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How to be a Sophisticated Man: 12 Cultured Moves that Set Them Apart

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You see the guys getting all the girls. They have something special about them. They all seem to know how to be a sophisticated man. Could it be the key?

When ladies see a man that looks classy and sophisticated, we all start drooling. It’s not our fault they look good, we’re just victims in this! But in all honesty, first impressions are important and have the ability to make or break a potential encounter with someone you find attractive. So, understanding how to be a sophisticated man is crucial.

If you’re giving off vibes of a guy that loves to spend his days on his mother’s couch, well, she’s not going to be that willing to give you any of her time. But when you spend some extra time making sure that you look and feel good, you’ll immediately notice the difference. Trust me on this, I’m a woman.

How to be a sophisticated man

Now, you may be freaking out right now, looking at your bank account and wondering how the hell you’re going to afford to look sophisticated. [Read: The modern day gentleman’s guide to wooing a lady]

But here’s the thing, you don’t need to break the bank to look put together. Though clothing is a part of it, in reality, there are other things, free things, that you need to do to step up your level of sophistication. Clothing is just one thing on the list. [Read: How to look rich – 38 tips to look like you’re rolling in cash]

So, it’s time to make the change and get yourself to the level where when you’re out, the ladies are all looking at you. It’s time to class it up and learn how to be a sophisticated man.

#1 Looks do matter. I know it’s a shitty thing to say, but I’m really being honest here. Whether man or woman, at the end of the day, looks do matter. This doesn’t mean you dress in a tuxedo every day, but it does mean people judge others based on their first impression.

If you’re dressing like a slob, people will associate you as one. Taking the extra time to freshen up your wardrobe and choose clothing that fits you will actually make a huge difference. [Read: 18 things you should do to turn a girl’s eye]

#2 Shoes are everything. Your outfit may be on point but if your shoes aren’t, it shows everyone that you’re not sophisticated. We often overlook shoes, but people do look at them. You can tell everything about someone by the shoes that they wear. I’m not joking.

This doesn’t mean you must wear Gucci shoes, but this does mean your shoes should be clean and classic. You should have a pair of loafers, classic dress shoes, sneakers, and sandals that are basic and matchable with your outfits. [Read: How to dress to impress a girl and get more than a second glance]

#3 Get yourself a tailor. You’d be surprised at the difference when you wear an untailored shirt and a shirt that looks like it was made for you. Having clothes that actually fit your body makes a huge difference in how you look and feel. You don’t need to tailor everything, but your pants and jackets should be fitted to your body’s shape.

#4 Curb your language. If you want to look sophisticated, act sophisticated. Though you may look like every girl’s dream, if you speak like a trucker, that’s not going to get you far. In order to really understand how to be a sophisticated man, act the part as well. This means you should focus on broadening your vocabulary and avoid swearing. Being articulate and polite are signs that you’re mature and classy. [Read: The gentleman’s seduction guide to seduce any woman in style]

#5 Focus within yourself. Yes, you’re learning how to dress and speak, but what about you. I know this sounds cheesy, but if you actually want to be sophisticated, broaden and expand your mind.

Diversify your hobbies and become more cultured. Travel, take interesting courses, read, try new things, and welcome experiences that are different for you. This will help develop your understanding of the world which will form a sophisticated man.

#6 Don’t be excessive. Yes, the wedding has an open bar but does that mean you need to get completely wasted to the point that you’re blacked out? No. A sophisticated man knows his limits and lives life in moderation. Being able to control yourself is a sign of maturity and sophistication.

We all have our vices. Know your vice and focus on controlling it. It’s not gonna be easy, but it’s time to change your behavior.

#7 Hygiene is essential. I know you can probably go a week without showering, we all can, but this is what divides us from sophisticated people. Those that are sophisticated actually take the time to groom themselves. People notice that. Take the time to groom your facial hair and shower. You don’t have to douse yourself in cologne in order to look and smell clean. [Read: Cologne chemistry and the guide to do it right]

#8 Love your look. At the end of the day, you need to make sure that the look you’re wearing works for you. If you’re trying to look sophisticated but are uncomfortable in your own clothes and shoes, well, you’re not going to pull it off. Dress in clothing that makes you feel confident because, at the end of the day, that’s what is going to show.

#9 It’s all about quality. Listen, when I was broke, I was all about quantity which makes sense. I didn’t have money to pay for nice things, so instead, I bought cheap things and a lot of them. In the end, I paid more money for the cheap items because I’d end up using and destroying them.

Focus on the quality of the things around you, this includes people. If you want to be sophisticated, surround yourself with quality. But remember, quality doesn’t necessarily mean luxury goods.

#10 Have the basics. Make sure you have the basics in your closet and bathroom. That way, you can never go wrong when it comes to styling and dressing. Have your basic pants, jeans, shoes, tshirts, shirts, and jackets. That way, you can mix and match without having to freak out. In your bathroom, have your deodorant, shaving kit, and cologne. Everything will be easier when you have the basics. [Read: 13 accessories every grown man should own]

#11 Get the right hairstyle for your face. You may have a man bun but the problem is, it doesn’t fit the shape of your face. Hair is an extremely important feature which drastically changes the way you look. Trust me, I’ve watched enough makeover shows on TLC to know this. Go to an actual hair stylist and sit down with them, they’ll know what to do. [Read: How to make a girl melt and want you more than ever] 

#12 Be honest. This doesn’t mean you tell a girl she’s fat when she asks you how she looks in her jeans. But be honest when speaking with someone. Of course, you have your opinion and you can voice it, but make sure you act respectfully while doing so.

[Read: These are the traits a woman will instantly fall for in a guy]

Now that you know how to be a sophisticated man, you really have no excuse not to do it. It’ll take some work in the beginning, but sooner or later, it becomes a part of your routine.

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Natasha Ivanovic
Natasha Ivanovic
A serial dater, Natasha Ivanovic knows a thing or two about men and the dating scene. Much of her writing is inspired by her encounters with men - and for good ...
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