We’ve all been there—the yelling over the phone, the essay long texts, the final “it’s over” sentence, and then the immediate “I’m independent” vibe that proudly comes along after it. But, after giving it five minutes, they realize they made a mistake and want you back. But no, they can’t call you, that would mean they lost this battle. So these are the signs your ex wants you back but won’t admit it.
Yeah, pride is one hell of a drug, and it doesn’t make things much better at the end of the day. If you’ve been dumped, you’re probably thinking your ex is living the life, but that’s probably not the case.
They’re probably realizing how lonely they are and that they made a huge mistake. Will they admit it? Well, not right now at least. But, you know, there are ways you can tell if they want you back.
And they almost always come back…unless you were a real asshole, then they ain’t.
You’re still getting those “f*ck you” text messages and angry phone calls. If someone was really content with how things went, they wouldn’t be harassing you with angry messages. There would be no need.
If your ex isn’t being the nicest person to you, it’s because they’re hurt. [Read: My ex hates me – Why they hate you and 19 ways to get past their rage]
You just broke up last week, and they’re already dating someone they just met last night at the club.
People can be funny. And it is so obvious that they’re trying to mask the pain by literally flopping into another relationship. They haven’t moved on and when someone does that, they never move on.
They go out every night, and the pictures of them drinking beer and laughing overflow on Facebook. It might make you sick, but only because this is a lot of people’s go-to move.
Yeah, how depressing, but some people need to show their ex that they’re having an amazing time without them… as they cry inside.
They look a little dirty, their hair is getting longer, and maybe they haven’t shaved in a while. And it’s not because they’re trying to adopt the grunge look.
If your ex is looking like they’ve let themselves go, it’s because they have. Why? Because they finally realized they’re an idiot. [Read: Is my ex thinking about me? The signs you just can’t miss]
All of a sudden, they’re nowhere to be seen. They’re not posting on Facebook, they’re not liking your photos on Instagram—nothing. They’re hurting pretty bad. To completely remove yourself from social media and go out means you’re really suffering.
You broke up not too long ago, but they’re just texting you to see how you’re handling it. You know, making sure you’re not devastated and spending your days bawling in front of the TV.
Ironically, that’s probably them. Their “are you okay?” phone call is a great way to see that they’re clearly not. [Read: 15 reasons why your ex still texts you and stays in touch]
Sure, they may be your friends too, but don’t think for one minute that they’re not informing your ex on what and how you’re doing. They may be at the same house party as you or in the same class. They’re reporting back to your ex.
They run into you while you’re talking to someone from the opposite gender. Oooh, you see their face getting heated and red. They’re fuming inside.
Jealousy isn’t pretty, but, it sure lets you know what they’re really thinking. [Read: Feeling lonely: Here are legit reasons for missing your ex]
So, they can’t admit that they f*cked up to you sober, but while they’re drunk, the words just come pouring out.
The infamous and regretful drunk dial or drunk text is the most reliable way of really seeing how they feel about you. Remember, a drunk person’s thought is a sober person’s words.
Why would anyone keep in touch with your mom and dad after a breakup? Sure, maybe they like your parents, but come on, that’s a strategic move to keep themselves in your life.
Oh yes, you did, you totally did. If they’re bumping into you on the regular, well, that’s not by accident. If you two were in a committed relationship, your ex-partner knows your pattern.
They know where you get coffee, where you walk your dog—they know it all. That’s no coincidence. [Read: Bumped into your ex? 19 super-cool ways to show them YDGAF]
Those things about them that used to bother you—their tangled, messy hair, unshaven face, whatever is it, well, they’ve cleaned up.
It’s not because they want other people, they’re trying to subtly show you that they can change.
No one in their right mind brings up that whole mess of a conversation unless they wanted to try to work it out.
Why bring it up just to hash it out for fun? Nah, it doesn’t work like that. If they bring it up, they want to resolve it.
