25 Signs and Qualities That Make a Great Boyfriend

signs of a great boyfriend

Are you wondering if your boyfriend’s as good as you hope he is? Use these 25 signs and qualities of a great boyfriend to find out how good he really is.

A great boyfriend isn’t easy to find.

And even if you do find him, almost always, he’s already in someone else’s arms.

But have you ever wondered what really separates an average boyfriend from a great one?

Well, there are a few qualities and traits that can help you figure that out.

[Read: 10 traits of a good boyfriend that really matter!]

Finding your perfect boyfriend

All of us have flaws, and it would be silly to believe that we’re all perfect.

So when you go looking for a great guy, make sure you have what it takes to be a great girl yourself!

[Read: 10 qualities of a great girlfriend you need to have]

Guys and girls have their own flaws.

But almost always, these flaws aren’t really flaws.

Sometimes, it’s just ignorance.

A guy may just not know what a girl likes, even if he tries to understand her or please her.

There’s the potential of a great boyfriend in every guy, if only he chooses to reflect within and turn himself into the man of your dreams.

The qualities that make a great boyfriend

If you have to look for the one big quality that makes a good boyfriend, it would be his will to communicate with you and understand you.

Relationships are built on communication and understanding.

If you’re dating a guy and even if he seems perfect to begin with, time can reveal cracks and flaws, differences and resentments, between the both of you. [Read: 50 questions to test your relationship compatibility instantly!]

Communicate with each other

Learn to talk to each other, communicate with each other about wants, desires and individual dreams.

Of course, now and then, no matter how hard you try to make a relationship work with a boyfriend, he may just be too stubborn or unwilling to change. And in circumstances like these, it’s always better to just let go and find someone you find more compatible. [Read: 16 reasons why a boyfriend could get really mean]

25 signs and qualities that make a great boyfriend

If you’ve just started dating a new guy over the last few weeks, use these 25 signs and qualities of a great boyfriend as a reference to help you judge whether both of you are a good fit.

These qualities aren’t herculean nor are these expectations from a boyfriend too ambitious. If he is a great guy indeed, then these 25 traits would be deep-rooted within his mind.

If he lacks a few of these 25 signs now, you can talk about it with him. But if he’s missing several qualities pointed out here, you’re probably better off dating someone else!

#1 He communicates. A great boyfriend loves talking to his girlfriend. He has interesting things to talk about even when there’s nothing new. And most importantly, he wants to understand you and he wants you to understand him. [Read: Perfect things to talk about with your boyfriend and understand him better]

#2 He’s exciting and fun. He’s active and has a fun life of his own. A great boyfriend is almost always a great guy too. He has an active social life, and gets along with people easily. He’s likable and has a warm aura about him that draws people to him.

#3 He’s romantic. A guy may woo a girl until she accepts to date him. But some guys take it easy as soon as they get the girl. Don’t date a guy who takes a back seat and expects you to do all the work as soon as he wins your heart. He won’t change for you because he’s too self centered and selfish. [Read: 25 signs your boyfriend really loves you even if he doesn’t say it out loud!]

#4 He sees you. A great boyfriend is one who sees you, and knows you well. Does he notice your new haircut or a new dress when you wear one? If a guy loves you and finds you fascinating, he’d be observant and would easily recognize something new in you.

#5 He’s interested in your life. Does your boyfriend ask you about your life every day? A good boyfriend is always interested to hear about his girlfriend’s life and the things she does every day. It just means he misses you so much, and hearing about your day makes him feel like he hasn’t missed a moment of your life!

#6 He doesn’t force you. He doesn’t pressurize you into doing something you don’t want to do. He may advice you and may try to convince you about why he believes something is right, but he won’t try to manipulate you or threaten you into doing something he wants you to do. [Read: Am I being subtly emotionally abused? – 17 sure signs]

#7 He tries to make you a better person. When two people love each other, they can’t help but try to bring out the best sides in each other. If your boyfriend loves you, he’d constantly try to motivate you and help you achieve your full potential instead of telling you that you’re incompetent or can’t do something.

#8 Your friends and family. A good boyfriend would always try to impress your friends and your family, even if he can’t get along with a few of them, because he wants them to believe he’s a great guy worthy enough of dating a sweet girl like you.

#9 He makes time for you. No matter how busy he is or how occupied he is, he always makes time for you. He could sacrifice his sleep or stay up longer, but he’d want to be with you at least for a few minutes or hours. And that’s not because you’re nagging him, but because he misses you and your touch.

