When you go deeper and deeper into a relationship, it becomes difficult to decipher developing genuine, complex feelings and just infatuation. The difference is infatuation can be very fleeting and often built around lust, and nothing much deeper. But understanding if you are truly emotionally attached to someone can be tricky, and at times, even dangerous.
A new phase in a relationship
When you start to realize that you’ve left the infatuation phase, it won’t hit you straight away. Instead you notice certain emotions evolving or how you feel about your partner intensified. There are little signs of becoming emotionally attached that show up slowly over time, but you just have to be willing to look out for them.
Sometimes you’re not prepared for it, because you only wanted to be casual, but real emotions can’t be fended off or ignored until they subside. Once you’re emotionally attached, you must accept you’ve entered a new stage of the relationship. [Read: 9 relationship stages all couples go through]
13 indications you have become emotionally attached
Emotional attachment is not something to be scared of or a negative issue in your relationship. It just means you grow closer to becoming a team. It is a beautiful thing that shows you truly care about one another and appreciate the bond you share. Let these complex emotions work their magic naturally, because, like quicksand, the harder you struggle against it, the deeper you sink.
Maybe you’re not used to feeling this way, or maybe you’re in denial, but being emotionally attached can be a really great start to true connection and, potentially, love. Because it’s not always immediately apparent, it slowly creeps up on you until one day you look at the person you’re with and can’t believe there was ever anyone else before them.
#1 You’d do anything to see them smile. Whenever they flash you a cheeky grin or a wide smile, it makes your insides go all fuzzy. To you, their smile is one of the prettiest things in the world. You find yourself doing anything and everything in your power to see it as much as possible, even if it means acting a fool. [Read: 50 ways to start someone’s day with a smile]
#2 Seeing them sad makes you sad. You seem to be more in tune with their emotions than you realized. Their mood affects yours. When you see them feeling a bit down, you can’t but help feel the same way. You want to do everything possible to turn their mood around and make sure nothing gets them down.
#3 You get jealous easily. Before when you saw them around someone else, you didn’t think much of it. It never bothered you. But now when you see them flirting with someone that’s not you, you can’t help but feel a sharp pang of jealousy. This is normal. It just means you now worry about losing them to someone else, whereas before you weren’t. [Read: The differences between jealousy and envy]
#4 You can’t imagine them not being around. You become so accustomed to having them around, hearing about their day, going for dinner, and having long phone conversations that you forgot what it was like before they came into your life. The thought of not having them involved in your typical day to day anymore sounds inconceivable.
#5 They’re always on your mind. You constantly talk about them to your friends to the point that they’re all sick of hearing about them. And when you’re not talking about how awesome they are, you think about where they are or what they’re doing. You don’t even remember the last time you woke up and they weren’t the first thing on your mind. [Read: Am I in love? 21 signs to decode that fuzzy feeling]
#6 When they leave, you can’t wait to see them again. Even when you spent the entire day together, it just never feels long enough. The moment they leave, you find yourself missing them, and automatically text them to stay in contact. You always look forward to the next time you’ll hang out together.
#7 You’d drop all your plans for them. You find yourself blowing off other plans just to spend time with them. You shift meetings and errands around just to meet them for lunch.
And if they call you randomly in the middle of the day to ask you for help or advice, you won’t think twice about canceling whatever you had arranged for the rest of the day, just to give them a helping hand.
#8 You feel comfortable around them. You find you have fun together no matter what—even if it’s just hanging out alone doing nothing. You’d gladly trade having a massive night out at the club for a quiet night in with them. You enjoy their company so much that you just relax and don’t pretend to be someone else around them. [Read: How to Netflix and chill the right way]
#9 No one else is as important. When you’re in a crowded room together, it’s like you have tunnel vision. They’re the only one in the room that you’re interested in, and other potential partners don’t matter to you.
You get that butterfly feeling when they’re around, and it’s like everyone else disappeared. You even find that you don’t particularly flirt with anyone else anymore, but you don’t care.
#10 You want to introduce them to everyone you know. They’re so special to you that you’ve been dying to introduce them to your friends and family, because you think they’d really get on. You want to know what your friends think of them, and you want people to see what you see in them. But deep down you already know they’ll vibe well with all the important people in your life.
#11 You’re able to open up to them. You’ve never felt so comfortable being open and honest with someone. You feel like you can tell them anything. You’ve told them so much about yourself that it feels like you’ve known each other forever. Whenever you need advice, or someone to talk to, they’re the first person you call—and vice versa. [Read: 19 sure signs you’re in an exclusive relationship already]
#12 They call/text/speak to you all the time. When you’re not talking on the phone, you text each other. And when you’re not in contact over the phone you tag each other in memes online or tweet each other. You love the constant communication and couldn’t go without the good morning or good night texts anymore. [Read: 8 small ways to build a happily ever after]
#13 You’re invested in what they’re interested in. You now spend all your time trying to impress them, even with small gestures. You wear the shirt they like, read that book they mentioned, or binge watch their favorite TV show so you can talk about it. Anything that you can do to surprise them or show them you’re interested, you do without hesitation.
[Read: Dating vs. relationship – 14 signs to know your true status]
Becoming emotionally attached to someone sneaks up out of nowhere, but there’s no need to be worried. The best relationships are sometimes the ones most unexpected, so just go with the flow and enjoy watching your romance blossom!
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