How to Tell Someone You Like Them and Win Them Over

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Wondering how to tell someone you like them without getting rejected? Use these 12 ways to express your feelings, and make them like you back too.

Want to tell someone you like them without actually saying a word about it to them?

Sometimes, you wouldn’t realize you’re falling for someone until it’s too late.

And all of a sudden, one fine day, you may just wake up and realize that you’re in love with this person.

Should you then tell this person that you’re interested in dating them?

Or should you just hold the thought and wait for a miracle?

[Read: Is it a crush or are you experiencing limerence?]

How to tell someone you like them

It doesn’t matter where you are, love can blossom when you least expect it.

You may fall in love with a good friend, or even with someone you just exchange glances now and then.

And that’s the easy part.

But expressing your interest in dating them isn’t all that easy.

Even if you’re a wonderful person whose worthy of dating this friend, you need to ease your way into this person’s heart without coming across as a rude shock.

[Read: Sure signs both of you are more than friends already]

Read their mind before popping the question

Most people say that you shouldn’t hold your emotions when you start liking someone, and that you should reveal the feelings in your heart immediately. But that’s not always the most effective way in winning someone over and getting them to date you.

Never say it straight out. Always try to read this person’s mind and know the answer even before you ask the question. It’ll save you from a painful rejection and the chance of ruining a friendship.

If you realize you like someone and want to date them, play it slow and don’t reveal your intention to date them until you find that this person is already interested in you too.

Take your time to express yourself

This is particularly important if you already know this person you like pretty well. If you don’t know this person you like or haven’t been introduced yet, try to make a good impression when they notice you. The first stage in telling someone you like them is impressing them as a dating potential. [Read: 13 oh-so-awesome ways to impress the guy you like]

Wait for reciprocation

Whatever move you do, don’t be hasty. That’s the biggest mistake most people with crushes do. They’re either too impatient or too overconfident, and they end up ruining all chances of ever dating the person they like, even if they had a great chance to begin with.

You’ve got nothing to lose by waiting for a few weeks just to be certain that you’re not misinterpreting the signs. Always be certain that this person is showing some reciprocation before asking them out or telling them that you like them.

12 ways to tell someone you like them without expressing your mind

If you want to win someone’s heart without ever letting them know that you’ve already fallen for them, use these 12 steps and wait until you see the reciprocation.

But at the same time, if these steps aren’t reciprocated, you’d just end up appearing creepy. So take your time, build the right scenario, and you’ll truly understand how to tell someone you like them, and in all probability, even win over their heart in no time. [Read: 15 very obvious flirting signs between a guy and a girl]

#1 Let the excitement show. Every time you see this person, your heart probably skips a beat with excitement. Instead of hiding how you feel, express it. Make it obvious to this person that you’re excited to see them. Wave out and flash a big smile, and let your eyes sparkle with delight. A happy expression is always contagious, and over a few days, this person may start to reciprocate your enthusiasm too.

#2 Smile and stare. Do you ever feel like just staring at the person you like *especially when they’re busy and can’t notice you staring*? Use this to your advantage. Smile dreamily and stare at them now and then. It’s even better if you get caught staring, as long as you turn away immediately as soon as they see you.

By building the flirty eye contact, you’re bound to make them curious, and before you know it, this person may start staring at you more every now and then too. [Read: 10 subtle eye contact flirting moves that always work]

#3 Compliment them. If you want to let someone know that you’re interested in dating them, you need to let them realize that you’re looking at them as a dating potential. If you find something attractive about this person, be it their laugh, the way they speak, or their attire, tell them about it. [Read: How to compliment a girl and make her blush]

Complimenting someone is the easiest way to start flirting without appearing like you’re trying too hard. When you compliment anyone about something, it always leaves the person thinking about your compliment fondly. And that means they’d be thinking about you too! [Read: 25 compliments for guys they’ll never forget]

#4 Flirt with them. Every time it’s just the both of you, and no one’s around, say something cute or flirty to them. You can start off by complimenting them to begin with. But always remember to avoid flirting with them when others are around. It would make them feel awkward, which would push this person away from you instead of bringing them closer.

