You never want to get involved with a married man and knowing the signs a married man is attracted to you can help save you a world of trouble.
Now, we have to remember that just because a married man is nice to you, doesn’t mean he wants to get in your pants. Many women make the mistake of assuming a married guy wants them and it can cause some trouble for both parties. Knowing the signs a married man is attracted to you and actually wants you can help avoid that.
Why you should never get involved with a married man
Besides the obvious reason, there are many more as to why you should never be with someone who’s married. First of all, he’s already in a relationship. Why would you want to be with someone who’s already with someone else?
You also can’t trust them. They’re sneaking around and lying to their spouse. What makes you think they wouldn’t do the same to you? Married men who try to date or sleep with other women on the side are disrespectful, mean people. You wouldn’t want to date someone who’s not married with those same qualities. Right? [Read: Signs he’s married or already seeing someone else]
Signs a married man is attracted to you and you should shut him down
The signs can be hard to read if you’re not sure what to look for. But knowing if a married man is hitting on you is useful knowledge to have so you can stay away from them. Here are all the signs a married is attracted to you and not just being nice.
#1 He keeps coming by you. Whenever a married guy keeps showing up next to you, it a big sign he must like you. Why else would he be making excuse after excuse just to be near you? If he’s sporting a ring on his finger and you know he’s married, his presence next to you could be a sign you should run far away, because he likes you.
#2 He’s complimented your appearance a lot. It’s one thing to tell someone they’re hard working, it’s another to continuously compliments their hair or how they look in general. If a married man is telling you how attractive you are, he’s totally into you. [Read: 25 things a guy will say when he likes you]
#3 He’s taken an interest in your personal life. Does a married guy ask you a bunch of personal questions? Is he trying to learn more and more about your private life?
If so, he could be into you. When a married man is investing in your life and learning more about who you really are, it’s likely because he likes you. Be careful with how much you give him or you’ll risk making him believe you’re also into him.
#4 He doesn’t talk about his personal life. On the flip side, if he refuses to talk about his personal life but asks about yours, he could like you. He’s married. Therefore, his personal life involves his wife and family, if they have kids.
He won’t want to remind you of that if he likes you and is potentially trying to have a side relationship with you. He’ll keep mostly to himself unless he sees a similarity if you have. Then he’ll point it out to show you there’s a connection. [Read: 15 obvious signs he’s already in a relationship]
#5 He tries to hide his left hand from you. This will be a poor attempt to hide the fact that he’s married without actually having to take off his ring. If you notice he’s always got his left hand in his pocket or hidden but you’ve seen a ring on that hand before, he’s definitely hiding it. Which also means he probably likes you, a lot.
#6 He gives you a ton of eye contact. This is an overall sign that someone likes you in general. If a man is married and he’s making ridiculous eye contact and even doing so across the room, he likes you. Be careful with this and make sure not to send him the wrong message my returning his gazes. [Read: What prolonged eye contact really means]
#7 He smiles whenever you come near. One of the biggest signs a married man is attracted to you is excessive smiling whenever you approach him. It’s an instinctual reaction. He can’t help it. It means you really excite him and make him super happy. This usually indicates a level of attraction he has for you.
#8 He initiates the conversations. When someone else is always starting the conversation with you, they want to talk to you a lot more than you want to talk to them. If a married guy is doing this, he clearly wants to talk to you.
#9 He talks himself up. This is something men have a tendency to do when they like someone. He’ll talk about himself but only about his accomplishments and the great things he’s done. Basically, he’ll just talk himself up and make him sound amazing. The kicker? His marriage won’t be on that list. [Read: Bragging and 14 other subtle ways guys flirt]
#10 He buys you gifts. This is a major sign he’s into you and is definitely trying to get you to be his side chick. When a married man is buying you gifts, it’s definitely time to run. He’s pursuing you and we all know that getting with a married guy will only bring bad things.
#11 He tries to flirt with you. A married man flirting with you can be completely innocent so long as what he says and does is actually innocent. However, if he’s trying to get touchy or hints at possibly getting together sometime, he’s clearly into you as more than just a friend. He’s trying to get with you.
#12 He asks if you’re seeing anyone. This could be completely out of curiosity but it can also be a huge sign a married man is attracted to you. When he’s flirting with you and ends up asking if you’re dating someone, he’s interested. He wants to know where your love life stands so he can swoop in if you’re single. [Read: 20 signs he’s attracted to you based on your conversations]
#13 He attempts to spend alone time together. If you work with a married man who seems to be hitting on you, he’ll most likely try to get you to go to lunch with him. He might even disguise this as a “work lunch” even though he’ll spend his time flirting and talking all about you.
#14 He treats you differently. If this man is someone you work with or even someone who comes in to drink at the bar you’re tending, it’ll be easy to tell if he treats you differently. Is he kinder to you? Does he tip you way more than the other bartenders? If so, chances are he’s totally into you.
#15 He admits he likes you, despite being married. This is obviously a sure sign he likes you. When he’s married but admitting that he’s totally into you, it’s a problem. He clearly wants you to know and could potentially be trying to pursue you, too.