How to Tell When a FWB Is Catching Feelings: 20 Signs They Like You

So you’re having fun with your fwb for some time, and you’re wondering how to tell if a fwb is catching feelings for you? Here are 20 signs to know. 

How to Tell When a FWB Is Catching Feelings

Do you even need to know how to tell when a FWB is catching feelings? A friends with benefits *FWB* relationship has no commitments, no attachments; just fun and games. We all go into a friends with benefits *FWB* thinking it’ll be a casual relationship that will last as long as we want it to, with no strings attached, of course!

You’re enjoying not having to commit to someone, and you get sex. But what happens if they end up falling for you? You know what they say – it’s all fun and games until someone falls in love.

[Read: How to start a friends with benefits relationship the right way]

When a FWB ends up falling for you

The thing is, we can’t control our emotions. No matter how much we want this kind of setup to go on forever, it’s going to end at some point.

Physical intimacy is one of the most intimate and vulnerable connections you can have with someone, which means someone will always end up falling for the other. It could be you, or it could be them. It may not happen today, but it’s usually only a matter of time.

There’s no way to predict our emotions or even control them. So at this point, you shouldn’t be shocked if they do end up having feelings for you.

The bigger question is, what are you going to do about this? Will you turn your friends with benefits relationship into a dating relationship, or will you end things for good? 

[Read: How to make him want a relationship after being his FWB]

How to tell when a friend with benefits is catching feelings

We know what you’re going to say, I don’t have feelings for my FWB. Maybe you don’t, but maybe you also do. You don’t know how they’re feeling.

It’s impossible to be intimate with someone without developing feelings for them over time. We’re human. If you never develop feelings for your FWB relationships, maybe you should check if you’re a robot or psychopath! *or just damn good at keeping emotions out of sex!*

If you feel something has changed, talk about it with them. If they like you and you’re not interested in anything more, it will cause hurt feelings and drama. So, it’s best to cut things before they get messy. The only way to know if they will get messy is to know for sure about how to tell if a friend with benefits is catching feelings or not.

 [Read: How to have a casual relationship without getting hurt]

1. Something has changed

You don’t know exactly what’s changed, but you know something is going on. Unless your FWB has completely stopped talking to you, then they’re probably falling for you. And it makes sense. Why shouldn’t they fall for you? You’re sleeping together, developing some form of connection, and probably feel comfortable together.

It’s not impossible for them to develop romantic feelings for you! If you want to determine the signs a FWB is catching feelings for you, then observe if something has changed recently in their behavior towards you. Are they behaving a bit more like a partner and a bit less like a friend? [Read: How to tell if someone likes you without asking them]

2. They text you without reason

Usually, FWBs keep texting to a minimum. You should really only be texting to arrange a hangout. But, if they’re texting you to talk about your day or mundane, casual things, it’s a sign they’re into you.

The only reason they should text you is when you’re about to get together and have fun. If it’s anything other than that, start wondering why this might be. They could already be falling for you! [Read: How to tell if a girl likes you over text: 28 signs you can’t miss]

3. They hold eye contact

You have sexual chemistry, so when it gets down to having sex, there’s going to be eye contact. But outside of the bedroom, your partner isn’t going to be gazing at you. Unless… they’re interested in you.

If they keep staring at you or observing you, these are subtle signs of a crush. Eye contact is more intimate than you think, so if they engage in eye contact outside the bedroom, this isn’t just about sex for them. Remember, body language is everything. [Read: How to read the signs your casual relationship is getting serious]

4. They try to see you more often

Unless they’re addicted to having sex with you, they won’t try to make time to see you more often. And if you hang out more and don’t have sex each time, well, then they like you. It’s as simple as that. 

You only spend time with the person you like or are attracted so if they find silly excuses to spend time with you *such as running errands or even pretending to forget something at your place*, they’re into you! 

5. You don’t always have sex

This is a massive indicator of how to tell if a FWB is catching feelings! Really, sex is the entire foundation of your setup so if you’re not always having sex, what are you doing? Sometimes you’ll grab a coffee or a bite to eat.

Other times, you’ll watch a movie at your place and nothing sexual will happen. This sounds like a relationship rather than a FWB. Why don’t you just date already and stop the foolishness of this relationship you pretend to be casual? [Read: 11 delightful things I learned from no strings attached]

6. They get jealous when you mention other people

If they weren’t into you, they wouldn’t get jealous when you mention other people. You two are FWB, nothing more. So what’s the problem? The problem lies in their feelings for you!

Jealousy is one of the obvious signs a FWB is catching feelings for you, so observe them carefully. Do they get jealous when you’re on your dating apps, or maybe they get frustrated when you’re talking to another guy or girl. Maybe the reason behind their annoyance is because they’re clearly jealous and wish it’s just them you’re talking to. [Read: How to recognize the signs of jealousy in someone & guide them out]

7. Their friends know you

There shouldn’t be any introducing of friends or getting together with friends if you’re just FWB. You’re having fun, so why do their friends know you? More importantly, their friends seem to know a lot about you! *maybe because they can’t shut up about you to their friends!* 

8. The hangouts are becoming more date-like

There should be nothing romantic about your hangouts with your friend with benefits. If you want to determine how to tell if a friend with benefits is catching feelings for you, then observe how your hangouts are going these days.

