Relationships with a demiromantic can be quite a challenge, but if your patience prevails, you find their love can be deeper than what others offer.
Are you the type who’s slow to develop a romantic attraction towards a person? So slow that it will take years and many moments of shared experiences for the slightest hint of attraction to ever occur to you? No, you’re not the cold-hearted, unloving person they accuse you to be. You’re just a demiromantic.
What is a demiromantic?
What exactly is a demiromantic? A demiromantic person is someone who doesn’t easily experience romantic attraction like normal people do. In a way, demiromantics are late bloomers who only develop romantic attraction to a person after forming a substantial emotional bond with that person through a less intimate relationship, such as a friendship.
The 10 traits that make you a demiromantic
From this description, you can already tell that it’s not easy to fall in love with a demiromantic. But there’s more…
#1 There’s no such thing as “love at first sight.” Demiromantics are characterized by their lack of primary attraction. These are the typical circumstances that make normal people get attracted to someone: attractive physical features, personality, and social skills to name a few. As a result, demiromantics do not fall in love with a person at the first date, let alone at first sight. [Read: 15 special ways true love sets itself apart]
#2 Demiromantics prefer to stay friends first. As mentioned, demiromantics fall in love only after the fact. And only after knowing and sharing a bond with a person through friendship. Think of this as courting if you would.
#3 Shared experiences over flowers. If one is determined to be with a demiromantic, the trick is to form a deep bond with them through shared experiences rather than plying them with material things or flaunting your best physical qualities. Demiromantics fall for people whom they have a good friendship with, whose true personality they know like the back of their hand.
#4 Demiromantics play hard to get? False. One common misconception about demiromantics is that they play hard to get by making someone go through a long courting process. It is easy to see it that way from the other person’s perspective. But the fact that demiromantics are very slow to develop romantic attraction makes this false.
People who play hard to get already have that attraction and are just making sure of their pick. On the other hand, demiromantics may have not gotten to the attraction phase just yet.
#5 They abhor sex? Also false. As mentioned, demiromantics may be slow to develop that romantic spark. That doesn’t mean that they are not in line with their sexual desires. Sure, demiromantics will engage in a one night stand, but getting into a serious romantic relationship takes quite a while.
#6 Demiromantics have very few past romantic relationships. Since demiromantics take their time to get in a serious romantic relationship, there’s a high chance they have very few past romantic relationships. [Read: How to know when you feel the real thing]
#7 They maintain longer relationships. For demiromantics, it is not unusual for them to have longer relationships than average. Since they tend to build their current romantic relationship from a long friendship, it lacks the pitfalls of an average romantic relationship. Compared to people who just knew each other for a short period of time.
There is better understanding about each other’s personalities, more maturity in handling problems, and they have a natural bond of best friends, the formula of a long relationship.
#9 They can stay single for a long time without being bothered by it. Due to their nature, demiromantics are not troubled by the “being single pressure” that long time single adults tend to have. They can be off a relationship for ten years with only pets as their company yet still be cool about it.
#10 Demiromantics are happy without a relationship. To put it simply, romantic relationships are not something they would want to pursue actively. If it comes, then they put it to the test with a friendship phase. If it doesn’t come, then it’s nothing to be worried about. That’s just who they are.
A demiromantic is a person who falls in love after a substantial emotional bond has formed between them and the other person. They like to take it slow. They are not playing hard to get nor are they cold, unfeeling, asexual individuals. They just want to take their time.
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Paul Timothy Mangay
Paul aka Morty is a keyboard-pounding cubicle-dweller based in Manila where he occasionally moonlights as a writer for anyone in need of his mediocre word-strin...