Is your guy showing another girl some serious attention? It’s time to learn the signs that your man has a crush on another woman and work out the truth.
You may notice that your boyfriend is behaving differently. There could be a number of reasons that this may be happening, so don’t panic. One explanation for his strange behavior, however, may point to your man having a crush on another woman!
Of course, there are instances in which having a crush is harmless. One of those instances is when your man is crushing on a movie star or a random Instagram model. But trouble can start to brew when his eyes stick to someone who could possibly reciprocate his feelings.
With the possibility of another woman snatching up your man, that crush can turn into a flame. Luckily, there are some signs that are definite giveaways that your man has the hots for somebody else.
Once you learn the signs that your man has a crush on another woman, you can use the knowledge to your advantage as you try to see if your man might be considering cheating on you. [Read: Why do men cheat? 43 excuses, real reasons, and the best ways to prevent it]
The biggest signs your man has a crush on another woman
You definitely want to look out for these signs because they will tell you if your guy is just good friends with a girl or if he’s got a genuine crush on her.
1. He is giving another woman a lot of attention
This is one of the most obvious signs that your man has a crush on another woman. If you frequently see him chatting with the attractive, fit neighbor, it could definitely mean that he is interested in her.
Unless there is a distinct reason for your boyfriend to be chatting with the same hot female on a regular basis, the chances are that he is intentionally making the time to talk to her. [Read: What is flirting? The science behind this common act]
2. He doesn’t want you to see his phone
If he’s not wanting you to see his phone, it could easily mean that he has spicy material on there that he doesn’t want you to discover. Could it be one of the signs that your man has feelings for another girl?
Has he been texting the attractive girl he met at the gym? Has he been calling an old lover? Who knows? Definitely not you because he won’t ever let you near his phone – hence the justification for suspicion. [Read: Why would a guy with a girlfriend want another girl’s attention?]
3. He is overly jumpy
Perhaps he has a crush on someone, and he is nervous that you will find out. This could definitely put him on edge.
If he jumps like a jack-in-the-box every time you mention something even remotely connected to his crush, he could quite possibly be hiding the feelings he has for a certain woman in his life – and it might not be you.
If he has feelings for someone else, he may be experiencing guilt. That guilt may be preventing him from making proper eye contact with you.
In this circumstance, he probably doesn’t want you to bore deep into his soul and purge the information out of him with your eyes.
If he starts averting his gaze in the middle of a conversation or rocking sunglasses more in your presence, it may be a further effort to avoid eye contact. [Read: 21 secret signs your relationship is starting to go downhill]
5. You catch him checking out the same girl over and over
It may be a mutual friend, a pretty barista, or even his physical therapist.
Whatever the case, if you frequently see him checking her out, whether in person or on social media, it could definitely be more than an innocent look in her direction.
6. He seems less into you
This is definitely one of the signs that your man has a crush on another woman. It may present itself as a general feeling that he just isn’t as passionate about you as he once was.
You may not be able to pin it on any specific conversations or events, but you feel that his romantic energy is just not coming your way as much as it used to. [Read: 40 secrets to make your man feel happy and incredibly lucky to date you]
This could definitely mean that his interest is going elsewhere. Side note – it may be time to bust out some scandalous outfits to get his attention right back in your direction!
7. He is overly defensive
If your boyfriend has mood swings that resemble a male period, it could be that he is emotionally frustrated because he likes someone else. Not only does he have to repress his desire, but he also has to conceal it from you.
That emotional constipation can take its toll and lead to random hissy fits. This is one of the signs that your man has feelings for another girl.
Combine his frustration, a dash of guilt, and the tension of hiding his crush from you, and you’ve got the complete recipe for a guy who might suddenly explode over the smallest things. [Read: Is he hiding something from you? 20 signs he feels guilty for hurting you]
8. He gives slight signs of physical affection to the same girl over and over
Examples of this may include putting his hand on her back as he lets her walk through the door or using any excuse to touch her, such as emphasizing a point with a gentle touch of the arm.
