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How to Stop Texting Someone When That’s All You Want to Do

It’s never easy to end any relationship, but sometimes you have to. And it can be difficult to know how to stop texting someone. We have your answers.

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Something happened. You two split up or decided not to talk anymore, but you’re having trouble with it. All you want to do is get on your phone and text them because that’s what you’re so used to and it’s what you enjoy. But you can’t, and that means you’ll want some help figuring out how to stop texting someone.

The kinds of people you should stop talking to

When someone is in your life, you think they will always be there. But occasionally, there comes a time when you cannot talk to them anymore. That is painful for a lot of people, but it’s just the nature of life sometimes.

[Read: How to stay away from someone and recognize the signs they’re bad for you]

So, who should you consider not talking to? Here are some examples.

1. Ex-boyfriends/girlfriends

Let’s face it – there is a reason you guys broke up, right? Whether the breakup was mutual or one-sided, it doesn’t matter. There has to be a good reason that one or both of you decided to end the relationship.

So, if you keep talking to them or texting them, it could very well continue the uncertainty. And plus, you don’t leave room in your life to meet someone else and move on. [Read: 12 reasons why the no contact rule always works]

2. Two-faced friends

The terms “two-faced” and “friends” do not go together. If someone is two-faced and talks about you behind your back, then that is not a real friend.

Friends should be the people you go to for comfort from the outside world. You shouldn’t be walking on eggshells around them. So, if you are, you should probably stop talking to them. [Read: Real friends vs fake friends and 21 ways to instantly tell them apart]

3. Narcissists

Narcissists are people with extreme self-involvement. In fact, they are so focused on themselves that they completely ignore the needs of other people around them.

The confusing thing about narcissists is that they can be very charming and charismatic people, so sometimes it’s hard to see their true selves at first. But if you’ve seen their true colors, then you should definitely stop talking to them.  

4. Other toxic and selfish people

You don’t have to be a narcissist to be selfish or toxic to be a person that you should stop talking to. These are degrees of toxicity. So, if you have anyone in your life that doesn’t make you feel good when you are around them *or talk to them*, then you should cut off all ties.

People should make you feel happy, not horrible when you are talking with them. [Read: Toxic people – 48 warnings signs and the best ways to deal with them]

Why it feels horrible to stop texting someone

For whatever reason, the two of you are no longer talking. You’re not supposed to text them and it must be for a good reason. Otherwise, you’d still talk to them. And that means texting them anyways can cause a lot of problems.

Not only can you make your situation even worse, but you’re only hurting yourself. You can’t text them for a reason and that might just be for your own good. So giving in and texting them anyway will only make things harder. [Read: How to know when to stop texting a guy and move on with your life]

How to stop texting someone when you know you can’t

It won’t be all that easy. If you’re looking for a quick fix to this, it won’t be found here. If you’re looking for a permanent fix that’ll be lasting, that’s what you’ll get out of this.

Just remember that everything is in your best interest. Even if you want to text someone, not doing so will be better in the long run. And here’s how to stop texting someone you know you shouldn’t be talking to for whatever reason.

1. Get rid of their number

Yes. Delete it and if you have it memorized, that’s a whole other issue. But for now, delete it from your phone and make sure their name will never pop up on it again. This is really the best way to stop yourself from texting them.

The less access you have to them, the better. And if you have their number memorized, at least deleting their contact information will stop their name from showing up and makes it harder for you to reach out. [Read: How to forget about someone you can’t have and pretend they don’t even exist]

2. Get rid of all their information on social media

Delete every single profile you have of them and you can even block them. This will prevent any of their photos or statuses from showing up because a mutual friend liked it.

Seeing their photos and name less often will help stop the impulse to text them. It also means you won’t have access to message them if you have the urge to talk to them after deleting their number.

3. Block their number if you have to

And if you really don’t think you’ll be able to stop yourself from texting them because you have their number memorized, block it. Call up your phone company and give them the number to block.

Doing this means you don’t be able to get or make calls or texts to that number. And undoing it is possible, but it’s a hassle to get in touch with the people to unblock it again. So just do this. [Read: Power trip – Is the psychology of blocking someone all about your ego?]

4. Stay as busy as you can

The less you think about texting them, the easier it’ll be to resist the impulses. And after a while of staying busy and living your life, you’ll suddenly realize you don’t even want to talk to them that much.

You’ll move on, basically. So stay busy with some friends. Go out and do stuff. Increase the amount of time you spend on your hobbies and you won’t even want to text that person anymore.

5. Go to your friends for help

They’re there to get you through the tough times, right? Just tell them you’re struggling and need some help. This will tell them they need to spend more time with you and maybe even take your phone away when you’re having fun together.

