Am I Texting Too Much? 11 Signs They Think You’re a Clingy Texter

If you’re asking yourself, am I texting too much, you’re probably guilty of being a clingy texter. If you want to find out for sure, find the answers here!

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There was a time in the not-so-distant past *at least for some of us*, where there was no such thing as texting. I know, right? We think the world was probably a much kinder, well-put-together, and friendly place without cellphones… but, we digress. If you ask, am I texting too much, then you already likely know the answer.

Okay, we’ve probably been guilty of being clingy, one way or another. Especially as there’s a thin line that just separates clinginess and affection, it can be hard to know the difference. But when you’re known as a clingy texter, you might smother and suffocate your date *or crush* without meaning to.

There are rules for just about everything. So many that it is hard to keep up with them all, especially when texting. You worry if you are too forward, sending the right images, and most of all, you worry about am I texting too much. [Read: How to text a guy without seeming desperate and overly needy]

The harmful aspects of being a clingy texter

When you’re a clingy texter, you will end up pushing away your date or crush. People often don’t like being suffocated, especially when you’re a needy or clingy person. We get that you want them so much to the extent that you probably find it hard to control your frequency in texting and what you text them.

However, you need to give them the breathing room to respond. This is especially true if you just started dating, you will scare them away, and they’ll never want to see you again! If it’s your partner, they could feel suffocated in your relationship the more often you become clingy in your texts.

So it’s essential to reduce your pace if you’re asking yourself, am I texting too much. Internal issues most likely cause clinginess, but it could also be caused when you fall for someone way too fast. You want to skip certain phases *if you just started dating*, so you end up being a clingy texter.

This is a harmful habit that will likely sabotage all your current and future relationships if you don’t do something about this. It can even sabotage your chances of landing a date with your crush! [Read: 21 signs of a clingy girlfriend & how to avoid turning into one]

Am I texting too much? 11 clues you’re really overdoing it

What is the text back rule? The golden rule of texting! Don’t ever text twice if you haven’t received an answer. Basically, wait to get a text back before you text again. We know… dumb. But, if you play the game, you must play. Here are the ways to answer – am I texting too much?

1. They stopped responding

Okay, this might sound like a Captain Obvious one, but you might not be listening to the Captain. If you even ask, you probably know the answer in your heart but convince yourself that it isn’t the case. Making up all sorts of reasons why they aren’t answering, you probably miss the most obvious one.

You text them too much. So, she stopped responding to let you know. You’ve suffocated and annoyed them to the point they stopped responding to your texts altogether. They’re not busy; they might just be trying to get some personal space from you! [Read: What to text a girl – Dos, don’ts, and all the secrets to know]

2. You receive one-word answers

If you used to get large amounts of words back, but now all you get are one-word answers, then you probably text them too much. One-word answers out of the blue mean one of two things. They’re either busy or try to show you they’re too busy for all the texting.

Either way, they tell you that you text them too much. They might not say so directly, but the fact they’re providing you with dry responses speaks volumes. Their lack of enthusiasm in their texts shows everything you need to know if you’re a clingy texter or not.

3. Your blue suddenly turned green

This is an iPhone-only answer. If you suddenly go from the blue “iMessage” color to the “green,” you are no longer in their network. Meaning you either got cut from their messages, or they’re trying to cut back on the number you send.

Until you get the blue sign again, it’s best to put your phone down and let them be for a while. So it’s time to take a hint and maybe stop texting them for a while. If you’re asking, am I texting too much, the answer is a definite yes if you resonate with this point. [Read: Double texting and second texts: 6 basic rules to play it cool]

4. Their “read” message is suddenly turned off, and all you get is “delivered”

Sorry all you Android users, this is yet again another iPhone reference. On the iPhone, when someone reads your message, their phone sends you a message that they “read” your text or keep it delivered even after they read it.

This feature honestly makes ghosting easier than ever, as you’ll never know when they read your message or not. So if their read receipts are off, that’s usually for a reason. It’s because you’re a clingy texter! If you used to get the read and now you get the delivered only, they don’t want to let you know when they’ve read the text.

