There’s always that one person you just can’t seem to get. But now, there are scientific ways to know how to get someone to fall in love with you.
You want this person to fall in love with you, I get it. Listen, my personal advice would be not to try and learn how to get someone to fall in love with you. If they realize one day that they’re in love with you, great. If not, it wasn’t meant to be.
But I know that’s not what you want to hear. Instead, you want me to tell you that you can make someone fall in love with you. Well, according to science, it is possible.
I would always go for the guy I could never get. Now, it’s not because I was less than him, it was because we would never have worked out. Our goals, our dreams, our personalities—they never matched.
But I liked the challenge, so I would convince myself that I was head over heels for them and the chase was on. Of course, it ended with me heartbroken and with a crushed ego. It just wasn’t supposed to happen between us.
#1 It’s all in the eyes. You probably know that it’s all about eye contact and that’s true. If you want to know how to get someone to fall in love with you even when you’re some distance apart, science tells you to use your eyes. You should never underestimate the power of eye contact. The eyes can tell you everything you need to know about a person and deliver any message you want them to have.
#2 Be a listener. Everyone likes talking about themselves, what can I say, we’re humans. But listening is crucial, especially if you want a healthy relationship. If you’re able to lend a helpful and open ear to the person you like, you have a higher chance of having them fall for you because they want to be heard. [Read: Ways you can become a better listener]
#3 Praise them. We’re humans, not complex animals. We all have egos and if you want someone to fall for you, stroke their ego. I know it sounds like a dick move, but it’s science! When you have someone praise and compliment you all the time, you feel good about yourself, thus, feeling good around them. Then they associate these feelings with you and, well, ta-da!
#4 Live close enough. Not next door, I mean, you can, but you don’t have to. If you want someone to fall for you, you need to live close by them. Why? Because you see them more often. If you live far away from them, the likelihood of you seeing them is decreased, so you don’t interact with them as often.
#5 It’s all about adrenaline. You know what connects people? Adrenaline rushes. If you experience a potentially dangerous situation with someone, you immediately feel a closer bond with them. This doesn’t mean you need to jump out of a plane with them, a roller coaster will do the trick. [Read: How to be a charming pussy tease who seduces women in slow motion]
#6 Don’t be easy. I don’t mean you can’t have sex, you can. But you shouldn’t be handing it out like candy if you want this person to fall for you. Nope, you need them to work for it, you need them to feel intense desire for you. If you sleep with them, the challenge and the chase is over. Keep some mystery about yourself when you’re around them, make them curious. [Read: How to make a man chase you – 15 ways to get him to fall hard]
#7 Be excited about their passions. We want to be with people who value us and are excited about our passions. You wouldn’t fall for someone who hates the fact that you love surfing. No way, you’re going to fall for someone that also loves the sport or wants to learn how to surf because of you. Not only is it an ego boost, but it shows that you genuinely care about them.
#8 Smile. This may sound silly but smiling is actually a huge factor when you want someone to fall for you. Smiling can help you show not only that you’re comfortable, but you’re also more attractive to them. But smile genuinely. Don’t give out one of those fake grins all the time, it’ll show. [Read: How to flirt with your crush and make them fall hard]
#9 Get handsy. But not too handsy, remember tip six. You don’t need to be throwing yourself on them, they’re not a bargain bin. Also, if they don’t want to be touched, don’t do it. But if they want you to touch them, well, touching leads to bonding and connection. It can be something really light and soft, like grazing their arm or knee. These small acts can develop chemistry and flirtation.
#10 Show your feelings. You don’t need to be announcing your deepest love for them, but if you like them, you should show your feelings. No one wants to make a move if they’re unsure with the other person’s feelings. Be flirtatious, be charming, and don’t be afraid to show how you feel. Just make sure you don’t throw yourself on them. Be calm and collected. [Read: 14 ways to show someone you like them and still be a tease]
#11 Turn them on. If you want them to fall in love with you, they need to be sexually attracted to you. In other words, you need to turn them on. No, you don’t need to aggressively rub their leg under the dinner table to get them aroused. But focus on building the sexual tension through flirting.
Once you get the tension building, their desire for you will continue to grow and grow. But don’t give them what they want just yet, continue to build it up until they can’t take it anymore.