A girl best friend is often the best of both worlds. But don’t be deceived, while it has many benefits, there are a few drawbacks too!
What’s it like having a girl best friend? To give you an idea, it’s like a relationship without the jealousy and drama, a close sibling who constantly enables you, and like one of your “bros,” only in the delicate, boob-sporting form of a female.
Sure, having a crew of guy friends is fun to have around, but there are just some departments of friendship where guys lack. And in these “unmanly” matters such as feelings, fashion, and female relationships, only a girl best friend is the ideal candidate for the job.
Facts about girl best friend relationships
As you will find out, having a girl best friend makes life more complete, albeit crazier and more fun which is not exactly a bad thing.
#1 Con: You and your girl best friend are always mistaken for a couple. And if it’s just you and the guys, they constantly ask if you slept with her. Being mistaken for a couple is just a fact of life for the both of you. You are well adept at answering, dodging, and explaining to the public that you’re just best friends.
#2 Another con: If you say you’re not together and are just best friends, people assume you’re gay. For some reason, you hate humanity for not accepting the fact that a man and a woman cannot be close friends without falling for the other. Because the next assumption after they realize you’re not dating is that you’re the fabulous gay best friend. [Read: 70 things men do that doesn’t make you gay]
#3 Pro: But then, you always have a date during “emergencies.” Got an emergency where you need a plus one? Got an extra ticket to a concert and no one else wants to go? Did your crush turn you down to be her date on prom night? Never fear, your girl best friend gladly comes to your rescue!
#4 Another pro: Going out with her regularly makes you an expert on dates. You go out with her so often, you’ve collected a considerable amount of experience on how to take a girl out on a date.
#6 She gets completely naked in front of you, and it’s not sexual. You just don’t think of her as a woman you’ll sleep with. From an outsider’s perspective, you look like an old married couple who lost interest in worldly desires.
She probably uses the bathroom in your presence with the door left open or changed clothes in front of you while having a casual conversation.
#7 Both of you are emotionally intimate. You’ve seen a side of the other’s personality that no one else sees. Especially as a man, you show your girl best friend your vulnerable side. You trust her to accept you as you are. You probably cry in front of her and spout emotional nonsense that you wouldn’t dare show any other person.
#8 You’ll be her go-to guy when PMS strikes. She expects you to come at her place during the wee hours of the night with pizza and ice cream. Sometimes with a supply of tampons in case she runs out. You deal with her emotional rollercoaster while you watch 90s chick flicks on Netflix as she nurses her PMS.
#9 She’s often close with your family, sometimes more than you’ll ever be. Your family treats her like the daughter they never had. She is especially close to your mom who checks up on you through her. You sometimes wake up on a weekend to find her eating breakfast with your family.
#10 You’re frustrated at the fact that your parents and her parents wish that you end up together. You can’t actually blame both your parents for this since you get along so well. But you can’t find the right words to explain that it’s not going to happen. [Read: The night and day differences of millennials and baby boomers]
#11 Pro: She has a lot of other female friends, giving you access to a wide variety of chicks. We know for a fact that girls are good at making friends with other girls. This grants you access to a wealth of single ladies during parties.
Another advantage will be a good word put in by your female BFF and her carefully selected candidates who matches your taste and personality.
#12 Con: However, she is completely suspicious of every girl you want to date. Think of her as the NORAD for bad dates. She has this uncanny ability to sense something off from a girl you like. Don’t take it against her. She’s just trying to steer you away from heartbreak. After all, a woman’s intuition is dead accurate.
#13 Counter-pro: At the end of the day, she’ll be your best “wing woman.” If she senses you’re really determined to get a girl, she’ll do everything in her power to help you even if it’s against her judgement. Of course, she’s also secretly preparing herself for the possibility that you’ll mope and cry over her when things don’t go as you planned. [Read: How to choose the best wingman to meet girls]
#14 You get insight to the female perspective in anything, especially in relationships. Your best friend is the ultimate case study in your pursuit to understand the female mind. Whether from observation on how she reacts to everyday situations or from her ideas, you get unadulterated first-hand information on dealing with a woman.
#15 Pro: She gives excellent fashion advice. Let’s admit it. Men are generally utilitarian when it comes to fashion and style. If you’re the type who survived into adulthood wearing the usual shirt-jeans-sneakers get-up, a girl best friend is the likely person to hammer you into a fresh, new style you’d never dream of sporting.
#16 Con: She’ll expect you to return the favor by dragging you shopping. Be thankful if it’s just for clothes. Most of the time, your girl best friend will drag you shopping for home essentials, so you’ll be the one to carry those four comforters while she checks out a sale on the next aisle.
#17 You are naturally protective of her, especially from unwanted male attention. Just as she’s suspicious of the girls you like, you have an early warning device for suspicious guys who hit on her. In certain situations, you go on hulk mode at her slightest cry for help from those douchebags. [Read: 14 platonic friendship rules to be just friends without the drama]
#18 She is your biggest confidant. There is no other person in the world that you trust with your secrets, insecurities, and silly life goals aside from your girl best friend. She knows you in and out. She is privy to your good and ugly sides. With her, there are no secrets. You let your guard down with her.
Having a girl best friend gives you the best of all your relationships. A girlfriend, a sibling, and a guy friend all wrapped in one. With all their craziness comes fun and comfort you won’t find anywhere else.
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Paul Timothy Mangay
Paul aka Morty is a keyboard-pounding cubicle-dweller based in Manila where he occasionally moonlights as a writer for anyone in need of his mediocre word-strin...