How to Send Sexy Nude Selfies and Not Get Into Trouble

With hackers, unsecure servers, and downright prying eyes, sending nude photos involves a lot of risks. Here’s what you can do to minimize them!

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Are you thinking about sending your boyfriend a frisky little photo on his phone? Are you sure you want to do that? Sending nude photos to your partner can spice up your relationship, but it does have its drawbacks.

Paris Hilton, Kim Kardashian, Pamela Anderson – any of those names ring a bell? Along with dozens of other celebrities, these women ended up having their private moments distributed all over the globe without their consent. Before you start planning on putting your own photos out into the web stream, you need to consider a few things first.

Why do people send nude photos to each other?

A relationship encompasses a number of things and one of these includes a couple’s ability to keep things interesting. There are many ways in which two people can express their love for one another, but technological advances have allowed us to make things a bit more interactive.

Communicating in a relationship is not isolated to sending sweet nothings through emails, texts and phone calls. A couple can also choose to send each other sexier messages, and some of those are in the form of nude photos or selfies.

A lot of people find it hard to do this, because they’re afraid that their photos might land in the wrong hands. For those who are brave enough to try it, they do so for a number of reasons:

#1 Keeping things interesting. When two people have exhausted all their efforts in trying to surprise their partner, they will try new things that are a bit riskier, just for the thrill and excitement. [Read: 10 steps to reignite the lost spark in your relationship]

#2 Long distance relationships. When two people in a relationship live far away from each other, they need to find ways in order to keep the sexual part of their relationship alive. Sending nude photos can sate the need for intimacy, when there is no other choice. Some will even engage in those activities while calling each other using their webcams.

#3 Seduction. Even if a couple does not need to spice things up in their relationship, they can still decide to send nude photos to each other, just to leave their partner hot and bothered. [Read: 20 seductive questions to ask a guy you like]

#4 Insecurity. One of the motivations for sending nude photos is a person’s need for validation. Some will send their partners nude photos, just to gain a positive reaction to make themselves feel good.

#5 Memories. Why were photos invented? To treasure your memories, of course. The same goes for nude photos. A person can choose to send it or ask for it, just to keep something sexy to remember a person by.

If any of these reasons apply to you, then it is okay to send a nude photo to a person you care about. But you have to be careful. Giving your sweetheart a sexy photo seems sweet, but you are risking your privacy in the process.

What are the risks when sending nude photos?

No matter how secure you feel about the programs you use to send a photo, it does not mean that it is a fool-proof system. Here are some examples of how your private photos can be compromised:

#1 When the program you are using experiences a malfunction, and the files get leaked.

#2 If someone is good enough with computers, they may be able to infiltrate your storage system if they want to.

#3 When someone else knows your password, they can easily get into your gadgets and transfer the photos.

#4 When you accidentally send the photo to someone else.

#5 When you accidentally post the photo on a public platform.

How can you keep your photos safe from prying eyes?

You can’t forego the advantage of technology, just because you are scared of the risks involved. You can still send your partner private photos, but you have to be careful about it. Here’s how:

#1 Know your phone and computer. You need to know the ins and outs of your own gadget, so you will be able to control the storage of your files. Make sure that your files are not automatically uploaded online without you knowing.

#2 Delete everything immediately. Some people forget to do this, thinking that no one will look at their gadgets anyway. Stop thinking like that. Anything can happen, and that includes someone being able to access your gadgets without you knowing.

#3 Double check if you have deleted everything. Check your online storage accounts and your phone’s backup memory storage as well.

#4 Do not take a picture of your face. If worse comes to worst, you can deny that you are the person in a nude photo, if your face can’t be seen. No matter how similar your body type is, as long as no one else has seen your naked body before, they cannot confirm if you are the owner of said photo. That is, unless you have a unique birthmark or tattoo that’s visible in the photo.

#5 Take the photo against a blank wall. A lot of people can be identified because of the backgrounds of their nude photos. Your friend might recognize your wallpaper and any other object included in the photo. This includes sheets, pillows, toys, etc. Those of you who watch “How to Get Away with Murder” will know this!

#6 Take a photo of your face in front of a different background. To avoid photo comparisons, do not take a photo of your face against the same background you used to take a nude photo.

#7 Avoid taking photos of parts of your body that are recognizable. Someone who knows you can identify your nude photo if they recognize the marks on your body. It can be a mole, a tattoo or even a scar.

#8 Video call instead. This is your safest best. The usual programs don’t usually record video calls. No one can distribute your photos, if the photo does not exist.

#9 Do it the old fashioned way. Use a Polaroid camera. Enjoy the photo while it is in your possession, and then store it in a safe or vault. It seems extreme, but your body is precious. It deserves the utmost security, and should only be seen by other people when you allow it.

#10 Make sure you trust the person you are sending it to. Although it sounds exciting to send nude photos to someone you like, you need to be sure that you trust this person. If you are not emotionally invested in each other, you cannot predict what will happen to your picture once you send it. [Read: 12 crazy ways an ex can get revenge]

Aside from that, a break-up can cause a person to act out and expose the photo to other people. That is why you need to explicitly trust the person you are sending a nude photo to.

If you think that sending nude photos is a stupid and deplorable thing, think again. It is simply a new way for people to connect with each other on an intimate basis. You should not judge anyone who gets caught doing it. Instead, you should do them the courtesy of not looking at those photos at all. If you were in their place, wouldn’t you want others to do the same for you?

[Read: A guide to taking the perfect naked selfie]

Keep in mind that sending nude photos is a concept not a lot of people understand yet. Most people will judge you for being so callous about your privacy, but always remember that you own your body and you have the right to do anything you want with it.

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