#10 He respects you. He doesn’t ogle at other girls in front of you. He never speaks about you in bad light to his friends. And most importantly, he knows that you’re better than him in many ways and admires you for that. [Read: How to get rid of your boyfriend’s wandering eye]

#11 He has goals in life. A great boyfriend is one who has goals in life and works towards achieving them. He doesn’t bitch and moan about how unfair life is. Instead, he grabs life by the horns and tries to make something great out of it. [Read: How to be successful in life by taking that first step]

#12 He’s not stubborn. A guy may be stubborn when it comes to his ambition and his determination, but he should never be stubborn when it comes to making decisions or making life plans with his girlfriend. Compromises and sacrifices are a part of making a relationship work in the long run.

#13 He compromises for you. He’d be willing to do something with you even if he hates it, if only to make you happy, especially if it means a lot to you.

#14 He wants you to be independent. A good boyfriend may want to spend all his time with you, but at the same time, he’d still give you the space to pursue your own dreams. As much as he loves you and misses you, he’d still want you to have a life of your own. [How giving space in a relationship can make both of you better lovers]

#15 He makes you feel secure and loved. He goes out of his way to make you feel loved, by indulging in romantic gestures and words. He loves you and never ceases to show his love for you in little ways. [Read: 36 sweetest things  a boyfriend could do with you]

#16 He tries to look good for you. He grooms himself when he comes to meet you because he wants to look good in your arms. He even works out and stays fit because he respects you and wants to look his best for you.

#17 He’s great in bed. A perfect boyfriend initiates and maintains an active sex life. He’s innovative and tries to keep sex fun because he realizes that sex is just as important as love in a happy romance. [Read: 30 sexy ways to spice up your sex life]

#18 He doesn’t have any addictions. Many guys let their life spin out of control when their addictions take control of their life. If you’re dating someone who can’t suppress his addictions, you may have a hard time communicating with him or making the relationship work with him, unless he’s willing to change himself. [Read: Why some men choose porn over having sex with their girlfriend]

#19 He’s a man of principles. He doesn’t backtrack on his words. He makes promises and keeps them. He’s in control of his life, and has firm principles in life.

#20 He helps you trust him. Insecurities and doubts always have a way of cropping up in a relationship when there are secrets or lies. A great boyfriend doesn’t give you any opportunity to doubt him, and communicates with you frankly and avoids lying or keeping secrets that may affect the relationship. [Read: 13 secret signs your boyfriend’s not over his ex yet!]

#21 He’s not lonely. Dating a lonely guy may mean he would have a lot of time to spare for you, which may seem like a good thing. But if he’s abandoned or avoided by the rest of the world, there’s probably a good reason behind why no one gets along with him. Maybe he’s antisocial or needy, or perhaps he’s a manipulator or an aggressive guy. If the guy you’re dating is lonely, be wary before falling too deep in love with him, or you may end up feeling like a caged bird in no time. [Read: Are insecure guys ever worth dating?]

#22 He listens to you. A good boyfriend doesn’t think he’s a know it all. He’s always willing to hear you out and listen to your point of view completely before taking a decision, especially if the decision involves the both of you.

#23 He doesn’t try to control you. A guy may seem like a great boyfriend initially. But as the months pass by, he may start to subtly and deviously control you one step at a time. If you notice even the slightest signs of controlling behavior in him, speak with him about it so he can change before it’s too late. [Read: 15 subtle signs of a controlling boyfriend]

#24 He calls you. A great boyfriend stays in touch all the time, and keeps you updated about his life. He doesn’t see the need to be secretive, nor does he avoid your calls when he goes out with his friends at night. For you, he’s an open book and never ignores you or shuts you out of his life. [Read: 20 little ways to make your man happy and make him fall more in love with you]

#25 You’re important to him. If your boyfriend really does love you and sees a future with you, he’d place you above everything else in his life. You’re the most important thing in his life, and everything else just takes second place.

[Read: 23 must-know relationship tips and advice for women]

So how many of these 25 signs and qualities of a great boyfriend do you see in your guy? If you see a few missing, talk about it with him. As much as these signs seem instinctual, sometimes your guy may just not realize it until you point it out to him. 

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11 thoughts on “25 Signs and Qualities That Make a Great Boyfriend”

  1. sarah lilly says:

    Why Do Guys / Girls cheat ?

  2. sarah lilly says:

    someone tell e because i have been in a relationship for at least 9 months he has kissed and done stuff , should i leave him even though i feel it could work?
    But what if he dose it again ?