If you notice that he does this more with one girl than any other girl, including you you, then it can definitely be a red flag.
This may be the time for you to try to get some distance between your man and this woman. Maybe it’s the perfect time to set that woman up with a friend!
Setting her up with a friend can do two things. First, your guy may lose interest in her if she’s interested in someone else. Second, it might clue him into the fact that you’re on to him. [Read: 15 obvious signs of flirting between a guy and a girl]
9. He makes revealing Freudian slips
If you suspect that your man has a crush on your friend and he accidentally asks if you had “buns” instead of “fun” when you were out with her, it could be a giveaway.
Sometimes, it is simply impossible to censor all of your speech properly. You can use this fact to gain insight. [Read: The things emotional cheating can do to your relationship]
10. You just have a sneaking suspicion that he is becoming more interested in someone else
Sometimes, our intuition can pick up on things that our rational brain cannot. If you are suddenly starting to suspect that he is developing feelings for someone else, you could be correct.
Be careful about how you approach this, though, because if you have no evidence and you accuse him of being in love with someone else, it may not be received well. Sometimes the signs that your man has feelings for another girl can be confused, after all.
11. His behavior patterns have changed
Before you had the sneaking suspicion that your man had a crush on another woman, he was pretty predictable. He would come home from work at the same time every day. The two of you had your routine.
But if he’s suddenly making excuses for different things, like “going out with the boys,” that could be one of the bad signs that your man has a crush on another woman and is trying to hang out with her. [Read: Emotional cheating vs. friendship – the point where the line is crossed]
12. He’s vague or secretive
If he announces that he’s going for drinks with friends after work, but he doesn’t tell you with whom, he might be hanging out with another woman.
It’s even worse if you ask who he’s going with or if you can tag along, and he refuses to tell you or says that you can’t go.
13. You find him talking about the same woman a lot
Maybe he works with her. He might tell you all about her and what they do throughout the workday.
If you find that he’s talking about her a little too much, your man might be overcompensating for his crush. It might be to throw you off and make you think he has no feelings for her… but he does.
If he’s always talking about the same person, it’s one of the signs that your man has feelings for another girl. [Read: What is cheating in a relationship? The truth most people ignore]
14. Lack of communication
If you find that the two of you just don’t talk like you used to, it means that his attention might be going elsewhere.
His texts could be dwindling, or he might not want to engage in deeper conversation like he normally does. It could be because he’s thinking about someone else. [Read: 15 signs he’s talking to another girl and using you until he hooks her]
15. It feels like he’s avoiding you
As mentioned above, you probably have some sort of routine with him. If you are asking him to hang out, go out on dates, or sleep over, he might be coming up with excuse after excuse to decline.
If it gets to the point that you feel like he may be trying to avoid spending too much time with you, maybe it’s one of the signs that your man has a crush on another woman.
16. He gives you less attention
Whether he’s in your presence or not, he is giving you much less attention. Maybe when you’re both watching TV, he’s constantly on his phone. Maybe he just doesn’t text or call you like he used to. Maybe it’s because your man is thinking about or interacting with his crush.
Pull him up on his lack of interest, but know that this could be one of the signs that your man has feelings for another girl. [Read: The most common yet painful types of cheating in a relationship]
17. If you ask him about it, he blows it off
If you’ve been suspicious for a while and decide to just come right out and directly ask him, he brushes you off like it’s no big deal.
He might even gaslight you and make you feel crazy for even thinking that he has a crush on another girl because he doesn’t want you to know the truth. [Read: Snapchat cheating – this sneaky new trend is the ultimate betrayal]
18. He avoids going to certain places with you
Let’s say you’re hanging out together on the weekend and you suggest going to grab drinks at a certain restaurant or bar. If he seems uncomfortable with that idea, you should ask yourself why.
