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How to Get Over a Broken Heart: Seriously, the Only Guide You Need

How to Get Over a Broken Heart

Want to know how to get over a broken heart? It may feel like the end of the world but if you want to move on, here’s a guide to kick your breakup’s ass!

Ah yes, you wanna know how to get over a broken heart, and quick! And you want your ex to burn and groan, while you float from one awesome adventure to the next. Well, if we’re fantasizing fairy tales, why the hell not?

But honestly, it’s all doable. There are some good ways, stupid ways, and wicked ways too, and we’ll get to all of them!

So, back to where we are, at our low point after a breakup. Now at some point in your life, or after your true love fizzles out, if not already, the proverbial “shit happens.” You break up. And all you really want to do after that is try and figure out how to get over a broken heart. If you’re still licking your wounds or crying your heart out over a freshly dead relationship, this may be an eye-opener.

[Read: How to survive the first 168 hours after a breakup]

Moving on with a broken heart

First things first, life can be a bitch at times, and break ups can be painful, but you’ve got to move on. Really, you DO know this deep inside, don’t you?

Your ex has moved on, even if they’re telling you they haven’t. So what’s holding you back? I know it’s hard, and it’s going to take a while. But there’s no happy ending when you try looking for that little ray of sunshine from your ex’s rear end.

And to help you along that journey of self discovery and acceptance of the fact that there are other more awesome fish in the sea, here’s everything you need to do after a break, laid out one step at a time for you.

How to get over a broken heart

Yeah, yeah… we all know your half of the story. You were so in love and your ex was the only person in the whole world that mattered to you. And now, your heart is split into two and you don’t think you can last a minute without your ex in your arms.

But have you realized something? Your sweet, loving ex is having fun, loads of fun. [Read: Are you starting to feel jealous of your ex?]

The break-up hasn’t bothered your ex much, and they’ve moved on. If it really was mutual love till the last breath of the relationship, then why did your ex actually walk out on you? Or why are you the one who seems to be suffering?

Okay, maybe the breakup was mutual, but most mutual break-ups don’t hurt like broken bones because the love’s fizzled out anyway. So if your heart aches, then it’s probably because you’re still in love with your ex. And gasp, the love is one-sided! [Read: How to cope when you’re not loved back by someone you love]

Deal with it and get over your broken heart

As difficult and painful as it may seem, you still need to understand the most important fact here. You’re hurting, and you really need to move on. Fast. Here’s every single thing you need to do after a break up to ensure a speedy recovery and a quick jump into happy land.

#1 GET IT TO DEFINITELY END. First things first, you know you’ve broken up. How?

Your partner has probably told you something like “…hey, I think we can’t go on, it’s just hard. I still like you a lot though… mumble mumble… it’s me not you… I’m really sorry…”

You know what, lines like these are the reason why your heart aches. Soft words make you feel like there could still be a chance for the both of you, maybe even in the far future, and you end up thinking about your old love over and over again.

What you need is a clear answer that they want to break up with you because they’ve had enough of your face. Try getting those words out of their mouth, and you’d feel a lot better, even if it hurts initially. Give them an opportunity to yell that they hate you, and never want to see you in their lives again.

Believe me, that’s a better option than dancing on hot coals trying to decide if your ex partner is still in love with you or not. [Read: How to let go of someone you love by hating them]

#2 NO SAD, SAPPY SONGS. Logical thought, this one. Music has a huge amount of control over human emotions, and there are few things that can immediately change a person’s mood as effectively as music.

Stop replaying Spotify playlists of shitty love songs that dehydrate you and leave you sitting in a pool of tears. Okay, you know what, do it if that helps you. Listen to all the sad songs you want for a couple of days, and wet yourself in tears.

You might find some weird sort of satisfaction by making yourself sad and pathetic, but that’s really stupid. Grow up and learn to control your emotions, however hard it may seem. And once the tears have dried up and you feel like a complete idiot for having cried over the asshole ex of yours, have a good maniacal laugh.

And now, force yourself to listen to fun, exhilarating music instead of sad, sappy ones. Now that’s a good way to start the healing.

#3 SHOVE THOSE DRINKS ASIDE. No alcohol at all. It’s easy to drown your sorrows with intoxication. It may help you forget your ex for a few hours, or you may end up crying over it with the bottle in your hands, and your head inside a porcelain god.