Flirt only when this person is alone with you. It’ll give them a chance to flirt back without worrying about someone overhearing the conversation. [Read: 30 subtle, obvious and sexy flirting moves that’ll always work]

#5 Use the power of touch. The sensation of touch has the power to make any of us feel weak with sexual attraction, and almost always, we can’t help it. The next time you’re with this person, don’t pat them on their back aggressively.

If you’re pointing something out, gently place your palm over theirs. If you want to take a look at something they’re showing, casually place your arm around their lower back. These are just a few places that will definitely send a shiver of sexual excitement down their spine. [Read: How to flirt by touching in all the right places]

#6 Start speaking over the phone. If you want to tell someone you like them and make them like you first, you need to build a closer bond with them. Call this friend over the phone now and then, preferably at night. As a few days pass and both of you have a lot of interesting conversations with each other, this person will start to get addicted to speaking with you even without realizing it!

#7 Text each other. Text an occasional goodnight text or a good morning one to start with, and now and then, wait for your friend to text you first. Once both of you are comfortable with texting each other often, stretch the texting game longer. When both of you create a bond while texting, this person would start liking you and even look at you as a dating potential. [Read: 7 naughty texting games to have fun all night long]

#8 I miss you. If you don’t meet this friend on a particular day, or they couldn’t make it out with your group of friends, send a miss-you text or tell this person that you missed not having them around when you’re speaking over the phone. It’ll definitely make your friend feel very special, and they’d feel closer to you too.

#9 All your attention. Give this friend all your attention when they’re around. It’ll make your friend feel more special and dependent on you. And when you aren’t around, they may even miss your company because no one else makes them feel so special and cared for. And the best part, seeing both of you together all the time may also make all your friends feel like both of you are a couple already. And if your friends feel that way, it’s only a matter of time before one of them expresses it in front of this person.

#10 Lingering goodbyes. This is a perfect way to build the romance in your budding relationship. Each time you hug this friend goodbye, don’t let go immediately. Let your hands linger just a bit longer before you slide it off this person’s back. Even if no one else realizes it, your friend will definitely notice the difference in the way you hug goodbye. And they’ll surely feel good about it. [Read: How to build sexual tension and make someone attracted to you]

#11 Drop a few hints. Every now and then, when you’re flirting or just spending time with each other, say something sweet out of the blue. Tell this person that you like being around them, or tell them that you have such a wonderful time when it’s just the both of you.

But as soon as you say it, change the conversation and talk about something else. Don’t wait for an answer just yet or you may put this person in an awkward spot. Instead, leave them thinking about what you said. [Read: 6 flirty and sexy ways to get a guy to kiss you when you want him to]

#12 Ask this person out. If all goes well and you’ve been using these steps on how to tell someone you like them to the tee, your friend would already start liking you a lot. Now all you need to do is turn the friendship into a romantic relationship.

Ask your friend out for coffee or a movie one evening. Make it seem like it’s no big deal and you just want to hang out because you have nothing better to do. And at the end of the date, express your mind without using any mushy words. Saying something like “I really had such a good time with you today” or “we should do this more often” will surely lead to more romantic dates even if both of you are still friends. [Read: How to kiss a friend accidentally and get away with it]

Saying it out loud at the right moment

Once both of you start meeting each other often, both of you would already be dating each other even though you haven’t given the relationship a name. If your friend doesn’t like you in a romantic way, they would probably start distancing themselves always from you within the first few steps. So make sure you pay attention to the steps and use them the right way.

And once both of you start going out on dates now and then, both of you may already feel like a couple even if neither of you talk about it. So when the right opportunity presents itself after a particularly romantic date, tell this special someone exactly how you feel.