Are they slowly transitioning from bedroom romaps to date-like hangouts?  Maybe you’re going out for dinner together, walking around the city, or hanging out with each other’s friends. This isn’t sounding like a FWB, but more like a romantic connection!

9. They cancel plans for you

Hello! If someone is canceling their plans to see you, that’s a huge sign they’re interested in you. Unless you blow their mind in bed *which we’re sure you do*, no one is going to cancel their plans to hang out with the FWB, literally, no one. 

They’re clearly canceling their plans for you because they’d prefer to be around you instead. *major crush alert!* [Read: 15 signs your casual partner is just leading you on and taking you nowhere!]

10. They spend their free time with you

Of course, they see you when they want to have sex, but if they weren’t into you, they wouldn’t waste any more of their time. Even on the days you’re not supposed to meet up, they try to initiate to see you.

Why? Duh, because they like you! Quality time is one of the biggest signs a friend with benefits is catching feelings for you. 

11. They tell you they miss you

It’s one thing when they talk about a specific sexual act they miss. But if they’re telling you they miss you, well, that’s much different. You only miss someone you like and adore, which is exactly the case for you.

The fact they miss you isn’t sexual as much as it is romantic! [Read: How to know if someone misses you: 17 signs they think of you often]

12. The kisses are different

When you used to kiss, it was more of a warm-up to sex. But now, kisses have changed. They’re passionate, intimate, and emotional. You probably think – how can you tell someone’s feelings through a kiss? Trust us, you can definitely tell. [Read: The 15 types of kisses and the meaning behind their smooch]

If their kisses used to be fast and urgent and they’ve transitioned into slow and sensual, that’s how to tell if a friend with benefits is catching feelings for you. Their feelings are no longer empty ones but full of lingering emotions they’re trying to express without words. [Read: How to tell if a kiss means something way more – 16 clues to look for when they kiss you]

13. They hint they’d be into a relationship

Now, they may not have told you so boldly, but they’re dropping hints every now and then. Maybe they’ve told you they’re not opposed to being in a relationship or wouldn’t mind dating.

Why else would they boldly tell you this if they weren’t interested in a relationship with you? These subtle hints are clear indicators they’re interested in dating you. [Read: 12 signs he wants to be exclusive and committed to only you]

14. Your conversations are deeper

Deep conversations? Personal topics? These are things you do on a date, not in a FWB relationship! They ask personal questions and talk about feelings.

They’re doing this because they want to create an emotional connection with you, because they like you. If you’re looking for the signs a FWB is catching feelings for you, deep conversations are definitely one of them! [Read: Rules to follow to keep a casual relationship casual]

15. Try to hold your hands in public

When you are walking around the city, they’re working in some PDA. Now, we all know this is a big no-no when it comes to FWB relationships. But if they like you, they want other people to see you are together.

It doesn’t get any more obvious than this. *and if you’re still doubting, then you’re clearly just in denial!* [Read: The signs of attachment in a friends with benefits situation]

16. They put their best foot forward around you

Whether it’s being more careful around you, showing off their talents and abilities, or just being their best selves, they’re clearly trying to get your attention and impress you.

If you’re wondering how to tell if a FWB is catching feelings for you, this is a clear one. If you like someone, it’s normal to attempt in capturing their attention by putting your best foot forward *and they’re probably doing the same thing to you!* 

17. They pay more attention to you

Watch out for signs like communicating with you more, being more considerate of your wants and needs, or just trying to make you happy. These are things you only do with a crush, not a FWB relationship!

It’s almost a silent declaration of love, the way they put your needs above their own. Why not just date already? *they’d love nothing more than that!* [Read: How to know if a girl likes you: 12 signs that won’t let you down]

18. They only sleep with you

The thing about FWB relationships is that you’re not limited to just sleeping with one another. If they’ve stopped sleeping around with other people and continue to do so only with you, ask yourself why.

If the reason is they just got bored, why didn’t they get bored with you? You’re not exclusive to one another, so this is a strong sign on how to tell if a FWB is catching feelings for you. 

19. They initiate relationship conversations more often

it’s not normal to talk more about your relationships and even your personal life with a FWB. Since your setup is strictly casual and sexual, there’s no need to mix fun with your personal life. [Read: The best deep conversation starters to impress anyone, anytime!]

So if you notice them initiating conversations about your romantic life, such as asking about your past relationships and what you like in a partner, it’s time to wonder why this is the case. These types of conversations are one of the signs your FWB is catching feelings for you. 

20. They show romantic gestures

Hand holding, simple gifts, getting you coffee, cuddling, or even giving you a blanket when you’re cold are indicators that they’re into you! It couldn’t get any more obvious than this.

A FWB is supposed to be nothing more than casual so if they’re romantic towards you, they’re showing how they’re falling for you. 

[Read: The 30 sweetest romantic gestures for everyday life]

So, is your fwb falling for you?

These signs above are powerful signs to tell if your FWB really is falling for you. Maybe they’re paying you more attention, communicating with you, or kissing you differently. The only question is, do you feel the same way? 

[Read: What do friends with benefits mean to a guy? Do they ever get hooked?]

Observe if they display most of these signs if you want to know how to tell if a FWB is catching feelings for you. If the answer is yes, what are you going to do about their feelings? 

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