But the worst part comes in the morning, when you get up with a splitting headache, a lousy feeling in your stomach, Instagram-worthy depression, and a totally miserable and painful heartache. This will only make you feel worse and helpless, and right now, you need to feel like you’re in total control of your life. [Read: 20 signs of insecurity people can’t hide when they feel insecure]

#4 LOSE ALL CONTACT. After your true undying love has come to it’s untimely conclusion, you have to break all contact with your ex or you WILL go mad. Don’t beg or cry. Don’t drunk-text. Don’t social media stalk. Just unfollow everywhere, go offline if you must, and pretend they’ve never existed. Get the picture?

Your ex will find you if they want to. And even if you can talk your way back into your ex’s arms, it’s only a temporary reprieve. The worst part is that your ex already knows you want them back, and they don’t care about it. Take that as a sign, and walk away for good. [Read: 12 reasons why the no contact rule always works]

#5 AVOID YOUR EX’S HANGOUT. Don’t stray into your ex’s territory. You wouldn’t be welcome. Or you’d be welcomed and used. Either way, that’s not a good look. Worse, if you find your ex having a great time there, that would only make you feel terrible. Find new places to hang out, and new memories to keep your mind occupied.

Make a few new friends if you have to, anything to stop you from thinking about your ex’s painful memories. If any of your friends insist on maintaining contact with your ex, you may have to shut them out too, at least temporarily.

After some time has passed, when you feel you’re ready to move on, you can go back to living normally, and that means hanging out at these places and reconnecting with your mutual friends.

#6 DON’T GET LONELY. We all need time by ourselves after a traumatic event, but whatever you do, don’t let yourself be alone for too long.

Lose yourself in your phone, surround yourself with people again, do some people watching in a cafe, whatever floats your boat, and these will help immensely in getting over a broken heart. It may be difficult at first, but force yourself to be with people after you’ve spent an appropriate amount of time alone. This is the best thing that can help you overcome your pain.

#7 GET ACTIVE. Get your butt out and do something you used to enjoy doing, even if you don’t feel like it. I know that staring at the wall with mild fascination and feeling sorry for yourself is very appealing at a time like this, but this is another thing you need to simply force yourself to avoid.

Start a project and make yourself complete it. Start exercising *you wanna look sexier after the breakup, don’t you?!*. Do something, do anything that takes your complete attention and activity. [Read: What should you do after a breakup to feel awesome?]

#8 THROW AWAY ALL REMINDERS *OR HIDE IT*. Let your ex’s name and memories be erased from your life forever. Of course, it’s hard, but a good start is by flinging all your ex’s memories out your door *for the ‘gram, of course!*.

But really, you don’t have to throw them or burn it all, but definitely hide any gifts, or whatever reminds you of them out of your line of vision. [Read: The psychology of deleting pictures of an ex and what it says about you]

As a rule of thumb, if the object reminds you of your ex, discard it or hide it. This can save your sanity over the first few weeks.

#9 HANG OUT WITH YOUR OWN FRIENDS. Let your buddies give you a reality check on how your ex wasn’t all that great to begin with, and that there are more fish in the sea.

A bit of shit slinging and bitching can go a long way towards getting your head straight. We’ve all been shattered by love, and we may experience it again in the future. So there’s nothing wrong in being dumped, is there? So talk, and talk until you feel better. [Read: 15 reasons why your ex still texts you and stays in touch]

#10 WRITE A HATE LETTER. Okay, seriously, who writes a letter these days? My fingers hurt when I pick up a pen. But indulge me.

Sit down, buy a pen, find a piece of paper and write down what exactly you feel about your ex. Write a letter pouring out your negative and weepy feelings. Now read it again. Go away for an hour, come back and read the letter again. Read it again after a few hours. and then again the next day. At some point, you’re going to start to feel like a real idiot because your misery, anger and frustrations would turn into humiliation.

Once humiliation hits you, throw the letter away or burn it.

#11 REMEMBER THE BAD TIMES. If you feel nostalgic, then think of all the times your ex hurt you. That should do it. Remember the time they flirted with someone else? Or that time they lied? Or all those times they flirted with those Instagram thots?