They’ll help distract you. And not only that, but they’ll also help remind you of the reasons you can’t talk to them when you’re struggling to remember yourself. [Read: How to know if someone misses you – 17 signs they think of you often]

6. Remind yourself why you’re not talking

If you can, tell yourself as much as possible why you can’t and shouldn’t talk to them. Maybe they treated you awfully and you’re better off. Maybe it’ll just make life harder for both of you if you stay in touch.

So tell yourself as often as you can that you’re doing this for a reason. It’s not just to torture yourself. There’s a legitimate explanation for why you can’t be in touch and it’ll make your life better. [Read: How to get over someone you love fast and not give a damn anymore]

7. Envision your life after this hard time

It won’t last forever. The pain you’re experiencing will go away in time. One thing that can help you figure out how to stop texting someone is to imagine your life once you’re over this bumpy road.

It’ll be a lot better. Picturing this and having that image in your mind will help you avoid texting them when it’s all you really want to do.

8. Focus on your hobbies

This has to do with staying busy so you can’t think about them. The less time you have to think about texting them, the fewer opportunities you’ll have to text them.

So focus on some hobbies. In fact, pick up a few more. Try new things. You never know; you could find something that’s a huge passion of yours and makes you forget all about talking to that person. [Read: How to stop obsessing over someone – The 22 things you MUST do right now]

9. Focus on other goals

Make some new goals while you’re trying new hobbies. Goals are a huge thing that take up space in our minds and that means you’ll have less space to think about texting that person.

So make some new goals and formulate plans to achieve them. Not only will that process take time by itself, but with more time dedicated to the goals, you won’t want to text that person as much.

10. Find other people to talk to 

If you’re not talking to that person due to a breakup or you both decided not to be with each other, finding someone else to talk to can help. Connect with someone new.

They can help take your mind off the other person and you can talk to them instead. Sometimes the urge to text that person isn’t just about them, but it’s about your need to talk to someone. [Read: How long does it take to get over someone? The exact timeline for mental peace]

How to not talk to someone who isn’t healthy for you

It’s definitely difficult to stop texting someone or talking to them. This is especially true if they have been in your life for a long time. So, to start out with, here are a few general tips for how not to talk to someone over text or in person.

1. Be honest and direct

You have your reasons for not walking to talk to someone. But, you may not be able to get away from them completely. So, in this case, you will just have to be honest and direct with them.

Politely and directly tell them that you no longer wish to speak with them anymore. Then give your reasons and stand firm in your convictions. Don’t let them talk you out of it. [Read: How and when to end a friendship if they’re toxic and holding you back]

2. Define your boundaries

If they don’t agree that you shouldn’t talk anymore, then you will have to define your boundaries and rules for communication.

If you have already given them the logical reasons for cutting off communication, then you will have to tell them the steps you will take to make sure that you don’t talk to them anymore. [Read: How to set personal boundaries and guide other people to accept them]

3. Avoid the person

If you see them on a regular basis because you go to school or work with them, then you might just have to go out of your way to avoid them as much as possible.

Take a different route to class or only walk by their cubical when they are at lunch. It won’t be easy, but sometimes it has to be done.

4. Don’t respond if they contact you

They may be really upset that you don’t want to talk to them anymore. If this is the case, they will probably start to stalk you a little bit over text, or even phone.

But just because they call or send you a text, that doesn’t mean you have to respond to them. The more you ignore them, the more quickly they will get the hint that you are serious. [Read: How to get someone to stop texting you – a step-by-step guide]

Benefits of not talking to someone

Although it’s never easy to stop texting or talking to someone, it can make your life a lot better. It might not seem like it at the moment, but in the long run, it will be worth it. Let’s talk about some benefits of not talking to someone or texting someone who is toxic to you.

First, and most importantly, you will be cutting out the toxicity in your life. Being in any kind of relationship with a narcissist or selfish person is no way to live. They will always drain your energy and make your life miserable.

So, think about how great it will be when you don’t have to deal with that anymore! [Read: How to get rid of a toxic friend – make them walk away for good]

You’ll also be proud of yourself. It’s not easy to get rid of a toxic person in your life. So, when you do, you should pat yourself on the back that you were able to do so.

And this will also raise your self-esteem. You will feel a lot better about yourself, not only because you had the courage to do this, but also because they won’t be around to drag you down anymore.

Finally, you will be free! You can now focus your time and energy talking to people who deserve your attention. People need to earn the right to be in your life, and now you can make sure that you only talk to others who make you happy.

[Read: Breakup advice – The breakup advice you need and the ones that can completely harm you]

Learning how to stop texting someone when you really want to talk to them can be one of the hardest things. Thankfully, we can help. Follow these tips, stick with them, and don’t give up!

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Preeti Tewari Serai
Preeti Serai
Preeti, the founder of LovePanky, is an eternal optimist and believer in the beauty of love and life. With an exhaustive experience in love, relationships, and ...