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20 Naughty, Sexy Date Night Ideas to Make Love Feel Hot & Steamy Again

If you’re looking for some sexy date night ideas, we have all you need to take your date night to a whole new level. Use these ideas for a lot of sexy fun.

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Whether you’re in a long-term relationship or a brand new one, there’s no denying the importance of setting aside time for sexy date nights.

This is especially true if both of you are busy with work, mortgages, chores, kids, and life in general. Don’t underestimate the importance of spending alone time with your partner because this time together can make or break your relationship. That’s why we’re going to tell you about some sexy date night ideas.

The importance of date nights

Some people might think, “We’re in a relationship *or married* so why do we need to go on dates anymore?” Well, it’s proven that couples who have regular date nights are more likely to stay together and be happy with their relationship than couples who don’t.

Here are some important reasons to have a sexy date night.

1. Helps you stay connected

Date nights are the perfect opportunity to keep your relationship strong. By spending personal, quality time together, you’ll both remember how much you mean to each other.

This helps strengthen your emotional bond. Plus, life is busy, so if you don’t take time to stop and reconnect, then you might lose it.

2. Improves communication

Let’s face it – in daily life, most of us are so busy running here and there that it’s sometimes difficult to find time to just sit and talk to your partner.

So, enter date nights. That’s what it’s all about. Date nights provide the perfect, scheduled time that you can just sit with one another and talk about anything you want to. [Read: How to communicate in a relationship – 16 steps to a better love]

3. Gets you out of your routine

Routines can be helpful sometimes, but they can also make a relationship stale. It’s easy to fall into the same patterns every day with your partner.

This can even create negative issues in your relationship too. So, date nights provide you the opportunity to have mental and physical stimulation. It reduces your boredom and allows you to have a little fun.

The most important rules for a sexy date night

Before heading out on date night, you have to remember several golden rules.

First, promise each other that you won’t fight. You can leave the bad mood at home to be dealt with tomorrow.

Second, avoid all unpleasantness at all costs. If you have nothing nice to say, don’t say anything at all. Don’t bring up topics of conversation that will push your partner over the edge, and don’t behave like a petulant child.

Lastly, be sure to do something interactive on date night. Running errands and watching a movie doesn’t count. Invest time and effort into doing something meaningful and having a heartfelt conversation with your partner. Be sure to leave all distractions at the door. [Read: 12 real reasons why so many couples drift apart over time]

How to have sexy date nights that sizzle and make both of you feel loved and hot for each other

Once you have both agreed to abide by the three golden rules of date night, plan a stellar evening that will be sure to blow both your minds.

Try to avoid doing things that you’ve done before. Spend some time planning something interesting to keep things fresh and brand new. If you’re stuck, here are some interesting ways that you can spice up date night.

1. Pick each other up

Why not indulge in adult playtime and try to pick each other up? Head over to a bar separately, and pretend like you’re meeting each other for the first time.

Boys, approach your lady, offer to buy her a drink, and see where the night leads you.

Ladies, accept his drink offer and lead him on. You’ll definitely get a kick out of acting like perfect strangers. You can create backstories for your characters and even indulge in a naughty quickie in the men’s room.

2. Role-play

Speaking of backstories, why not tailor-make one, especially for date night? You can create characters for yourselves and act out the roles.

For example, CIA spy Daniel York aids CDC researcher Abigail Sway to find a cure for a viral outbreak, and the only successful way to do it is to procreate.

Fancy an abduction fantasy? How about a teacher-student storyline? No matter how elaborate or cheesy your role-play scenario is, you will be sure to have a blast because it’s one of the best sexy date night ideas. [Read: The sexual role play guide for beginners]

3. Kick up the kink

Spice up your date by kicking up the kink. You could try some blindfolds or even some handcuffs, whatever you both are comfortable with.

From being very hands-on under perfectly laid linen tablecloths to indulging in a quickie in the parking lot, there’s nothing quite like the thrill of getting caught to spice up a night out with your lover. [Read: How to spice up your sex life in 30 sexy ways]

4. Dress up

Ladies, invest in some sexy lingerie and give your lover a sneak peek during dinner. Behave like a seductress on the prowl, and get your man all hot and bothered over appetizers.

Gentlemen, when it comes to underwear, less is more, so why not just hang loose? It’ll give your lady love a glimpse of your package and let her know just what’s waiting for her when you guys get home. [Read: How to look way hotter when you’re naked]

5. Go somewhere unconventional

Many couples run out of ideas on where to go and what to do on date night. Most end up heading out to a restaurant, and more often than not, it’s somewhere they’ve been multiple times before. Why not get creative with it?

Every time date night rolls around, you can head someplace new and interesting. Ever tried Peruvian food? Know anything about Singaporean cuisine?

Give something new a go, and be pleasantly surprised. You can also head to thematic restaurants. From treetop dining to dining in the dark, take your pick from the myriad unconventional options out there. [Read: 20 fun and unconventional date ideas that are worth trying more than once!]

6. Pick up an activity

Want to learn how to tango? What about salsa or swing? Instead of indulging in a conventional dinner-and-a-movie date night, you can spice up your evenings with your partner by picking up a skill.

Why not start with dancing? This way, you’ll have something to work towards together, and when you’re done with classes, you can head out dancing and make everyone around you jealous.