Maybe he knows that she goes there a lot and doesn’t want her to see him with you. Maybe it’s a place that they usually go to together, and he knows the staff might recognize him and ask him about the other girl.
Avoidance is certainly one of the signs that your man has feelings for another girl.
19. He starts to compare you to other women
He might suddenly start commenting on women he sees on TV and compare you to them. He could say things like, “Why don’t you ever wear anything like that?” or “You should try to do your hair like that girl.”
You know he is thinking about other women, whether they are in the media or in real life. [Read: 15 gut-wrenching signs your boyfriend is interested in your friend]
20. He doesn’t get jealous anymore
When you used to go out with your friends, he would act a little jealous. He would question you before and after about who you’re going with, where you’re going, and if you talked to any guys.
If he doesn’t seem bothered or jealous like he used to, there could be a very good reason for it. [Read: What is emotional cheating and 15 signs to recognize an affair ASAP]
21. He always seems too busy
If you find that you are initiating dates and hanging out more than usual or more than he is, it means he is not thinking about hanging out with you as much.
He might come up with a ton of different excuses, but they all come down to one thing – he’s too busy to see you. Busy doing what? [Read: What you need to do when your boyfriend doesn’t take time for you]
22. He’s online… a lot!
Okay, we’re not just talking about social media here but his phone habits, as well. Has it changed suddenly?
Does he always seem to be active on Instagram or Facebook? Is he always active and online on WhatsApp, but it’s been a while since you received any texts from him? When you call him, does it go to voicemail all of a sudden, even late into the night?
If he used to speak to you all night over the phone but has had to hang up in exactly 15 minutes for a few days in a row – that’s strange, don’t you think?
Unless he has a very good reason for his shift in behavior or he’s able to explain himself, you may need to assume that your man has a crush on another woman. [Read: Instagram flirting – how it’s secretly ruining your relationship]
23. You just feel it
Every human has intuition. It’s that little voice in your head that tells you when something is wrong. It’s the feeling you get in your stomach when you know someone isn’t being honest with you. That’s intuition, and it’s something you should consider.
If the voice in your head says, “I think something shady is going on,” then the odds are that something is happening. It may not be cheating, but it’s something.
Sometimes, you don’t need to see many signs that your man has feelings for another girl – you just feel it deep inside. [Read: The real signs your relationship is on the verge of ending]
24. The small gestures suddenly stop
Your boyfriend used to send you good morning messages or selfies while stuck in traffic, but that’s all ended. These small gestures are what make the relationship.
These gestures show he cares, but they’ve all stopped.
25. He’s not so attentive during sex
When you were intimate, he used to focus on pleasing you. When you have sex now, it feels mechanical and lacks any emotion. If he’s not interested in pleasing you, talk to him.
It doesn’t mean he’s cheating on you, but it shows that his mind isn’t where it needs to be. [Read: Why feeling disconnected in a relationship isn’t always the end]
26. You’ve caught him lying
Not once, not twice, but multiple times. Though you haven’t been able to really put your finger on what’s going on, you’re no longer able to fully trust him. If you can’t trust him, it’s a genuine issue. A healthy relationship is built on mutual trust.
27. Where is the PDA?
It’s not here, that’s for sure. You used to hold hands and give each other kisses and hugs while at the supermarket or walking down the street, but that’s come to an end.
He’s no longer showing PDA, even though he used to be someone who loved it. It’s just strange, and it could be one of the signs that your man has feelings for another girl. [Read: 20 veiled signs your boyfriend is cheating on you already]
28. He doesn’t show excitement anymore
When you were around each other before, there was this buzz of excitement between you. There are moments when that fades for a couple, but is this lack of excitement one-sided?
If it feels like he’s in pain because of having to spend another minute beside you, ask him what’s up.
29. He doesn’t confide in you anymore
When he came home from work, he used to tell you about his annoying boss or a joke his co-worker told him, but he doesn’t confide in you anymore. The deep conversations you had have come to an end.