  3. Amanda says:

    my boyfriend does all of these things <33

  4. Zeph says:

    Does a guy like this even exist???

  5. Jay says:

    I have a guy friend (not boyfriend, a guy friend) who I have known for over a year and we have recently gotten closer during the summer and he does most of these things…

  6. Ren says:

    Lol, I guess its time to break up, my bf fails at all of these. Hes an aggressive pot head, with another addiction to drinking and driving.

    I think I’m starting to fall out of love.

  7. Kiernan says:

    No man on the entire planet encompasses all of these things. If this is a “blue sky” platelette to go by with a man encompassing many of these things, then thats reasonable. Every human being has their strong suits and some thingsthey can work on. Guys have their list too ladies. A true, healthy and meaningful relationship is about two people giving and taking – mostly giving. Don’t use this list as a “check list” but more as a barometer and find areas where the relationship can get better… with BOTH of you working together.

  8. YellowBone297 says:

    My boyfriend does all of these ???????? he’s perfect!

  9. andrea says:

    to all the women out there who think this kind of guy doesnt exist, I’m here to confirm that it does. My boyfriend is all of these things and more. You just have to set your standards high and one day you will meet that person who does all these things. He doesnt have to be and will NOT be perfect, but these are the standards that he does achieve and that’s because you sset those standards and do not settle for anyone less. I was in an abusive relationship for 5 years before I got out and set my standards high and realized I deserved the best. That’s how I met my bf. I’m so blessed 🙂

  10. tell it as it is says:

    @andrea
    Sweety what about you.
    Can he say the same thing about you as his girlfriend?
    I keep finding women who want a great boyfriend while they are not prepared to
    lift a finger and be a good girlfriend.

  11. mancmanomyst says:

    #1 – Communication. Men and women communicate in different ways. If you expect him to speak to you in the same way you communicate with him then you’re going to be disappointed. It’s a two way street though, men also need to try and understand their girlfriends but men can’t hear what women don’t say. Be open, be honest and be direct.

    #2 – He’s not a trained monkey that exists purely as your entertainment. Both partners need to take responsibility for this. Do things together. Try new things. Life is as interesting as you make it!

    #4 – This is linked to #1 again. Men and women see the world in different ways. A man might not notice a new pair of shoes or a subtle change of haircut. That doesn’t mean he’s not interested in you or doesn’t care. In the same way you might not pick up on something that he thinks is important like a new computer game coming our or his collection of model trains. If you want a man to notice something then make it obvious. We’re not mind readers!

    #5 – When I get home after a hard day at work the last thing in the world I want to do is talk about my day. Men are more inclined to act rather than talk about things. As a result they’re less likely to ask about how your day was or show interest in some of the things you do in that way. For women it’s much more therapeutic for them to talk about things that have happened during their day and their interests and that’s fine. A man should make an effort to show an interest but also take the responsibility yourself to be direct about things and start the dialogue. He does care but he shows it in actions like buying you flowers or cooking a meal rather than by talking. Understand this and you won’t feel as frustrated or unloved.

    #10 – Don’t expect him not to be attracted to other girls. He shouldn’t flirt with other girls in front of you, that’s inconsiderate but remember that just as he was attracted to you, he may be attracted to other women too but that does not mean that he wants to be with them. It’s the same the other way round too. Men shouldn’t be jealous of other men spending time with you. Trust is really important in a relationship and if you’re constantly second-guessing whether he prefers girl X to you then it might make him feel like you don’t trust him. Insecurity in either sex is very unattractive!

    #17 – A great sex life is all about communication. Don’t expect him to know what you like and do it automatically. Everybody is different and we all need a little guidance from our partners. Take responsibility for your own enjoyment and you’ll both have a more fulfilling sex life!

    Obviously, someone who is selfish and not interested in their partners pleasure is not going to lead to a fulfilling relationship but also think about what you’re doing for him as well as what he should be doing for you. It’s give and take!

    #24 – Allow each other to have some parts of your life that are separate and do not invade each others territory uninvited. Absence makes the heart grow fonder and time apart is important to remember what it is you like about each other.

    Overall I’d say that you need to remember that your partner is a human being with thoughts, feelings, insecurities and flaws too. Don’t expect perfection from one another and don’t over-analyse thinks. Relationships should be fun, not an endurance trial. Show compassion and understanding. If both partners put the others needs first then both will be happy and surely that’s the most important thing in a relationship!

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