Nobody wants those moments back. Use those thoughts to bring yourself back to reality.

#12 USE YOUR FREEDOM. Freedom is always intoxicating. There’s a world of activities you can partake in that you were never able to enjoy because your “other half” didn’t approve. So indulge. Follow people you want to on Instagram. Make new friends. Travel. Build a model ship. Go hiking. Eat that dish you love but your ex hates. Hang out with your pals. Play Cyberpunk 2077, bake something other than banana bread. Whatever floats your boat!

Do anything you want. Ideally, you should find an activity that allows you to release your anger and alleviate stress. And with all the free time, there’s always more time to stare and drool over hotties. Staring at good looking potentials is a great way to let yourself know that there are several good looking fishes all around you. [Read: 14 proven ways to forget an ex for good and move on]

#13 DITCH THE NEGATIVE PEOPLE. The last bunch of people on the planet that you need to hang out with, especially when you’re trying to figure out how to get over a broken heart, are negative people. They love telling stories of depression and sadness. They suck the happiness off everything and anything.

If a friend tells you that the break up was hard and there is nothing for you to do about it. Stay away from that friend.

Hang out with people who believe that a break up is only a step towards better prospects in your love life. Spend more time with people who are optimistic and fun loving, despite the circumstances. You’d find it a lot easier to look at your break-up as a small part of your life, instead of your whole life, when you’re having fun. [Read: How to stop having negative thoughts that drag you down]

#14 DON’T SHOW THAT YOU’RE UPSET. Very, very important! The last thing that you want to do is show your ex that you’re in the pits, while your ex is having a great time in the arms of someone else. Your ex may be having fun, but the only way to show that your life is great, even though you’re hurting inside, is by pretending to have a great time everywhere you go.

The stronger you make yourself feel, the better you’d feel, and the easier it would be for you to get over your heartache. Wallowing in self pity and begging your ex to take you back isn’t a good look, nor is it one that ever works. You’d just make yourself look a lot more pitiful in front of your ex and their new squeeze! [Read: 14 things to keep in mind when you bump into your ex]

#15 DON’T IDOLIZE YOUR EX. F*ck that piece of shit, not literally, of course! Your ex may have been prince charming or princess Jasmine in your eyes. But you know what, not everyone thinks the same about them. Your love for your ex is what made you overlook their imperfections and thought they were the best lay/love you could get. Smash those rose tinted glasses, get real, and take them off the pedestal in your head.

Stop idolizing them and treat them the same way you treat any of your other friends. Stop gazing lovingly at pictures of your old sweetheart. Seriously, it’s creepy AF!

If you want to know how to get over a broken heart, don’t jump to answer their texts or calls. And definitely don’t go out of your way for your ex. They no longer deserve even a minuscule amount of preferential treatment.

How to get over a broken heart with madness you may regret later

Oh, you want to do this bad, don’t you? You’re humiliated and you’re pissed off, you’re sad and you’re depressed.

Heck, you’re so messed up, you really don’t know what you are anymore! And each time you see your old flame giggling or hugging another squeeze on social media, it makes you wanna gag and go mad over the fact that they actually overcame your true love so fast. [Read: What are the signs your ex has moved on? 15 clues to know for sure]

On the other hand, you may hate them and yet find it hard to get over them, if your ex had been cheating on you.

At times like these, there are a few things you can do. But remember this, use these suggestions only if your ex has been a real ass, cheated on you, and walked all over you on the way out. Yeah, they are nasty and there’s no way you can take them back again! [Anne Freier on Medium: The scientific way to get over heartbreak]

These suggestions come straight from the little devil that’s hiding inside your head, and they are pretty brutal. As long as you stay on guard and do this for the pleasure of hurting them, things will be just fine. Maybe even great!

#1 GO REBOUND! Most love experts are against a rebound relationship. It’s true, because jumping into a new relationship as soon as one is over is the wrong way to find love. I’m not denying that either!

But you need some special attention for another potential to get back at your ex. If they can hook up with someone else, why can’t you? Go ahead and hook up with a sweet ass and have fun. Show off your new hookup to your ex and let them know that you really don’t give a damn about them.

