15 Things You Do That Turn Him Off While Having Sex!

things that turn him off during sex

Are you unknowingly turning him off while having sex? Read these 15 things that turn him off to see if you’re doing something he doesn’t want you to do.

Sex is natural and easy.

But sometimes, it’s easy to get carried away and say or do a few things that can be a complete turn off!

Are you turning your guy off by the things you do or say in bed?

The things you do that turn him off

It may seem unbelievable to you, but it’s true.

There are few things girls do that turn guys off or leave them frustrated.

It’s the little things you may think is funny, like the way you toy with his little guy or the way you smack yourself against his balls when you’re riding him!

[Read: How to ride a man the right way and look really sexy doing it]

Every now and then, your man may look the other way and pretend like it didn’t just annoy him.

But if it’s something that’s become a bit of a routine, he may find it easier to just avoid having sex with you instead of having to confront the issue.

The bigger issues of turning a guy off

At the beginning, it’s funny.

But over time, the little things you say or do could traumatize a guy or even impact him psychologically on a deeper level. It may even make him hate sex, make him feel inadequate or just leave him unsatisfied. It’s not like guys can ever hate sex. The problem of turning him off is that it may make him hate having sex with you! [Read: 3 big reasons why men stray and 27 reasons that lead them to cheat on you]

15 things you do that turn him off while having sex!

Here are a few things that can annoy any guy in bed. They may be the little things you probably don’t even realize. But keeping an eye on these 15 big turn offs for a guy while having sex with him will ensure that he’s one satisfied guy who’s not going to be looking beyond the relationship for pleasure! [Read: 12 foreplay tips for guys that’ll leave your guy with an uncontrollable hard on!]

#1 Foreplay expectations. It’s natural that a girl expects foreplay in bed. It’s even acceptable if you expect him to indulge in foreplay before he gets on top of you. But are you the kind of girl who expects him to go down on you each time for a good half an hour and still spend a while teasing you and running his hands all over you?

Do you pout or roll your eyes if your guy doesn’t worship you with his hands and tongue until he’s exhausted before penetrating you? Nagging your partner constantly to indulge in excessive foreplay could scare him, or make him think twice before he even tries to sneak in a quickie with you ever again.

#2 Dirty interrogations. Do you dirty talk with your partner in bed? Does he talk about his dark fantasies while having sex with you? You need to remember that dirty talking is just that, and not something you need to take seriously or feel threatened by. [Read: How to fantasize about someone else in bed]

If your partner tells you about how he’d like to watch you with someone else, or a fictional story about how he grabbed another girl’s ass at a party, do you stop him right there and start interrogating him in bed? Dirty talking is wild imagination and not necessarily something that’s true. If you constantly ask your partner to explain himself, during or after sex, he’ll just end up clamming up each time both of you have sex. [Read: 23 sexy tips to dirty talk and say the sexiest things!]

#3 A wannabe porn star. Guys hate girls who try too hard in bed, or try to display a fake sense of confidence when they’re clearly clumsy and inexperienced. Do you try to deep throat a guy only to gag over him? Or do you grab him by his hair and place his head on your breasts even when he’s not in the mood because that’s what they do in the movies? Trying to dominate a guy in bed or take control is good, but don’t overdo the porn star act all the time, or you’ll kill the mood.

#4 The loss of erection. When your guy loses his erection for whatever reason, do you immediately start blaming yourself? Do you sit back and say things like “I get it… I’m ugly!” or “You’re not interested in having sex with me anymore, are you?”

If a guy loses an erection in the middle of sex, believe me, he’s extremely annoyed with himself already. Don’t make it ten times worse for him by getting irritated, or by making this about you! [Read: 20 unique ways to keep an erection up for longer]

#5 Bored sex. This is a big turn off for any guy who’s in a relationship with a girl. If you’re not in the mood, just say it! Don’t pretend like things are dandy, get into bed and have sex with your guy, and appear bored and dispassionate like you’re getting nothing out of it.

A guy can know instantly if his girlfriend’s actually horny in bed just by looking into his girlfriend’s eyes while making love. Pity sex is good, but only if you’re enjoying it too. If you just appear bored, it’ll make the guy shrivel up inside you in seconds. [Read: 10 fun sex games to play with your boyfriend in bed to keep things exciting]

#6 Orgasm faces. Guys love an orgasm face. But if you’re a big fan of making eccentric orgasm expressions in bed, like rolling your eyes up until the white of your eye is the only thing he can see, or shaking violently, your guy may not tell it to your face, but his erection would shrink significantly as soon as you sees your cum face.

#7 No touching! Every guy loves a girl who is confident in bed. And you need to remember that confidence in bed doesn’t always depend on how good you look naked. If your boyfriend moves his hand on a particular part of your body, do you stop his hands and push it away often?

You may think it’s no big deal, but each time you do that, your boyfriend would feel just a little more turned off by your behavior. Remember, your guy loves you for who you are. But each time you bring your insecurities into bed, you’re killing the pleasure passionate sex can give you. [Read: 15 biggest sexual turn offs for guys in bed!]