A lot of people are notorious for this. They could be dating a new person, but they never make it public. Why? Because they don’t want the person they still have feelings for to see that they’re taken. They want them back. So, if you know nothing about their love life, there’s a reason why. [Read: 16 clear signs your ex still wants you back in their life]
Remember when you wanted to go skydiving? Oh well, would you look at that, they suddenly took an interest. Or when you wanted to travel to Egypt? Well, they’re taking a selfie next to the pyramids as we speak.
Come on, you seriously believe that they’re doing this because they genuinely want to? Okay, they want to, but they’re trying desperately to get a reaction from you.
If you still have mutual friends, they tell you that they haven’t gone on any dates since your breakup. That’s probably because they don’t think anyone will measure up to you. They’re not ready to move on. [Read: Will my ex come back? 26 reasons and signs they regret leaving you]
Whenever you post something, they comment or like it. It could be about a new TV show you’re watching or that you went to a baseball game. They always have something to say or comment on, on your profiles.
Usually, when people break up, they sort of “clean up” their social media accounts. They make attempts to “erase” exes from their profiles.
They do that because they have moved on, but also because they want others to know they’re single. So, if they haven’t done that, it’s because they don’t want to.
If they are making an attempt to stay friends and hang out like you used to, then you can be sure that your ex isn’t over you but won’t admit it. They miss being with you so they will take any crumbs you throw their way. [Read: Why does my ex want to be friends? the guide to make up your mind]
Sometimes you hear from them a lot and they are super nice to you. This goes on for a while, but then they suddenly disappear and ghost you. They are either hot or cold, and they flip-flop a lot.
If you had a favorite TV show you watched together, they might post about it. Or, if your favorite sports team won a game, they might post about that. This is an attempt to get your attention on social media.
Maybe you still talk to them or text them a lot. If they say things like, “you’re still my favorite person” or “no one will ever measure up to you,” then they really mean it.
They may not come out and tell you they still love you, but there are a lot of hints. [Read: No contact rule – what it is, how to use it, and why it works so well]
If they didn’t want to break up, then they might still want to talk about what went wrong. Whether it’s something you did or they did – or both of you did – they want to rehash how things got on the wrong track.
They might want to remain friends – or at least friendly – and so they always let you know that they will be there for you if you need them.
Whether you need to move or just any kind of help, they let you know that they still have your back.
When your ex wants you back but won’t admit it, they might resort to flirting with you as if you were a new person. People only flirt when they still have feelings. If they didn’t, they wouldn’t bother. [Read: Why it’s normal to feel strange when your ex dates someone new]
If you are still in communication, whether it’s occasional or regular, they will never make you wait for their reply. It’s like they’re sitting around waiting for a text or a call to come in from you.
Body language is so much more believable than words. We can control what we say better than we can control our actions because our actions are tied to our emotions.
So, if their body language screams “I’m not over you!” then they probably aren’t.
Whether they tell you that they’re depressed or you heard it through the grapevine, this is a sign that they’re not over you. Maybe they lay around in their pajamas and eat ice cream all day while binge-watching Netflix. [Read: How to make your ex miss you – 17 subtle ways to make them want you]
If you still know people who talk to them, then they might tell you that they are talking about you and asking how you are. That means you are still on their mind – a lot.
When you do talk to them, they always want to bring up old memories. They might say things like, “Remember that summer when we went to the lake?” or “That concert we saw last year was the best.”
When someone still wants you back, they will probably talk about a lot of “what ifs?” They might wonder if they did or said something different whether the two of you would still be together or not. [Read: How to start a conversation with your ex and not make it weird]
Since they want you back, they want to know if you have moved on and are dating another person yet. They want to see if you’re still single because if you are, that gives them hope that there is a possibility that you might come back to them.
Similarly, they will definitely let it be known to you that they are still single and haven’t moved on with anyone else. This is their way of leaving the door open for you to walk right back into their life if you want to.
Maybe they did something wrong in the relationship, and it might have even led to the breakup in the first place. If that’s the case, they will tell you how guilty they feel and how sorry they are. They hope that their groveling will bring you back to them.
[Read: The step-by-step guide to getting your ex to love you again]
Have you seen any of these signs your ex wants you back but won’t admit it, in your life? If you also want them back and they’re not making the first move, it’s time to step it up!
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