Watch your ex-sweetie bristle with anger each time you wrap your hands around your new hottie, and believe me, it can feel so good! It can feel even better if it’s someone your ex lover hates.

But one word of caution, just don’t fall in love with your new sex buddy. Use them to have fun, and don’t get too involved for your own good. [Read: 13 rebound sex questions to know if you’re ready for it]

#2 GET FLIRTY AROUND YOUR EX. Too clever to go for a rebound, or too scared that you may actually fall in love with the wrong person? Not to worry, skip that step.

Opt for wild flirting with any new cutie that you meet, especially when your ex is around. Laugh and have fun, flirt like mad, and make sure your lost love sees all of this. This can give you a load of satisfaction and help heal the scar of your previous love faster than anything else.

BUT just don’t overdo it, or you’ll just appear pathetic and desperate, which would make your ex feel great and you, worse! [Read: 30 wicked ways to make your ex jealous and win their attention]

#3 SEDUCE SOMEONE YOUR EX IS JEALOUS OF. Want to get really dirty in love? Then what better way than by seducing someone your former flame is terribly jealous of?!

Make a move that will pay off in more ways than just sex. Just think, if your ex finds out you’ve been fishing in familiar waters, it will drive them to the point of hysteria. This can be quite gratifying.

But do make sure the word reaches your ex’s ears. If there is anything that hurts your ex’s ego, it’s you sleeping or getting physical with someone they’ve always been jealous of! [Read: How to make your ex jealous and leave them begging for forgiveness]

#4 NO MORE SECRETS. Now let’s think, are you ever going to hook up again with someone who threw you in the dirt and stomped you all over? I think not. So what do we do about getting back?

Firstly, remember there’s no more sweet love between both of you. You hate your ex, so get back in ways that are way below the belt. She’s got hairy nipples? He’s got a prick smaller than your little finger? Then it’s time the world knows all about it!

Humans are sadistic creatures. If you want pleasure out of your miserable life, you can get that by making sure your sweet ex feels worse than you do. That would definitely cheer you up. But do make sure you don’t have any physical abnormalities that are worse than your ex’s before you open your mouth. The idea might just backfire!

Guilt may set in after you realize how mean you’ve been or after you get over the break up, but hey, if you want revenge badly right now, you’ve got consequences to pay, in this case, a bad case of guilty conscience!

#5 HOOK UP. Now this isn’t hard to understand, so go right ahead and hook up! Get out there, make eye contact, flirt, reactivate your Tinder, hook up and go wild. As someone once said, the best way to get over someone is by getting under someone else, right? Eh, what can I say? Wrong? Spiraling out of control is definitely the wrong way to get over someone, but if it makes you feel better, even if you’ll regret it later, then go wild!

Forget the fact that you’ve got a broken heart inside your chest. Hearts heal best when we’re not thinking too much about them!

Fixing a broken heart

If you want to overcome the pain and get over a broken heart, you need to do it one bit at a time, and replace the pain with happy thoughts that you collect every day, by meeting new people, enjoying new experiences and trying new things.

Convince yourself that the break up was the best thing that had happened to you. Just don’t sit in a corner and mourn. Why give your ex an opportunity to show how weak you are without them?

Have a laugh and have fun. Life is way too short to hide that smile off your face. You really don’t need an ex to tell you to be happy or sad in your own life, do you?

[Read: Why your ex still crosses your mind from time to time]

Knowing how to get over a broken heart is easy because there are quickfixes you might regret later, and painfully slow ways that hurt. Your best bet is to find a balance that works for you, and work your way through the healing stage.

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34 thoughts on “How to Get Over a Broken Heart: Seriously, the Only Guide You Need”

  1. Teresa says:

    I find it hard to get over my ex and my hart hasnt healed because the one thing that I read is I have a 3 year old child by my ex so how does that work.

  2. Lenka says:

    Right now I’m a big mess thank to my ex. He broke up with me in the end of December, but we still have to live together until I move to my new apartment (which will be in one week, I hope). For me it looks like he’s happy, enjoys parties with co-workers and friends and doesn’t give a shit about what happened. I, instead of doing the same, am sitting home, crying, asking myself why it had to happened, and slowly getting mad. Here I finally read some useful advices how to cheer myself up, thanks!!!

