Every guy wants to know how to be a badass. There’s just something so cool and intimidating about him, that you just don’t want to mess with him.
But before we go any further, you need to remember that a badass isn’t the guy who picks fights for no reason, or the one who wants to be the center of attention.
He just exists. He lives life on his own terms, and he couldn’t care less about anything that happens around him. It’s this vague indifference he projects onto the world that makes him desirable, and yet, so hard to emulate.
[Read: 20 essential traits all guys need to have in them to be a real man]
How to be a badass
A badass isn’t an alpha. He doesn’t want to dominate other men to prove his manhood exists.
A badass isn’t a bad boy either. He doesn’t want to draw attention onto himself with his childish antics.
He’s just a formidable guy who’s somehow extremely intimidating and yet, so darn awesome! Every guy wants to be a badass, because badasses just make everything look so cool.
You can definitely be done too. But in your pursuit of being a badass, you need to remember a few key details. [Read: 30 alpha male characteristics that make you a real alpha]
The real man within the badass
A badass isn’t someone who demands attention. He’s the guy who’s earned the reputation to behave that way. If you’re a nobody, you have no right to be a badass. If you’re still on the bottom rungs of life’s ladder, you can’t become a badass even if you try to. it’s just an unfortunate reality of the world we live in. You become a badass when you command respect without having to ask for it.
The real man inside a badass is a really great guy who’s just awesome at what he does. He could ignore everyone in the world and yet, people would come crawling to him because he’s the only guy who’s perfect for the job. Get what I mean?
While we can discuss the traits of a badass and how to be a badass, you still need to excel at something and be so good at it people have no choice but to respect you for it.
The badass and the wannabe badass
There are two kinds of badasses, the real badass and the wannabe badass. Okay, make that one kind – the real badass and they guy who’s trying really hard to be considered a badass.
The real badass is the guy who’s needed by society. He shuns society, and couldn’t care less about “fitting in”. And yet, people would still come to him.
And then, we have the wannabe badass. This is the annoying prick who throws his weight around, seeks attention, tries to look surly and behave cocky. And everyone walks away from him. He thinks he’s important, but in all probability, he’s just a braggart and no one really gives a rat’s ass about his existence. [Read: 10 biggest dating turn offs for women ever]
So before you try to be a badass, understand the key differences between the two badasses. And pick who you’d want to be.
The core idea of being a badass
You don’t have to change yourself to be a badass. You just have to stop pretending and trying so hard to fit in and be liked.
We live in a world where we have to please a few people, and do things even when we don’t want to do them. All because we want to fit in, or be liked. But if you really want to know how to be a badass, rise above it and live life on your terms. But most importantly, don’t do it because you want the attention. Do it because you’re more focused on a bigger purpose and goal in life, that all the other trivial details just become insignificant to you.
How to be a badass – The 25 step to finding and revealing your inner badass
A badass is not a prick. He doesn’t go hurting people for no reason. He’s just an awesome guy who knows he’s above mortal men. He doesn’t care about people, he doesn’t need them, and most importantly, he’s unpredictable as hell.
The most important trait of a badass is his unpredictable nature. No one can tell how he’d react to something. He keeps his secrets close and his emotions shut unless he releases it with a vengeance.
Want to be a real bad ass? Use these 25 tips on how to be a badass, and you’ll get there in no time.
#1 Don’t be a people pleaser. Stop worrying about everyone’s opinions. You know who you are, and your loved ones love the person you are. So stop trying to please everyone you meet in life.
#2 Don’t fidget. A badass never fidgets. Nervous wannabes fidget. A badass moves with calculated precision, and never cracks his knuckles or shuffles his feet when he’s stationary. [Read: How to get a great girl to notice you without even talking to her]
#3 The deep gaze. Badasses have a piercing gaze when they’re having a conversation with someone. If they’re happy, the corner of their lips curls into a small smile. If they’re displeased, their expression turns into a grimace that makes anyone feel like they’re going to get punched in the face.
#4 Don’t nod your head. A badass doesn’t nod or shake their head in approval for every line they hear. When you’re having a conversation with someone, just stare at them or answer with a ‘yes’ or a ‘no’. It’ll intimidate anyone you speak too.
#5 Relax. Be laid back and relaxed all the time, like you don’t have a care in the world. But at the same time, be very agile. When you need to get up or walk away, don’t be a slob. You need to make others run behind you and keep up with your pace all the time. [Read: Why shy guys use the hover hand around a girl all the time]
#6 Be succinct. Don’t use six words when you can use one. A badass doesn’t indulge in idle chatter. Always try to keep your sentences short. It’ll make the other person talk more to fill in the gaps, and that leaves them feeling intimidated.
