Every new relationship is a whirlwind of sunshine, peaches, romance, and all that beautiful, rose-colored jazz. However, once the fire fizzles and the dust settles, there may come a point when there seems to be not a lot left to discover or even talk about. That’s why we are here to give you some of the best conversation starters for couples.
You already know each other pretty well, and you may even pride yourself on being able to read each other’s minds and complete each other’s sentences.
But now that you have settled into the afterglow, things are comfortable, and even more so – predictable.
This is the time when things can get pretty boring, and so you two must make that extra effort to go deeper into each other’s minds, principles, and beliefs. You have to engage in deeper conversations that go beyond the motions, the mere pleasantries, and the romance.
[Read: The honeymoon phase and how to calculate how long it’ll last for you two]
So how do you find more subjects to talk about when you seem to have discussed all there is to know about each other, and everything else under the sun?
Check out these conversation starters for couples who are just getting serious—sit down and try out these topics—and maybe even take your budding relationship to a deeper, more profound level. [Read: How well do you know me? 40 fun questions for couples to grow together]
Reminisce the best times you had and by doing so, you might be able to do it again.
This allows you to think about each other in a positive light and appreciate your good qualities.
This can be about a fulfillment of a fantasy, some role-playing, or just a simple, quiet, and romantic night you shared. [Read: The top 50 kinky sex ideas worth trying at least once in your lifetime]
This allows you to go deeper into each other’s experiences and understand how past situations changed you both.
Discuss if you have similar plans and goals. However, if you have differences, talk about how you can work together to support each other and complement your goals with the other. [Read: 50 relationship questions to test your compatibility instantly]
Discuss your plans, needs, wants, and how each other fits in the picture.
How would things be if the two of you didn’t meet each other? Would either of you be miserable, happy, in trouble, or successful?
For sure, you have first impressions about each other that were proven wrong as you progressed through your relationship.
Living together brings more discoveries—some you’d rather not know, and others you hope you can un-see.
At this point, you may have gone on a few vacations. Picture a dream destination—and maybe work on making it come true. [Read: Couples bucket list – 20 things every couple needs to do]
Be real and honest. This is the ideal time for casual criticism, but make sure it’s constructive.
Know what excites and thrills each other romantically. [Read: 30 naughty question for couples to keep the spark alive]
Look at opportunities to complement each other despite your differences, and see how your similarities can grow your relationship.
What do you find sexy about your partner?
No need to play coy and modest—say it now or forever be silent! [Read: The top 16 male fantasies and dirty desires every guy has in mind and the top 17 female fantasies that arouse almost all women]
Having good relations with each other’s family members can contribute to a harmonious relationship.
This is another opportunity to show your appreciation for your partner, and also a way to encourage desirable actions.
You may know each other very well sexually, so this is a way to talk about the special things your partner does that make you feel good in bed. [Read: 20 things guys desire in bed but won’t ask for and why they hide these thoughts]
Describe random, out-of-the-ordinary, or ordinary things that turn you on about your partner.
Take an inventory of your relationship and how you have changed through the months or years.
Talk about the time you first met each other and the early days you dated. Do you still consider those deal-breakers such a big deal?
Fighting is inevitable, but if there’s a way you both can stop it from getting blown out of proportion, then great. [Read: Relationship arguments – 23 dos and don’ts to remember]
Discuss how you can both stop the fight and make up. What makes your heart melt when you get angry, and vice versa?
Are there things and confessions you still want to say?
So maybe you can hound them for any additional info and secrets about your partner.
Is there a particular activity you like to do that helps you unwind, recollect, recharge?
Do you like bingeing on Netflix series, or listening to 90s boy bands? Dancing along to Ariana Grande in the shower? [Read: 33 guilty pleasures that are best kept a secret]
Would you like certain celebrities to play you? What’s the movie title and soundtrack?
Describe what makes you feel vulnerable the most.
What successes and triumphs do you think wouldn’t have been/be possible without the help of your partner? [Read: 15 rules to be a good partner in your relationship and wow your partner]
Who knows, that perfect day may happen more often!
Create the craziest, most outrageous, and most must-do things you should accomplish as a couple.
Recall the things you did when you were a kid and feeling that puppy love feeling.
Come on, this is something you should already talk about if you’ve been together for quite a long while. [Read: 30 naughty questions for couples to keep the spark alive]
Is there a favorite aunt or an interestingly eccentric grandparent that you think would get along well with your partner?
You can talk about your parents’ endearing qualities, and this question can lead to more stories about family and childhoods.
Discuss milestone moments in your lives. Would you do them over or just relive them once again? [Read: Relationship milestones and 15 dating highlights you should be proud of]
Talk about the highest and lowest moments of your life.
See if you really know each other well: What 3 things do you think they would bring if they were going to be stranded on an island for the rest of their lives?
Do you need tons of money, a high position in the corporate ladder, or become a CEO of your own company? What can make you say you’re indeed successful in your individual endeavors?
This is an important conversation to have, especially if you’re getting serious in your relationship and even considering marriage.
This gives you a chance to discuss the unspoken boundaries in your relationship. [Read: How to set boundaries in a relationship – 15 rules for healthy love]
Discuss your personality characteristics and how they are similar or different.
This will give you a good guide for what to do when it happens.
With this question, you can talk about levels of jealousy.
You can talk about the importance of physical attributes and attraction. [Read: What is pillow talk? How to use it and 14 cozy conversations in bed]
This will give you a chance to discuss finances and equality in the relationship.
With this, you can assess more of your sexual expectations.
You can talk about the importance of conversation vs. silence.
What would you do differently and what would you do the same?
This will show how adventurous, risky, and shy they are. And how much money means to them.
You can discuss any paranormal experiences you might have had or would want to have. [Read: 20 intellectual conversation topics that ignite meaningful communication]
This is a great ethical discussion and a test of commitment to one another.
You can also discuss whether or not you would design what they would look like too.
This will let you get a feeling of what qualities they find most important.
Now you can discuss why they feel that way and what they can do to change their life now.
This gives you an opportunity to talk about bucket list items you should be doing together. [Read: Conversation games – 15 best talking games for fun and lots of laughs]
The answers to these questions could get interesting!
You can talk about the boundaries for this – who they would and wouldn’t give one to.
This is a tough one, but it gives you an idea of their ethics.
You can assess their willingness to take risks – or not!
This question could get sticky, but you can have fun teasing each other about your answers. [Read: The best deep conversation starters to impress anyone, anytime]
You might want to set boundaries with this one – don’t talk about yourselves! [Read: The 87 best truth or dare questions that’ll make anyone horny just hearing them]
This will let you know if beauty or intelligence is more important to your partner.
You can also expand this conversation to talk about what other disabilities they would have over others – if they absolutely had to.
This question will let you know if they have a tendency to hate people or hold on to resentment.
This is a pretty gross question, but can be fun to hear your partner’s answers. [Read: 40+ meaningful conversation topics to get through any discussion]
Discuss all ways to be famous – from celebrities to book authors, and more.
This will tell you how much your partner would like to know the future and their own expiration date.
You can talk about people you know – dead or alive – and anything they cannot live without.
If your partner says no amount of money, then ask them what their limits would be.
If you’re in a new relationship, this will tell you a lot about their comfort level in social situations.
[Read: 60 deep and fun get-to-know-you questions for a new romance to peek into their soul]
These conversations are a perfect guide and some of the best conversation starters for couples. Use them to grow closer, and understand each other a lot better. And of course, make the effort to remember the answers as well!
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