  3. yesha says:

    I don’t know how to move on for 7 years relationship he is my 1st bf. All memories still fresh in my mind.. I don’t now how to start everytime i wake up before I sleep memories coming back in my mind… How should I start?

  4. Renee says:

    What if you simply suspect that he wants to break up with you…I got the dreaded ” We need to talk” text. Am I jumping the gun?

  5. Rachelle says:

    I’ve been with this guy for 8 months,i found out 2 weeks ago that he was seeing other girls behind my back. I broke it off with him than took him back. He’d never text nor call,i always did. Recently he told me he’s fallen out of love and isn’t interested in calling or texting me. My heart sank,i hung up on him,since than he’s never text or called me. Every time a text message or call comes in i keep hoping its him. I just can’t seem to get over him.

  6. Princess says:

    These men who cannot value their partner they just not worth the crying over it hard but eventually you will get over them……Gals its their loss not yours!!!!! x

  7. broken angle says:

    We broke up after 5 years relationship. I moved to another city for sometimes. We broke up 3 days ago and im a total mass. I crashed my car to the wall because I was crying while i was driving. I am still in love with him and loved him more than anything in my life. In 5 years we did everything together. I have millions of memories with him. In the restaurants, streets, shopping mall and everywhere. We shared everything together. I didnt eat and sleep for days. I lost more than 8 pounds. I used to see him around me day and night but now he doesn’t even answer my phone calls. 5 years is not a joke its a life. I dont know what to do right now I can’t even go back to Vancouver. I just ask god to help me. Maybe I wasnt good enough for him. I hate all guys anymore and dont want to start anything over again. I just want him and I wish I could go back to him one more time. I wish I could hold him into my arms just for the last time. Please people if u love each other dont break each others heart. It’s so hard to end a long term relationship it doesn’t worth. Dont be selfish and give each other chances million times

  8. shit happens says:

    My GF broke up with me a month ago after 6 years of relationship, I loved her more than anything in my life, those are good tips, I used them and it worked, do not listen to sad songs, try to avoid everything that reminds you about him/her (I know is hard but is not impossible) and the best tip is keep yourself busy, if you go to school/work focus on it, don’t be lonely in your house and hang out with your friends or family. This is been working for me, also I’ve been trying to date a girl I like and feels good, even if she rejects me it’s ok because it keeps my mind busy.

  9. natasha says:

    my boyfriend broke up with me last month,i felt dat this is da end of da world but after following these steps im feeling much better now

  10. JaneD says:

    This is a topic that hits very close to home for me. My bf cheated a couple of years ago, and I took him back. At first, I thought about the pain that he caused me, almost every day. I would go to bed sad and wake up in the morning, mad. I would look in the mirror and cry because I didn

  11. Clayton says:

    Two years in my first relationship. She insists on “staying friends” but I seem to screw up every time, making this all hurt worse. I need to let her go, but how without hurting her too?

  12. Graham says:

    Clayton,

    It’s always a nice thought to remain friends with an ex, but if it’s causing you stress, you definitely need to end it completely. You don’t have to be rude about it, just slowly edge her out. Always be too busy to do anything and try to date other girls. If you still want to be friends, then you must be completely over her. Nothing would be worse than sticking around and seeing her with another guy, only for you to get super jealous. Occupy yourself, try not to think about her, date other girls, just do anything to keep your mind body. While you should always strive to improve yourself, this is the best time to start if you haven’t already.

    Last of all: Always be nice and civil, but be aloof! She is no longer your girlfriend, so don’t give her any special attention. I’m assuming she is the one who broke it off.

  13. Graham says:

    I said mind body, I meant mind busy!