But he is still having those conversations… just not with you. There are other reasons he may have closed down a little, but it could be one of the signs that your man has feelings for another girl. [Read: Troubling signs he’s losing interest in you and may walk away soon]]
30. He’s suddenly into his looks
Your man would wear underwear he discovered on his floor, but now, he’s only wearing the best of the best. He focuses on his appearance, how he smells, and how he styles his hair. In other words, it’s the complete opposite of the person you thought you were dating.
What’s the sudden change? Who inspired him? [Read: 18 ingenious ways to catch a cheater red-handed]
31. He seems a lot more distant
Listen, it’s hard to be yourself around your partner when you know you’re cheating on them unless you’re a sociopath and don’t care. If you’re human, however, being around your partner while lying to them is a challenge.
Unless there is a real reason for his distance, such as stress or family problems, it could be one of the signs that your man has a crush on another woman.
32. The relationship feels forced all of the sudden
Whatever you do, it feels like you’re pulling teeth. Whether it’s going out for date night or having sex, everything feels forced. It’s not because you want that to happen, but it’s the reaction to what’s going on with your partner.
If you’re struggling to keep the relationship afloat, there’s a reason why. [Read: How to know if you’re not in love anymore and drifting apart]
33. They’re showing classic cheating signs
Whether it’s adding a password to their phone, hiding their messages from you, or coming home late, he’s showing classic signs of cheating.
These are signs that eventually poke their heads out and are unavoidable, no matter how careful he is. Eventually, you’ll notice.
34. You sense that he wants to be somewhere else
When you’re on a date with your partner, it doesn’t feel right. You feel that they want to be anywhere but next to you. How your partner acts around you is a strong sign of how they feel about you.
If he’s happy being with you, he won’t act uninterested in your company. [Read: How to know if he’s lying to you without asking or confronting him]
35. He’s trying to find a reason to end things with you
Maybe you had a stupid fight that typically would have been resolved in a couple of minutes, but now he wants to break up with you. The reason is really dumb, but you know that’s not the real reason.
He doesn’t want to confess that he has feelings for someone else, so he’s trying to dump the break-up on you.
36. You’ve met her, and you get really bad vibes
Maybe it’s his co-worker or study partner from school. Whatever the case, you have a bad feeling about her. You can’t put your finger on it, but something about her doesn’t sit right.
This isn’t a valid reason to accuse your partner of cheating, but your body is putting you on alert. [Read: How to follow your gut instinct – tried and true methods to follow]
37. You’re no longer included in his social life
Little by little, he’s started to cut you out of the social activities that you used to do together. Maybe you used to meet him and his colleagues for happy hour after work. Not anymore.
If he’s not including you in his social life, he doesn’t want people to see you together as a couple. Why? Because he has a different plan up his sleeve.
38. He’s cheated before
We don’t want to say “once a cheater, always a cheater” because we don’t think that’s necessarily true. Everyone cheats for different reasons. It doesn’t mean that they will cheat again.
You do need to take your partner’s past into consideration, however. If he has a record of cheating and has done so multiple times with the same woman, it’s something to look at. [Read: The signs you might be dating a serial cheater]
Bottom line
At times, it can be difficult to see the signs that your man has a crush on another woman. There is also a major difference between a crush and simply thinking that a particular woman is attractive.
After all, there are probably many men that you think are attractive. It doesn’t necessarily mean that you have a crush on them.
A crush means that someone really likes another person and could potentially be interested in pursuing dating them. By understanding the signs that your guy has a big crush on someone else, you can be on red alert and try to avoid disaster before it happens.
[Read: 18 ingenious ways to catch a cheating partner red-handed and in the act right now]
With these signs that your man has a crush on another woman, you can find out if his eyes have been wandering. It may be time to address the situation by confronting him or luring him away from his crush.
