Let’s face it – there’s not a class in school about relationships that teaches you how to date a girl. But have no fear! Here are some tips for you.
Many guys are intimidated by women. In fact, I know many men who claim that they just don’t understand the female mind. While I will admit that women can be complex, knowing how to date a girl doesn’t have to be.
Yes, men and women are different. And thank God, right? Wouldn’t it be boring if we were too similar? But remember, you don’t have to make dating difficult. All it takes is understanding girls, and then treating them the way they want you to.
How to date a girl – 14 tips that make all the difference
If it were up to me, I would have relationship classes required in all of our schools. But hey, no one asked my opinion. If they did, I think we’d all be a little less unsure of the dating process and a lot happier in our relationships. So, if you’re feeling uneasy about how to date a girl, here are some tips for you.
#1 Get the date. Yes, this seems like a no-brainer. You can’t know how to date a girl if you don’t actually ask them for a date! But these days, a “date” isn’t what it used to be. Decades ago, a man used to pick the woman up for a date, take her out *and pay,* and generally woo her.
But these days, it’s all about “Netflix and chill.” Because of this, two people may wonder if they are actually on a date or just hanging out as friends… or friends-with-benefits. So, make it official – ask her out on a proper date! [Read: A gentleman’s guide to successfully asking a girl out]
#2 Plan an unforgettable date. Forget the “let’s hang out” lines. Be a mature man and take her somewhere that she’ll always remember. Now, you don’t have to hire a private band and take her to the Eiffel Tower or anything. But it should be romantic and memorable.
#3 Show affection during the date. The uncertainty on a first date can be both exciting and nerve-wracking. You’re thinking, “Does she like me?” And she’s thinking, “Does he like me?”
If both of you are too nervous, then you might not be sending the right messages with your body language. So, make sure you touch her hand, put your arm around her, and even try to go in for a kiss at the end of the night. Speaking of which…
#4 The goodnight kiss. If you feel like the romantic feeling is mutual, then she will probably want you to kiss her. Granted, not all girls like to kiss on the first date. But we do want you to try. If you don’t try, then we think you don’t like us.
But here is something you should NOT do. Do not ASK if you can kiss her. Well, maybe some girls like that. But most girls like it when you just take charge and have the confidence to go in for the smooch. Asking to kiss her doesn’t show that confidence. But don’t be aggressive about it. Read her body language first to see if she’s giving you the green light. [Read: How to kiss a girl on the first date – Your step-by-step guide]
#5 Make plans for a second date. If the date is going well, then don’t leave her hanging. I know that a lot of people wait a few days to call or text after a first date. I never understood why. If you like someone, then just go for it!
At the end of the first date, ask when she’s available again. Just don’t be clingy. Show interest without suffocating her. This is crucial for knowing how to date a girl.
#6 Keep in touch. Even if you had a great first date and have the second one set up, don’t be intermittent with your communication. Girls have an amazing ability to over-analyze everything.
So even if you felt like you were soul mates on the first date, she will wonder why you are not keeping in touch with her. But again, don’t be obnoxious and needy about it. Just enough to let her know you are still there and still interested in her. [Read: When should a guy call after the first date? Your complete guide]
#7 Ask her questions. Girls don’t like it when you only talk about yourself or your interests. That says you are selfish and don’t care about what she thinks. But she also doesn’t want to do ALL of the talking. So, there should be a balance of give and take. Ask her questions about herself to get to know her, and also share information about yourself.
#8 Pay attention to her likes and dislikes. During your conversations, make sure you take mental notes about what she likes and doesn’t like.
Did she mention that she hates seafood? Well, then don’t take her to a seafood restaurant on the second date. Maybe even joke with her about not liking seafood. That way, she knows you were listening, and she’ll love it.
#9 Be chivalrous. Chivalry should not be dead. It’s not disrespectful to a woman to pay for her dinner and open doors for her. In fact, it’s just the opposite.
#10 Be honest and kind. Stemming from the whole chivalrous behavior, just be an overall good person. Pay for things *especially in the beginning*, talk respectfully to her, and do nice things for her. If she needs help with something around her place, then be there to help her. She will love it.
#11 Don’t ghost on her. There is nothing worse than when a girl thinks that it’s going well between the two of you, and then you disappear on her. Don’t do that! Let me repeat… don’t do that.
It is one of the worst and most demeaning things you can do to another person, so be mature and don’t ghost on her. If your feelings have changed, then just politely and gently tell her. Give her that respect, because she deserves it. [Read: Like ghosting? Prepare yourself for these 10 consequences]
#12 Reassure her of your feelings. Sometimes girls can be insecure… you’ve probably already figured that out. So, they like it when you remind her of how you feel about her.
You don’t have to do it 24/7, because then that gets needy and suffocating. But if she never hears anything about how you feel, then she’ll probably feel rejected.
#13 Be consistent. Another horrible thing is when she can’t predict your behavior. So, don’t text her all day, every day for three days, and then have no communication for the next week. She will freak out. Be consistent with your words and actions. She will respect you for it. [Read: How to woo a girl and really sweep her off her feet]
#14 Communicate with her. And I’m not just talking about texting her every day. What I mean by this is to actually talk to her. Talk to her about her feelings, your feelings, the state of the relationship, or your hopes and dreams. Girls like to talk, and so be a sounding board for her. Don’t just tune her out. Really engage with her on a deep level.
Knowing how to date a girl the right way can take time to learn. But as you get more practice, you’ll become a pro in no time. And you’ll give your sweetheart just the kind of fairytale romance she’s always dreamed of.
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Dr. Carol Morgan
Dr. Carol Morgan has a Ph.D. in communication and is a professor at Wright State University where she loves corrupting young minds. As a relationship and succes...