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Are You Headed from “Dating” to “In a Relationship”?

You’ve gone on a couple of dates, and it’s been great. But how can you know if you’ll eventually go from just “dating” to relationship territory?

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At first, dating around may be fun, with the exciting phases of getting to know each other. But after a while, dating gets tedious, and going out with the second or third person in a week seems annoying more than anything. Expenses pile up, and no matter what you do, it seems like you’re never going to find the right person.

That is, until you find someone that makes you want to read an article like this. After all, that’s why you’re here, isn’t it? Not to worry, after reading this, you’ll have a clearer perspective on whether or not you two are headed towards being in a relationship.

What are ten of the best signs you’ll end up in a relationship?

Though the only sure way to know if you’ll get into a serious relationship with the person you’re dating is when one of you ultimately asks, there are still some signs you should look out for, so you don’t get caught off guard.

#1 No awkward silences. Perhaps the most overrated reason of all, but it’s true. When you find that person that makes every conversation exciting or fun, that’s a great sign. Nothing should be awkward. And if there are lapses in conversation, the silence is genuinely comfortable. [Read: 8 ways to avoid awkward silences during a date]

#2 You make each other laugh by just being yourselves. Not only does this imply you both feel comfortable enough to not put on a show, it also means you’re compatible, with a similar sense of humor, and the ability to bring each other joy.

#3 There’s genuine interest on both sides. Captain Obvious, sure, but a lot of people forget what this feels like. After dating around for a while, you become jaded. Maybe you haven’t shown genuine interest in a long time. Or maybe that special person is showing interest, but you’re skeptical because nothing seems to work for you.

If you’re past the polite, “let me make the best of this and not ever see them again after tonight” situation, you’ll know that you’re in it not out of politeness, but of genuine interest.

#4 You two always schedule another date. If you guys have been on more than one date already, and you always make a plan for next time, that’s a very good sign. For those who don’t, don’t worry. Oftentimes, it’s just a schedule thing. Everyone is busy in this day and age.

As long as you two talk after dates and make a plan to go out again, that’s a pretty good sign that you’re getting closer to getting serious. What’s even better is when you both are direct and simply say “Hey, my work schedule is crazy this week, but if I get an opening, can I see you again?” [Read: 18 signs your date really likes you on your first date]

#5 There’s a weird level of comfort that surpasses the butterflies. If you two are nervous, but always seem to get into this weird, comfortable state together as the night progresses, that’s a sign things are going well. If you guys talk about a variety of topics and are comfortable around each other, don’t mistake it for being in each other’s friend zone. Chances are, it’s much, much more than that.

#6 The cliché, phones don’t exist. Putting it simply, no one goes anywhere without their phones anymore. If you are so intrigued by each other that you both set your phones down and talk, it’s the biggest compliment you can receive or give. It’s a matter of what’s more entertaining. And you’re both winning.

#7 You could be doing the most interesting of things, or be in the most interesting of places, and yet, you’re still more interested in each other. Sounds hard to do, but when you find the right person, there could be a man on fire running around you, and you’ll still be more interested in what the other has to say. Whatever the case, you’re either blind to the world around you, or you’re both enjoying the world together.

#8 The flirting is obvious, but not trashy. Contrary to what’s become the norm, flirting isn’t always meant to be overly sexual and direct. Flirting should start off innocently enough as an involuntary byproduct of attraction. In time, it can build up to sexual tension where you both can’t get enough of each other.

If you’ve had that evolution happen over the course of a couple of dates, then chances are, both of you are in it for the long haul. Flirting that progresses too quickly into the sexual realm may mean that one or both of you are only in it to get laid, and not to be in a relationship. [Read: 15 obvious flirting signs between a guy and a girl]

#9 Your body language changes when you’re together. Body language says a lot about a person. At first you may be very conscious of how you sit or where you put your hands. However, in time, you may realize that you’re taking on a more comfortable stance.

Once you’ve gotten past the comfortable stance, you’ll find yourselves gravitating towards each other, with a brush of the fingers here and a nudge of the thigh there. If these initial touches are comfortable, they can build up to an investment that’s more than just physical.

#10 Everyone around you gets awkward. This is the best reason in the world. If you manage to get to the point of meeting friends, there should be at least one instance during the night when you both make someone, if not everyone, uncomfortable. It could be because you both find a corner of the room to talk, or maybe you kiss in front of everyone for the first time.

It could be that the moment feels right, and the tension can be sliced with a knife, but some poor soul is there with you, feeling awkward about the very obvious attraction you have for each other.

[Read: 50 questions to check if someone’s right for you]

These reasons seem far too simple, but most people forget the rule: when you find the right person, things just fall into place. The whole dating scenario between you two should seem effortless, fun, easy, and interesting. Stick with the simple signs, and you’ll know if you’ve got a chance.

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Jennifer Mendez
Jennifer is a writer, director, consultant and author, with a passion for all things literary. While she works on a variety of projects at a time, her one true ...
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