He says all the right things. You think he’s the one, but he’s too smooth in the way he talks. Have you just landed yourself a womanizer?
I don’t want to group all men into one category because all men are different. Some men say something sweet and it’s truly an honest comment, one that came from the heart. There are also men that say the same thing, but the intentions are completely different. And there are always ways you can figure out whether a guy is a womanizer or not.
How to tell if the guy you’re seeing is a womanizer
Dating is a bitch. Of course, going on dates are fun and we meet different people. What happens after the date? That’s when things become tricky. Maybe he’ll call, maybe he won’t. Maybe he didn’t feel a connection like you did, you just never know.
Even if he did feel a connection with you, what’s his motive? Does he want to date you or is this just another notch on his bedpost? When it comes to relationships, it’s never as easy as it looks simply because you don’t know what’s going on in the other person’s mind. But in the end, there’s always a way to suss out the womanizer.
#1 You immediately feel something is off. I cannot emphasize this enough. For a split second, you feel that something with him is weird. Of course, he’s probably cute and charming, so you push that to the side of your mind. But don’t forget that feeling. Why? Because that’s you telling yourself this guy isn’t genuine. [Read: 17 signs you’re dating a real philanderer and don’t know it]
#2 He has a murky past. If you ask him about his past, it seems he doesn’t really have one. He may say that he hasn’t been in a serious relationship. There’s a reason why, and it’s not because he doesn’t have a past. He does. It’s filled with non-committed relationships and changing girls like its underwear. [Read: 16 types of guys to avoid like the plague]
#3 He isn’t trying to get to know you. He asks you questions but only ones that make you think he wants to get to know you. He isn’t asking your opinion on politics or what you want to do with your life. Instead, he asks you where you work and if you get up early in the morning. Womanizers have no problem making conversation but expect shallow small talk.
#4 His social media is full of women. Now, it’s normal for people to have men and women on their social media accounts. However, if his social media accounts are mostly made up of women, there’s a red flag right there. It’s a pretty good idea of how his real life looks.
#5 He’s secretive. If his phone rings or he gets a text message, he makes sure he covers his phone, making sure you don’t see who it is. If you notice he’s hiding things and keeping secrets, that’s a really good sign he’s probably full of shit and not to be trusted. [Read: How to handle a guy who’s full of shit]
#6 He’s not open. If you talk about broad subjects, no problem, he’ll talk up a storm. However, ask him about himself and he suddenly goes quiet. He doesn’t have much to say. I wonder why. He doesn’t want you to know anything about him because you’re not going to be around for much longer. No, he’s not going to kill you, he’s going to have sex with you and move onto the next girl.
#7 You don’t really know his friends. You may have met them once or twice, but that’s it. If he doesn’t introduce you to his friends or never talks about them, there’s a reason why. Maybe he doesn’t want his friends to associate you as someone serious in his life or maybe he goes through a lot of girls. So, he doesn’t want to get them confused. [Read: 22 early warning signs of a bad boyfriend]
#8 His friends/family don’t try to get to know you. Well, if they don’t differentiate you from a plant then there’s a good reason why. Okay, they could just not like you, there’s that. But, they could also refrain from getting to know you because they’re used to being introduced to different girls on a weekly basis. Can you blame them? It gets tiring.
#9 On paper, he’s perfect. He’s what your mother dreams about at night. Everything is good but it’s too good. He’s just a little too charming, a little too sweet. In your head, you know he’s not new to this. If he’s too good to be true, well, that’s because he is. [Read: 13 giveaways to tell if someone’s lying to your face]
#10 He’s too romantic. Once, a date came to my door with a handful of gifts, I’m not even joking. It was too much. He wasn’t a womanizer though. He was desperate, but that’s not the point. If this guy is over the top with romance—taking you to an island, releasing doves in the sky—that type of shit, he’s full of crap. [Read: The nice guy syndrome and 16 reasons why all girls find them boring]
#11 He rushes. Sure, he took you out for a date, but he didn’t waste any time when it came to getting into your pants. He may be telling you that you’re the one he wants to be with, but, it’s your second date. See, he’s not taking the time to actually get to know you. And if he isn’t doing that, he doesn’t want to be with you.
#12 Your friends warn you. Listen, as friends, we’re the ones that don’t have our head in the clouds about this guy. We see the way he moves and talks, so, if we tell you he’s a womanizer, he’s probably a womanizer. You may not see it since you’re head over heels for him, but listen to your friends, they have a point.
#13 Read his body language. So, he may be sweet talking you but what you need to do is focus on the non-verbal signs he gives off. Pay attention to what he says with his body. He may be saying he only sees you, but his eyes wander all over the place, checking out other women. See what I mean? Shakira was right, hips don’t lie. [Read: 14 signs the guy you’re dating right now loves cheating]
#14 You heard through the grapevine. Yeah, people know he’s a womanizer. You didn’t hear it by accident, he made that reputation all on his own. If he’s known to have a reputation for being a ladies man, well, come on, he probably is still a ladies man.