  14. nick says:

    my wife left me 20 months ago i still love her she says there is nobody else and doesnt trust me to do the things i say i will for her to come back i think you i right i should try and severe contact with her it is easier said than done when you love someone

  15. zaf says:

    hi ! me n my ex were know each other past 17 years almost (since our childhood)! we were friends before then we married. now we have broken up. i am trying to forget her but i cant. all day goes in thinking abt her and every single night i see her in ma dreams. i tried to make some new friends n relationship but unfortunately i could nt. she also tries to contact me to knw abt me. either i am in good condition or bad condition. i also deactivate my facebook page as well but she wants me to keep it on. i just want to forget her or if my ex can come back then how can we back together. as she hasnt shown any attention apart from some senti songs on her fb page. please reply n give me some advice

  16. JC says:

    Hi , I’ve been dealing with a rather complicated relationship , the entire time I was with my ex I had the feeling she was still in love with her ex boyfriend (baby daddy) and it hurt it was always in the back of my mind that she still had feelings for him, and I felt like I was the rebound our relationship was on the rocks and we were Always fighting about stupid things like social media and her past I made a huge mistake last week , I was recently let go by my Ex gf about a week ago the mother of my 3 month old baby boy, I was caught with pictures of other women in my phone, and that broke us up , not that I was looking for another woman but she always put me down and made me feel like I wasn’t good enough she always compared me to her ex bf which made me resent her now that were broken up I feel like everything is my fault but at the same time think about how she would make me feel, idk how to deal with something like this it’s my first time in a situation like this !

  17. sttesmoon says:

    My boyfriend and I broke up just 2 weeks ago and I have to see him every day.
    He was my first love and I still love him and he says he still loves me. We were not happy together and there still are so many things unresolved. I keep thinking that one day when we separately solved what ruined our relationship we can get back together but even though he says that he still loves me he doesn’t seem to be grieving as much as me and he has already decided that a future together it’s not possible.
    Is it much to ask for the person that says that loves me back to at least hope that one day we will be back together? It breaks my hurt. I miss him so much and if I could go back would change everything. I’ve never imagined that we would end this way. I feel like I’m bot going to be able to love someone like that again.

  18. Mary says:

    This feature has been very helpful to me.I knew that there were people that have been through what I am going through but didn’t know where to find them until I found this website.
    Thank You

  19. Tanisha says:

    My ex & I first met when we were in school. He lived all the way in brisbane and I lived in ipswich so was long distance sort of. Found out I was pregnant with my first child when I was 14 had my son when I was 15. We stayed together and yes had our ups and downs and I would go crazy and then we’d make up pretty much everything a couple does. After 5 years of happiness, ups and downs i fell pregnant with our second child and am now 20 years old. I moved in with his parents me and my son moved in with them and was all sweet at the start until I hit the end of the trimester, was 30 weeks pregnant and I went off. I know that I shouldn’t have, yeah it was probably my hormones or not. Anyway he then suddenly out of the blue started talking bout this girl he works with. And it didnt happen just once he kept saying stuff like I would try and do something to see if she noticed and then suddenly start to put on heaps of deodorant when getting ready for work every day, had mint spray and chewing gum and would say that he gets paranoid just incase his breath stinks when customers come to ask for something. Then suddenly after a fight we had, from that day after things got awkward and awkward like he was pulling away but I could sense at the back of my mind something wasnt right. After a week of all awkwardness, I confronted him and said do u have feelings for someone else and he said i don’t know. Then after that he couldn’t look at me, couldnt hug me or touch me anymore he pulled himself right away. And then that same night he went for a shower and cause he used to want me to go for showers with him all the time I went in that night and he just kept looking at the ground and not me couldn’t look at me straight or even kiss me when he used to. Next day I moved back to my mums me and my son and enrolled him at school down my way. His father wasnt impressed that I up and left and he said he was going to work it out with me but I ruined it. But I felt it was over that night and didnt feel comfortable their anymore. He brings up the past alot and wha we’ve been through how I treated him but only put that part in what I did to him not what he’s done to me. Couple days after he rings and asks whats going on and I said I thought u said it was over and he said i thought u said that. Still couldnt look at me or hug me or anything. Couple days later he says I can’t do this anymore, I’ve given u so much chances I gave u it all and it was never enough. It killed me knowing that he wanted to end it and that it was over. I blamed myself for everything and what I put him through. I fought for him knowing he had just told me he had feelings for his co worker the girl he was talking bout all the time. He said that she reminded him of a female version of himself, that hurt knowing he has feelings for someone else and I couldn’t bare the pain of that. I sent texts saying i love u me and our children do he would send back but just oh that’s nice, acting normal but in a different way at the same time. After fully ending it, he said maybe we will get back together in the future. That day later he got on Facebook and added her and has been forking out $200 and going out with her. And on her page it would say on a date with my man and cause I keep in touch with his family as we had been together for 7 years and their so used to me, his mother is still hoping for us to get back together anyways she would say hes gone out and it just says right their that hes moved on, left me at 8 months pregnant, with our son who he dearly loved and our son loved and was so close to him, left us for someone he said he had feelings for and move on fast. My heart was broken after seeing that and fully getting closure. He has moved on, left me with the kids so he can have a good time, new stuff that he never did with me cause of having our son to look after. Yeah we went out and was happy but it confuses me still knowing he said all those things, blames me for everything and can just move on tha quick after everything we have been through. I’m starting to get stronger and see the light. I have given up calling ringing him i said from now on the only time I will contact back is if it has to do with our kids. I thought he was the person I fell in love with, he changed and his family can see that too. Not the person we all thought he was,

