Confused if he’s into you or just being nice? If you’ve been wondering, is he interested in me, and just don’t know, here are the clues you need.
The minute I see a cute guy, I’m already thinking, is he interested in me or not. I’m analyzing every single thing he does, how he speaks to me, the way he looks at me—I go a little wacko. But sometimes, it’s really a challenge to figure out if someone is interested in you or not.
Not everyone is so obvious when it comes to displaying their feelings. Plus, some guys think of you as a friend, but occasionally drop compliments or flirtatiously touch you.
Is he interested in me? 15 ways to tell for sure
To be honest, you can never know for sure how someone feels about you unless they tell you. But, you can make a pretty good assumption based on how they ask you.
Until you get to the moment where they tell you how they feel about you and answer the mythical question, “Is he interested in me?” you should look at the signs. Yes, that’s right, there are signs! If you keep your eyes out for these signs, you may get your answer.
#1 You feel it. You may be second-guessing yourself, but your instincts know what’s up. Now, is he going to make a move? That’s a completely different question. Just because he’s interested in you doesn’t mean he’s going to pursue you. However, if you feel he likes you as more than a friend, then you have more opportunity to test the waters with him. [Read: 16 signs a guy likes you but is scared to make a move]
#2 He’s chatty. He wouldn’t be investing his time in talking to you if he wasn’t interested in you. He texts you, calls you, talks to you at work or school. You spend more time talking to him than you do to your other friends. I can’t stand texting, my thumbs get sore, so, you have to be someone I like if I’m going to text you all the time. [Read: 7 things nice guys do that most girls mistake for flirting]
#3 Your conversations have meaning. If you two just talk about the weather or how wasted you were last weekend, that shows a lot about your relationship—not much going on. But if the conversations between you two aren’t small talk, as in, you actually have shared some deep moments together, then this is a great sign. If he talks about more than himself, wants to know more about you, then you’re getting somewhere.
#4 He includes you in other parts of his life. If you know him from work or school but he invites you out with his other friends, great. When he includes you in other parts of his life, it shows that he thinks highly of you. Now, on its own, this shows you he either likes you as a friend or as something more. So, look at other signs as well if he’s doing this.
#5 He remembers all the small things. You may not think that this is important, but it is. Most guys have selective hearing, they hear what they want to hear. But if he remembers how you like your coffee or what your favorite dessert is, it’s a sign he cares about you. Does this mean he’s in love? No. But it does show he cares.
#6 He flirts with you. When people flirt, it’s used to build sexual tension between each other. Now, if it’s purely platonic, there’s usually very limited to no flirting. However, if he’s into you, he’ll flirt with you, tease you, lightly touch you. Though, some men are naturally flirtatious, so, keep an eye out for that. [Read: 12 signs he’s actually flirting with you]
#7 He glows around you. He’s always laughing and smiling when you’re around. Makes sense though, right? When you like being around someone, you’re happy. So, why would it be any different for him? If his mood changes, positively, when you’re around him—that’s the ticket.
#8 He’s protective. Now, this doesn’t mean he’s obsessive and possessive of you. That also shows his interest, but in a very unhealthy manner, so watch out for that. Though, if you’re at the club and some guy approaches, not leaving you alone, he has no problem getting involved. Whether he physically or verbally protects you, he has your back.
#9 His body language. Body language is a huge sign when it comes to seeing if he’s interested in you. It actually accounts for 80% of human communication, so, it’s best you pay attention to it. If he’s interested in you, he’ll be open and face you directly. He won’t have a problem getting close to you, and he’ll give you direct eye contact. [Read: 18 signs to decode his body language and know if he likes you]
#10 He tries to make you laugh. He wants you to be happy around him, thus, he tries his best to do so. He’ll make jokes, making sure that you’re not bored around him. Though he’s trying, he doesn’t have to since you already like him. You probably think he’s one of the funniest guys you know.
#11 He’s nervous around you. Some guys aren’t so suave around women that they have feelings for. Instead, they’re the complete opposite, nervous wrecks. They can’t say a full sentence without stuttering, maybe they feel intimidated around you. If he’s worth it, then he’ll learn how to handle his anxiety. [Read: Is he playing hard to get or just isn’t into you?]
#12 All of a sudden, his appearance improves. Remember when you two first met? He was always wearing sweatpants and a baggy shirt. But now, he’s decked out in slim fitting trousers and a fitted t-shirt. What an odd change, don’t you think? All of a sudden, he’s putting more effort into his appearance… well… you could be the reason why.
#13 He softens up around you. In front of his friends, he may play the whole “tough guy” act, but in front of you, he softens right up. He’s showing you his true colors because he trusts you and feels comfortable around you. Now, this may not mean he’s into you, but it does mean that he cares about you.
#14 He’s handsy. He likes touching you, hugging you. In fact, he can’t keep his hands off of you. Of course, he’s probably controlling himself as much as he can but it’s hard when you like someone. If you notice him touching you, that’s usually a strong hint that he’s into you. [Read: What different types of physical touches mean]
#15 He tells you. If he just comes out and tells you, this is the best thing that could happen. I mean, you don’t need to analyze and constantly read into what he’s doing. He likes you and he told you, that’s the end of it.
Now that you know the signs, next time you see the guy, look for these signs to answer the question on your mind, is he interested in me? Do you see them? If they show multiple signs, then he just might be really into you.
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A serial dater, Natasha Ivanovic knows a thing or two about men and the dating scene. Much of her writing is inspired by her encounters with men - and for good ...