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How to Make Someone Think of You, Desire You & Miss You All the Time

Do you have a crush and you want to learn how to make someone think of you? The good news is that it’s actually easier than you might think!

how to make someone think of you

There’s one thing I know for sure, when you like someone, you’re always thinking about them. But how to make someone think of you? It’s crazy, we can spend hours a day thinking about someone, but we never know if someone is thinking about us. It’s enough to drive you around the bend!

But seriously, is there a way to have someone think about you more often? Now, you may be contemplating whether or not this is considered a mind game—but it’s not. There are small things you can do which give you a much better chance of being in that person’s mind. Of course, if they already like you, it’s going to be much easier. If they don’t really know you, it might take a little more time. [Read: How to be more likeable without a lot of effort]

There is a difference between thinking and liking

I want to point something out before we get into the practical aspects of trying to get someone to think about you more often. You can push yourself into their mind in many ways, which you’ll discover shortly, but you can’t force them to like you.

There is no magic spell available. If there were, there would be no need for this article! What you have to focus on is just showing yourself in your best light and then having the right mindset. If they like you, great. Then, if they don’t or they just don’t like you in that way, that’s fine too. At least you tried, right?

I just want you to be very clear on that before we move on! [Read: How to make people like you: 35 tips to charm absolutely anyone]

How to make someone think of you

You don’t need to make calculated moves, wait hours before texting them back, or pretend to be busy when they call you. If you really want to stick in their mind, it’s not about what you do when you’re gone, but rather, what you do when you’re with them.

But I’m not going to just give you all the details right now. You’re going to need to keep on reading. Below, I’m going to talk about the ways to make someone think of you. That way, you can be on their mind almost 24/7. That’s what you want, right? Everyone needs a reminder of you now and then. [Read: How to have fun with friends: 30 really fun ways to beat boredom]

1. Do they like spending time with you?

See, when it comes to you floating around in their mind, they should like spending time with you. You don’t need to pretend or fake anything, instead, they need to enjoy doing things with you. This is how you create a lasting memory.

If they’re not into you, firstly, they probably won’t be hanging out with you so much, and secondly, they’ll forget you quickly. [Read: How to be emotionally available so you can actually feel love]

2. First impressions matter

Yeah, I know. When you think of your first introductions with people, you’re probably cringing, but don’t worry. But listen, first impressions do matter. For example, a study showed that men fall for women faster than women. So, if you’re into a guy, you may be in luck. By first sight, most people can figure out if they’re attracted to the person or not.

3. Be more open

f you want someone to think about you, open up. How can someone become interested in you if you’re not willing to talk and open up in front of them? This doesn’t mean you need to talk about your deepest darkest secrets, but you do need to open up just a little bit. [Read: Learn how to open up to people]

4. Get chatting!

Listen, when it comes to gossip, news spreads fast, and that’s what you want. If you want this person to start thinking about you or get the hint you’re into them, then you need to talk to a third party. If you speak to a mutual friend, they’ll be able to give a strong hint to this person, letting them know you’re thinking of them. 

5. Do something thoughtful

If you want to know how to make someone think of you and crave you, do something out of the ordinary. If they need help with their homework, help them. If they’re feeling down, take them out for ice cream.

See, it’s the small things that’ll keep you on their mind. Being thoughtful shows that you care about them on a deeper level. [Read: 15 small and effortless gestures that girls always notice]

6. Don’t end on an angry note

You want to leave a conversation on a positive note. Of course, ending with an argument will keep you on their mind but not in a good way. You should leave the conversation on a positive note, that way they’ll replay the conversation in their mind and smile. Who doesn’t like to feel good?