  20. teresa says:

    After 10yrs my boyfriend leaves me for another women he wont even talk to me I’ve been living from place to place i lost my job and he could care less that what i xnt understand is why his being like this he promised me he would never leave me but he did its so hard vor me to move on i also have a son who is 7yrs old i lost my right because of a situation wen i decided to take his charges even when it wasn’t my stuff but I did it fir him because i loved him so much that i would have done anything for him never did i think he would LEAVE me for someone else

  21. S says:

    I was together with my ex for nearly 2 years. She ended up with another woman (yes I am a woman too) who I introduced her to in order to help get her a job to stay in the England as she was here on a student visa from Dubai. She was my best friend, we did everything together, I loved her more than myself. 1 year later it still hurts but not as bad. However 1 year later I still check her instagram from time to time and see her with this girl she only knew through me and feel so humiliated and so angry I’ve never felt anger like it in my life almost to the point I’m scared of myself.

  22. Sayo Naso says:

    Am so HAPPY about the story I av heard here. But my gf left me nine mouth if dating. feeLing so heated. Dont just no what to do every day wen wake up eally in the her thought always come my heart cnt just control the thought of my HEART. Am dieyin I dont reallyno wat to do gain she really mean the whole world to. Love is wicked honestly.

  23. Phil B says:

    My x gf broke some news to me a month a ago that I’m trying to deal with
    Her male friend come from Canada to visit her she took 2 weeks holidays to spend with him
    She planned this behind my back
    It’s funny I’m not a jealous person the fact that she betrayed my trust
    That’s what hurt me
    Anyway I knew she always left me behind when she was around her friends seen this numerous times
    It’s time for me to learn from this and move on

  24. Frances says:

    My bf of 8 years left me for a young girl. The only thing I can come up with is he fell out of love with me. He doesn’t care about me or our 6 year old daughter, all he cares about is fresh meat. I’m moving on and taking it one day at a time. I know my worth & I’ve always been told “another woman can’t take what doesn’t want to be took”. There is no need for me to try an win his love back bc true love never comes back void. Keep your head up ladies, I know I will.

  25. Sezza says:

    I came out of a 6 year relationship, we had travelled Europe for 6 months in that time, moved into houses, moved States, he got into mining, I studied my nursing diploma, he brought a house within a weekend which I had nothing to do with, he booked us a nice holiday away together, after 6 years my family thought he was going to pop the question, things were going smoothly we became God parents to my beautiful neice, and then as soon as I finished my nursing degree he left me!! Said he was done! worst part with no real reason, I had to live with him for 8 weeks while I found a place to live during this time he slept with a prostitute… 1.5 years later I still have so many unanswered questions. Even though Ive been in a relationship since I wonder what goes through a men’s head.. Now currently single after having my second boyfriend leave me when times got tough, we were together for 12 months I had to move States to be with my mum who got diagnosed with terminal cancer .. So he decided to leave me then too!! Blokes can u please not fool a chick!!!!!!!!! Esp if your not commited, breakup earlier and do her a favour !!!!

  26. Bo says:

    “If a song that was special to you and your ex comes on, turn it off or throw the player out of your window.”
    “…THROW THE PLAYER OUT THE WINDOW.”

    great advice. it’s clearly the kind of calm and mature stuff you should be feeding to people who are in an insecure place and looking for a healthy, positive & balanced influence from a dependable source.

    I mean come on. who writes this stuff?

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