[Read: Cute ways tell a special someone that you’re in love with them]

Use these 12 steps on how to tell someone you like them, and you’ll definitely be able to win their heart and make them fall for you. But remember to play it safe and slow and wait for reciprocation with every step along the way.

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10 thoughts on “How to Tell Someone You Like Them and Win Them Over”

  1. Stormy says:

    Hi. I really like my best friend but i don’t know how to tell him. And i think he likes someone else. Would it be awkward to date him if he liked me…. How can i ask him out to homecoming thats coming up????

  2. James says:

    if he KNOWS you like him then say would you like to go to homecoming with me…just dont consider it as a date…and then wink or smile…
    or maybe a …i want to go to homecoming but i dont have anyone to take me…can you go with me…but this is a LAST RESORT….try to hint at it when you speak to him….wish you the best of luck!!!

  3. Waka Warren says:

    My friend and I are REALLY good friends!… like one day, I said I would walk around with her before class starts and I was soooo mad at my self because I DIDN’T SAY A WORD! I was just so nervous and I didn’t want to embarras myself infront of her and her friends :/. How could I get the courage to man up and talk to her enthusiasticly? And people have said that dating a really close friend would be “awkward”… is that neccessarily true?

  4. Nat says:

    I recently broke up with my partner of 10yrs (we have kids). His cousin and I get on great and started sleeping together ( no one knows) he’s only had one girlfriend (it was long term) and she f**ked him over big time) they have split for ages, we are Compatable get along great but says he’s never gonna have a relationship again. How do I change his mind?

  5. Anna says:

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  6. Sarah says:

    Hi i have a crush on a boy and i really like him and all but how do i date him hes my cousin by marriage I’m really in love with him

  7. Sam soulcrusher says:

    hii ..i m from india .. i like a girl who is my classmate too..she is too good in studies but i m average ..i really love her but never had enough courage to propose her ….she knows that i like her ! plz suggest me what to do . i will be thankful to u forever …………..
    THANKS 🙂

  8. rose says:

    I like this guy and i told him how i feel now he ignores me and doesn’t talk much once he even hugged me and we nearly kissed what do i do?

  9. awtsa says:

    I have never had problems getting someone to like me. I have never had problems getting any girl to bed either. I guess you can say I’m quite the lucky guy but actually I’m not really lucky. I worked hard to be what I am now, a really hot guy. I just work on my body, work on my mind as well and look pretty for the ladies. I was blessed with great genes because I’m actually the perfect guy, except there’s no perfect woman for me. I just fuck and let her go every single time. I never commit and they say that I’m a true catch because I have brains and brawn, The type of man you really need in your life because just having a pretty boy who can’t pay the bills is like having a liability in your life that you have to pay more and more every month but you won’t really be getting your money back. If you hook up with me, I can guarantee you a once in a lifetime experience to be with me. It’s awesome that I even get girls to really remember me because I’m a tattoo artist as well on the side and I give them all free tattoos every time I’m done with them. I would sign my name on their inner thigh and then it’s that. I get them really drunk before I do that because most of the time, they won’t agree to it if their sober but I take pictures and I have like over 100 collections of women that I tattooed. If you’d like to see it, just reply to this comment and we’ll take it from there. See you on the flipside!

  10. Try says:

    There was this guy I’d been friends with for a little while and I’d developed feelings for him. I kept it to myself for some time, but one day I just felt courageous and decided to talk to him about it. I told him how I felt and left it open for him to respond and share his thoughts. He ended up not feeling the same as I did, but I still don’t regret taking initiative like that. He was kind to me and explained that he just wanted to be friends and hoped that we still could be. I enjoyed his company, so I was more than fine with remaining friends. With another guy I had a very similar situation: we were friends, I had feelings for him, I decided to share that with him to see how he felt. He actually felt the same and asked me out on a date right there. We were together for a while. In the end, it’s certainly not easy to put yourself out there, but it can feel pretty good sometimes, even if you do get ‘rejected.’ Some guys might be jerks, which is unfortunate, but that’s on them. Just be proud of yourself for trying!

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