It can be really crappy to realize a guy is just using you for physical fun. Knowing the signs he just wants sex can help you avoid it altogether.
Some guys are garbage people. They draw you in and make you think they’ll be the best guy in your life only to leave you crying on the floor because he really just wanted sex. It’s unfortunate, but it’s the reality sometimes. But you can avoid it if you’re aware of the signs he just wants sex.
Thankfully, some guys make it very clear they’re only using you. What’s hard is if you get attached and then try to tell yourself he’s different. That he’d never do that to you because you care so much about him. It’s hard, but sometimes you have to admit the truth.
Why guys just use girls for sex
The main thing to understand here is that most guys don’t actually want to hurt you. They usually just have commitment issues they have to work out or think you just want sex, too. There’s usually a misunderstanding of sorts when you find out he’s just into you to get laid.
All the early signs he just wants sex and nothing more
Believe it or not, you can tell pretty early on whether or not he wants something real or he’s just in it for the physical fun. Here are some of the signs he just wants sex that you might be missing.
#1 He doesn’t seem very interested right away. When you initially met, how interested did he really seem? This is important because a guy who likes you immediately and tries to be engaged with you is someone who wants more than sex. If he seemed uninterested until you got flirty, he may just want sex.
#2 The first time you talked, it was all surface deep. You didn’t really discuss anything of value because he probably didn’t care to. To him, the most important thing about you was probably the color of your underwear. [Read: 60 questions that aim to get to know someone deeper]
#3 He mentions your looks over your personality and other qualities. Whenever he compliments you, it’s never about how funny you are or how smart you are. It’s always about how hot you are or how great you look naked. These aren’t the compliments of someone who wants you for more than your body.
#4 Your conversations somehow always end up on sex. Everything ends up turning dirty and naughty. You can be having a great conversation about your day and what you did but he’ll always turn it sexual. Even if you try to get things back on track, he’ll distract you with sex-talk and you’ll end up sexting.
#5 He only texts first late at night or when he wants to hook up. Basically, you’re pulling the weight in the relationship until it comes to sex. Then he’s usually the first to initiate any discussions about it or even hookups. This is one of the biggest signs he just wants sex that you have to look out for. [Read: 10 booty call moves that may be disguised as true love]
#6 He never asks serious questions about you. Whenever you talk, it’s always the same old stuff. He doesn’t really make an effort to get to know you past what you look like naked. You feel as though he probably doesn’t even know you at all.
#7 He’s never mentioned anything relationship-related. He’s never made you think you’re in one and he’s never brought up being in one. A guy who actually likes you and wants to be with you will definitely at least talk about relationships. If this guy doesn’t, he could just be using you.
#8 Your “dates” are always at home. You never really go out. Even if you complain about this, he could distract you by saying something about how all he wants to do is curl up with you. But really, he doesn’t want it to become more of a relationship. Staying in also makes for easy sex. [Read: 11 obvious signs that he’s just using you]
#9 You don’t really know much about him or his life. If you think about it, you probably don’t know much about him. Guys who just want sex from girls often don’t divulge details about their lives. They keep to themselves and really just tell you the most basic stuff.
#10 You’ve never met his friends. Because he doesn’t want you to think he wants a relationship, he’ll probably keep you away from his friends. A guy who only wants sex will have zero interest in you getting along with his buddies. So he just won’t introduce you. Basically, his friends may not even know about you.
#11 You don’t have much in common. Think about it. Other than your physical attraction for each other, is there a connection? You may not even know enough about him to determine that if all he wants is sex. But ultimately, you just can’t find connections and don’t know why you’re even hanging out with him other than the sex. [Read: 15 reasons you’re bored with your relationship]
#12 You have sex every time you hang out. This is a huge sign and probably the most important. Do you have sex every time you’re together? And who starts it? If it’s him and you always end up doing the dirty, he probably just wants you for sex. Someone who likes you for YOU won’t need to get in your pants each hangout.
#13 If it’s that time of the month, he’s suddenly less available. He basically uses excuse after excuse not to hang out until it’s over. Just to keep you around, he might agree to hang out at least once during this time. Otherwise, he’ll be busy with work or friends or literally anything else until it’s over.
#14 Foreplay isn’t really a thing. And he doesn’t care about what you want in bed. Ultimately, your foreplay probably doesn’t last very long because he’s not really interested in getting you off. He’s more worried about getting his own jollies and that’s it. [Read: 9 awkward signs you’re having bad sex with your lover]
#15 You don’t feel like he actually cares about you. Trust your gut. We have instincts for a reason and if you feel like he only wants you for sex – which we’re assuming you do since you’re here – then he might.
Think about all these signs and ask yourself if you feel like he cares about you. Believe me, if a guy cares about you, you’ll know it.