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Eye Contact Attraction: It’s Powerful, But Is It Fatal or Real?

Eye contact attraction is when you are instantly attracted to someone after gazing into their eyes. Beware, what you think you see. It might not be real.

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Okay, I know that I am so not alone when I ask this. Have you ever looked into someone’s eyes, and it feels like you are on a rollercoaster and the floor just fell out? They call the eyes the windows to the soul. So, if you are someone who believes that there is such a thing as soul mates, then eye contact attraction totally falls in line with your theory of relationships.

What is eye contact attraction? It is when you look into someone’s eyes, and it is like fireworks go off in your head.

No, wait, it is like you see color for the first time, even more… you see your future path pass before your eyes. Yep, that is eye contact attraction is. How do I know? Because I am one of the lucky people to have experienced it.

The blessing and curse of eye contact attraction

Sounds miraculous, doesn’t it? It can be I suppose. But, it can also be a curse. For those couples who can’t seem to make it through a week without a major fight, or who want to kill each other or have sex, eye contact attraction sucks you in and makes you lose all sense of what is right and what is right for you. It also might be the thing that keeps you in a relationship that is less than healthy for you.

Somewhere between physical attraction and emotional attraction lies the eye contact attraction. It is like you speak the same language, only no one says a word. Eye contact attraction is unlike anything you felt before. So, how do you know when you are a victim? These are the signs. [Read: 10 subtle eye contact flirting moves that always work]

You instantly feel like you know one another

Eye contact attraction is when you look someone in the eye, and you have an instant feeling like you met this person before. Not just met them; you feel they are someone familiar and special.

Almost like looking at an old friend, but something much greater, when you have eye contact attraction your hearts beat in unison instantly. [Read: Prolonged eye contact – What it means and how to do it]

Whatever comes from their mouth, you feel like you hear something else

With eye contact attraction, no matter what comes from their mouth, or if nothing is, you almost hear them talking to you. Like telepathy between you both, your eyes truly do tell what your heart feels without a word being exchanged. [Read: The 12 rules of attraction, as explained by science]

No matter how angry you are with one another, there is a bind that ties you when your eyes meet

No matter how angry you become with someone when you look into their eyes, you can’t hold onto the anger.

Whatever you fight about is overridden in your head by the emotions that come from the heart strings that tie you together. That can be both good and bad. If you are meant for each other, then it makes your fights minuscule and fleeting.

But, if you have a tumultuous relationship, then it keeps you there longer than you should be and forgiving indiscretions that put cracks in your relationship bigger than craters.

Anger is the closest feeling to lust, so it does make for some pretty awesome makeup sex. [Read: Secrets of a love-hate relationship – Can it ever work?]

There is an instant spark when you look into each other’s eyes

You know when you are in love and you look over at your mate, and you’re overcome with love? That is the instant spark you get from looking into the eyes of someone you have eye contact attraction with.

It doesn’t take time, trust, and commitment though. It is something instantaneous that lights up your heart, shows you color for the first time, and totally changes everything about you.

You believe in soul mates

Eye contact attraction is when you feel like it was written in the stars. When two hearts combine just from looking at one another, it makes you believe in soul mates and all the things that come with believing there is only one real love for you. [Read: Why we fall in love – A little science, a little fate!]

No matter what they do their eyes are like kryptonite, you just can’t resist their gaze

Looking into their eyes is almost like looking into the sun. They are so beautiful and engaging. They are also real and raw they almost scare you and make you feel vulnerable. If you see what is inside their heart, they most assuredly see inside yours.

You might find honesty where there is none

The problem with eye contact attraction is you sometimes have a false sense of familiarity where there is none. You mistake the attraction for something real when it is just that, attraction.

Mistaking eye contact attraction for a bond that might not be there can be super dangerous, especially if it is only felt on one end and the other person isn’t feeling the same magic. [Read: What does sexual attraction feel like – How to know exactly]

One look makes everything okay

When you have eye contact attraction, all is forgiven when you look into one another’s eyes. Like being at home, their eyes just make you feel loved, safe, and fills up your emotional cup.

You start to believe in past lives

When you have eye contact attraction with someone, you almost believe in past lives. Instantly feeling as if you knew someone forever because you see something inside of them so loving and comforting makes you question if you met them before in some other life and are meant to be together again.

A very odd and overwhelming sensation, eye contact attraction makes you start to question things that you might not have believed in to begin with. [Read: What are twin souls? 16 signs to know if you’ve found others]

It isn’t about the color, it is something deep-seeded

Eye contact attraction has nothing to do with you liking their eyes. It is about liking something that you see in a person’s eyes connected to their inner spirit.

Not about the eye itself, it is much deeper. Like you peer into someone and see all their potential, goodness, and the beauty underneath.

Eye contact attraction isn’t just about finding someone’s unusually beautiful eyes attractive. It is about finding something exotic in the person underneath. It is both a blessing for those who find instant love and a curse for two people who can’t seem to get past the attraction to see they might not be good for one another.

[Read: 20 signs you’ve met the love of your life]

Even though they say the eyes are the windows to the soul, that doesn’t necessarily mean they are. If you have instant eye contact attraction to someone, don’t go too crazy and fall head over heels thinking you know what is inside, you just might be wrong.

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Bethany Locke
Bethany was born and raised in Scotland and now resides in Brighton where she lives with her partner and rather disobedient cocker spaniel pup. And in her spare...
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