#7 Don’t be embarrassed. A badass is never embarrassed about making a scene or getting attention. Always be ready to raise your voice if the need arises, whether it’s about yelling at someone or making a point over the phone.
#8 A badass is a perfectionist. This is very important. Be perfect in what you do, or no one will care for you. Only when you’re indispensible to people can you be worthy of being a badass. [Read: 12 steps to be perfect in everything you do]
#9 Don’t smile all the time. A badass’s smile is like a rare species of animal. It’s seen only on rare occasions. Your smile should feel like a compliment to the other person. So don’t smile unless you’re laughing maniacally, and you’ll be a great badass.
#10 Turn soft occasionally. Show your soft side now and then to others so people still know you’re human. This also makes you very unpredictable which is a great trait about a badass.
#11 Always sit back in your seat. Never sit at the tip of your seat waiting to jump up like you’ve got a spring loaded under your ass. Sit back comfortably and voice your opinions calmly. It makes you appear more composed.
#12 Never lose your cool in front of others. Losing your cool, especially when you’re beaten at something or when someone says something rude is a sign of weakness, because it shows others that you’ve been affected negatively by what they said to you. A badass doesn’t care for people’s opinions.
But if you can’t hold on to your rage, an occasional outburst is completely acceptable, as long as you don’t reveal your weaknesses to others around you.
#13 Slow and firm gestures. A badass doesn’t move his hands too often or too fast. He’s calm and composed, and uses only slow and calculated gestures. [Read: 25 character traits about a guy that turn a girl on sexually]
#14 Emotionless. Don’t be overly emotional, regardless of whether it’s positive or negative. A badass doesn’t show his real emotions to anyone but the closest people in his life.
#15 Have a serious move. Every badass has a move or two to keep himself occupied when he’s sitting idle. You can run one hand over your other hand’s knuckles, or stroke your chin slowly like you’re deep in thought.
#16 Dress really well. Dress sharp, slick and intimidate others. A badass looks bad only when he looks and dresses sexy. If you dress like an average guy, you’ll just be ignored. [Read: 15 things girls look for in a guy to fall for him]
#17 Control others. Always control the other person in a conversation. Don’t just nod and listen to what they have to suggest. Use your hands to guide them around the place or get them to follow your lead in small ways. Before you know it, their ego will shrivel and you’ll feel more powerful, as long as you control the direction and the end of the conversation.
#18 Never lose your cool. A badass doesn’t lose his focus or his cool. He’s always composed and makes decisions with a calm and calculative mind.
#19 Don’t shriek. Speak in a low and firm voice without a quiver all the time. A man who uses a high pitch is never a badass, he’s the guy craving for attention. [Read: How to get a girl’s attention wherever you are like a real man]
#20 Be chivalrous. But never wait for a thank you. Hold the door open for a girl, but walk away before she can turn around and thank you. It makes everyone you’re chivalrous to, want to know you! [Read: The code of modern chivalry for men]
#21 Learn your manners. Don’t be rude or arrogant. Badasses are very charming, but very inhibiting. Treat everyone with respect, but don’t tolerate their annoyance.
#22 Don’t talk fast. People who are extremely confident and full of themselves always speak slowly because they don’t care about wasting another person’s time. But on the other hand, if you’re already a fast talker, be very firm and commanding. It has the same badass effect because it reveals that you don’t have time to waste on others. But don’t ever let anyone cut you in between when you’re talking.
#23 Have a manly drink. If you’re not a teetotaler, avoid cocktails and colorful drinks with fancy umbrellas when you’re behaving like a badass. Have a simple drink, or drink scotch neat or on the rocks. It makes you appear more serious and sophisticated.
#24 Don’t hide your displeasure. Let others see the displeasure in your face when you’re annoyed with them for anything. A badass is a perfectionist and doesn’t put up with incompetent people.
#25 Be the real badass. Be confident of who you are and don’t fake a personality just for attention. It never works. If you want to be a badass, you have to build these traits over time. A badass isn’t born in a day, he becomes one over time with maturity and confidence. [Read: How your self respect affects your relationship with others]
All said and done, a badass is ruthless and emotionless only with the people he interacts with professionally. When it comes to his personal life, he’s a very loving, respectful and decent man who cares for his family and loves them to death.
The badass is a wall he builds to protect himself from lesser mortals and people that don’t matter to him. To the ones he loves, he’s warm and caring, and never has an ego.
[Read: 10 traits of a man that makes him a perfect boyfriend]
A badass is a great guy. Everyone wants to be him, but few can ever be him even if they try all their lives. Do you really want to be one? Use these 25 steps on how to be a badass, and if you have it in you, you’ll surely be one someday.
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