10 Casual Relationship Rules to Keep It Just Casual
Do you like casual relationships more than a romantic one? Keep these 10 casual relationship rules in mind if you don’t want to ruin it anytime soon!
Does the thought of having a no-strings-attached relationship excite you?
A committed relationship is like a warm blanket of comfort.
But at times, all you want is the reckless rush of a rollercoaster ride that gives you a high and a racing heart, makes you feel dazed and confused, and leaves you back on square one at the end of it all.
As good as it sounds, true love isn’t always the answer for everyone.
Sometimes, even if you’re in a perfect relationship with a wonderful partner, all you’d want is to experience the single life and see just how green the grass is on the other side!
What is a casual relationship?
A casual relationship is a kind of relationship where there are no clear rules or long term commitments towards the relationship.
Both the people involved in the relationship are just in it for the moment, until something or someone better comes along.
Simply put, casual relationships are an outlet to satiate sexual and emotional desires without the rules and boundaries of a regular romantic relationship. [Read: How to seduce a friend into having sex with you]
To many, this kind of a relationship may seem blasphemous or just wrong, but in reality, many people are indulging in this kind of a relationship all the time.
Why people like casual relationships
It’s easier to get into one and get out of one, and it also gives a person the chance to experience the lusty side of what the world has to offer, without being tied down by the rules of society or a serious relationship.
If you’re young and don’t want to get tied down by a one partner romance, it’s always easier to just get into a casual relationship with someone you’re attracted to. You move on if you find someone better, or stick around until one or both of you get bored and drift away. [Read: 6 signs to recognize a girl who wants to hook up and 12 ways to hook up with her]
The logic behind the idea of a casual relationship seems easy to comprehend, but it’s not always a practical idea. So if you do want to experience a casual relationship, make sure your partner has the same expectations from you too! [Read: How to arouse a guy and make him want to hook up with you effortlessly]
The transition from romantic relationships to casual relationships
Guys and girls who are easily swayed by the idea of a casual relationship are usually the ones who have been in a long term relationship *and are now bored*, or the ones who have experienced a bad breakup even after they gave it their all to keep the relationship together. [Read: 15 common reasons why most people get bored with their relationship]
At some point in time, they realize life is just so much easier and fun when they’re taking it easy and flitting from one lover to the next, instead of committing wholly to someone who may eventually dump them anyway!
10 casual relationship rules to keep in mind
When you get into a relationship and want to keep it casual, it’s always best to make your intentions clear from the beginning. Or you’d have one confused lover and one frustrated lover in the relationship, and that’s never going to bode well for the relationship, even if it’s only a casual one.
Here are 10 casual relationship rules that you always need to keep in mind if you want to keep the relationship strictly casual and intend to avoid any kind of serious commitment to your casual partner.
#1 Don’t get confused with your emotions. It’s easy to believe you’re falling in love with your casual partner. If you think you’re seriously falling for your partner, avoid them for a few weeks and see if you still miss them. If you can move on or don’t see a need to have this friend in your life for reasons beyond casual sex, you’re just experiencing a case of mild infatuation. [Read: 10 types of love you’ll experience in your lifetime]
#2 Don’t be controlled. A casual relationship involves two people. But almost always, one person has complete control over the other person. The dominant partner decides when to hook up, and when to avoid each other.
If you find your partner too dominant or controlling, chances are, you’re falling in love with them and agreeing to anything they say only because you can’t bear the thought of losing them or staying away from them. If you feel controlled or dominated, walk away before you get your heart broken. [Read: 20 reasons why a guy may never ever truly love you back]
#3 Set the ground rules. There are no hard and fast rules in casual relationships. But that doesn’t mean there are no rules at all. A few basic rules could go a long way in making the relationship work for both of you. Ask your casual partner these questions once you establish that a casual relationship is what both of you are looking for.
# Are you okay with being non-exclusive and dating other people at the same time?
# If one of us falls in love with someone else, can we end things abruptly?
# How many times do you think we should meet each other in a month? *helps both of you understand each other’s expectations*
# Are we going to keep this relationship a secret from everyone else?
# If it’s not working out for you, will you tell me about it the very instant you feel it?
Asking each other these questions can help both of you discuss the awkward things that aren’t easy to talk about. You may think these questions are just awkward and not very important, but within a month or two, you’d wish you had the answers to these questions already! [Read: 25 friends with benefits rules you need to remember]
#4 Don’t say that you love this person. It’s very easy to feel intensely attracted to someone you’re having sex with and spending time often. If you feel like saying ‘I love you’ because they make you feel so good, hold that thought. Saying those three words will take your relationship to a whole new stage. Or it may even end the relationship for good.
#5 Be truthful about your feelings. If you don’t think it’s working out, talk to your casual buddy about it. If the sex is boring or the together times are awkward and empty, chances are, you’re losing interest in this person.
On the other hand, if you wake up thinking of this person or slip into bed fantasizing about this casual partner of yours, you’re probably falling in love with them. Talk to your friend and ask them if they’d ever be able to see this relationship as something beyond a casual relationship. And when you get your answer, you get to make a decision too. [Read: How to tell a special someone you love them without losing them]
#6 Talk about it if one of you crosses the line. A casual relationship is full of invisible boundaries. You don’t ask about your casual partner’s dates or their other hook ups. You don’t have any control on them or the relationships you get into.
But the few things you do have complete control over are when your partner oversteps the boundaries, talks about love, or tries to control you or the people you meet. If you feel threatened or awkward at any point of time, you need to mention it so your partner knows what’s on your mind.
#7 Manipulation. Don’t fall for manipulation, and don’t manipulate your casual buddy. Don’t say things that can confuse them like “I can’t imagine not having you in my life, but I do want you to meet other people and fall in love with someone else…”
You’re just screwing with their mind and confusing them. So are you falling in love? Are you telling them to meet start dating someone else? If you want the casual relationship to work out, be truthful and avoid manipulating your partner. [Read: 18 signs you’re falling for an emotional affair and don’t even know it!]
#8 They want a relationship, but just not with you. It sounds rude and harsh, but at times, it’s the truth and you just have to accept it. When you’re in a casual relationship, both of you are just using each other until a better person comes along.
So don’t have high hopes from this kind of a casual romance. Instead, have fun, take it easy and keep your options open instead of having just one long term exclusive casual relationship because it defies the whole point of being in a casual relationship until someone better comes along. [Read: Why you should never make someone a priority when you’re only an option to them]
#9 Emotionally unavailable relationship. A person who wants a casual relationship is usually the kind of partner who is emotionally unavailable for a serious relationship. They want all the benefits of a sexual relationship, without the baggage of being emotionally available to their lover.
Many bad relationships or a bad breakup could make some of us lose faith in love for a while, and it’s in these moments that people go looking for casual relationships instead of a committed one. When you get into one, don’t be surprised to see that your partner is completely emotionally closed off from you. [Read: 10 reasons why guys and girls get the fear of commitment]
#10 Don’t get trapped. One of the biggest things you need to be wary of in a casual relationship is getting trapped in the relationship. You may not realize this until you’re ready to step out of the relationship.
Each time you try to end the relationship or drift away from your casual partner, does your partner try to get closer to you even if they were the one who was drifting away in the first place? If you’re in a casual relationship with someone who tries to cling to you or trap you by pretending to fall in love with you each time you want to get away, you’re probably dating a selfish person who just wants your attention all the time, even if they don’t care about you!
Casual relationships aren’t for everyone. But if that’s what you’re looking for, keep these 10 casual relationship rules in mind and follow them. It’ll make all the difference between a happy casual romance and a complicated mess that’s hard to get away from!