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How to Flirt on Snapchat: The Basic Rules Everyone Must Know

Social media has made flirting easier than ever before, but if you want to learn how to flirt on Snapchat successfully, you need these essential tips.

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If you thought Snapchat was purely a place to morph yourself into a dog, complete with panting tongue, or somewhere to magically conjure up stars sparkling around your head, you’re wrong. Snapchat is actually far more useful than you might think. While it does have its fair share of cute *sometimes annoying* filters, that’s not all it’s good for. So, let’s learn how to flirt on Snapchat!

Let’s face it, Facebook isn’t what it used to be. Instagram is packed with too many influencers or your friend’s lunch. If you want a platform for flirting with a difference, somewhere you can be unique and show off your quirky side, Snapchat is the ideal place to go. [Read: How to master your Snapchat flirting game]

Isn’t Snapchat just for 13-year-olds?

No! Snapchat is fun for all ages. Okay, taking a snap with a pair of dog ears or a fluffy rabbit nose might seem childlike. But come on, it’s fun!

Some of the filters available on Snapchat are also extremely powerful when it comes to ironing out imperfections. You can now look like a pinched and contoured model with just a few tweaks here and there!

The point is, Snapchat might not be as popular as some of the other social media giants out there, but it gives you the opportunity to show your personality in a way which many other platforms don’t.

The problem? Not everyone is on Snapchat… But, if your crush is, it’s a great option to try! [Read: How to get someone to like you immediately]

How to flirt on Snapchat – the dos and don’ts

Snapchat is the same as any other type of platform and flirting is the same as in real life. There are dos and don’ts you need to abide by if you don’t want to accidentally jump on the wrong side of social etiquette and freak the life out of your crush.

First things first, ascertain that your crush does indeed have a Snapchat account and make contact with them. Once you’re linked up, you’re good to go. It’s never a good idea to randomly try and connect with someone you don’t know. It looks weird, so make sure that you’ve at least had some kind of in-person social interaction beforehand!

Once you’re in there, pay attention to the dos and don’ts below. [Read: 9 Social media sites to use to snag yourself a date]

1. Take a great selfish to send, but avoid over the to filters

Okay, those filters are fun and they show off your personality. At this point, unless you want to come across as childish and, in some cases, a little deranged, it’s best to find a filter which simply gives you good lighting.

Stick to a natural pose which shows you for the gorgeous being you are. Save the fun filters for later, when you’ve actually started some kind of rapport. [Read: How to look cute in every selfie you take]

2. Avoid sending the same photos to your stories later on

If you’ve sent someone a selfie and you’re hoping for a response, they’re not going to feel special if you suddenly start posting the same photo to your stories a few hours later. Keep it between the two of you!

3. Be as direct as possible

Send that photo to them directly, and, as mentioned above, keep it private. It’s no good posting endless photos and hoping they’ll notice. Sometimes you should get straight to the point and quit with the time wasting and messing around! [Read: Sweet and sexy snapchat selfie ideas to heat up your relationship]

4. Naked pics, boob pics and dick pics – All major no, no’s

Nobody wants a dick pic or a boob shot over breakfast, so unless specifically requested and you’re okay with doing it, keep the photos of your face only or the scenery you’re passing by which you want to share!

Doing this is also a quick way to put someone right off you, especially if you’ve only been speaking for a short while and haven’t really got to that point in your flirtation.

5. Slide straight into their DMs

Photos will get you so far, but then you need to actually put words into action! It’s no good having a future relationship based purely on sending photos back and forth, so a few photos before a DM slide is a good idea. Don’t do it too soon, however. Gauge the reaction first of all. [Read: How to slide into a girl’s DMs, rouse her interest and get a reply]

6. Head to video calls or voice calls as things progress

Some people are terrified at the idea of actually calling someone, but how can you expect things to progress in the future if you can’t speak face to face? Be brave! When your DMs start to flow quickly and easily, progress onto a voice call or even a video call. The more you do it, the more comfortable you’ll be. You know what the next step is? A meet up!

