Attraction is one thing, but compatibility is a whole other ballpark. Here are some things to ask your crush to see if they’re right for you. By Charley Reid
It’s safe to say that with the technology-driven world we live in, most of us are opting out of going out to a bar with our friends to hook up, and instead we now opt to go through the easier route: through social media.
When you do find someone that piques your interest, it usually instantly leads to you swapping phone numbers and texting or talking on the phone. Sometimes when texting, it can be a little awkward, and you feel like you don’t have anything to say or you keep replying back with an emoji, because you’re not sure what to say next.
One time, I had this crush on a guy who I thought was just so cute. He was tall, was really funny, or so I thought. In the beginning, we would text a lot, and I would try to ask him more personal questions here and there, but he would always text me with these witty comments and jokes, no matter what we were talking about, and to be honest, in the beginning I thought he was hilarious. Really, I did. They were the perfect blend of sarcasm, humor and intelligence.
But then I went on a few dates with him, and the one-liners never stopped, ever. At first, I thought he was just being cute and was nervous, but after a few dates, reality hit. It was literally impossible to have an actual conversation with this guy, and that’s when I knew he wasn’t right for me.
So, the next time you have a lull in your conversation, no matter if it’s texting, talking on the phone, or in person, don’t forget about yourself and what you want, no matter how many times the one you’re flirting with might be making you laugh.
You should take time to find out more about them and who they really are. You should ask them the following 50 questions to find out if they are right for you. I don’t mean text them all these questions at once, because you wouldn’t want them to think you’re interrogating them, right?
You need to make a conscious effort in getting to know your crush by asking these questions. And some of these might seem pretty basic, but I promise you they are all important in helping you figure out if they are worth your time, and if they are someone you can really see yourself dating.
50 questions to ask someone you like
With all the fish in the sea, it’s best to start filtering out the ones who aren’t right for you. So get the question of compatibility out of the way, and ask them these questions.
#1 What do you like to do for fun?
#2 Are you very close to your family?
#3 Where do you see yourself in 10 years?
#4 Are you into kids? Do you want to have them?
#5 Are you religious?
#6 Would you date someone who doesn’t have the same beliefs as you?
#7 What do you want out of your career?
#8 What’s one place that you’ve always wanted to visit?
#9 What are some cities or countries that you absolutely would never live in?
#10 Are you conscientious with your health?
#11 Do you like music and going to shows?
#12 What are your absolute favorite TV shows, regardless of whether they’re still airing or not?
#13 What are some of your favorite quotes from books, movies or TV?
#14 Are you a morning person or a night owl?
#15 What’s one food you can keep on eating for weeks on end?
#31 Do you enjoy reading and staying up-to-date with current events?
#32 Do you know how to drive a stick-shift?
#33 Do you believe in astrology or horoscopes or destiny?
#34 What is your favorite childhood memory?
#35 What are your thoughts on having a female President?
#36 What is the wildest thing you’ve ever done?
#37 Have you ever gotten into any trouble with the law?
#38 Who is your biggest role model?
#39 What sports are you into?
#40 What is the best advice you’ve ever been given?
#41 What’s the worst advice that anyone has ever given you?
#42 What are your thoughts on PDA?
#43 What are your thoughts on adoption?
#44 What is your favorite holiday?
#45 What’s your most embarrassing experience on a date?
#46 What do you do when you get angry?
#47 What’s the drink that you always order at the bar?
#48 What kind of person do you think you’ll be when you hit your 60’s?
#49 When was the last time you cried?
#50 Do you believe in true love?
Remember, when you ask these questions, really listen to their answers, instead of just waiting for your turn to answer these questions yourself. You’ll find that despite a simple looking faà§ade, there’s a lot of depth to a person, once you get to know their answers.