7. Use scent as a weapon

Everyone likes people who smell good, right? Scents are actually extremely powerful and can stick to long-term memories. If you wear a specific cologne or perfume, it can trigger memories of you if they smell something similar. If the smell of freshly baked cookies suddenly has you thinking about Christmas, it’s because the scent’s been woven into your memory. [Read: How to look fabulous and appealing when trying to get attention]

8. Make them laugh

If you want to leave someone thinking about you, make them laugh. Laughter is a great way to make people bond. Now, this doesn’t mean a romantic bond, but friendship is the first step. If you can make them laugh, you’ll be on their mind all the time. [Read: How to be charming and liked by everyone]

9. Do fun activities together

If you’re just hanging out together, spending most of your time glued to your phone, you won’t be creating lasting memories. While you are hanging out, spend time actually doing fun things. This is what makes someone think of you, and they’ll miss you when you’re not around them. 

10. You don’t need to text all the time

You may think that you need to be in constant communication to build a bond, but that’s wrong. Give them some space so that they can start to think of you. If you’re always around them or texting them, how can they miss you? 

11. Do you like music?

This may be a little corny, but if you hear a song that reminds you of them, why not share it with them? This doesn’t have to be anything deep, but it’s a great way to create a fun and lighthearted memory for the both of you. [Read: The corny signs you’re truly made for each other]

12. Be empathetic

If someone feels that you don’t understand them, then they won’t spend time thinking about you. Be someone that they feel understands them and the first person they want to come to. This doesn’t mean you need to be a push-over, rather, be understanding of their feelings. Then, you’ll be someone they confide in and think of.

13. Have an opinion

There is nothing worse than speaking to someone who seems to have no depth or substance to them. Don’t be afraid to have opinions and talk about them. Sure, that doesn’t mean pushing your opinions forcefully onto others, but you can talk about your views and have a discussion. [Read: How to express your opinions without seeming cocky]

14. Don’t be clingy

You might think that if you want to learn how to make someone think of you, that means you need to be around them a lot. Not at all. If anything, being too present and clingy could work against you. Make sure that you live your own life and simply dip in and out of theirs in a meaningful way.

15. Be nice to other people

You want to be on their mind for good reasons, right? That means showing kindness and friendliness to other people. If you’re rude and obnoxious to others, they’re not going to have you on their mind in a good way. However, if you do good deeds occasionally and simply remember your manners, it will work for you.

16. Avoid playing hard to get

Games don’t work. Don’t believe what anyone tells if you if they say they do! If you play games, they’re going to quickly pick up on your literal game and decide that you’re not worth the hassle. Just be open and honest and that should be all you need. [Read: Does playing hard to get work? 12 tips to make it swing your way]

17. Be social media savvy

Now, I know what you’re going to say – you just said don’t play games. That’s true, I did, but this isn’t a game but more of a sly tactic. Using your social media when learning how to make someone think of you is a good idea. Don’t overload your platforms with too many pictures of you out having fun or sexy selfies but do post a well-timed check in or status occasionally. It will keep you in their mind, for sure!

18. Show your hidden depths

We all have them. What makes you tick? Do you have memories that really show a lot about who you are? When you’re chatting, be sure to drop a few into the conversation and allow them to see that you’re a lot deeper and more interesting than they might have first thought. [Read: The best deep conversation starters to impress anyone, anytime!]

19. Enlist the help of mutual friends

This one will only work if you have mutual friends in common, and if you do, it’s a good tactic. Let your friends know that you want to be on this person’s mind a bit more and they can drop your name into the conversationally every so often. Of course, you don’t want them to overdo it, but a carefully placed reminder will do!

20. Always be yourself

Predictable, but true. Always be yourself and you’ll stand a much better chance of being in someone’s thoughts. If you’re fake, it shows and it makes you appear false. If you’re simply yourself, you appear comfortable in your own skin and that’s always memorable in a positive way.

[Read: Why empathy is vital to a relationship]

See, learning how to make someone think of you isn’t that hard. Now that you know what you need to do, it’s time to get them only thinking about you.

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Natasha Ivanovic
Natasha Ivanovic is an intimacy, dating, and relationship writer best known for her writings on Kiiroo, LovePanky, Post Pravda, and more. She's the creator and ...
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