A good relationship is important and can bring a huge amount of love and happiness to your existence. Understanding what makes a good relationship helps you form healthy attachments through love.
Relationships don’t have to be perfect all the time. In fact, there is no such thing. However, they should be a positive thing in your life. And something you are always glad you have, with a willingness to work at, because, even when times get tough, you know it’s worth it and that the person you are in a relationship with is a key part of your life.
You already know you want to have a great relationship, but what makes one? There are a lot of things that go into making a relationship good and healthy. And you have to be willing to work at that. [Read: The 14 communication steps to a better relationship]
A good relationship isn’t one that looks shiny and picture-perfect on Instagram. A good relationship is healthy. It is honest. It brings you happiness. There will always be fights and rough times, but for the most part, a good relationship is made of happy moments.
A great relationship should add happiness and joy to your life, not make you feel stressed or anxious. A good relationship is made of two complete people working towards a future together as teammates. Some days one partner might be stronger than the other, and that’s okay as long as they both put the effort in to make their bond last. [Read: 15 signs of a healthy relationship]
Often, when in relationships, we get a little off track, and that’s okay. We don’t need to throw in the towel at the first sign of things going a little wrong. However, sometimes it is a good idea to sit back, take a moment and reflect on what exactly makes a good relationship and how we can work to improve ours.
Not everyone values the same things in a relationship. Knowing what you find important and deal breakers you have and making sure your partner knows them too is a good start. That way, you stay on the same page and hopefully have a great relationship.
So, what makes a great relationship? Let’s take a look!
As time progresses, it’s very easy to get stuck in the same old routine and forget to appreciate one another. And we stop making an effort. Remember the early, flirty stages, the great dates, the attention you showered on one another, the butterfly feeling. You don’t have to be like that all the time but go back there occasionally. [Read: How to bring back the romance and passion in a relationship]
It’s important your partner knows what you want *not just in the bedroom!*. They are not a mind reader, so just make life easier for both of you and tell them. We often assume our partner should know us so well we don’t have to verbalize our needs. That is never the case.
Open up and share what you want and need from them, so they aren’t guessing.[Read: How to communicate with your partner and end the roller coaster]
Make sure, early on, your expectations of the relationship and behavior within that are crystal clear. It’s important to make sure you are both on the same page, otherwise hurt, upset, and anger occur later down the line.
Set boundaries. Let each other know what monogamy means to you. Talk about what you expect from yourselves and each other.
Keeping things from each other and lying to one another always backfires. You will probably make yourself feel really guilty too. Just keep things honest, even if it is hard or you made a mistake.
Take responsibility and talk to your partner. They are much more likely to understand bad news coming from you than someone else. [Read: Why you should tell the truth, even when it hurts]
Good communication is key to any relationship. Make sure you always take the time to communicate your feelings to your partner. If you don’t, you end up feeling distant from them.
Talk about things and really comprehend. Don’t just blurt things out and expect them to understand, Ask if they have questions or need more clarity. Communication is key, but understanding is even more important.
Make an effort to really get to know your partner and make sure they do the same to you. Doing this brings you closer together and helps you understand one another more deeply.
Just because you’ve been together a while doesn’t mean you know everything. Keep asking questions and getting to know each other. [Read: 12 questions to ask to know if they’re the one]
People aren’t perfect, and they will make mistakes. The more forgiving and accepting you are, the better!
Your partner should always respect you, but if they did something wrong and took responsibility and are working to be better, forgiveness shouldn’t be something they need to do penance for.
Everyone has something that isn’t so great about them. Be it an annoying habit, baggage from an old relationship, or other insecurities. Accept your partner is flawed, and you are too.
No one is perfect. Everyone has a past. Accept theirs, or it will haunt you. [Read: Immature things couples fight about]
When you talk to your partner, don’t just go through the motions. Actually, engage with them and listen to what they say to you.
Ask questions. Pay attention. Listen to them how you expect them to listen to you.
Just because you’ve been together for a while doesn’t mean you shouldn’t go on dates anymore. Make time to go on a date at least once every week or so. You’ll appreciate the time together. [Read: 22 things to do on a date that aren’t Netflix and chill]
Intimacy is what plays a big part in what makes a good relationship. Being intimate is really important, so don’t let this part slip away.
You shouldn’t become roommates when you live together. You are still a couple. Take time to cuddle, make small touches, and keep the romance alive.
Don’t just stay in the same tired old routine. Get creative about how you spend your time together. Try to take classes together. Go out in groups. Try new things.
Sometimes you need a break from your daily lives to relax and recuperate. Even if it is a staycation, take time to relax together. [Read: 10 types of vacations that create romance and bring you closer together]
If you are in a good relationship, you probably see a future with this person. Discussing the future with your partner not only makes sure you are on the same page but also that you want the same things too!
Talking about kids, moving, and travel plans are important. If you put it off, you could be putting off a really important subject. If you aren’t on the same page in years, then you may have wasted both your time.
Every couple fights. It’s not necessarily a bad thing. But how you handle those disagreements is important. Either resolve your arguments or if you can’t, just accept that and let them go. [Read: The right way to fight in a relationship]
You aren’t going to have the same opinion about everything. Sometimes you will get on each other’s nerves! That’s just part of being in a relationship. The sooner you accept this, the less it will bother you.
When you say sorry, don’t do it just for the sake of it. Your partner will know, and it only causes more upset. Truly apologize when you hurt them or do something wrong and take responsibility. This is how you treat your partner with respect and have a good relationship. [Read: How to apologize and say sorry to a lover]
A good relationship doesn’t mean living out of one another’s pockets. Do things separately. And you’ll feel healthier and have time to miss each other. You need to maintain your individuality and confidence in yourself outside the grounds of the relationship. Make sure you are hanging out with friends, family and have hobbies of your own.
If you make a mistake, the sooner you admit it, the better! Don’t be sucked into your ego. It is so easy to deny when you’ve done something wrong. It takes a lot of strength to own up to things. That is what makes you a better partner and your relationship a great one.
Being patient with your partner is important. There will be times you feel frustrated, but if you bite their head off at every little thing, you’ll always be bickering. This ends up being pretty destructive. [Read: How to be patient in a relationship]
Being real about what a relationship involves and accepting that sometimes it is just hard work helps you through the tough times.
A little affection and kind words really make all the difference in developing a good, healthy relationship.
Make sure your partner feels loved and cared for. And you should feel the same from them too! [Read: 25 romantic gestures that will make your lover melt]
Respect is a huge part of any successful relationship, so make sure you have respect and feel respected by your partner.
Support one another, help one another achieve what you want to achieve. Be one another’s biggest cheerleader and fan!
Quality always trumps quantity. So, make sure the time you spend together is well spent. Sitting on your phones in the same room is not the same as having a solid and meaningful conversation. [Read: How much time should couples spend together?]
It’s easy to as that your partner feels the same just because you are happy and have no I same. Keep checking in with one another from time to time to make sure you both feel the same way.
Being in a relationship requires loyalty and trust. Be loyal to your partner and trust they will do the same.
There will be times where you make sacrifices for your relationship. Good relationships involve a lot of giving, and there will be a healthy balance as long as you are not doing all the giving or all the taking. [Read: Some quick tips to make your relationship better]
Laughter really is the best medicine. It releases endorphins and makes us feel great, so make sure you have lots of fun together!
[Read: From crush to a companion: The 12 stages of intimacy]
So, there you have it, 30 signs of what makes a good relationship. As long as both you and your partner want to be together and are willing to make your relationship the very best it can be, you know you are in a great relationship.
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