7. Let that personality shine on through!

Once you start chatting and you’re bantering back and forth, it’s perfectly fine to throw in those funny filters and send randomly funny photos to your crush. When it comes to knowing how to flirt on Snapchat, remember to make sure you don’t cross the line of what is funny or socially acceptable, of course, but if you see something while you’re out and about and you think they’ll find it funny, snap it and send it! [Read: How to be more playful and flirty & open up when you meet someone]

8. Don’t overdo it

Once you start a connection, you might be tempted to bombard them with messages and snaps. Hold back just a little. Remember, while learning how to flirt on Snapchat, less is more! There’s no reason to play games. If you send the right number of messages per day, it’s likely that they’ll look forward to them. As a result, you’ll get surprise messages back. [Read: Fun and flirty questions to ask someone to get to know them better]

9. Be witty but not arrogant

When you message, make sure that you show your personality in a natural way and don’t try to be overconfident. It’s fine to be witty and funny but make sure that it comes over in the right way. Sarcasm often doesn’t translate well on message and that’s exactly what Snapchat is! Just be yourself.

10. Tease a little, but not too much

If they post a picture, you can send a DM and tease a little. You could tell them they look hot and a winking face or you could tell them that you love the cat whisker filter they’ve used. It shows that you’re paying attention to the things they’re posting, and it’s a fun way to joke around. [Read: How to be a tease: 13 Really flirty moves to capture their attention]

11. Ask questions to encourage a conversation

Flirting isn’t just about emojis and cute comments, you need to have an actual conversation. Without that, how are you supposed to get to know each other and figure out if you want to meet in person? At some point in the middle of all the emoji sending, be sure to actually ask some leading questions. That can help you to get a conversation started. Before you know it, you’ll be taking your flirting off Snapchat.

12. Use fun captions to grab attention

When you’re sending a Snap to your crush, make sure that you think the caption through. That’s exactly what’s going to make them smile and it needs to be witty and it needs to sum up the photo perfectly. Think about it before you press ‘send’!

13. Remember that less is more

For sure, learning how to flirt on Snapchat isn’t that difficult, because it’s so easy to do. However, you can send too many flirty messages and overdo it. Don’t send Snap after Snap, DM after DM. Make sure that you pace yourself and wait for them to reply. If you don’t get a reply after a day, it’s okay to send another, but after that, wait it out. You don’t want to look desperate, do you? [Read: Texting etiquette & flirting: 26 Rules guys & girls must follow]

Is flirting easier these days thanks to social media?

Without a doubt, social media has made flirting a million times easier than doing it in person. It’s far easier to simply go for it when you can hide behind a mobile device or a laptop. Let’s be honest, it has taken some of the shine away from flirting.

While approaching someone and talking to them might be terrifying, when it works out, it’s such a rush! When you’re sending messages, it’s also very easy to misunderstand or read something in the wrong way. It could mean that a flirtation is over before it even begins. In that case, it’s easy to make a mistake.

Provided you gauge it right, you don’t bombard your crush with messages and photos, and you allow your personality to shine through, social media flirting can be the ideal way to get over that initial awkwardness and the terrifying prospect of actually approaching someone in person. After, get to know each other and fast track to the point where you feel comfortable actually meeting and heading out on a real life date. [Read: Texting before the first date – The first steps you need to remember]

Snapchat has moved on from its humble beginnings. Now it offers many other features which help it to rival some other social media platforms. Sure, it’s never going to be Facebook or Instagram in terms of users, but it’s an app  ideal for fun communication. If you can find that perfect filter, it’s also a great way to give your selfies a little something extra!

[Read: How to start a conversation on Snapchat and subtly flirt your way in]

Learning how to flirt on Snapchat isn’t actually that difficult. It’s really a case of holding back and not going too far, too soon.

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Nicky Curtis
Nicky Curtis
Having stumbled from one relationship drama to another throughout her 20s, Nicky is now somewhat of a guru in the crazy world of life and love. Telling it how i...
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