5. She sends you messages like “Can I call you later?” and then doesn’t

If you receive “custom” messages, don’t assume they’re driving and being safe. If it happens all of a sudden, they’re trying to brush you off because you send way too many messages. Those types of automatic messages are meant to say, “back off, not now,” so get them.

Telling you excuses like calling you later is basically a soft blow to sugarcoat what they really want to tell you *which is to stop texting them*. If they don’t follow through with their excuse, that’s all it is – an excuse.

6. There are like five lines of your texting with one line of theirs

If you texted her over and over and they only answered once, then you’re texting them too much. Although we think the text back rule is stupid, I mean, what if you saw something super funny and wanted to share?

But if you text out of control and they only intermittently answer, then you text them way too much. If you’re asking yourself, am I texting too much, it’s crucial to know when to take the hint. If they’re not matching your texting energy, that’s a strong indicator you’re a clingy texter.

7. You wrote a novel of a text, and her reply is “yep”

Don’t send them your life story. Texting is supposed to be spontaneous, fun, and quick. If you want to tell them a funny story more like a novel, either pick up the phone to call them or just wait until you see them next time. Keep texting to a quick blip, or they’re probably not even taking the time to read what you wrote.

No one wants a novel unless they buy it at the book store. Texting is supposed to be short and concise *who wants to read a narrative in a text anyway*? So again, if they don’t match the same length of text you sent them, you’re probably a clingy texter. [Read: 10 clear signs you should back off when pursuing a girl]

8. They turn their phone off completely

This is a harsh one, but you can know for sure when they turn off their phone just to avoid your texts. If you are unsure if your texts even go through because there is nothing on the other end, then they likely blocked you or turned their phone off completely.

There’s no other excuse for turning off their phone other than you’re texting them too much and flooding their notifications that the only way out was for them to turn off their phone entirely.

9. They wait several days to text you back

If they wait several days to answer you back, then you text too much. Regardless of why they wait so long, being overly anxious and continuing to text when it isn’t reciprocated makes you appear needy and desperate. If they wait, then you wait too.

Sure, we hate games too, but if you don’t play the game, then they’ll soon be calling you out. The fact that they wait several days to text you back indicates you’re a clingy texter. So if you’re asking, am I texting too much, it’s a yes if they don’t text you back within a day or two. [Confession: I’m a boyfriend who’s too clingy and needy]

10. When you are out, you notice that they aren’t a texter

If you notice that when you are out with them, their head isn’t an extension of their cellphone, they silence it or don’t even bother to bring it – first of all good for you, as you found someone who isn’t shallow.

But, that also means that they probably aren’t the “texting type,” which means that your relentless text messages are not going to get them to answer but probably irritate them when they finally get around to picking their phone up. [Read: How often should you text a girl? 17 must-know rules of texting]

11. They stop using emojis

Emojis were invented for a reason, you know? It brings life to texts and helps you prove a point occasionally. So as not to be misunderstood, we add these annoying little expressions of emotions so that you know what type of mood we are in.

You are over-texting if they used to send them and suddenly now don’t really care how you read it. They’re not that into it. Stop. The fact that they went from texting with emojis to suddenly not using them at all might show you’re a clingy texter.

So if you’re asking, am I texting too much, watch out for the consistency they use in emojis. This rule applies not just to girls but guys as well! Some guys also use emojis when texting, so if they stop, you might be over-texting! [Read: 17 flirty, cute & naughty emojis guys use when they like you]

So, are you texting too much?

Dating these days comes with all sorts of rules. If it isn’t social media or text messaging, there are all types of terms and unwritten rules to follow that can be, well, exhausting.

If you think you might text them too much, then you get a back-off vibe. The best thing to do is to sit tight and go radio silent. [Read: What a woman is really trying to tell you when she pulls away]

If you think your answer is yes to ‘am I texting too much,’ blowing up their cellphone isn’t going to get you into their good graces. Slow down your pace and stop flooding their phone with notifications. Let them text first instead of constantly double texting. 

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