7. Check into somewhere fancy

There’s nothing wrong with pampering yourselves every so often and splurging on romance. Turn date night into a two-day-one-night event, and check into a luxury hotel. Pig out on fancy room service, watch cable till kingdom come, and have a go at it everywhere and anywhere in the room.

This will also give you the chance to live out your deepest, darkest fantasies.

From playing with props and costumes to making as much noise as you want, hotels are definitely the way to go. Be sure to take advantage of weekday and off-peak rates. [Read: 10 naughty ways to make married sex feel like a one night stand instantly]

8. Relive your first date

Why not relive your first date? It’s one of the best sexy date night ideas. Head over to the same restaurant you headed to when you first went out.

Even better, pretend that you’re out on a first date. Ask each other get-to-know-you questions such as hopes and dreams for the future, favorite shows and music, and so on.

You should know by now that people change over the years, and you’ll be surprised at the number of things you’ll learn about your partner. [Read: 30 sexy questions to keep the spark alive and get to know your partner]

9. Make it a surprise

You can spice up date night by springing it on your sweetheart.

Plan everything in advance, and with no warning at all, get your lover to dress up and follow you out. From the venue to the activities, turn everything into a surprise, and watch them glow with joy.

10. Behave like teens

Being youthful is what keeps the fire and passion burning in a relationship. Never settle into the monotonous aura of a boring, married couple. Instead, spice it up, and behave like teens on date night.

From making out like crazy in the backseat to taking a drive with the top down, and from kissing at your favorite lookout point to giving your darling a hand job in the cinema, everything goes when you’re teens again! [Read: 6 cute teenage flirting moves you should use even as an adult]

11. Experience a “first” together

Another great way to make date night more interesting is to experience something new together. You’ll be surprised at the number of things that old-time couples have never done together.

Some long-term couples have yet to experience simple things together such as mini-golf, ice skating, playing darts, camping, and road-tripping. Think of something fresh, and make it happen with your sweetheart.

12. Do it backward

Another simple yet exciting way to spice up date night is to do it Memento-style and play everything backward.

Start with a sexy soak in the tub complete with rose petals and candles, then move on to wild sex. After that, head over to an ice cream parlor for dessert before moving on to a breakfast diner for dinner.

13. Spend it at home

One of the best ways to have a memorable date night is to experience it from the comfort of your own home. Some people may scoff at this, but if you can turn your home into a sex nest, then all the better.

Start off by making an appointment for a home couples massage, and spend a couple of hours in blissful relaxation.

Once the therapists have left, spend the rest of the evening cooking, wining, dining, spending plenty of time in the nude, and getting it on in front of the fireplace. Remember to send the kids off to their grandparents before undressing. [Read: 30 super romantic ideas to make your lover melt 24/7]

14. Drive-in movie

If you want to get nostalgic, then this is one of the best sexy date night ideas for that. Remember those 1950s movies where the couple goes to the drive-in movies and makes out?

Well, there are still a lot of those movie theaters still around. So, if you happen to live near one, why not check it out? You can pretend like you are Danny and Sandy in the movie Grease and even act it out if you want to.

15. Wine tasting

If you are into wine, this is a fun romantic sexy date night idea. Wine is just sexy anyway, and when you go and sample a lot of different types, it is a sexy thing to do with your honey.

You can even choose your favorite and buy a bottle to take home with you to drink by candlelight.

16. Sex in an unusual place

If you want to get a little wild, step out of your comfort zone – and your house – and go have sex somewhere different.

You can take a blanket and lay it out somewhere in a field where no one is around and watch the stars while you make love. Or, you can do it in a riskier place like an uncrowded movie theater. [Read: What is the mile high club? Is it on your sexual bucket list?]

17. Play strip poker

You don’t need to know how to play poker for this one. You can actually use any game you want – as long as it involves stripping.

Whenever one of you loses a round, you have to take off an article of clothing. Keep playing the game until you are both naked…and then get busy. [Read: 27 naughty, sexy and fun games to play with your boyfriend in and out of bed]

18. Camping

Even if you’re not a camping enthusiast, this is still a romantic, sexy date night idea.

There are plenty of tents that are more like “glamping” that you can buy. But find a beautiful place under the stars where you can have your romantic night.

19. Dinner cruise

If you live near a big city that has a river, lake, or ocean then taking a dinner cruise is a great option too. There’s nothing more romantic than sailing on a boat on the water and watching the sunset. It will get you both in the mood very quickly. [Read: Romantic dinner dates – 17 fun dates you both will never forget]

20. Picnic at sunset

Everyone knows that picnics are romantic. But when was the last time the two of you ever went on one? A lot of couples never do.

So try to find a spot where you can see the sunset and bring your favorite food and drink with you.

Sexy date nights are very important for happy love

Sexy date nights are very individual to each couple. It really depends on you how often you want to squeeze date night into your schedules.

Whether you choose to do it once a week or once a month, be sure to put your all into it. Don’t be distracted by all the white noise, and give your partner the respect and undivided attention that they deserve.

You will see just how much better your relationship can be when you put the time and effort into nurturing it.

[Read: 20 reasons and steps to reignite the lost spark in a relationship]

Skip the dinner and movie routine, and use these sexy date night ideas to make your date night more fun, thrilling, and adventurous. Have fun!

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Vinod Srinivas Serai
Vin Serai
Vin Serai is the founder of LovePanky.com, and has delved deep into the working of love and relationships for almost two decades. Having dipped his feet in almo...