#8 Weird behavior. Do you feel teary eyed after you have sex? Do you love cuddling up with a guy even if it’s a one night stand? Or do you expect the guy to pillow talk with you for hours even if he’s feeling sleepy? This is something that’s to each her own, but if your guy says something you do in bed is weird, take the hint!

#9 The list of instructions. Do you come to bed with a list of instructions? Faster! Slower! Not there yet! Why aren’t your hands on my boobs?! Do you constantly yell at your boyfriend to go deeper even when he’s jammed his pelvis into your crotch?

A guy may be grateful to you if you playfully tease or guide his hands to all the right places. But if you’re a control freak who wants everything done her way all the time, he’d definitely get pissed off with you. [Read: 6 sexy things you can wear to bed and arouse your guy instantly]

#10 Teasing him. Do you tease your guy or laugh at him when he ejaculates too soon accidentally? Or do you baby talk him or ask him if he’s suffering from a problem while he’s still cleaning himself up? Sexually teasing a guy is good, but teasing a guy for his capabilities is just so wrong! [Read: 20 ways to prevent premature ejaculation and last longer in bed]

#11 Chore sex. “I’m ovulating today, let’s have sex!” Sex should never feel like a chore. The very day sex starts to feel like a chore is when the sexual side of the relationship starts to go downhill. If you really want to get your guy to have sex with you for any reason at all, tease him into it instead of forcing the idea down his throat. No guy likes being forced into having sex because guys usually choke under pressure. And the whole experience just makes him feel used! [Read: 10 ways to please a man in bed and everywhere else]

#12 “Are you done yet?” This is a sentence every guy completely dreads. It’s a low blow on so many levels, because it makes a guy realize the girl’s not having any fun and is probably not interested too, and at the same time, it also means the girl just wants him out ASAP! Every time you say this line, he’s just going to hate having sex with you, just a little bit more!

#13 Obviously fake orgasms. So you’ve faked an orgasm. And chances are, your guy’s realized it too. Your guy may feel the blow, but he’d tell himself that he’ll be better the next time. Just leave it at that.

Guys hate it when a girl fakes an obvious orgasm, and then goes on to repeatedly tell the guy just how awesome the sex was. It makes a guy feel stupid, and it also makes him wonder whether you’re pulling his leg or just assuming he’s plain dumb! Either ways, it’s not going to leave him happy. [Read: The beginner’s guide to tantric sex and several explosive orgasms!]

#14 Unmanageable coochie. A guy may not say this to your face because he wouldn’t want to hurt your feelings. But if he’s not going down on you often, it’s probably because you have an unmanageable coochie in your panties.

Guys do want to go down on a girl *unless you’re nagging him to do it all the time!* but if you have a wild forest in your panties or you haven’t really been too hygienic lately, he may choose to wrap the blanket tighter around his neck to avoid getting turned off by the things going on down there! [Read: How to make a guy go down on you without a push]

#15 You’re a prude. If you aren’t experienced in bed, your guy may be thrilled by the fact that he’s the first one teaching you the tricks of the trade. But if you’re a prudish girl who’s easily offended by anything sexual, or if you push him away each time he wants to try something in bed, it’ll obviously turn him off. And it gets worse if you never initiate sex and always want to play the part of the prude who just doesn’t like sex at all!

[Read: 30 ways to spice up your sex life overnight!]

It’s easy to please a man in bed. All you need to remember are these 15 things that turn him off while having sex and avoid it. Just be yourself and most importantly, communicate with each other. Sex can’t get easier than that!

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Gerry Sanders
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  • monkeyman360

    I recall the last time she was sitting on top and said boldly “I love to control men”. It actually scared me. It wasn’t “I like the fact that you want me to control you”, or it wasn’t “I like to control my man”. She could talk dirty, but I was not allowed to with her. It was always “I want you to make love to me”. In oral, she had her way of doing it claiming it has always worked in the past. She stated ” if you don’t like it, that’s to bad”.

  • fuk gerry sanders

    you are an awful person and your article facilitates really shitty ideas that are sexist and lame

  • guywhodoesn’thaveaname

    Nothing turns me off more than a woman who doesn’t want to be touched in a specific area. I get that you have boundaries for yourself but you don’t get to have everything you want. A guy has needs too. If the girl would ask me to do something for her, I would expect her to repay me. She could at least just let me touch someplace that I like. This is just my pet peeve when I’m dating casually. You should already be open because sex is intimate anyway. Nothing you could lose more. There would more to gain though.

  • Momo

    Guys get all like this, too. Ooh that tickles blah blah blah. It gets old pretty fast when they are squeamish about their own bodies. Maybe they are lacking confidence. It’s frustrating!

  • Momo

    Please men are not this complicated. Show up with a heartbeat (and even that’s sometimes not necessary) and they’ll have sex with you. And if you do ejaculate “by accident” then you have no business being with a woman yet, son. Go back to school.

  • mary

    This is such a horrible and sexist article. Please girls don’t listen to this!

  • IDC

    moron

  • Ben

    Hah! Speak for yourself on number 6! A girl eye rolling and all that good shit is such a turn on!! Means shes really having a good time you feel