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How to Make Him Want You Back: The Art of Getting a Guy to Miss You

We’ve all wanted an ex back at some point. So if you’re wondering how to make him want you back, here are a few ideas that’ll work like a charm.

how to make him want you back

Ending a relationship is one of life’s toughest lessons. No matter whether it is your decision or not, it is still an extremely hard thing to go through. If you recently broke up, no doubt your family and friends rally around you and try to help you move on. But what if you simply just cannot get your ex out of your mind? If you think you’ve made a mistake, or want to give your romance a second chance, here’s everything you need to figure out how to make him want you back. But then again, are you sure this is a good idea? [Read: Why your ex crosses your mind from time to time]

How to make him want you back

Of course, relationships end for a variety of reasons. If you broke his heart, it might be tough to convince him to give you another chance, or it might be the other way around.

Perhaps they felt like it wasn’t working and broke up with you. Now you are desperate to show them what a huge mistake they made. Whatever your reasons for wanting your ex back, if you do, then we are here to help!

Try these 10 ideas and see if you can win back their affection!

#1 Stay away. While this might sound counterintuitive, just think about it. Absence makes the heart grow fonder as they say and never a truer word has been spoken!

Keeping your distance from your ex is the only way they start to miss you. If you are always there or constantly calling and texting them, they know they can have you back at the drop of a hat, and that won’t appeal to them.

Reverse psychology often works wonders in a situation like this. Even though we know it is torture, don’t be tempted to pick up that phone, send them a Facebook message, or just ‘happen’ to bump into them right outside their home even though you don’t live anywhere near them.

Space can be a great thing. If you give them some they might realize just how important you are to them. [Read: Does absence make the heart grow fonder or wander?]

#2 Look after number one. Break ups are the perfect time to take a good hard look at yourself and figure out what you want from your life. Okay, we know you want your ex back, but what else?

Assess what went wrong in the relationship. If you want to know how to make him want you back, ask yourself if there’s anything you can do to change his mind. If you worked too long hours, or your partner didn’t like you partying so much, why not work on these areas and prove to him that you can in fact change?

#3 Get in shape. It’s fair to say that being in a long-term relationship often takes its toll on your figure. Being totally comfortable with someone else is such a wonderful feeling. However, relaxing your diet and enjoying all those cozy nights snuggled up in front of the TV with takeout means those pounds really piled on.

Getting a ton of exercise and eating really healthily focuses your mind on something else apart from the breakup. It also gets you looking fit and toned, so the next time you see your ex, you really show them what they are missing! [Read: 12 benefits on exercise on your mind, body, and libido]

#4 Act like you don’t care. Change your relationship status on social media, delete photos and posts that mention your ex, and then upload lots of pictures of you on nights out having the best time.

This move is a cliche, so keep it classy. Don’t unfriend your ex and don’t have loads of pictures of you draped around another person. However, showing your ex that you don’t need them, that you are not sitting at home alone crying yourself to sleep every night, and you are getting on with it and enjoying your life shows them how strong and fun and level-headed you are. They might start to wonder if they made the wrong decision.

#5 Keep it friendly. When you give your ex some space and the tension and hurt between you calms down, if you still feel as though you want to get back together with them, why not casually get in touch?

You’ll know when the time is right to start talking again. Once you do, make it clear you would like to be friends. Don’t dive in head first and proclaim your undying love for them or gush about how much you miss them, simply keep it calm and friendly and see if they would like to go for a coffee or a drink. [Read: How to win your ex back in a healthy way]

#6 Make them jealous. Of course, if you’re looking for ways on how to make him want you back, you could always try to make your ex jealous. This is the oldest trick in the book and can be a little immature, but it does often get great results. [Read: 30 wicked ways to make a guy jealous and get his attention again]

#7 Never act jealous yourself. Whatever tricks they try to pull, never ever act jealous around them. As hard as it might be, if you seem genuinely happy for them or simply ignore them when they try to make you feel jealous they won’t know what to do. Always act naturally, keep calm, and remember that you came out of a relationship together. Any new person just cannot compete with the history there.

#8 Take his stuff back. Clear out all the stuff your ex left at your house and take it back to him. Make sure there are some pictures of the two of you looking happy and in love. Also make things smell like you by squirting your perfume or cologne on an item of clothing or even just on the box itself.

This brings back lots of emotional memories for them. At the same time, it shows you are ready to move on *the old reverse psychology again*, so they start to feel like they are losing you and want to get you back. [Read: 16 signs your ex still thinks of you and wants you back]

#9 Get new interests. Do things you always talked about doing, or take up an exciting new hobby that your partner never thought you would be into.

Next time you see them casually drop this into the conversation. Showing you are busy is a fantastic way to indicate to your ex that you are moving on with your life. A new interesting hobby shows them there is lots about you they don’t know, which piques their interest and desire to come back for more! [Read: Can you manipulate someone to fall in love with you?]

#10 Don’t let them take advantage of you. If you want your ex back, chances are you feel as though you could do anything for them. Make sure you don’t end up being used by your ex.

If they think they can get you to do whatever they want *for example give you a booty call at 2am then kick you out before breakfast the next day, after you’ve given their flat a quick tidy, of course*, you aren’t going to seem attractive.

[Read: Breakup to makeup: 10 ways to give love a second chance]

If you’re trying to figure out how to make him want you back, just follow these steps. and remember, stay assertive, aloof but friendly, healthy, interesting, and calm. Show your ex exactly what they are missing and you will win them back!

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Bethany Locke
Bethany was born and raised in Scotland and now resides in Brighton where she lives with her partner and rather disobedient cocker spaniel pup. She works as a f...
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