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Is it Better to be Single or in a Relationship? How to Pick a Side

Is it better to be single or in a relationship? Do you ever feel like switching roles because the other side seems to be having more fun? Read this to understand how relationships and being single actually work.

single or in a relationship?

Single or in a relationship?

There are times in our lives when we feel we could have more fun if we just switched sides between being single and being in love.

And then there’s the questions, is it better to be single or in a relationship?

Why does the other side always seem to be having so much more fun? Is it an optical illusion that we mortals fall for all the time, or is it just something that we are born with, something like a seventh sense that always makes us want to stray.

We’ve seen our ancestors move from one land to another in search of the proverbial ‘greener pastures’.

But do we really have to move from one situation to another, in the hope of figuring out the answer to whether one side is really greener and happier than the other side, to face the real questions, is it better to be single or in a relationship?

It happens to us all the time.

Better to be single or in a relationship?

When you’re single, all your friends talk to you about how good it is to see someone, and be a couple. But when you fall in love, hitch with someone and you’re happy, you always find several of your friends telling you about how good being single really is.

Your friends tell you about the parties they’ve been to lately and they rattle out a long list of one night stands and flings, talk about the game or the shopping spree you missed with them.

At times, somewhere deep inside yourself, you begin to wonder if it made sense. Are the people around you actually having more fun in life, just because they aren’t in a situation that you are in?

If you are single, you jump into a crappy relationship only to run out with a broken heart. On the other hand, there will be times when you would walk out of a perfect relationship just because you assume your single friends are having more fun than you are.

But you have to know this, grass is grass. It’s not going to be any different if you’re single or in a relationship. Unless, maybe if you were Snoop Dogg, in which case, perhaps Alabama grass would be a better experience than some other grass. But anyways, at the end, I’m sure even he would agree that grass is grass, and it’s all the same.

Fickle minds and relationships

It is human nature to want something that you don’t have already. If you were at a restaurant and you ordered a steak, and the person at the next table ordered a whole chicken, it’s human nature to wish you would have ordered the whole chicken instead. Now what do you do? You eat your steak, constantly eyeing the apparently delicious chicken in the next table, and you don’t feel like eating the steak anymore.

You think about it, and call your waiter and order the whole chicken. The dish is served to you and you dig in, expecting to relish the dish that had you drooling for so long. The first bite tastes delicious, just as you expected. You take a few more bites and you realize that you like the steak better!

You think again. Now, you push the whole chicken away and try to eat the steak, but the cold meat only leaves you with a bad taste in the mouth. Now you regret the whole episode and wish you wouldn’t have been deceived in the first place. But you should be happy you didn’t order the fish that the chap at the corner table had ordered!

We all want things in life, without really knowing if we really want it. It’s human nature. But it’s in our own hands to overcome it, or fall for it.

Staying in love or staying single

Humans are indecisive and greedy.And we’re also terribly insecure, with the world and with ourselves. We never want to miss out on any fun, so we just keep switching thinking that there’s always something better waiting for us.

Whether it’s a new cell phone or a fashionable designer outfit, almost after every purchase or decision you make, a second option pops into your mind, if even for a split second.

Picking the better side in being single or in love

If you ever think about it, usually, the night out that you miss out on with your friends will almost always turn out to be the coolest night ever. The champagne would be pouring onto the roof and the crowd couldn’t have been better, or that’s what your friends say. This is usually known as PR. When you want to go clubbing, you obviously want to go to a particular place because you think you would enjoy it.

But unfortunately, at times the party could turn out to be the worst party there could be. What do you tell your friends who warned you about it, the next day? You tell them that they were wrong and you had a great time at the party.

It doesn’t hurt to lie as long as it doesn’t hurt your ego, does it? The same goes with staying in love or staying single.

What do you do when you can’t paint, you buy a pretty picture and tell everyone that this was a better option, don’t you? When you’re in a relationship, you tell everyone that life as a couple is just great and you’re having a lot of fun. Hey, it’s your job to do that, to uphold the path you follow and your way of life.

If you are single, you would probably scoff at all the lovey-dovey couples and tell the whole world about how much more fun you can have being single.

Well, one can never tell if either life is bad. But you do make it a point to lie to the world and exaggerate about how much more fun one can have doing the things you do. Evangelists of singledom and couplehood do affect us to a certain extent and we do listen to them at times. But to be realistic, both have their own upsides and downsides.

Think about it, being with someone can be a drag if you’re hooked with someone just so you could tell the world that you have a partner. And it’s not any better to be single after you’ve just walked out of a broken relationship.

Staying single vs. Staying in love

It’s easy to freak out or panic when you’re in either of the cases, however strong your belief in your chosen system is. Well, if you don’t think so, try telling a guy who’s going to get married the next morning that his future wife would be the only woman he would sleep with again, and that his life would change drastically henceforth.

Or try telling the 40 year old happily single wannabe Samantha from Sex and the City the story about the old lady who died alone with a hundred cats and one goat.

The next day, you’ll find the 40 year old woman with a loser she turned down the earlier week, and hear that the guy called off the wedding and decided to head to Las Vegas for a lap dance. These are cases that are over the top, but I hope you get the underlying meaning.

Singles and marriage – The better side

If you were born short, you’d wonder what it feels like to be tall. If you’re fat, you’d wonder what it would be like to be thin.

These thoughts wander across our minds every day, in everyone’s life. And it’s alright to wonder.  It’s part of what makes us human. Everyone gets what they want and deserve, in due time.

Being in a relationship won’t solve the problems of a single person any more than being single solves the problems of a person in a relationship like marriage. There’s no rule that says you have to be married by thirty or change your life just because your friends tell you so. Nor do you have to give up the dreams in your head if you’re committed to a relationship.

The winning side in love

Some are born to jump into relationships, like the little boy who had a girlfriend at the age of seven. And some others want to stay single until they’re thirty three. It doesn’t matter if you’re single or in a relationship as long as you’re happy being you.

And don’t freak out of you’ve been with the same partner for fifteen years. Remember that at times it’s your old faded jeans that you prefer over your new designer pants.

Someone might come along and tell you that you could have a better life if you switched sides. Maybe there are a lot of hunky Adonis’ and gorgeous Victoria’s Secret models out there waiting to meet you, but why mess up something wonderful just to take a chance to find out if the grass is really greener on the other side, especially when you’re perfectly happy already?

Choosing a good side

Many people spend most of their lives jumping side between being single and marriage because they get bored of being in the same routine. There are many relationship issues in life, but figuring out the difference between singles and marriage is not really the big issue.

If your plan is to constantly jump sides, you could spend your entire life looking for something better. And do you think that would make you happy?

So even if someone tells you that life is better on the other side, do remember that as soon as you switch sides, you’ll find the other side winning. Always.

The grass is greener on the other side?

Well, is it grass that you want really, or a perfectly happy life with what you have already? Grass is not something you can eat, all you can do is lie down and roll, until you get wet and dirty and roll on to the next pasture.

So stay where you are and realize that if there was ever a green pasture, this is the greenest it can get.

Life offers many relationship issues and confusions between singles and marriage, but pick a side. It’s in your own hands to make it a happy place.

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