casual acquaintances who seem to seem interested in you. If a friend talks about her one-night stands and sexual exploits freely with you, there’s a chance she’s dropping hints and she may be perfect for a hook-up via the sex buddy move. [Read: How to have sex with a friend by becoming her f**k buddy]

2. Make eye contact

Eye contact can help you get the right message across to a girl, be it in the office or at a club. Look a girl who seems interested up and down during a conversation. It tells her straight out that you’re interested in sex and her body. [Read: 27 signs a girl is attracted to you sexually and wants you to make a move]

3. Initiate phone sex

Call an interested friend often, preferably late at night. Talk to her for a while about a recent sexual escapade of yours. Warm her up to make her open up with her own confessions.

And before you know it, both of you will be planning a whole new sexual escapade.

4. Lead a friend into temptation via texting

Just like phone sex, sex texts can do the same magic, although it’s a lot safer and slower than straight out phone sex. [Read: 25 sexy text messages to initiate a naughty conversation with any girl]

5. Drink with her

If you want to hook up with a girl who’s a friend, have a few drinks, and play a few naughty games. And if you’re having a stayover with friends, and flirting up a storm with her, chances are, you may end up in bed together. [Read: 10 very dirty drinking games for naughty boys and girls]

6. Go on a vacation with a few sexy friends

There’s a big chance of a hook-up, especially if you’ll be spending a lot of time fooling around with this girl. [Read: How to convince a girl to skinny dip with you]

7. A few sexy flashes

Discreetly flash to the girl you’re attracted to. If she’s sexually attracted to you, there’s a good chance of turning it into a hook-up over a few flashes. [Read: Sexy flashing confessions]

8. Talk sex now and then

Sometimes, the easiest way to let a girl know you’re only interested in the sex is to just be clear about it. Subtly, of course. Talk about your interest in girls with her and let her know that you’re not interested in relationships right now, but casual sex only.

9. Just kiss her

Cozy up with her, and when the right moment comes, see if she wants to kiss you. Once you get past that, casually hooking up with her is a breeze if she’s interested too! [Read: How to kiss a friend accidentally in a way that she’ll like it as well]

10. Sexual truth or dare

Truth or dare is a great game to indulge in a lot of naughty things. All you need is a few friends, a few drinks, and a lot of dirty questions to hook up with a girl you like. [Read: 87 best sexual truth or dare questions for a wild and naughty night]

11. Send an aesthetic nude picture *not a dick pic*

And say it was an accident and was meant for some other girl. You have to remember that a girl will like these pictures only if she’s already sexually attracted to you. Otherwise, you’ll be a gross joke!

12. Compliment her sexually

Flirt with her and compliment her, but always border your compliments on how sexy she looks or how good she must be in bed. [Read: 53 flirty things to say to a girl to compliment her and make her blush]

Things to remember while hooking up with a girl 

As sexy as hooking up with a girl can seem, it’s still something that comes with its share of worries. Keep these things in mind the next time you want to try hooking up with a girl.

1. If it’s a girl you just met, it’s alright to make the first move

After all, you have nothing to lose. If she doesn’t like your direct move, she’ll just blow you off or decline your advances. No big deal, there’s a lot of fish in the sea.

2. If it’s a friend, don’t push it

Be discreet and always make it look like the hook up was by mutual interest at best. It’s even better if you can make it seem like she made the first move to make out with you.

Both of you can talk about it and forget all about it the next morning, instead of losing a good friendship. [Read: 16 best hookup apps – what do you want in a hookup right now?]

3. NEVER force your way into making out with a girl

If the vibes aren’t 100% reciprocated, don’t bother going ahead with it.

Respect the girl and understand that she’s entitled to her wishes and you can’t really convince her to hook up with you unless she’s interested in hooking up with you.

What to do after you hook up with a girl

It’s always a bit awkward after you hook up with someone. What is next? Should you see each other again? What does she want? There are so many questions!

If you want to hook up again

Let’s say you had an amazing time in bed with her. And, she was really cool so you want to hook up with her again. Here is what you can do.

1. Treat her nicely

Well, you should always treat everyone nicely. But it’s especially important after you hook up with a girl and want to see her again. Talk with her and get to know her a little better before you part ways. [Read: 22 ways to make a girl think about you with texts and the way you behave around her]

2. Figure out what you want

Why do you want to see her again? What is the end goal? Do you want to have an FWB situation or do you want it to lead to an actual relationship? 

3. Get her number

If you want to see her again, then this is a no-brainer. Get her number and/or follow her on social media. Make your intentions known that you want to hook up again, and then see how she feels about it. [Read: How to get a girl’s number every single time – 15 no-fail ways]

4. Text her

Keep in touch with her. Depending on how eager you are to hook up with her again, you can either text her right away or wait a few days. But don’t wait too long or she might forget about you.

5. Ask her to hang out again

After you text for a while about other things, then you will need to ask her to hang out again.

Be careful of how you word it. If you just want to hook up, then tell her that. Unless you want to go on an actual date, then tell her that. [Read: How to ask a girl to hang out casually without making it a big deal]

If you don’t want to hook up again

Sometimes you were just feeling horny at the moment, and you don’t really want to see her again. This can be tricky if she wants to see you. So, you have to do things right.

1. Treat her nicely

Just because she slept with you and had a casual hookup doesn’t mean you should treat her like a whore. She is a human being with feelings, so be respectful of her regardless of whether you want to see her again or not.

2. Remember her mindset

Girls feel differently about sex than guys do. You just wanted to have some fun, but she might feel differently.

She might be thinking about how this could lead to a relationship. So, remember her feelings and try not to hurt her too much. [Read: How to reject a girl nicely and make sure you don’t lead her on]

3. Be honest

Don’t lie to her and tell her that you want to see her again if you don’t. It’s easy to lead her on and have her think she’ll hook up with you again.

Just be upfront and say you had fun, but you’re not looking for anything more. But be nice about it.

4. Don’t get her number

It’s tempting to ask for her number just because you don’t want to look like a jerk. But if you are honest with her about your intentions, then you shouldn’t ask for her number or follow her on social media.

How to turn a hookup with a girl into a relationship

Maybe you really liked this girl a lot and want to turn the hookup into a relationship. That’s possible! So, obviously, you will have to keep in contact with her. Text her right away so she sees your eagerness.

In your conversations with her after the hookup, ask her what she’s looking for. You can even directly ask her if she’s looking for a relationship and/or if she would be open to going on official dates with her. Hopefully, she’ll say yes.

And when she does say yes, then you have to actually ask her out, keep going on dates, and eventually ask her to be your girlfriend.

 [Read: 31 secrets to get a girl to like you and desire you without even asking her out]

Regardless of what happens afterward, you now have these tips on how to hook up with a girl in mind when you make a move. It’ll make it easier to find the right girl, hook up with her, and feel great the next morning!

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Vinod Srinivas Serai
Vin Serai
Vin Serai is the founder of LovePanky.com, and has delved deep into the working of love and relationships for almost two decades. Having dipped his feet in almo...